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Hey guys, Im Erika. I am looking into studying psychology in college. I am VERY GOOD at giving advice. I have been through many things in my life. I am currently in a relationship. i know A LOT about relationships, because I've been in one for many years. giving advice is something i deeply enjoy doing, because i love helping other with their problems and i can relate easily to other people.
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hey,
im in college im 24 ive met a guy who is working there this summer who is 28 i like him and we get on well and he is quite flirty, i gave him my number and we text - the problem is he works all the time and ive been trying to get him to come out for a drink a few times and he couldnt and then he finally did the other day- but i was a bit off with him i always have to text him first and when he did show up all he talked about was work and he left after an hour to work, the next day i texed to say hi and asked him how it went he said he wasnt home til 5am i said be carefull or ull burn out this was obviously the wrong thing to say i keep thinking about him i dont know why and i want to see him but i dont want to keep being the one to call, so what do i do do i not call him and see if he texts me or do i ext him to meet up and see what happens
dont call or text him anymore cuz yeah he might be annoyed. but he came out to hangout with you, so that shows hhes interested, so dont mess things up. wait for him to text you, and if he doesnt, then dont bother, hes a work-aholic anyway, and thats never good for a relationship.
Hey , I have a question. I have this like lump sort of thing inside of my breast. I'm not sure what it is. I don't think that it is breast cancer.. but I really don't know what else it could be. Help please! I'm freaked out.
P.S. I'm 13.
okay even though your 13, this could be anything. tell your mom, or something. just go to the doctor, and dont wait.
Ok im 13 and im in year 8 but i havnt had a boyfriend yet (well i have but out of all of them i didnt rly like).
im thinking i havnt had a boyfriend in like 2 years is because im ugly and fat, but i like this guy and i mean i rly like him! hes in my class and he knows i like him but wont go out with me!
I mean all of my friends r rly pretty and have all the boys over them.
I feel like i cant flirt(if you knwo wat i mean) with boys because im fat and it rly makes me upset.
Wat should i do?
please help
Thnks
x
dont tell yourself your fat or ugly for one thing. that will bring down your self-esteem a lot. try wearing a cute, flirty outfit. you have to flirt! thats what gets guys attention. try a little makeup, not too much, because those guys dont like girls who wear tons or makeup. and hunny your in 8th grade. highschool will be way better in your boylife, because as every woman matures, she looks prettier. you have nothing to worry about. if you dont have self confidence in the way you look, give them a good personality!
Hi, i need some advice please. I have small eyes and huge lips, which is NOT a good combination. Is there any way I can make my eyes look bigger and my lips look smaller?
a brilliant way to make eyes look biggger is:
wear mascara on top eyelashes (and on bottom if it looks okay)
and a light color eye shadow, like light cream, or even white. apply it on the inside park of your eyelids (the side closer to your nose) and apply it on the bottom of your eyelids. this gives you a sexy look, and its attracting. you can also put a gold, or light brown (shiny) color on the other part of you eyelids to make them pop more. dont wear dark colors on your eyes, because dark colors make your eyes look a lot smaller than they really are. also a pink blush helps to bring out your eyes
lipssss:
a very soft pink, or even a clear. dont wear dark colors, because on your lips, they make them stand out more.
hope this helps :)
I just found out my grandfather will be passing away soon. I cant think of any songs to listen to about losing someone special like he is. any ideas?
thanks
the song ill be missing you by faith evans and p diddy
Why are people so shallow? some people in this world like a person more they can ever imagine. But when they find out its like they nevr want to talk to you again. no1 likes each other for who they are. they only like them cuz they are attracting. why cant people except others and try getting into a relationship?
well...
what attracts the human mind is looks. you see the looks first.
then, the attraction makes you want to talk to them, so you do. then you get to know that person, and for a lot of guys, they just think your hott so they talk to you. its so stupid, i know. thats why girls should always wait for the guy to tell them if they like you or not, because a lot of guys dont want relationships, just hookups. its typical, and a lot of girls are the same way. but shallowness comes from attraction.
I have pictures of clothing/styles that I really like. I was wondering if anyone can find where I can find the same or similar pieces.
Aly & AJ
http://i30.tinypic.com/kbdhd4.jpg
girl's dress from Deal or No Deal
http://i30.tinypic.com/a9shec.jpg
http://i25.tinypic.com/23ra0e9.jpg
Taverniti hoodie in Antique Black in XS
http://i26.tinypic.com/10mra53.jpg
I have looked everywhere online for that jacket, and can't seem to find it in an XS (and I know they carry it in that size)
Ali Lohan from Living Lohan
I don't have specific links, but there was a couple of episodes where it looked like she was wearing a white vest over a pink tank and then a red patent jacket
Thanks so much!
