You shouldn't feel like you have to stay with him just because he is going into the military. You should stay with him because you love him, period. Yes, its going to be tough as he will be away from you, whether or not you are going to college. You just have to put in the effort that is necessary for your relationship to survive.
Im not sure how often he will get to call and such while he is at basic training, but discuss it with him that way you are there when he calls or you can email or write. My cousins husband is in the military and just came back from afghanistan, him being away and then coming home has made them a lot closer and stronger as a couple. You just have to be sure that it is what you want and then put in the effort that it needs to flourish.
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My husband and I got married when we were 18 and 19, but we had known one another for years and had been together for 2 years. I think that it is a little too soon for you two to be getting married, I mean you have only been together 11 months, you dont know everything about each other yet. Marriage is tough even for people who have been together for years and have known one another for ever, it takes lots of compromise and its hard work. It isnt something that you take lightly, its supposed to be forever and divorces are expensive so keep that in mind as well.
I think the best thing for you to do is too just date for a while longer and get to know one another and figure out if you really want to be together forever. IF you think hes and asshole sometimes, then can you really imagine living with him everyday, doing everything for him, not really having any of your own space or time. Its tough, trust me.
You also need to think of if you are capable of being financially stable, I mean if you are gettig married then you need to be able to afford your own place, bills, car insurance, etc. Most 18 year olds really arent ready for it, honestly. It is very stressful and you have full responsibility for yourself and your partner. Its a lot for you to take into consideration, before you take the leap.
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Im thinking that his ex is angry because 1- she is his ex and 2- he told his guardian about her father's abuse. Often times abused children get angry at the people who are trying to help them, they see it as someone trying to tear apart their family instead of what it actually is.
I think that she is just angry about everything that is happining, has happened, and she is just trying to ruin your relationship with him. Just ignore her, if you feel like you know your boyfriend better and that you both care for one another then screw what she says. Enjoy your time together, period.
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Inside jokes aren't things that you can TRY to make up, you have to just kinda let them come up. The harder you try, the less likely it is that you are going to make them. Just have a good time and enjoy yourself, let the conversation flow and don't try to hard. They will come on their own.
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He is a boy honey. Men don't communicate like women do, he probably just didn't have anything to say after that. You need to learn it now, don't read into every little thing that he texts or says or doesn't do. As long as he isn't ignoring you and you still feel like things are going in the right direction, enjoy it. Don't worry too much about relationships just yet. You have loads of time to worry about that, so have fun with people you care about and have a connection with.
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If you really enjoy psychology but do not like to communicate with people, then you could simply go into the researching side of it. That way you can't just study it, without having to really communicate with the patients.
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It could be that your daughter is really struggling with the lost of her grandparents, it takes people different amounts of time to grieve and move on. But it could be something else as well, if her reading level is that low she may have a learning disability. Has she always had trouble interacting with children her age? Does she avoid eye contact? It could be something such as Asbergers(sp) syndrome, it is uncommon and I am no doctor I'm just trying to give you some different things that it could be.
I think the best thing for you to do is to sit down with your daughter and talk to her. Ask her how she's feeling, how school is going, why she doesn't interact more, etc. Be involved in your kids life, show her that you care and that you are there for her. Grief is a very very difficult thing for young children to cope with, so don't pressure her. Let her know that her grandparents loved her and will always be in her heart. Let her keep going to see her therapist, often times it is good for them to have someone that they can trust and will talk to without any judgements.
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Men don't think about marriage like women do, most don't see the need, to them it's just a piece of paper that society says you should have. I think the best thing for you to do is to sit down and talk to your boyfriend about it, let him know that you love him and would like to be married one day and see how he takes it, see what he wants. It doesn't matter how long most people wait, you have to do whats best for you and your relationship.
I think you should just enjoy one another, most people will tell you that being married ruins things, but honestly people stop communicating and stop enjoying one anothers company. Love each other, move in together, and take all the other steps that a married couple would take and then maybe if he feels its right and you do as well then get married.
If you love him, then there is no 'time table.' Marriage doesn't change that love anymore than not being married does. Don't pressure him, communicate and go from there.
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Honestly, you have to do what makes you happy, if you aren't happy where you are then why waste 2 more years of your life. Just to forewarn you, nursing is a very very time consuming career, while you are in school you have to eat, sleep, and breath nursing. Its tough and you will be exhausted all of the time, its worth it if you really love it, but if you don't then you don't. You can half-a** it.
You will find your calling, it may just take some time, but don't settle for something that you are not happy with.
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Honestly, neither of them are very good dog foods, they are filled with fillers instead of actual meat and other things that help your dog to grow and be healthy. Some foods you may want to look into are Blue Buffalo and Taste of the Wild, in the long run they are about the same price. You pay more at once for the better food, but you can feed them less and so it ends up being about the same.
