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my dad doesn't trust me... he has this thing in my computer that saves my IM's so he can see what i am saying... he says he will only give me 30 minutes out of mon - thurs. to talk to my friends on IM because thats what my aunt does to my cuzin... is there any way that i can get rid of this... my dad said there isn't but i no that there is... i can't talk to my dad about anything because he won't listen... its his way or no way... going for help is not an option i will take... what should i do
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Try writing a letter to him. Maybe he doesn't like talking face to face with people. Be more responsible around the house. (Cook dinner,Clean for no reason) Just be really mature so he'll come to realize you are old enough to trust. Respect him and what he says, even if you don't agree.Talk calmly with him and show patience.
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First of all, i just want to say that you are lucky for even getting 30 minutes. I have been grounded for 6 months and i still have 6 to go.... :( As for the log thing, you can easily get rid of that. Go to AIM setting and where it says LOG ALL MESAGES, turn it off. Maybe you should block all the friends you have crazy convos with and only talk to the nice, boring ones for a week, and talk about like this : Hey, On the homework, what do we do? and like, talk about stuff and pretty soon your dad will realize that all yall do on aim is mingle about homework and dogs and boring stuff and maybe he will loosen up and let you be on aim more and w/o logs.
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Alright, I've dealt with this alot with my own parents. I don't think that you should say that you want to committ suicide because then your dad might get you professional help and that could be embarrasing if you aren't really suicidal. It is true that you can IM from a browser but since your dad checks on you I think that you'd be in alot of trouble if he ever found out what you were doing, and he may just take away your whole computer forever. I would suggest just using the phone and e-mail for awhile if you don't want your dad reading your conversations. I'm sure that eventually he'll trust you and he'll let you IM people without reading the coversations.
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Hey. I know almost exactly how you feel. My dad doesn't save my IM's but he makes me leave my door open while i'm on the computer so that he can pass by and see what I'm doing. Sometimes he even comes in and looks right at my screen. I can't really think of anyway out of your problem... well, if he won't get really mad I know how to delete your IM conversations so that he cant view them...if he wont get mad, then all you have to do is write to my column and ask me, and I'll tell you how. Another way, which I would say is a pretty good solution, is (if you use MSN messenger)to use e-messenger..which is like IMing straight from an internet browser...if you want to find out how to get that write to my column and i can tell you. I hope that helps, especialy with the e-messenger thing.
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