1. delias, or exress
2. looks like bebe
3.http://www.kaboodle.com/reviews/taverniti-so-jeans-hoodie
4. and idk about ali
when i run ...i get such bad cramps? WHY IS THAT?
i mean, i love running and everything but i need those cramps to go away ...fast!
any suggestions?
one problem could be that when your running, you are breathing way too fast. it could also be that you are having the wrong foods or drinking the wrong liquids before you run. make sure you aren't dehydrated, and that you dont breathe so fast!
14/f
Okay. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a few weeks now. Up until now, he's only met my parents but this Saturday I'm going to a cook-out party with his family. I really want to make a good impression. He is my first boyfriend so I have no experience in this. Besides being polite do you have any advice on how to impress his parents?
omg dont dress slutty! haha whatever you do! and laugh a lot, concersate. but be yourself. dont act stupid, just be funny and theyll like you. bring something for the party. like cookies or something. it can be anything, but make sure it tastes good! goodluckkkk
Okay, I like this guy. We met a month ago at the carnival, we were both a little buzzed off of vodka. But my friends being the best people they are, hooked me up with him. We were on the ferris wheel making out like crazy. And after that he gave me his number, and his name to add him on facebook. Then i had to leave.. he gave me a huge hug and we madeout for a minuet and my friends were pulling me away. i really had to go. A week later, i met him up at my friends going away party. We got insanely wasted and went to third--on both of our parts--that was two weeks ago. Other then that, we have been talking on aim/facebook every day. He calls me sometimes and i call him once in a while. I'm going away to hollywood in 14 days for a week, and i come back and go to my house in arizona. I want to see him! i've asked him to hang out two or three times, but he has had baseball practice. he said he could hang out after 7:00 every time i ask him.. he wanted to take me to the movies. But us underaged 15 year olds cant drive in the state of ny! He is the most adorable guy ever.. i just recently broke up with my ex of 6 1/2 months becuase i found out he was using me for ass.. which really pissed me off. But last night my lover, ill call him K, after talking for a long time and calling me a lesbian saying he doesn't talk to lesbians and i was like but im not and he was like ahha i was like well its your decision if i talk to you or not. and he was like yeah and i said dont. but he imed me today.. talking like nothing happened last night. And when he or i have to go, i say byee
well personally, i think he likes you. hes just trying to be sexy. but watchout, because he is kinda horny. maybe he was drunk when he called you a lesbian or his friend did it. if he takes the time to tell you i miss you,,, thennn!?!? hhahah. i think he likes you. but becareful, because he looks like one of those guys who likes to get drunk. first think about whether or not when you leave on vacation that he wont go off and hookup with other girls. because if he does, then that shows you something, but there deff. something there if he takes the time to call you and tell you he misses you. and that whole sex party porno thing... hes trying to show you hes a man. pshhh whateverrr! but yeah good luckkkk!
for some reason since about the of the year ive started feeling left out all of the time does any1 know why this is happenin(btw im 13)
your getting to a difficult age. if these are your friends, they are going through stages and changes as they are growing up. they just have different problems and interests. try talking to who ever is leaving you out. its probably all just a missunderstanding. [:
I will be a senior at a private 4-yr school and will graduate with a BA in astronomy-physics and possibly a math minor. My problem is that I feel burned out and don't like academics anymore. I was going to go to Grad. school but now I don't know if it would be best for me. I'm a mediocre student (B's, C's, sometimes A's) which is due partly to me being unable to handle all the math and partly due to personal problems. I had 4 major knee surgeries my first two years of college, which didn't affect me academically, because my first three semester classes weren't hard for me, and plus being on crutches really cuts down on social time, so I did homework a lot but still had plenty of time to relax. I got most of my A's during this period. My mom also has Bipolar disorder which is stressful for me and causes my family financial difficulties. My fourth semester, my mom sliced her stomach open with a razor while I was eating breakfast. She cuts herself when ever she has an episode, and this was the first time she did anything since she had a psychotic episode my Junior year in high school and tried to kill her self twice. My parents also told me they were afraid of bankruptcy (though this never happened). As a result, I failed the mid-term I took after coming back to school and got my first C in physics. I had major panic attacks afterward and nightmares about my mom killing herself. I also had somatic symptoms like not feeling my arms and legs are part of my body. I made it through by talking to a school therapist. My mom hasn't hurt herself since then due to a medication change. Unfortunately, I had more problems. My Junior year, I decided to live of campus which was a disaster. The house I lived in had mold in the basement, a leaking foundation (we had 55 gal of water) and electrical problems as well as several other problems that are too long to go into. After that was handled, I thought I could finally concentrate on school, but then all my housemates got into huge arguments and I ended up losing a large number of friends over the ordeal. The main cause of this was one girl who got off anti-depressant mediation, but still..I also overloaded on credits that semester and struggled with academics as well as having my panic attacks return after not having them over the summer due to all the stress. Then, this spring one of my friends committed suicide. I again had nightmares and panic attacks and went through a very intense grieving period. I went to college expecting to make a better life for myself and have only become very unhappy. In high school, I told myself if I work hard now, I can relax later, but later never comes. I also feel like a screw up because now