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Q: I'm looking for some really great teen fictional books. Can anyone recommend some to me, or even if you can't, a great website that has a list of them? I'm looking for a book along the storyline of like love and romance.... but even if you have a book name that's not about that but it's a great book, thats good too! THANKS!!

hey, well I'm not sure here are some preteen books:
1. The mates ,Dates, And ... Series
2- The georgia Nicolson Series
Then there is(slightly older people)-
3. Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson
4. The gossip Girl series

sorry I know more, but I cant think of any right now, sorry...Hope I helped rate me if u like thanks..♥ *D.C.G.*

Q: I m doing a report on wicca for school, see i know a little about it but i m looking for the history, spells, you know stuff like that. if you know anything or some sites i can go to id really appriciate it.
~sara~

Hey, well as some others said Before me, go to your library and look Wicca up, Im sure u'll find a lot of stuff, and Google definitely will bring results. I'm sorry, i really should know more about this, because a while ago I wanted to find out more about Wicca myself and I found a lot of info but now i dont have the info or the sites anymore, so im sorry. If you could tell me username I can write to you and tell you if I find anything. Hope that helps. Rate me if you like my advice, thx.
Ciao- *D.C.G.*

P.S.: here is a site or two to help u: http://www.fortunecity.com/greenfield/tigris/567/index.htm

Q: There is this guy that use to go to my school lets call him "S" and "S" was so nice to me and everthing and when i went out with this one guy lets call him "J" and broke up with "J", "J" started threatning me and stuff so "S" beat "J" up because "J" was threatning me so "S" got expelled for fighting and i really miss him and i want to go out with him but i havent seen him since he got expelled and "S" is in 8th and im in 7th and im 13 and i wont be able to see him until i get in 9th but all my friends have been trying to hook me up with alot of guys and the guys have asked me out and stuff but i say no because im really depressed and only want "S" but i cant have "S" until 2 years and i dont know if "S" will still like me so what should i do

Hey...S sounds really nice. Does he have any friends that u or your friends know of? Even if they don't know his number, maybe by word-of-mouth they can get it around that you wanna see him. that's all I got, try that. I hope that helps, sounds nice,keep me updated.Rate me if you like my advice thanx.
Ciao- ♥*D.C.G.*

Q: There is this guy that i really like. My friends tell me that he likes me too because of the way he acts towards me, and that its obvious that i like him, so i know he knows how i feel about him. But, i just want to come out and tell him how i feel about him, and i want to ask him how he feels about me so i know for sure...but im not sure how to do that with out making it all awkword and all...PLEASE HELP?

You can just flirt with him OR if you know any friends, or if your friends know any friends of his, they can ask him generally, then his friends can tell yours, and they'll tell you, or you can just ask one friend to ask him for you. Then, depending on the result, you can flirt or ask him out. Hope that helps;), rate me plz..ciao

Q: Ok well im going to paint my room a light green and im wondering if i should get a different shade of green for my bedspread and stuff or should i get a light orange one? please help me out! Thanx!! :o)

well, if you get a light orange, then myabe it would be nice, but if you get another green for your bedspread, then your room might look too green, I suggest you get a light blue, or maybe a deep purple, I think that would look nice. rate me please. Hope that helped;)

Q: i have the e - messenger... but i don't know what to do... when i sign in i type in my e - mail adress and my password... and when i click eneter it says that i have typed in the wrong username or password... but i no i am doing the right thing.. whats happening and how can i fix this

sorry, that I cant help you with..that is an msn question. If you dont mind me asking, what is your username on Advicenators btw?

Q: ok... he will probably get mad if i delete them... he doesn't want to read my convosations... he just wants to know how long i have been on... one time i was on for 4 hours strait talking to my boyfriend because i don't get to talk to him that much in school... well can you tell me what e - messenger is and how to get it? thanks

hey...okay..well this is the site u should go to for webmessenger,or emessenger: http://webmessenger.msn.com/

Webmessenger is a program that doesn't have to installed into your computer, you can access and IM straight from an internet browser, like Mozilla Firefox or Internet Explorer...and I doesnt record your messages. You have to sign in with your hotmail or msn account. Write to me if you have any more questions, dont worry. Hope that helps. Ciao:)

Q: My best friend is moveing to new york and she said she would call me when she gets there it has been 2 weeks and i have heard no phone call ... i dont know if she is there or not or she just forgot. i dont want our friendship to end. please help me.

