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17/f I'm really shy but there is this really cute boy behind me how can I flirt with him or make conversation?
Nooo. Don't talk about school like that hitler guy said. That's kinda lame. Talk about an event coming up, or something that you heard someone say, or just make a lot of eye contact and smile. That'll make him curious and get you stuck in his mind, and then maybe he'll say something to you. Or, if you don't know each other, just turn around and be like Hi! I don't think we've ever talked before..I'm [your name.] But remember to be positive and happy and smile!
During the summer, I met this guy. And for months we have been hanging out, and our relationship is growing very strong. The problem is, I'm 14, and he's 17.. And he's leaving for university next year, so we've decided that we're not going to become boyfriend and girlfriend, just be a couple.. Well, the thing is, he wants to go all the way with me.. And I don't know if i'm ready! I'm still a virgin and I don't know how I can be sure that I trust him enough, to know he's not just using me for a piece of "skin" please help!!
It seems like you have a pretty mature relationship with him, and that you know what you're getting into, so I'm not going to lecture you or anything. If you think you might regret it at all, don't do it. If it's really what you want to do, then go for it and don't worry about it not being right. It just seems like strange because why would he want to go all the way right before he leaves? Have you made plans to be serious later when he's back from college or anything? Maybe you should talk to him a little more and find out what his intentions are.
my mom says im not in love but i am . how do i know for sure and is it possible to be in love at 14???
You'll figure it all out in time, dear.
I'm liking this new guy that I may start dating soon (:
And I want a song preferably country that has the name "Corey" in it.
That'd be great!
That's creepy.. don't do that.
So do you guys think the girl and the guy (in the blue sweater) hooked up or did something shady that night at the halloween party?! Or do they just look plain drunk. Do you think something happened between them that night? Ha loads of questions.
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It looks like the guy is into the girl but the girl isn't into the guy.
im turning 17 in a few days & im still a virgin.
i havent fooled around much either cause im waiting for the right guy i guess (not cause im ugly or something)
is this okaii? cause ive noticed that most girls start doing stuff when theyre like 14 and lose their virginity with 16.
:S
It's not just okay, it's a very good thing. When you find the right guy he'll be happy. Guys seem to really like virgins.
19 yr old female.
would it be weird of me to tell my good guy friend, who i also have a crush on that i love him? like love him as in a best friend kinda way. i don't want him to be like woaaaah, i don't love you like that, you know? should i be like love you best friend! blaaaa i overthink things. i dont want it to come out and then be silent like ooookay awkward.
Just show him or something.
so i have this short part of a song stuck in my head and i cant figure out what songs its from.
its like "na na na na , na na na na na, na na na na na. " and repeats. cant really explain . kinda an upbeat song. pleasee help!
You could've given more detail.
Maybe its' one of these:
Right Now - Akon
Revenge - Mindless Self Indulge
Hey Jude - The Beatles
Rich Girl - Gwen Stefani
The Na Na Song - Sheryl Crow
Kiss Him Goodbye - Steam
17/f. well i've been on Ocella, my birth control, for about a year and a half. i'll admit, i party and do drugs, but not in an addictive way. i don't want a lecture on it. my question is, this month i've missed 5-6 pills on accident, and took them the next day. in addition, i've smoked ALOT of weed, some DMT, dropped one hit of acid, and snorted a line of meth 5 or 6 times. could these make my pills ineffective? besides missing a bunch. my mom told me acid can; it made hers not work and she got pregnant at 16 from it. plus, my boyfriend and i have unprotected sex 10 or more times a month, if that info helps. help/opinions?
"Yes it can.. On most birth control labels it does say to ask a doctor before use of alcohol, drugs, and any type of prescription drug."
ok not really. he is my frist boyfriend and well i know he likes me alot and stuff. but what if like i know if he run in old freind if it woman and if i seen woman flarting or something. what can do show he is mine! plus even they might not relize he with me you know?
Flarting lololololol.
