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F/16
Okay, so I used to be overweight, and I lost like 40lbs by exercising and watching what I ate (it took a year, but I finally got it off.) Now, I wanna lose 15lbs, (just to stabilize my weight because I am almost overweight, I am 5'7 and I weigh about 160, sometimes 154.) I really want to weigh 145 by summer and I want to tone up so that I can wear a bathing suit, I'm a lifeguard, and not be uncomfortable in my body for once in my life. I work out for an hour once a day, and take one day off once a week. And I keep an eye on what I eat, it's not monitored extremely well, but I watch my portions and snacks and all.
Anyway, I would like to know if you guys have any advice for how to lose that weight and get toned and in shape by summer? Any advice would be appreciated (: (link)
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Hi,
I think what you're doing already is perfect. Sometimes your body with reach a plateau where you can't seem to lose any more weight. When this happens, try to shake things up a little by doing something your body isn't accustomed to.
Such things are: delete a different food from your diet, a different workout routine, maybe weights. All of these things can help. Keep up the good work. I hope I helped.
Good luck
Ediemarie
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This is weird, but something Ive always wondered about. Ive kissed and made out with plenty of guys, but usually no longer than like five minutes. I hear about people making out for like hours and stuff. Seems like you would run out of breath and stuff. Is that an exaggeration? Doesnt it get boring? Maybe its just me, but I dont get it. (link)
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Hi,
maybe you're not with the right guy. When you're feelinf someone, five minutes is not nearly enough.
When you're with the right person, you can make out for a long period od time because you enjoy each other's company and the way you make each other feel. You lose track of time and before you know it, it has been quite a while.
Believe me, you won't be bored.
Try making out with someone you care about and feel the difference. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I'm 22/M, average looking, and only had 1 real relationship in my life
I live in Centerville now but graduate college in 4 months, and move to Akron
Names and Towns have been changed.
Cora lives in Town B where I move to. She's kind of a player, but she likes me (has kissed me when I visited last time, I know she likes me) and talks to me online quite a bit. Kind of a drama queen and pretty wild. But I'm really attracted to her and her personality.
Kris lives in current town A. She's the exact opposite, really shy, kind of a different lifestyle than me, but just super sweet and nice (very similar to my personality). Much easier for me to talk to in person than Cora.
Basically I like to party a little too, but I fall right in the middle of Wild Cora and Boring Kris. I don't want to move and have something fall apart with Cora and never have tried anything with Kris. I also don't want to fall for Kris and then move, plus I'm pretty sure I'll hurt Cora's feelings if I get into a relationship.
I also don't want to sit here idly. I'm 22 and have had one hap-hazzard relationship while my friends are already getting married. So I want to try something. It's just weird because I have feelings for both girls. What should I do/Who should I go for? (link)
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Hi,
I feel that you should go for the girl who makes you feel the most comfortable. What i mean by this is go for the girl who you can be yourself with. In my opinion, that seems like Kris. It seems like you have a lot of things in common with her.
Cora is a challenge to you. She loves on the wild side and you like that, which is not unusual. It also seems like you want to live a little and have some fun. There's nothing wrong with that, but don't get into a relationship with Kris if you want to experiment with Cora.
Why not give them both a try and see which one is the right pick for you. Long as you do not have a relationship or committment with either one of them, go for it. I hope this helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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can you tell me what kind of class i should take in high school if i want to become a pediatrician, what courses i should take in college and what medical cschools provide programs for someone looking to study pedatrics?
thanks (link)
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Hi,
pediatrics is a very good field to pursue. While in high school focus on math and most importantly all of the sciences.
I don't know the state you reside in, but there are many colleges that have very good pre-med programs.
In order to get a better understanding, I would simply do a search, google would be a good example, colleges specializing in pre-med.
Some things to think about would be location and cost. Your choice will be an individual one based on that.