If you cannot get either of these, then I would stick with Science Diet, it is better than Iams. If you would like some more information about dog food nutritional facts, then you may want to check out this website Dogster.com . There are lots of people there who can give you lots of information about dog food and nutrition.
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Aggression really has to do with the blood lines from which the dogs come, Labs and Golden Retrievers are very popular but because of overbreeding and inbreeding more and more events of aggression are popping up every where. If you can find a Lab or Golden that has good lines and there is no inbreeding then you should go for it.
Somethings you might want to consider are going to your local shelter and picking out a dog from there. These dogs have no one and need someone to love them, they will have mixed breeds and some pure breeds and you can meet them all and see which one you hit it off with.
If you have something against going to the shelter, its a great choice and cheaper than getting a dog from a breeder, then some breeds you might want to consider are the Airedale(great choice), Bully breeds(such as American Pit Bull Terriers, American Bulldogs etc.) are amazing dogs although you will want to check with your insurance and if you are renting your landlord and your city. They are terribly misunderstood and abused some they have been banned in some states. Dobermans are great dogs, extremely intelligent. If you don't want a barker stay away from the hound breeds, as they are known barkers.

Like the below person said, most large dogs will have joint and hip problems a lot earlier than smaller dogs, simply because they are larger and have more weight and pressure on their joints.
It may be easier to match with a breed that you will get along with and that will fit in with you if you give me more details into what you are looking for, as in temperment level, energy level, how much activity you can provide, how big of a home you have. If you can't provide much exercise or a larger home a medium or small dog may be a better choice. Getting a dog is a huge commitement so you want to make sure that you get one that suits you and your lifestyle. If you could give me some more info then I would be more than happy to suggest some other breeds.
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The thing about having dogs so close in age, with the 1 year old and a new puppy, is that they are both still going to be in the puppy stage. Which means, if your one year old has stopped chewing when you bring this husky in( who are notorious chewers and can get out of almost any enclosure) your 1 year old dog may begin to chew and pick up the bad habits that your puppy is going to have. It can be a lot harder watching the 2 of them than just one, also potty issues may arise with your 1 year old.
Another thing that you need to consider is the breed of dog that you want to get. Huskys are extremely hyper and their coats needs lots of attention, they are very very crafty and will chew and get out of their enclosures very easily. You have to be willing to start training hard and heavy when they are young and keep at it, you also have to make sure to keep them occupied at all times as to avoid chewing or escapes.
If I were you I would research the breed thoroughly so you know what to expect, and you may want to wait until your youngest dog is out of puppy stages, at least age 2 that way he won't be tempted to fall back on bad behaviors it may still happen but it is way less likely. Trust me 2 large breed dogs in the puppy stage is NOT fun. You may also consider a sturdier small breed dog, such as Shih Tzus, Poodles, Mini Schnauzers, etc,. They will be easier to handle, but can hang right in there with the big dogs. I have 2 shihs and an American Pitbull Terrier, all of my dogs were puppies together and man was my house crazy.
You really need to think about any decision concerning a dog very very carefully, because it will change your life. You also want to make sure that your dogs and your family are ready for another family member.
Just some stuff to think about, Good Luck & let me know how it goes.
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The whole thing about oppostie sex really has to do with the dog, my female dog doesn't like other female dogs, but thats just her personality. You need to slowly introduce them and its best to do it in a neutral environment. Be sure to give your dog the same amount of attention, feed her first, and let her know that she is still important and that this dog will not be taking her place. She will probably growl a little at first until she gets used to the new puppy, so don't leave them alone. You may also want to do positive enforcement, such as giving your dog her favorite treat only when the puppy is near her, she will then learn that the new puppy is positive and equals treats.
Also you may want to buy a crate for both dogs, if you already dont have them, so that they both have safe zones to flee to if either of them feel overwhelmed. In the future you may want to socialize your dogs with other dogs, so that adding a puppy will go smoother because they are already used to being around other dogs.
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Ibueprofen or Midol and a heating pad are the best things in the world for cramps and stomache ache's caused by periods.
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What you need to work on is your endurance, like the below person said, I would start by running a half a mile, until its easy for you, then move it up. Also, while you are running focus alot on your breathing, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Those are really the best things to do, you can also try getting a knee brace if your knees hurt, but it is probably just that your body isn't used to running that sort of distance.
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1. I wouldn't work out for more than a couple hours a day, remember to stretch and do a cool down. You don't want to over do it, don't lift too much weight at one time, if you do weight training.
2. I would go as many days as you can, it cant hurt. Just remember not to over work yourself.
3. The best things to work on for volleyball are: cardio and endurance, reflexes, and your vertical. I would run, jump, leg presses, etc.
4. The key to dieting to lose weight and get healthy is really portion control. When you eat just eat smaller meals, use a smaller plate, and try to eat fruit, vegetables, and drink water.
