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Q: i know i am goodlooking... i dont have issues with the way i look. i am 5'9 and 132 and very toned (i havean 8 pack and maintain it) i have a full bust and hips..... no problem their.. i kind of look like cat mcphee / katie holmes... except i don't have their body ... i am skinnier than mcphee and not as stick skinny as holmes......i'm 21 and i am having the hardest time finding a guy... i kind of like older men and they wont approach me.... and the younger ones don't seem interested or i am not interested.... what should i doooo... how do i get the older men to notice men... by older i mean 30ish... help :S

let your personality shine. if you have beauty AND personality any man would love that. just remember its not all about looks. be confident in who you are and get to know as many people as possible.

Q: how do you kiss a guy passionately? like you can think of nothing else you would rather do and also how can you be very suggestive while being with him and making out with him. any and all suggestions are appreciated!!! thanks :)

try pulling his face in close to yours suddenly and holding his head while you kiss him with alot of pressure. or running your hands through his hair & just give a little bit of tongue. its mostly all in the feeling. if you love someone the passion is gonna be MUCH stronger

Q: what are the consequences of frequent ejaculation...when i say frequent i mean like 4 times a week

4 times a week isnt too much at all. im not a guy but i know that theres no problems that come from that!

Q: how do you play the game "Why?... Because" if such a game exists?

im assuming it would be someone says "why do you ______" and the other person answers "because _____" with their answer. ive never heard of it or played it

Q: I'm 15, and my bestfriend is turning 15 next month. I've decided to make her a cute little book from this company that will publish it for me to make it look liek a real book. I'm bascily writing the story of how we became friends and how we're still friends since grade schoool. What I wanted to know was what would be a cute title for this book? I was thinking something along the lines of :
How We Became Friends
Bestfriends
Our Journy as Bestfriends

But all of these seem so boring and corny! Can someone more creative then myself help me out please? haha THANKS.

A Look Through Time or

Where it all began.. or

Once upon a friendship or

Flashbacks

Q: does anyone know any uplifting songs? like.. uhh..i am beautiful by christina ag.

"soar" by christina is REALLY uplifting
"love can move mountains" celine dion
"let it be" the beatles

Q: me and my boyfriend hav been going out for a month now, and its hard cuz we go 2 different schools. well we barely see each other, and hes ALWAYS with his bestfriend. i know guys need their time with the guys and everything but it seems like he always breaks our plans to hangout to be with his friend. he doesent really make any effort to hangout, either. i dont want him to think im like being, posesive, but i never see him! what should i do?

you DEFINETELY need to talk to him..my boyfriend goes to a different school and we hang out almost every day..its not being posseseive to want to spend time with him and if you guys are truly good for each other and he cares about you alot he should take time away from his best friend to come see you after school..does he drive? if not then its ALOT harder to hang out alot thankfully my boyfriend drives..but anyway just tell him that you really wanna see him more often and see what he says and just carry on from there..relationships need time spent together! hope i helped.

Q: why isn't it illegal to test cosmetics and silly things like shampoo and toothpaste on innocent animals? They can feel hurt and pain so why do silly humans keep torturing them like this?

I just don't understand why no laws protect animals from being foolishly tested on.

It's heartbreaking to think that my mascara blinded a bunny or that my shampoo killed a guinea pig.

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i know its so sad and sick and wrong..those animals dont deserve that and it breaks my heart too..i dont understand why they have to test it on them couldnt they test it without having to hurt animals OR humans? hopefully one day it will change.

Q: hi yea if any one can help me with this problem i'm going to church and a group of kidds that go with me are skipping to night and i'm a person who could do the same but i'm not going to b/c i'm there to hang out with my friends then to worship the lord and then go home but here's the (?) what should i do about that group of kids?

let them make their mistake and be the better person and just go to church. don't fall into their stupidity!

