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want to be pregnant? ..
For the last few months, I've had this ricidulous urge to become pregnant (I'm only 16). At first I thought it was a phase but lately all I think about is how wonderful it would be to have a child. I understand how insane this is; I don't have a job, I haven't even finished high school yet and I'm certainly not ready for a baby.
I started birth control 3 months ago and take it religiously but one night I had sex with my boyfriend and for some reason he was freaked out that I would get pregnant. All I could think about was how happy I would be if I was.
I've also had a few dreams about being pregnant and having miscarriages (over the past 6 months-not consistently)
This doesn't seem normal to me and I want these thoughts to stop. I would never do anything intentional to get pregnant so thats not the issue, trying to find a way to stop this crazy idea is what's bothering me. I don't want to be pregnant because of Jamie Lynn Spears or because I'm trying keep my boyfriend around (we have a healthy relationship). Is it a possibility that it could just be hormones and I will get out of this phase? :/ Thanks.
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Its cool its fine i was like that and still kind of am lots of people at my high school has been pregnant and i wanted to be pregnant i thought it would be a fun expierence and i love kids i have 4 nephews so i was a bit jelous of even my sisters i used condoms when i had sex with my guy but sometimes i would wish i would get pregnant also to have a better connection with my guy but ya it will stop and you will realize being pregnant so young is a bad idea im 17 by the way so ya i was in the same boat
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Yes, it is just a phase. Not all girls go through it but some do. Once you start getting a little older and you start to see you friends with babies, you'll realize how much you want to wait until after college. I'm not saying babies aren't wonderful because they are but once you have a child you lose 100% of your freedom. You are entitled to dedicate your entire life to this baby. Not only that but if you're only 16 with no job - do you really want this baby to grow up with not having much in it's life? Don't you want to be able to buy he or she whatever you can? Spoil them? Love them? How would you supply food, diapers, clothing. Babies are not cheap. (about a $1000 a month) There's no rush in life so please, enjoy your teen years while you still can because it goes by so fast. I remember my 16th birthday like it was yesterday - and now I'm about to turn 20. Life goes by fast, don't take these years for granted. Good Luck!
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I am 35 and take it from me, it's a TOUGH job. Perhaps you are looking for something/someone to love and who will love you unconditionally. I had my daughter at the age of 19 and I had a job and was still living at home. It's really hard. I look back now and see that I wanted someone to love me. Of course I thought it would be fun and cute to have a baby then, but looking back, I see what I was looking for. I remember ALL of my money going to daycare and I was so upset. I love my daughter with all of my heart, but take it from me. Wait a while, at least until you are 20. I am 35 and thought I was pregnant in October and I was horrified. Babies cost mucho money!
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Hey :)
Well to be honest, I've been feeling the same way as you. And I'm proud that you have the maturity to realize you aren't in the position to have a baby. Of course, having a baby is a blessing, but also difficult. You might not get out of this phase, maybe you will, but it's only normal. You're a woman. Do you enjoy children? I mean, you can work at a toddler daycare or something? Babysit? Just keep being mature and realistic about this situation, soon you'll be so busy you will rarely think of getting pregnant, just keep yourself busy :)
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Hi,
I think something is missing in your life and you feel that a baby my fill the void. Everything you said about you not being ready is so true. You and the baby would suffer unnecessarily for no good reason. why bring a child into that. Just keep using your good common sense.
Maybe you should talk to someone if these urges don't go away. I hope this helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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