5. The best thing to do is when you feel like binging, do something else, such as working out, or eat something healthy, like some fruit.
6. I am honestly not to sure about protein shakes, I do know some people who take them but really all it helps you do is build muscle and as soon as you stop taking them or working out you may lose the muscle that it helped you to gain.
7. I don't honestly think that you can make yourself grow taller, but if you are worried about height for volleyball I would just focus on enhancing your vertical.
8. I would try to just do all the machines, make sure that you know how to use them and are doing them correctly. You could also work on different aspects on different days. For example, cardio one day, legs one day, arms one day, then back and chest one day. You can google different exercises that work different parts of your body.
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Honey, you are 15 years old, I wouldn't be too worried about commitment right now. Just focus on being a teen and having a good time, if you happen to find the person you are supposed to be with then so be it. But don't go looking for it, don't worry about commitment. Most boys at your age aren't looking for commitment anyway if you start stressing about that then you will never want to go out with anyone. I think that you should have given him a chance, but now it seems as though the time for that has passed so forget about it. You aren't looking for someone to get married to right now, look for someone that you like to be around, that you can talk to, and who makes you laugh, screw the rest of it for the time being. Love will find you, when IT is ready to find you. My husband and I got together and fell in love when I was least expecting it, I was 16 and had known him for years. He was always so funny, honest, and was always always respectful of me, thats what you need to look for. Don't worry about getting your heartbroken or finding Mr. Right.
If you speak to this guy and he still likes you then I think yes you should give him a chance, if you like him and he is as great as you make him seem. But don't break him and this girl up, make that his decision. No one likes a boyfriend stealer :) If he doesn't and is happy where he is, let him go and the next time you like a boy and he likes you go for it and stop thinking about the future and commitment in relationships. Trust me, its more important to be a teen and experience it :) Im speaking from experience, I was with my ex-boyfriend for 3 years, from 8th grade to 11th. I don't regret it, but I wasn't worried about being commited, I cared about him and wanted to be with him, it works that way. But if you are stressing about commitment and such then it will ruin highschool and your teen years.
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Woah, not to be rude, but are you saying that you are cheating on your husband?! Honestly, if that is what you are saying no this is not okay. It really isn't fair to your husband, it seems to me like you are feeling like you are missing out on all those guys that you didn't get to have sex with. I think you should consider yourself lucky that you found a guy that really loves you, didn't use you for sex, and you didn't have to sleep with a number of guys to find them.
Now if you and your husband have discussed this and decided to sleep with other people while married then that is your own business and thats fine, but if you are doing it behind his back I really don't think its okay. Would you want him looking for sexual favors from other women? If you want something different, talk to him about it. Maybe you can try toys, different positions, or more partners as a couple[swinging}. But discuss it as a couple, at least out of respect to him and your son. Communication is the biggest thing in a marriage, talk to him about feeling unsatisfied and maybe you can work something out as a couple that works for the both of you.
Now, I am married and I am 19, my husband is the 2nd man that I have slept with and man am I thankful for him. He is an amazing guy and I love him more than he will ever know, I am his first :) You got married young and are beginning to feel as though you are missing something, it actually happens alot. But if you want your marriage to work then you have to talk to him about this.
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Thats life love, if life and love were easy then we would not cherish the good times like we do. There has to be trouble and heartache in order for us to realize that the good times are to be held dear to us. I think the best advice that I can give to you, is to stop looking so hard. Love will find YOU, when you least expect it, so once you stop looking BAM! it'll hit you.
Now I know that right now it seems like you are never going to find someone who loves you and understands you and won't hurt you, but you will. It just takes time, you can't force it, and the harder you attempt to hold on to it, the quicker it will fade away. Don't look at the negative side of it, look at the positives, you are getting lots of life experiences and you are still standing. And once you find that special person you will hold them very dearly because you have been through so much to get there.
Don't give up on love, there is always going to be problems and fights with someone that you love, you have to work hard at love. Keep it positive, things will get better, they just can't be rushed. If you need to talk some more, you can email me at bacardii_caddy@yahoo.com.
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This can be a very touchy situation for all parties that are involved, but since the mother is not involved I think it makes it maybe even a little more complicated. You don't want to seem like you are stepping on anyone's toes, but if you and the child and your husband and comfortable with it and she knows that you are her step-mother, I see nothing wrong with it.
I think that you really have diagnose your own situation and decide for yourself what's best.
To her you have been her mother, a mother is someone who cooks for you, picks up after you, gets you ready for school, and takes you places that you like to go and thats what you have done for her. She doesn't understand how some people may see it as wrong( that is just their own opinion), she just knows how she feels about you and how you have treated her and been there for her. To a child it's simple, to adults more complicated. Maybe you should talk to your husband and get his opinion on the whole situation and work it out as a family.
I hope that you can find something that works for you and your family.
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