Q: when your having your period (or for a short time after) how do you get the "fishy smell" away??
It really bugs me, and makes me insecure...
Thanks:)

go to the fish market & sell it for 10 dollas.

Q: How do you get a friend to open up to you?

Ive told her im always here for her if she needs someone to talk to and stuff but i just cant get her to break down to me.

Any suggestions?

honestly, it takes her strength inside to break down the walls and open up to you. all you can do is listen and let her know how much you love & care about her and even try being REALLY open with her to encourage her, once she gains your complete trust i bet she will open it. it takes alot for some people to open up, but in time if they feel comfortable with themselves and others, it can always happen.

Q: I've got problems with anxiety and depression and I am currently medicated for both. I've done well for quite a long time now. My husband and I would dearly love to have children together. I have recently seen a psychiatrist that pretty much scolded me for even considering to have children... I was hurt and shocked because I had never been treated like a handicapped person that shouldn't breed before. Are other people aware of this issue? If you are... what are your thoughts? Am I nuts for wanting children? Should I completely forget about it because of my problems? Any input of any opinion is welcome.

That lady is a nut case! No you are not nuts for wanting children, having children is a beautiful thing and i honestly dont think that medication would affect the child but you may want to look it up on google and make sure. I think that doctors and pschyiatrists these days are just SO focused on medicine they forget the true beauties of life. Don't let anyone get in the way of creating a life. I promise it'll be the best thing youll ever do in your life. THats what my mom always says about when she had us girls. Let me know how everything goes!

Q: Hey, I was going to audition for my school's talent show [I've made it for the past two years] and, I can't think of a good song to sing. I'm looking for a more maybe rock song, or maybe like, a really soft pretty song. I'm an alto, but I can do soprano pretty well, if that makes a difference. Thanks! :]

avril lavigne would be perfect..shes an alto and has rock AND soft pretty songs. try downloading:

Anything but ordinary
Innocence
Mobile

or Kelly Clarkson: Beautiful Disaster. thats an AMAZING song and any voice can sing it

just go through all your favorite female rock/pop artists and find the song you feel the best singing. GOOD LUCK!

Q: 16/m
is it wierd to shave my pubes, like most girls said they'd like it better if i shaved

nope. lots of girls like it better, personally i think guys can do what they want.you guys are meant to be hairy so it doesnt bother some girls, but trimming always helps a bit. and shaving completely is cool too! its completely up to you, i promise it doesnt make much of a difference unless its like a jungle hahahah

Q: I'm 15 year old guy in 10th grade and there's this girl in my geometry class, and I started liking her at the start of this semester. I would sometimes talk to her, but it wasn't like we were real good friends.
A friend of mine who is also in the class found out I liked her. He sat across from me and would point at me and her and ask, "Do you like her?"
Then the other day, she asked me to sit by her, instead of on the other side of the room. We sat there the whole hour talking and just doing random funny things and telling jokes.
Does she know I like her, and does she like me?

oh trust me, shes definetely developing a crush on you! if she laughs at a stupid joke, thats the ultimate flirt. and the whole asking you to sit by her thing, yup thats a for sure interest. im a girl ive done these EXACT same things. she probably has an idea you may like her, or maybe shes liked you all along and wonders if YOU have an idea! things are crazy that way. laughing & telling jokes & having fun together shows you guys hit it off GREAT..dont be afraid..ask her on a date! or just ask if she wants to hang out before making it an offical date..starting off friends always helps. i hope you guys fall in love! hahah i seriously do you deserve it. let me know how it goes if you want!

i really wanna find out how it goes so if you wanna let me know you can message me at www.myspace.com/soozlovesyou
or leave it on my advice column!