Have you tried emailing her? Does she have an email?

Q: ok well theres this guy that i like and well hes like my ex we hav had an on and off relationship, but we have been seperated for almost 3 months and i miss him and i want him back. i have a feeling he likes me but then i have a feeling he doesn't. how do i know and how do i ask him out because i mean its just kind of weird.

If you really like him, maybe ask him to just hang out, and then flirt and drop hints like, oh"this is like good times, old times, whatever" I dunno how your style is. I hope that helps rate me if you like it please. :)ciao

Q: Hey does anyone know a real easy to get rid of pimples fast without popping them please help.

Hey, well...you can't really get rid of them real fast...but you can start by scrubbbing your face daily if you dont do it already. St. Ives Apricot Scrub is really good. And so is Neutrogena Deep Clean stuff. Totally Juicy and Nivea have some really good scrubs as well. It helps to use Clearasil Invisible tube on them for a couple of days. I hope that helps. If you have any more questions on skin and stuff write to my inbox please and if you like my advice please rate me.

Q: what are some movies with belly dancing in them? i really want to learn how to belly dance and i try and try and it still doesnt work, so anyone that knows any belly dancing movies please tell me or any other advice! thanks

hey well, I cant tell u any movies with belly dancing in them, but I know that u definitely might see some if you check out(or download) some Shakira music videos or something, and mybe some Arabic Videos. You can search online or mayb eif you use a music download program. I'm pretty sure u'll find somthing. I hope I atleast kind of helped. rate me,please. :) Ciao

P.S. Write to me If you have any more questions

Q: Ok i talked to this guy on the internet and he goes to my church and i have never seen him b4...well last night i asked him if he wanted to go skating and i would meet him there...well he said when he saw me he was about to die...he said i was an ugly ass bitch..and he said that it was a waste going there...i told him that if u dont like me for who i am then we shouldnt talk or be friends...well i gave his sn to my friends are now he is hitting on them...he said he was gunna call me tonight but i am not talking to him...he can talk to my friends..i really like him because he is cute...but what should i do? stop talking to him? because all he wants is ppl to do it with...and i am not that kind of girl...if he dont like me for who i am and who god made me then we dont need to be friends...so what should i tell him??
Thanks!!

That guy is a real jerk, I think that you should either ignore him totally, or tell him that you dont care, and when he calls you just be like:" Whatever, you freak, I don't wanna hear your stupid voice"...umm i dunno..hope that helps:) Write to me if u have an opinion on my answer or something please.

Q: on AIM some one left an awaymessage up that had
%n well what does %n mean I will rate hight thinks bye x3

hey...I use AIM myself, and I put %n in my away message too...%n is an AIM shortcut that you can put in Away messages so that when you talk to someone and they are Away, their message will come up with the %n but u arent supposed to see the %n because instead of %n its supposed to be your screenname. For example:
Supposing this is what I type into my away message:

Hi %n Im not here right now. Call me on my cell, or leave a message here.

This is what you are supposed to see:

Hi (your screename) Im not here right now. Call me on my cell, or leave a message here.

..Anyway, so I guess that shortcut didnt work with you, it works with me though...I hope you understand the answer, It maight be a li'l confusing..write to me if you have any more questions.:)

Q: i am studying in seventh standard. what do you think in my future that would help me with my studies?

hi sorry, I guess this is not really an answer to your question..but just out of general interest, becuase of your choice of words in your question, are you Indian or British?

Q: 13/f.....yeah i need UNIQUE ideas for my room. not just ideas to make it more fun...but more interesting and crap...like, please dont say posters or paint or moving furniture! what is a really KOOL idea?!?!?!?!!?!??!

hey, well...Do you like beaded and sequined stuff? Bcoz then you can buy some things like beaded and sequined Indian or whatever pillowcases and bedcovers...from different kinds of stores. These types of things can make your room look way nice and different, i mean c'mon, a bed is a main thing in one's room. and if u like scents, and stuff, the whole unique look (Like I do), then you can buy some scented and plain candles from cheap stores..and even tho you said not to say it, posters do help a little, they add a more personal touch. I hope that helps. Write to my column and tell me your opinions on my answer,please, and if u have any more questions.:)