It would also be a good idea to let your counselor know of your ambitions and she can steer you in the right direction. Remember that pre-med is a difficult field and you must attain an excellent gpa in high school to get accepted into that particular program.
You should also love children and medicine.
I hope this helped and I wish you nothing but the best.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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hey girl i noticed you answered some1's sex question so i thought i'd ask you.. please help me.. but okay.. so this morning my boyfriend and i were having sex. i'm not on birth control but we always use protection and as he's about to go he always pulls out. today after we had sex we checked the condom to make sure there were no holes by filling it up with water. And sure enough, there was a freaking hole! but it was on the side of the condom towards the base of his penis.. so it was not near the tip of the condom where the semen collects .. it was away from the tip of the condom about 3 and a half inches. he said the condom was really tight and that he pulled out before he finished. when we filled the condom up with water we only figured out that there was a hole by squeezing it from all sides and it was a very tiny pinhole. do you think i'm okay ? =( or do you think that precum or cum could have somehow made its way up 3 1/2 inches to that hole and got out while we were having sex ? =( i'm so scared (link)
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Hi,
i know you are probably very scared, but don't jump to conclusions just yet. It is good that the two of you used a condom and he pulled out before he came.
It's nerve racking when you find a hole, however it is not likely that you got pregnant under these circumstances. Sometimes these things happen. It is possible for the sperm to get out no matter how far up it was, but again, I think the chances of you being pregnant are low.
There's also a chance that the two of you could have put the hole there by squeezing it the way you did.
Keep track of your period and if you are late by at least two weeks, then you can decide what to do next. For now, try not to worry about it.
If you are the impatient type, they now how pregnancy tests that you can use even if you are a few days late.
I really hope that everything works out for you and that it turns out the way you want.
Good luck with everything,
Ediemarie
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14/f
Ok so my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 months. It was great in the beginning like how it usually is for most people. Then you know, later its not as great but I didn't mind it after the first month. But now its kinda changing. Like we don't really talk anymore, he'll just stand by me or whatever. We don't see each other alot since we don't go to the same school. Then I'm just getting confused because he goes to another school and his friend, who are also my friend, would come up to me and say, "you better watch your guy, those girls are wow" or something like that. Then I'm thinking like, "does he still like me?" and I don't want to ask him because for one thing, I'm super shy, second, if he still says he does, it doesn't mean he is telling the truth. I'm not gullible, I don't believe half of what anyone says. Which sometimes isn't good, I know.
Now there is another side for me. Ok there is a guy at my school I think I'm starting to like, since I see him everyday its easier for me to look at him and just think these things. Hah, I wouldn't cheat on my boyfriend for anything in the world. I like him so much, its just me thinking he doesn't like me. But this guy is really nice and we talk sometimes but its short. But during the whole time I'm thinking of my boyfriend, I like him so much. What am I supposed do? Am I just thinking these things about this guy because I don't see my boyfriend often? Sorry this was long and thanks for any help! (link)
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Hi,
It's hard to have a relationship with someone at your age when you don't attend the same school.
People are going to talk all the time and have something negative to say.
You have to first ignore it and then go and have a talk with you boyfriend.
Tell him what's on your mind and demand answers. You say you are not gullible so you should know if he's telling you the truth by the way he sounds and looks at you when you ask him the question. YOur gut is usually right.
You're kind of young, leave yourself open to new experiences. If you feel yourself liking the other guy, go for it. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I was on the pill when i had sex and then stopped for a week and had my period but i have been getting reli upset over the stupidist of things, crying all the time, not sleeping at all, trying to get out of school, feeling sick every now and again...Is there any chance i could be pregnant or even depressed from the pill? (link)
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Hi,
I highly doubt that you are pregnant since you were on the pill when you had sex.
You are probably just stressing out over everyday issues.