Q: i lost my mom a few years ago. & my dad isnt goin to last long. i have a 6 year old sister & im 16 years old. what will happen to me & my sister if my dad dies? where will we go? will we go into foster home? will we ge split up?
please only answer if you know.

i am so so sorry first of all. this is truly up to your dad..he should have this planned if he knows what's going to happen..HOPEFULLY you can move in with another family member such as a grandma or aunt, or possibly you could live with a friend or cousin until youre 18 and old enough to live on your own with your sister. and the question below is not accurate, trust me, you will get to stay with your sister. people these days are alot more caring and any other family member in your family will hopefully have a home for you taken care of. in two years you can live on your own & your sister too but you have to consult people and stuff of course. trust me im sure you wont be left alone to figure all of this out..i sure hope not..i will keep you in my prayers and stay strong..everything will be okay and they will be looking down on you and God will guide you & your sister to make sure you are safe.

Q: what should be the jean size for 14-15 yr old girls
that are about 5'3-5'5

ranging from 107-130 pounds

i'm 15 and about 5'5 110-ish pounds and i wear a 2 usually. but sometimes those are way too tight on my hips & butt cause i have a curvy butt. honestly it just depends on the brand..anywhere between a 1 and a 4 could work! just try them on till they fit haha.

Q: I'm in college. There's a guy in my class I'm interested in but I just recently found out he has a girlfriend. I still want to make some sort of a move because he is very attractive and I may not have an opportunity to see him again. I don't know him very well. We have hardly spoken to each other. He seems to like me but then again he is very friendly with everyone.

I found his profile on myspace and I'd like to contact him but I don't know what to say considering we hardly know each other.

Any advice would be great.

i would start off talking to him in person,THEN myspace because its always better that way. just muster all the courage you have and start a random conversation with him, start off with a compliment thats what i always do! and then after a few days you could add him on myspace and just send him a message and be like "hey hows everything going?" thats a lame example but you know what i mean! if he seems to like you, then who knows..maybe him and his gf arent meant to be and you guys are..go for him completely..its better to go for him & it not work out then to hold back & be scared! hope i helped. oh and by the way : confidence is key. you can talk about ANYTHING if you have confidence because he'll just be like ooh this girl isnt afraid to strike up a conversation..nice...
haha

Q: okay im 4'11" and im 14. im not getting much taller maybe an inch or so. im skinny except for my lrgs, like im not a twig, i have meat to my bones but it looks fine. my thighs arent wide when you look at them straight on (when im in shorts) but sideways they are really big like i play soccer so the back part of them are muscle but the front part is flab. it looks so bad cause i am really self concious and like i cant wear the jeans i want. i only have 2 pairs where they hide it and now with bathing suite season comming im really getting like nervous and i hate it.

dont worry, thighs look weird from that angle on ANYONE! you have NOTHING to worry about, don't be self concious..im sure youre beautiful and ive learned that confidence is the key to happiness. no one else will notice this but you..dont spend your time worrying about it. hope i helped!

Q: Hi. im sara. im 7 weeks pregnant. and im 15
my parents dont know. =/
once in a while my mom's telling me im getting fattt.
and that im eating alot. idk how to tell them.
they would kick me out.
i have a little bump from it.
im happy about it. but im not sure about the parents
helpp mee.

honestly, your only way to be able to deliver the baby healthily is to tell your parents. i know its gonna be the hardest thing youve ever done, but try telling just the parent you feel most comfortable talkingto and obviously the other will find out..youre gona need to go get all the stuff necessary to make sure the baby stays healthy inside you right away, so its crucial. just take a deep breath, gather ALL your courage, and blurt it out. do you have a boyfriend or anyone who is willing to help pay for all the stuff for the baby? or do you think your mom would help you raise it? youre only 15 so raising your baby on your own would be almost impossible. at this point, all you can do is just tell them. and hope they will be understanding enough to help you out..this is a HUGE deal so you need all the help you can get ..your mom will know what to do..i hope everything goes well let me know how it goes please!

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hey all you pretty people out there.my names susan but i love to spell it Soozin..im passionate about helping people and making people laugh and just being weird..i believe that anybody has the power to change the world and love really is all we need. ask me anything you want i love this site its kickass!