Q: my dad doesn't trust me... he has this thing in my computer that saves my IM's so he can see what i am saying... he says he will only give me 30 minutes out of mon - thurs. to talk to my friends on IM because thats what my aunt does to my cuzin... is there any way that i can get rid of this... my dad said there isn't but i no that there is... i can't talk to my dad about anything because he won't listen... its his way or no way... going for help is not an option i will take... what should i do

Hey. I know almost exactly how you feel. My dad doesn't save my IM's but he makes me leave my door open while i'm on the computer so that he can pass by and see what I'm doing. Sometimes he even comes in and looks right at my screen. I can't really think of anyway out of your problem... well, if he won't get really mad I know how to delete your IM conversations so that he cant view them...if he wont get mad, then all you have to do is write to my column and ask me, and I'll tell you how. Another way, which I would say is a pretty good solution, is (if you use MSN messenger)to use e-messenger..which is like IMing straight from an internet browser...if you want to find out how to get that write to my column and i can tell you. I hope that helps, especialy with the e-messenger thing.

Q: alright I've been dating this guy for about a month in a half. Hes perfect he already bought me roses and he treats me soo good. But i dont know what to get him for Valentines Day can you please help me? thanks

Okay, I don know how your money situation is right now, but if you are like, well off, maybe you could get him,like cologne or a silver chain or something. Maybe a new CD or two. hope that helps.

Q: This may sound dumb but I really need help.

I was browsing the internet and remembered a site I had visited earlier called TeenOrg or something like that- it had like chat rooms and articles and stuff. I was pretty sure I remembered it, so I typed in teenorg.com. And viola, a teen porn page appears. Of course I closed it out, but I'm freaked now- my uncle fixes my computer quite often and I'm scared he'll see it.

My internet browser is Mozilla Firefox and my computer is Windows XP. How do I get rid of it?

Hey, okay I'm going to try to help you, I have Mozilla Firefox too, so this what you should do.:

Go to Tools in your menu on Firefox, then click Options at the very bottom of the drop down menu. Once ur in Options, go to the category called Privacy, and there go to the sub-category called History. Next to it there should be a button saying Clear. Click that, and the proof of that site u visited will be erased. I hope that works, please try it,because i think it will. I you want to delete the cookies or whatever as well, then go to my column and ask me the question and i will tell you how. Hope that helps:).

Q: how do i get better balance and posture?! are there any exercises?!

Hey, well, I'm going to try to answer your question. Okay,well, for posture, the classic thing really does help: stand up and sit with your back straight. A good balance exercise is the Candle. I cant really explain how to do it,so look that name up in exercises under Google or Yahoo or something and I'm sure u will get results and how to's. I hope that helps.:)

Q: Heres the story I weigh 140 and I am 15 years old, that is not normal for a 15 year old! I am Fat and people may say i'm not but I am and I've been working out and everything and all that does is makes me hurt all day long the next day, i'm not asking this for people to say oh your not fat i'm asking it because I am very unhappy with how much I weigh and i'm unhappy with the fat on my stomach and legs!I was wondering if there is anything I can do to make all the fat on my stomach and my legs go away and fast I'm so sick of looking and feeling fat i'm sick and tired of it so if anyone can help me out with this please help me! I'll rate very high for anyone who gives me an honest answer, like are their any diet pills I can take that you can buy at wal-mart with out my parents knowing? please who ever can help me with this please do! Thanks in advance!-Signed wants to be thinner

hey, I'm younger than you, but I think I can still help you out. I know some people who are plump (or fat), and I can understand how you feel, even tho I'm not fat myself. this is what you can do: try cutting down on your junk food gradually. And VERY IMPORTANT: Exercise. Crunches, and jogging are especially good to keep fit or get thinner, i know this because I do them to stay this way all the time. There is a really good site you can go to for teen fitness, that is pretty good: www.fitteen.com ...it even has recipes, and exercise routines and how to's...also food and exercise logs that are really helpful. I hope that helps, because I tried my best. ;) Hope u check it out.

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Hey, well...I like to help people with their problems because somtimes doing that actually helps me get away from my own, believe it or not, but I do ask advice myself sometimes.I'm not fully a witch, but kind of. I'd like to have more stuff to do with my advice column, so it would help if you would rate me, please, if you think I should get rated. Thx. If you have a question feel free to drop it into my inbox. Ciao.