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We like each other but he doesnt want a serious relationship
Me and this guy have known each other for almost two years now, and we started out going out and broke up after a month, but just got alot closer. Anyway a year and a half later we are really close and we like each other. Anyway, there is something that is keeping him from me. SO there is this other guy that likes me and I had feelings for him but my feelings for this other guy that I love was keeping me from saying yes to him. So I asked him (the guy who I like) what he wanted, and he told me that he didnt want me to be with the other guy because he would miss me and he wouldn't know what he would do without being as close as we are now. I told him I needed to a reason to stay,And he said that he liked me but he wasn't ready to date me, because any relationship we would have would be serious and he didn't want a serious relationship. I asked him what he was ready for, and joking he said "some hoe on the street". I told him he wouldnt care about her, and he told me that was the point, he cared about me too much. He said because we are in high school breaking up would inevitable (he is one grade ahead of me) and he couldn't risk our friendship. I told him he made me happy and that I wanted to be with him, and he told me I made him happy but he couldn't give me the relationship he knows I dream about. What I need to know is if this is true, I'm not sure if this is an excuse or what makes guys not ready. And if he liked me how come he doesn't want a serious relationship. He says he cares about me. I told him I didn't really want a serious relationship but he said he didn't believe that because I get emotionally attached. At that moment we almost kissed (both of us have never kissed anyone before). But we were in his doorway to his room and I didn't want his parents to walk in on us, so I told him not now. When I texted him this morming I asked him if the feeling of kissing me had passed (because we are hanging out next weekend and I want to kiss him then) and he texted back that he told me yesterday that he wasn't ready to date me so it wouldn't be fair to me. Was that a rejection, I do want to kiss him, and I know he wants to kiss me. I just don't know what to make of this situation. And I need thorough advice on how to go about this. I love him, and I really think he loves me. HELP PLEASE!!!
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he's scared. the pretty much same thing happened with my boyfriend and i. some guys feel like their giving up their freedom when they are this young. don't make him your top priority. pretend you have other interests, if he calls, keep it short. if he talks to girls, talk to guys. he'll get the point sooner or later, if he doesn't than he is a loser who really only does want a hoe. if he really cares about you as much as he says, he'll finally be committeed. but don't ruin your freedom over it. enjoy every moment.
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He is scared and he is right when it comes to high school, it is a drama pot that is constantly turning. As a couple it is inevitable to avoid this. Losing someone he souly cares about is frightening especially for a guy. He is not lying about the kiss, it is rare to find a guy who wants to wait for the perfect moment to kiss. This means he is thinking more than just a relationship, he wants to wait becasue he thinking about marriage. Not marriage right now but in the future.
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hes obviously just scared. highschool relationships are very hard to handle. they bring a lot of stress, and other tennagers just get in the way. like school, grades, and parents, and friends. let him know what kind of person you are. if you love him, wait. but dont let him know youll wait for him. slow down a bit. hell realize a lot. kinda drift away, dont be so close to him, but then just text him once in a while. he doesnt trust anyone, he doesnt want to get hurt. hes not rejecting you, he just cant makeup his mind about what he wants. if he told you he cares about you, then maybe he just doesnt want to hurt you. hes just not ready. play a little hard to get, because your kinda throwing yourslef at him, and you dont want to do that!!! hahh. so good luck, really.
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