Hey. I am 17/f and he is 19/m. We have been dating for almost 3 years. He's a sophomore in college, and im a senior in high school. My entire life, all I've wanted to do is be an elementary teacher, and to be a mother and a wife. Im a nurturer. I cannot imagine a life without children and a family. I love cooking and i can deal with cleaning. Strangely, my dream is to be a housewife in a place somewhat south, such as North Carolina or something near there.. Although we haven't talked about it in-depth, only small hypothetical things, because i don't plan on marriage or children until i graduate college, my boyfriend, chris, has made it perfectly clear he does NOT want kids, nor marriage. He said he just wants to, "act like we're married, but not actually make it legal. Weddings are stupid and a waste of money." He wants to go into business and start his own company in upstate new york, or someplace cold because he likes cold and snow. I love him with all my heart. I don't really know what id do without him. He is the most important person in my life. I honestly don't know what to do. His little brother, who is now 9, irritates the hell out of him. Chris describes him as a spoiled brat who gets "instant gratification". While this is true, i believe that every child should have a chance to go through that stage. Chris said his little brother ruined kids for him and now he HATES kids. Now i need your advice. I dont want to put this harshly, but should i stay with him, or am i (i didn't know how else to put it!) wasting my time with him? I know at this point in time, there is no possibility of him wanting to have children. I asked him, what if i got pregnant by accident, and he said, "if you're not comfortable with abortion, that's fine. We would just put the child up for adoption." Should i try to convince him that children aren't that bad, or should i try to find someone else who shares the same ideals with me? Also, i dont know if ill be able to let Chris go. I love him so much, and hes pretty much my whole world, and i want to start a family with HIM. I don't know what to do or how to convince him. Please, help me? Thank you!
It sounds like you haven't even told him how YOU feel yet. He needs to know. Instad of just randomly breaking up with him one day, talk to him about how you have different things in mind for the future, and see what his reaction is. I think that if your dream is to be a mother and a housewife, you should get it, and you shouldn't let him get in the way of that. Maybe you two can work things out. Every woman deserves a child.
so how do guys like the area to be shaven down their? completley shaved or what?
'Their' is possesive.
Hi I'm from the UK.
I have a 9 year old daughter who is very distressed and upset and i'm hoping you can help me help her!!
I moved away from her dad in 1999 (before she was born) due to domestic violence and gained an interdict to stop him coming near us. Since we weren't safe in the area we lived in after my split with him i moved to Edinburgh in 2002 and have been safe and living life normally ever since, that is until May last year when he managed to locate us.
Within a week we had to be placed in a Womans Aid refuge for our safety and he believes we live down in London now.
Ever since though he set up websites in search of us using videos and information from my daughters health problems to try and locate us. Now the first two websites we managed to get taken down as it pertained to a minors safety but the 3rd (which my daughter stumbled on last night) has only been up for a couple of days.
I've spoken to the police who confirmed this is a source of harassment yet won't do anything about it as its online. My solicitor reakons since he doesnt know where our new address is we should simply ignore it but its easier said than done!!
He is definately abusing my daughters right to safety and privacy. He has invaded both me and my daughters privacy by making this site and has caused us great annoyance and anxiety. The very fact he used her name as his web address shows he is abusing her right to privacy. If it was more about him it should have been called JohnMackie.co.uk not http://www.Shannoncassidy.co.uk
My daughter deserves the right to live life normally and safely - she does NOT deserve her privacy violated in such a manner and certainly not be hounded by him. Please for the safety of my daughter help me get him stopped for good!!
I need help! This is affecting my daughter greatly!! She has only JUST started relaxing after the last spate of websites and now shes back to sitting in her room crying - She doesn't understand why someone would ignore her requests to take it down and leave her alone as she wants nothing to do with him at the moment.
In light of this i would appreciate it if you could help!!
Did you even read this page? http://www.shannoncassidy.co.uk/page6.html
The answer is pretty simple.
He's saying that all you have to do, is get your DAUGHTER and NOT YOU to say that she either does or does not want to talk to him. He knows that you are making all of her decisions and I agree that you should let her make her own decisions. You've probably already brainwashed her to believe that her father is horrible and that she shouldn't talk to him, but she will resent you for that later on. Plus, he keeps saying "speak to your mum" so at least he's being mature about it. He's not trying to get her to go behind your back or anything. And it's not like he's trying to even get her to stay with him. Just a simple phone call. How could that hurt?
"Ok Shannon, you've found the page, now what do you do next...
If you want to get in touch with me and know who I am:
There are a few things that you can do. The first thing I would say is TALK TO YOUR MUM. Hopefully that will be enough and your mum can get in contact with me. If your mum decides that she won't do that for you then you will have to talk to someone else, a teacher, a social worker, your gran, your aunty. Hopefully they will listen and get in touch or speak to your mum.
If you don't want to get in touch with me:
It's almost the same answer. Talk to anyone listed above. I in no way intend to harrass you or hound you as it's been made out but I need to hear it from someone official if you don't want contact. Just now I have no way of knowing that and it may be that your mum is keeping all this from you. If your decision is that you don't want contact then someone official can get in touch with me and I'll take this site down.
Either way I know it's a very hard decision and it's a decision that you need to make when you feel ready. The most important thing in it all is that you SPEAK TO YOUR MUM."