Try to chill out and relax. I'm sure everything will be okay.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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15/f
lately i've noticed i have pain in my left breast near the top of it. it used to be only when i moved my arm above my head but now it hurts on its own and its getting really painful. theres no sign of bruising or injury, and it isnt sex related. i have a male doctor that i dont want to see and i dont have a gyno. its getting unbearable. what do i do? (link)
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Hi,
this could be a lot of different things, but it doesn't sound good. Go and see your doctor and get it examined. You don't want to play around with anything concerning the breast. It could be an infection, a clogged duct, etc.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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17/f
I havent had my period since I started it on Nov. 30.
Therfore I have missed my December period and possibly my January period (I am never regular.. usually late). There is basically no way I could be pregnant. I've never had sex. and I even took 2 pregnancy tests when I was 3 weeks late last month. Both were negative.
I have been SUPER stressed the past few months about deciding where to go to college and I'm not sure if that can cause missing 2 months. I've also been stressed about thinking of pregnancy. I can't think of anything else I have done differently.
I just want to know what's happening with my body. It doesn't feel like I'm going to even start pmsing soon. What should I do? Is it bad to just wait?
I am only going to the doctor if I absolutely need to because then I have to tell my mom.. (link)
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Hi,
since you have never had sex, we know that pregnancy is out of the question, so stop dwelling on that issue.
What concerns me, is that it could be something else ranging from something minor like stress as you suggested, or something else; possibly and infection of some type.
I am not a doctor and I don't want to speculate. You should definitely get it checked out. If you cannot tell your mom, try going to planned parenthood or something similar to that. This is nothing to play with.
It's probably nothing, but why cause yourself unnecessary worry? I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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i been on the pill for a couple months now.. i miss my pill on saturday its now sunday i took saturdays pill and sundays pill today (sunday) tomorrow im going to have sex (unprotected) what are the chances of me getting pregnant (link)
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Hi,
I'm confused. Why are you not taking your pill today?
You probably won't get pregnant, but it is not a good idea to keep playing around with your birth control. The more days you miss, the chances for pregnancy increase.
There are other options if you have a problem remembering.
p.s. Are you trying to get pregnant?
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Our homecoming was in October, and everyone was so great at grinding. Thats ALL it is! Now I couldn't grind. I literally looked like the biggest freaking idiot anyone has ever seen. I just want to be good at grinding! Because our winter formal is in only 20 days! Can someone PLEASE PLEASE help me! (link)
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Hi,
don't worry. You're not alone. The best suggestion I would have is to look around and find out who does it the best and ask for a lesson.
Hopefully, they will be a good sport and help you out. Practice is the best teacher.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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(I am a female) I know that different guys prefer different things, but in general would it be the safest bet to shave/remove the hair "down there" or to leave the hair?
and also, what's the best way to get rid of hair in the bikini area? (link)
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Hi,
you are right. Different guys do prefer different things, but what do you prefer?
Just because a guy wants or doesn't want it, doesn't mean you have to do it.
Shaving can cause razor burn, ingrown hairs, and or razor bumps. If you just want to, you can trim the hair to get it under control. Waxing is always an option, however, it can be painful and expensive.
Decide what you want and go with that. That's what's most important!
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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so about a week ago, i got over a bladder infection by taking the recommended doseage of these prescription pills. they were called SULFAMETH/TRIM, 800/160MG. at least thats what the container says. -.-'' moving on.
the problem is, i had sex a few days before i got the bladder infection. and i thought i might have been pregnant because my boyfriend and i had sex unprotected. (stupid, i know. but thats not my question)
my question is...if i WAS pregnant, by any possible chance, would the drugs i'd taken killed it? because its been a few weeks since my last period and i think im a few days late. im not sure though because i dont chart my cycle. :\
but someone please answer the question without lecturing me on protection. i know what a condom is, thanks. :)
16/f
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Hi,
I will not lecture you.:)
If you are pregnant, the medicine you were taking for your bladder infection as far as I know, will not harm the fetus. Many women pregnant and non-pregnant get bladder infections and have to take the prescription.