I probably can't get into grad school even if I wanted to, because I have too many B's and C's in upper level classes. I'm constantly stressed during the school year because I rarely have free time any more, and while I still have some friends, I did lose many last year and my current friendships are shaky. And when I do try and relax, I feel guilty that I'm not doing something productive. I also feel very unmotivated and don't feel satisfaction and fulfilled from academics any more. It's had to feel satisfaction when I can only do mediocre. I can spend hours working on a problem, only to be told how to do it better, then I do it better, and am told how to do it even better than that. The problem is never done. It feels futile. My friend killed himself because of the stress from college and not getting into Columbia and I have two friends who took semesters off due to stress. The stress just doesn't seem worth it to me anymore. I can't help but think Grad. school would be worse than this. I got a job working as a hostess/buser at a restaurant and I feel much happier than I have in years working at this job than I have doing anything else. It's because I get many things out of this job that I don't get in the rest of my life. I get to serve people at the restaurant and please others and possibly make someone's day better, which never happens in school. I also get praise for doing well and instant criticism when I do something wrong which is better than the stress of waiting a week or more for a grade. I get paid instead of struggling to pay for school through financial aid, scholarships, and working. I feel much more productive and like I'm doing some good at my restaurant job. School currently just feels futile. There's no satisfaction, and I don't think changing majors would help. Although being a hostess/buser makes me happy, I can't do that with my life because of my knee problems. I can do it now, but I already have arthritis, so it's unlikely I can continue to do it for the long term. I've thought about being a writer instead, but it has no financial security. What should I do to be happy? I don't want to take pills because they screwed my mom up pretty bad and they make it so she can't concentrate or focus on anything. It just keeps her alive. I don't want to end up like my mom. What should I do? I think I just need a change in direction in my life, but what would be a good change in direction?
you have so much stress in your life. you need to find osmething that makes you happy. if working at the restaraunt makes you happy, then keep working there. school is very hard, and your making it harder, because your taking so many hard classes. narrow them down, thats way too much for one person. take out that time and not stress yourself. how about some family time? you just need to squeeze in time to be happy becasue thats the one thing that you dont have. you need to be happy at your age, or it will only get worse. you can try seeing a therapist or somehting to get your life back on track. good luck, and i really hope this helps.
Me and this guy have known each other for almost two years now, and we started out going out and broke up after a month, but just got alot closer. Anyway a year and a half later we are really close and we like each other. Anyway, there is something that is keeping him from me. SO there is this other guy that likes me and I had feelings for him but my feelings for this other guy that I love was keeping me from saying yes to him. So I asked him (the guy who I like) what he wanted, and he told me that he didnt want me to be with the other guy because he would miss me and he wouldn't know what he would do without being as close as we are now. I told him I needed to a reason to stay,And he said that he liked me but he wasn't ready to date me, because any relationship we would have would be serious and he didn't want a serious relationship. I asked him what he was ready for, and joking he said "some hoe on the street". I told him he wouldnt care about her, and he told me that was the point, he cared about me too much. He said because we are in high school breaking up would inevitable (he is one grade ahead of me) and he couldn't risk our friendship. I told him he made me happy and that I wanted to be with him, and he told me I made him happy but he couldn't give me the relationship he knows I dream about. What I need to know is if this is true, I'm not sure if this is an excuse or what makes guys not ready. And if he liked me how come he doesn't want a serious relationship. He says he cares about me. I told him I didn't really want a serious relationship but he said he didn't believe that because I get emotionally attached. At that moment we almost kissed (both of us have never kissed anyone before). But we were in his doorway to his room and I didn't want his parents to walk in on us, so I told him not now. When I texted him this morming I asked him if the feeling of kissing me had passed (because we are hanging out next weekend and I want to kiss him then) and he texted back that he told me yesterday that he wasn't ready to date me so it wouldn't be fair to me. Was that a rejection, I do want to kiss him, and I know he wants to kiss me. I just don't know what to make of this situation. And I need thorough advice on how to go about this. I love him, and I really think he loves me. HELP PLEASE!!!
hes obviously just scared. highschool relationships are very hard to handle. they bring a lot of stress, and other tennagers just get in the way. like school, grades, and parents, and friends. let him know what kind of person you are. if you love him, wait. but dont let him know youll wait for him. slow down a bit. hell realize a lot. kinda drift away, dont be so close to him, but then just text him once in a while. he doesnt trust anyone, he doesnt want to get hurt. hes not rejecting you, he just cant makeup his mind about what he wants. if he told you he cares about you, then maybe he just doesnt want to hurt you. hes just not ready. play a little hard to get, because your kinda throwing yourslef at him, and you dont want to do that!!! hahh. so good luck, really.
what are some things that can delay your period besides pregnancy? i'm always 2-3 days earlier than i was the month before and i'm never late, but i am now.
thats prefectly normal.
it can be stress, or just the way your body is. delayance of you period of months may be cancer or anything, but you dont need to worry about that.
your not in danger.