I have a huge problem. I know it might sound wierd but dont laugh! I want to date men, kiss men,have sex with men,mary a men and have children with a men but i would'nt mind have sex with a girl! Am i a lesbian or not? But i want to mary and have sex with a men but like if a girl came to me and ask me if i wanted to have sex with her i would'nt mind and i'd say yes! So plz help me and tell me if you considered me a lesbian.
thanks
No.
he's 16 turning 17 next month.
recently, me and him kinda got into an incident where things happened and our family got upset. but apparently, i say that his father took it way too far.. he punched him in the stomach, and my boyfriend coughed out blood then passed out. he was already tired when that happened, because he was crying and he had marching band the whole day. and ever since, he said he's been throwing up blood... is there a way to stop him from throwing up blood?
Okay, listen. Do you know where blood comes from? Organs inside your body. It means something is not okay. He could bleed to death internally and it could kill him.
He needs to go to the doctor. He doesn't have to say his dad did it, and he doesn't even have to say how it happened. Although he should, because something is seriously wrong with his father.
But this is up to YOU. Do you want your boyfriend to die? You have to get him to go to the doctor or the hospital, as soon as possible. It can't be put off any longer.
Just go the nearest hospital, walk in the emergency room, and tell them what is wrong. They will take care of it.
Im 15,female.Well my boufriend and i play with each other. he sticks only the head of his dick in. He has never cummed in me but im still scared. im still a virgin and want to know if there is any possibility of getting pregnant? please help me.....And wat are the possibilities? Please answer!!!
Go get a pregnany test.
okay so all my friends are super skinny and all my guy friends tell me i am fat i don't eat anymore. what should i do? ( i only became anorexic because i like one of the guys that say i am fat)♥ thanks
Not eating will kill you, and make you gain tons more weight later on in life. Just eat healthy and exercise. And get better friends.
My boyfriend and I lost our virginity to each other after our one year anniversary about a month ago. This probably doesn't sound new to anyone, but our first time wasn't really as special as i thought he would try to make it (I wasn't expecting candles and chocolate or anything, I just thought he would spend the night or be more romantic), and he could tell i was upset because i was acting strange for a few days but I didn't want to try and talk with him about it because I'm not really a demanding girlfriend and our relationship is pretty relaxed; we barely even fight. But anyway when he confronted me, that led to us talking about our relationship and feelings and whatnot (which we never normally do, we don't really have a intense relationship). He said that I'm really special to him and that he doesn't know what love exactly is, and i just kind of played along like it wasn't a big deal because once again, our relationship is pretty chill and I didn't want him to know that deep down I'm pretty sure that I love him. And I really do understand that he doesn't know what love is; I don't really have a concrete definition myself (we're both only 18) so that doesn't seem to bother me.
So I'm not sure why every time we spend a night together having sex, I wake up the next day and I can't go about my normal day without crying, because I know that he cares about me but he would probably think I'm crazy or feel guilty if he knew how confused I felt about this, and I don't want to do anything to put pressure on him or mess up our relationship. Everything is perfectly fine between us, so my initial solution is to just get out all my upset feelings in private so I don't dump any baggage on anyone. I don't even know how I feel about any of this because half of the time I feel upset, and the other half I feel embarrassed for feeling upset over something so stupid; I tell myself that I'm overreacting, so I don't know why I feel so disoriented. Has anyone else ever felt like this? Is there anything I can do to make myself feel better or am I just overreacting?
You can be chill/relaxed and honest at the same time. It sounds like both of you are just leading each other on and waiting for something better to come. Maybe he feels like you don't love him, so he's trying to play it smoothe like you're doing.
I had this dream last night, I was at a place it looked like a church I remember seeing a lot of children with a teacher or a woman they were singing and praising. The woman gave me a booklet to participate when I opened the booklet I realized that they were all buddist so I exsplained to her that I was not buddist..infact I told her I wasn't religious at all and that I have tried Christianity, Judaismn...but then I decided I would try it and so I slowly started to participate in it and then I remember entering a room I found people on their knees praising and a woman singing while she was lighting candles when I looked up I saw a glowing colorful tree I felt warm and happy and beside me sat a two dogs attached at the hip..what does this mean? I want other peoples opinions on it and please no links.
(I am not a religious person, I don't intend to be religious because it really doesn't interest me at all)
Seems like you're just curious about Buddhism.
is there ANY easy way to tell your parents that you lost your virginity.. i mean its REALLY bothering me i cant tell them but i know i have to what do i do?? i cant have a relation ship with them based on lies.. you know?? cause we're starting out on better terms and were trying not 2 fight but i just dotn know what to do.. so yeah. thanks guys
Why are you telling them? They probably don't even want to know. You don't have to tell them every little detail of your life. It would really be better if you didn't. You're trying not to cause fights, but this will probably cause a huge one.