If in doubt, and you don't start your period, inform a professional and tell them the medicine that you were taking. Everything will be alright.
Good luck to you,
Ediemarie
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Hi. Im 19 and im a male.... I was wondering in a relationship do you think that sometimes it would be best to take a break from each other if you feel that your girlfriend or you know that your girlfriend still has strong feelings for her ex-boyfriend....I don't know what to do about this situation, because I really love her and don't want this to break us up....can you help? (link)
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Hi,
I just received your question. I am happy to help you.
I think the first thing you should do if you haven't already done so is talk to your girlfriend about how you feel.
Depending on her answer and if you truly think in your heart of hearts that she is telling the truth, you can base your decision.
First, if she tells you that you have nothing to worry about, and you don't believe her then I do think it might be best for the two of you to take a break so that she can get her feelings together.
It would not be healthy for you to be in a relationship with someone who is into someone else. I know it may be hard to face because of your love for her, but you would lose in the long run and if the two of you are meant to be, she will be yours anyway.
On the other hand, if you do believe her, take some time and figure out why you are so insecure. Give her and yourself a break and enjoy the relationship!
In either case, you can't force love in either direction. I hope I helped you.
Good luck with everything,
Ediemarie
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I am so pissed at this church we go to. I asked the secretary there a question by e-mail and her reply is ask someone there they'll direct you. But couldn't she just tell me she is the secretary she must know the way there. I hate that they act like I am all better than them. Like I cant bring anything nice there or I am showing off. Do you agree she was rude. (link)
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Hi I am happy to help you,
the answer to your question is yes. I do think it was a bit rude of her. Some people are just rude and lazy like that. They don't take pride in their jobs.
I don't know if it had anything to do with what you were saying about how the rest of the congregation feels about you or not. In any case, it was rude behavior.
In reply to the second part of your question, I have dealt with people like that in churches as well. I have yet to find a church in which I can just pray without all of the drams. Some of them, not all are like small soap operas. My suggestion would be to find another church in which you feel comfortable or bring your concerns to someone in authority. It may work, but it's doubtful.
Don't change who you are for anyone. Church is supposed to be about love and acceptance. Maybe you should tell them that. I hope this helped.
Good luck to you and God bless,
Ediemarie
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My parents want to send me to a private catholic all girls school i my town. It is also required to wear a (very ugly) uniform. The classes look good and the school has good ratings and everything, but i have a problem with the religion thing, as well as the all girls part and the fact that I have to wear a uniform. how can i convince my parents to let me go to a different school or stay in public school?? (link)
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Hi,
that's going to be difficult to pull off. They have your best interest at heart and think this is the best choice for you.
You've already stated the obvious about how good of a school it is. This is going to look good on a college application.
I went to a catholic high school with all girls. It's not that bad. You can deal with the uniforms and apply your own personal style to them. You will make some friends for life. Think about your future. I hope this gave you something to think about.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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basicly im a 17 year old male. and for the past i dont know, 6 months or so, me and this girl have been i guess you could call it dating. i really don't know.lol but anyways, i fell extremely hard for her, i mean with in about 2 months i was in love with this girl. and i still am. but during the first part of jan. we ran into some trouble, and she accussed me of somethings that i flat out didnt do. so we stopped talkin for awhile. she then goes on a cruise w/ her family and from what i understand, meets this dude that shes liked, and yeah, need less to say they start goin out. and i mean she literally i feel, threw me to the curb. didnt call me, didnt say nothin to me, just left me. and I've been pretty friggin well depressed since then. i mean i cant help but think about what all that happened, how it all went down, and how happy she is with this dude. i mean man this sucks. so basicly i just need some guidance, i have really know idea what im goin do. i just want her back. i aint even goin lie. but i also dont wanna get hurt again either. so please help me out here (link)
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Hi,
my first question is why do you want her back? She's already shown you how she's going to treat you. I could be wrong but, I think she falsely accused you just to start an argument so she would feel comfortable doing what she did.
