My cat has no cat fod and shes really really hungry..i loooked for some tuna at least for her but no, and teh pet store is closed, and i found some sardines..can i give my cat some sardines?? there was sardines in mustard, tomato sause, and soybean oil, should i give her the one in soybean oil or will it make her sick?? i need an answer quick cuz she needs her dinner!! thanks!
It won't make her sick, but it might make you sick when you have to clean up the oil that goes straight through her. Fortunately, I do NOT know this from personal experience.
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My life is getting increasingly worse the past few weeks. There's people in my life who know me like the back of their hand and understand me, and others that don't. Sometimes I get so frustrated I can't get my point out. It's in my head, obviously, but I can't seem to tell the other person what's on my mind. It frustrates me because now it seems I have a hard time expressing myself. I want to tell people how I feel!
Try to focus on where the breakdown in communication occurs. What is the nature of that which distances you from the people who know you?
Perhaps too it might help if you tried writing things out first. Remember, we all have times of stress and it is far from uncommon. Take some time for yourself, take a deep breath, and instead of struggling just go with what's happening in your life for a while and see where it takes you.
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Ok, I've been seeing this guy for almost 4 years (I know, quite a long time!) I met him at uni and now I am in my final year at uni and he is working miles away. We have never been apart like this before as we were always together at uni.
I have mixed feelings about how much longer I want the relationship to go on for. Whenever we speak on the phone he says something stupid or puts me in a bad mood and makes me unhappy.
I feel I want some time to be young free and single especially as I have been witht the same guy for such a long time. Surely these signs mean it won't last??
Also, I went for dinner with some friends of my flatmate and I met this guy who I found really attractive.
I would never ever cheat on my boyfriend but why am I thinking of this other guy all the time when I should be thinking about my boyfriend?
We all went out last night to a club and he was there. He walked me home. Nothing happened but it was so nice to have some attention from someone else and for some reason he made me feel more wanted than my boyfriend does.
Help!! I am so frustrated I don't know what to do! Even if anything did happen, this guy goes back to Australia at the end of May.
Thank you so much if u do reply - i really appreciate it and will give you all 5's! x
Okay, first off, this is going to seem harsh, but these problems are yours not his. You are the one who is afraid that they are losing interest in the relationship, not him. For goodness sake, reach out to your boyfriend and tell him how you are feeling. It won't make him happy, but at least he'll be forewarned. Furthermore though, you have to give him a chance to make things better. You need to talk to him about how the two of you can work together to make things better. It's not fair to either of you to drop four years of history on the whim of a couple weeks just because you two are distant from each other. Four years is a long time, are you sure that you will ever find again what you had with him during that time?
Finally, don't listen to these people who tell you to take a break. Yeah, sure, go ahead and tell him you want a break if you want to shatter his heart into a million pieces. I don't understand why it is that women feel that men want to hear the words "I want to take a break." It usually turns out to be a woman's way of saying that she wants to break up with us slowly, but it gives us hope. No, no breaks unless they are mutually agreed upon. If you can't manage this, then just dump him right off. It'll hurt like hell but eventually he can heal from that. How can you heal from a wound that's still being cut?
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Okay...I have alot of friends. But, there is this boy that i have been friends with since like forever. But whenever he has a gf we dont talk at all. it's like we dont even know each other. If i talk to him, or call him his gf will think i'm stocking him or i like him. Someone help me....What should I do? If someone could help that would be great. Thanx
Without knowing more information about the situation, I'd like to say first that much of this is purely speculative in nature.
It sounds to me like your male friend has a problem differentiating between girlfriends and girls who are friends. Why else would he neglect you so thoroughly whenever he has a girlfriend? At some point, maybe not soon, but eventually you will need to confront him about this behavior if you two wish to remain friends.
In the meantime, I wouldn't worry about his girlfriend, just act normal and give the guy a call to hang out as you always would. Of course, it wouldn't hurt if you invited his girlfriend as well.
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ok i like my b/f but i never REALLY REALLY liked him okay hes really nice and all its like i like the b/f thing just not the boy....... i mean ther is nothing there n e more well i kinda wanna break it off w/ him but like my friends dont want me 2 and our 1 month aniversary was monday and he bought me diamond earings i no weird 13 year olds wer do we get this money ?! n e way i have 4 classes with him... i wanna break up with him but i dont no if i should b/c i dont wanna make him feel bad and i just dont wanna go o/ w/ him n e more! so should i break it off with him or not and if i do how should i do it?
Hmmm, I get the feeling that I'll be answering this question a lot during my time here. First off, only you can decide whether to break it off with him. In most cases unless your date is abusive or simply a complete idiot a month usually isn't long enough to tell whether or not a relationship will work.
In your position I might discuss with him the issues that are threatening our relationship and give it another month as we both work to resolve those issues before making a final decision.
However, if you have your heart set on breaking up with him, I always say, don't do it all at once. It may sound silly, but the example I give is this: When you were a kid and your ice cream cone started to melt you would do your best to catch what you could in your hands. On the other hand, if the bottom fell out of your ice cream cone all at once, all you got was ice cream splattered all over your shoes. Your relationship is like that too. Give him a chance to be ready to be dumped. Talk to him about these issues first and even have an argument if so moved; that way the dumping won't be such a complete surprise to him.