Life is God's most precious gift; no principle, however glorious, may justify the taking of it.
WHY DO YOU AGREE?
god made us to his children, he gave us life.
thats why we should respect ourselves and others as we respect him.
I feel so bad about everything about me. My personality, who I am, my life, my race, I just really don't like who I am. Everytime I make a little mistake i go over it again and again in my mind just telling myself how stupid I am and how everyone's going to remember it. I hope I don't sound complainy, but that's just how it is. Could there be something wrong with me?
heres what you dont have...
confidence.
you need confidence. you dont believe in yourself.
we all do dumb things. ive f-cked so many people over before and i feel so bad about that. you neeed to know that noone is perfect. just trust yourself. if you want to change it, watch what you do before you do it. church might help, or just youth groups. they teach about respect. dont hate your race though. thats who you are. you are beautiful, and you need to flaunt it! if people say anything negative towards you, forget it! they are jealous. thats why people do it.theres nothing wrong with you. just maintain your confidence and think very hard about what you do or say before you do it. thats really the only thing you can do. i really hope this helps you.
So the boy i have a thing for has left for vacation for four weeks.
I know that i should just go out and have fun because it's summer, but i can't really get him out of my mind.
If i flat out asked him if he liked me, he would be really weirded out and answer honestly of course, but it would just be hard because he's gone.
I do know that he kind of has a thing for this sophmore in college also (we're seniors in highschool) and i know she wouldn't like him, but he still has a little crush on her.
I don't know..
just keep in touch with him as best as you can.
dont ask him, guys think thats kinda weird hahh
but just text him if you can and see if he starts any convos with you while he's away! but dont text him too much, cuz that shows that your clingy!
when does the new 90210 and the paris hilton search for a new best friend start
the paris hilton show says it will start at the end of 2008, thats all it would say.
The all new 90210 official airs on the CW Network on September 2, 2008.
So i met this guy like three months ago at a pool hall and he had one of his friends come over and ask me for my number. i gave it to him because he was amazingly sexy, and he texted me later on that night and we made plans for the next day. the next day i realized that i had forgotten to ask him his name. when he told me what it was i realized that i knew him all along because my dad sponsors him in racing. we hung out later that night and he was really sweet. we hung out for a couple of weeks and i heard that he had a girlfriend. she went to my school and i didn't like her so i was like whatever. well after about two or three months of hanging out with him we had sex, and he turned into a tool bag. this wouldn't be a problem if he didn't make me care about him,i care so much and cant help it. the week after his girlfriend and i started hanging out. i kept it from her for a really long time. she started to open up to me and it turns out that he cheats on her all the time. they have been together for five months now and he has cheated on her more times then i can count, and he tells her that she is fat all the time and she needs to go to the gym. he really makes her feel like crap. he also hits her not like really bad but bad enough. like your boyfriend shouldn't hit you. when she tells him she doesn't like it when he cheats on her he says "beggers cant be chooseers." he doesn't care about her at all and is a really big tool. she crys all the time and beets her self up about it. like one time he told her that he would break up with her if she didn't give him head, and she has never done it cause she thinks its gross, but she did it anyways cause she was afraid that he was going to leave her. i don't know what to do i tried telling her to leave him but she wont. she thinks i want her to break up with him so i can have him but i don't and she just wont listen. she is amazingly pretty and not fat at all. help me please.
do WHATEVER you can to get her to breakup with him.
he treats her so bad. thats insane. i dont even get why she would still be with him when he makes her do that AND he hits her??!? BULLL!!!
heres what you should do:
you and her set up this plan ! :
you call him and be like hey im coming over. hed be like YEAH!
when you get there, have her call him and say hey i have to drop off something. so shell come.
then hed want you to hide, and be like okay! when she comes pop out and both of you like scream at that d-baggg!! (hahha)
then what she had to bring was all his shit that was his. then dump it out on his bed, and just leave. then she can see what kind of guy he really is, and shell know that you dont want him!
you dont have to do this. youd have to seriously have balls haha. but i would do it. shoe him he cant win. hes obviosuly not that scary and cool if hes afraid shell breakup with him. show him whos boss.
goodluck! (:
i'm really irregular like the last time i got my period was two summers ago so tht means im not like ovulating so i cant get preg can i?
umm well you deffinetly should go to the doctor because that might not be good... ive seen that on tv. hurry though. tell your mom or something.