Obviously she's moved on and she's happy with this other guy. I day good riddance. She wasn't good enough for you and isn't worth your time.
I know you still have feelings for her and this may be hard to hear, unfortunately it's true.
There's someone else out there for you. Give yourself time to get over her and get back out there and find the girl for you.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Hey im 17/f. Its hard to explain this situation but im going to try my best. I have that constant need to be wanted by many guys. If i dont have a "back up" i dont feel secure i guess you could say and i hate it. I feel like its an addiction i have. When i have a boyfriend i have to flirt with other guys and know somebody else likes me too. I never do anything more besides flirt because i would never cheat. Its just i have a constant need to know i could have somebody else i dont need that one person. I dont really know how to explain it. Can somebody please tell me. is this normal? Have you gone through something like this? Any advice would be appreciated! (link)
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Hi,
I don't know if it's normal, but a lot of people especially women, feel this way. It's all about insecurity. It makes you feel good to know that you're wanted by everyone. You have to get to a place where that is not needed and you are comfortable in your own skin. You feel like you have to have a back up because you don't want to be alone. You feel unworthy if you don't have a man. Most of us have been there.
You should mature out of it once you figure out that your fine with or without a man. Try and read some self-help books on the subject or talk to someone you trust about the situation. That might work.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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ok well I've had a crush on this kid and then it turned into me liking him. but from the first time we talked he told me he had a girlfriend and I was ok with that because just being friends with him would be ok for now. but then I one day he told I'd he liked me and then I just thought that he would break up with her for me. he said that he liked me but he likes her alot too. I mean I know were just sophomores in highschool but I don't know. I'm really confused because he's like the nicest guy ever and he doesn't play with girls but I just feel like giving up on this. she's a freshman but he talks to me all the time and tells me I'm cute and that he really wants to hang with me and when I asked him if this was all a joke he said I do like u, let me put it this way if I wasn't dating my gf right now I would be dating you. and I think that means he wants to date me in the near future. but I just don t want to get my hopes up and then he never breaks up with her. I need big time advice on what to do!!!!!!!!! HELP PLEASE!!!!!! (link)
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Hi,
I don't think you should waste too much time on thinking about him. If he wasn't dating his girlfriend he would be dating you? Give me a break. The fact is that he is dating his girlfriend. What does he want you to do, sit around and wait for him to figure it out? That's ridiculous.
Be with someone who can totally be into you without any of the baggage. If he wanted to be with you, he would break up with her, but don't sit around and wait for it to happen. Sound like he just wants to keep you hangin' around. Don't do it. Enjoy your life.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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For the last few months, I've had this ricidulous urge to become pregnant (I'm only 16). At first I thought it was a phase but lately all I think about is how wonderful it would be to have a child. I understand how insane this is; I don't have a job, I haven't even finished high school yet and I'm certainly not ready for a baby.
I started birth control 3 months ago and take it religiously but one night I had sex with my boyfriend and for some reason he was freaked out that I would get pregnant. All I could think about was how happy I would be if I was.
I've also had a few dreams about being pregnant and having miscarriages (over the past 6 months-not consistently)
This doesn't seem normal to me and I want these thoughts to stop. I would never do anything intentional to get pregnant so thats not the issue, trying to find a way to stop this crazy idea is what's bothering me. I don't want to be pregnant because of Jamie Lynn Spears or because I'm trying keep my boyfriend around (we have a healthy relationship). Is it a possibility that it could just be hormones and I will get out of this phase? :/ Thanks. (link)
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Hi,
I think something is missing in your life and you feel that a baby my fill the void. Everything you said about you not being ready is so true. You and the baby would suffer unnecessarily for no good reason. why bring a child into that. Just keep using your good common sense.
Maybe you should talk to someone if these urges don't go away. I hope this helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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