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i think ive annoyed him
hey,
im in college im 24 ive met a guy who is working there this summer who is 28 i like him and we get on well and he is quite flirty, i gave him my number and we text - the problem is he works all the time and ive been trying to get him to come out for a drink a few times and he couldnt and then he finally did the other day- but i was a bit off with him i always have to text him first and when he did show up all he talked about was work and he left after an hour to work, the next day i texed to say hi and asked him how it went he said he wasnt home til 5am i said be carefull or ull burn out this was obviously the wrong thing to say i keep thinking about him i dont know why and i want to see him but i dont want to keep being the one to call, so what do i do do i not call him and see if he texts me or do i ext him to meet up and see what happens
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Forgive me if I sound harsh...
My honest opinion: I think you should let him alone because I doubt that he's really interested in you. I think if he was smitten with you... He'd put more effort into pursuing _you_. _You_ wouldn't always be the one to send the first message. And _he_ would make time to spend with you. Sure, it sounds like he has a lot going on right now... But the long and short of the matter is that there isn't such a thing as 'being too busy' in reality. I know because I've dated guys with three jobs that were also attending college full time.
I would also like to say that if he was offended by your concern for his well-being... Then he is just a moron. You didn't do or say anything wrong. Furthermore, there is nothing wrong with you. If he can't appreciate you and put forth some effort to tie you down... Then he's doubly a moron. Remember that there are plenty of guys out there that would be interested in you, that would pursue you... If only you weren't wasting your attention on this guy! Not saying you shouldn't encourage him a little if he does start making an effort... But if I were you, I wouldn't wait. Maybe you should give another guy a chance. A guy that will send you a text message first! Or... Actually pick up the phone and _call._
Again... I apologize if I sound harsh. And I know that what I'm saying is easier said than done. I just think you deserve better... But that's only my opinion.
BTW, please pick up a copy of 'He's Just Not That Into You,' by Greg and Liz. It won't change your life... But it will make dating a whole lot easier.
Best wishes!
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dont call or text him anymore cuz yeah he might be annoyed. but he came out to hangout with you, so that shows hhes interested, so dont mess things up. wait for him to text you, and if he doesnt, then dont bother, hes a work-aholic anyway, and thats never good for a relationship.
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