After all, how would you feel in his position? How would you want to be treated? As a final thought, if you dump him any time soon, give him back those earings, because those sound expensive.
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I am 15 and 5'3 and 142 pounds..I used to be 112 when I was 12..I had gained 30 pounds :-x..I can't do sit ups for some reason or anything like that, I need to use my elbow to help me up. I have a breathing problem and I can't really run w/o having to stop and catch my breath every few yards. Is there anyways I can get to about 120 by summer?
Yes, but you aren't going to like it. Talk to your doctor about losing weight. He or she will know how best to help you. The best way of course is by cutting calories back and exercising daily. No matter what you do you won't lose wait by cutting calories alone. I mean it. When you cut calories too much your body enters a starvation mode in which it is actually harder to lose weight because your body actually converts everything it can to fat because it believes it won't be able to eat for a while.
As for diet crazes, many of the popular ones are unsound and can lead to dehydration, vitamin deficiencies, and organ damage. Likewise with diet pills, even simply caffeine, you risk heart attack, stroke, organ damage, and a plethora of other potential side effects. If you refuse to talk to you doctor, which many do, at least stay away from the stuff I listed.
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the girl wants to drag me down to the mall and get me a "whole new look" for prom, including contact lenses and i'm guessing that i will not come away with completely brown hair or my usual hawaiian shirt. The girl is totally bangin, but has not given me a definitive answer on prom yet.
I would love to take her to prom(and date her too), but is it worth my dignity? also considering i have to go on an army outing the day after it is supposed to happen. i think looking like a fairy would not earn me points with the sergeant.
-hitler the manly goat
I'm a guy. My advice is to do what you want. No seriously, it sounds to obvious and simple to be of any use, but think about it. If you want to be made over go for it, if you have reservations don't let her make you into something you aren't. Try to talk to her and find out what it is that she really wants. Is she embarassed by you? Is she genuinely trying to help you? Is it just a whim? This could be a sign of a much deeper and far more serious issue. If you can't ferret out what that issue is, you've got far worse to be concerned with than your sergeant.
By the way, no, historically sergeants are not big on men who look like fairies.
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Hey! I'm quite aware that this question was asked several times, but I'm throwing a party about 30 people, half boys, half girls.. we are all in our mid-teens... we wont really have supervision.. and I need some games that inclued interaction with the opposite sex.. you know?
Well Thanks in advanced!!!
Truth or Dare Jenga. It's dirty enough to let those who just need some impetus to mess around get to it, while it's light enough not to pressure those who aren't interested into something they might regret. Might I suggest a bowl of condoms to go with your bowl of chips at least?
By the way, Truth or Dare Jenga is an actual product which you should go buy because it will be worth having just for occasions such as this.
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my mom puts me down so much and i dont know what to do anymore...like if i do sumthin shell jus say sumthin rude about it and leave it at that...nothen i do ever is good enoguh for her..all the rude things she says to me makes me cry so much and she dont even think whut she says hurts me...i try to talk to her but she never listen...my dad is even doin it now to..i dont kno whut to do ne more..help
To start with, there are far too many reasons that your parents might be doing this and without more speculation it is useless to speculate as to the likliehood of one reason over another. That said, sometimes parents are foolish enough to take out their frustrations at each other, their careers, finances, or anything else in their lives on innocent children who cannot fight back. It's also possible that your parents are simply ill mannered louts. Whatever the reason that this is going on, it needs to stop.
I recommend seeing a school counselor and explaining the situation to them. They can help sort things out and your parents will finally have to listen to how you feel about the way they treat you. Remember, there is no stigma on getting outside help. It's a hard world out there and I'm sorry to say that it doesn't get any easier from here. Still though, there are nice people and resources along the way to help people who are smart enough and humble enough to ask for it. Coming here was the first step, are you smart and humble enough to take the next?
Finally, until things are resolved, or at least better, you need to take care of yourself. First off you need to distance yourself from your parents and that stressful situation as much as possible, whether that is at a friend's house or in the library. Second, you'll need to find someone to confide in and to vent to about the situation so you don't worry yourself sick. Again I recommend a counselor or a good friend. Lastly, as hard as it may be at times you need to remind yourself that despite what they say you do have worth. You are not worthless by far, you are just in a bad situation and that isn't your fault.
You will make it.
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All my friends have had a boyfriend before except me. I really want one, but there is no one that seems right for me. A few guys have asked me out, but i have refused. I am more obsessed with school than guys, but sometimes i wonder if i should spend more time trying to get a boyfriend. I also find that most boys i was attracted to had been my friends. I am not sure why that is. Maybe because i knew them so well?
~Wondering
Dear Wondering,
Get one of your friends to set you up with a guy you don't know too well. Not because it will make you popular or because it is the in thing to do. Not even because you "need" to be in a relationship or anything silly like that. Instead do it because it's good for you. It's good for you to make new friends, it's good for you to have someone to confide in, and it's good to have the experience son that your lack of experience does not become something traumatic to you. If practice makes perfect in all other things in life, why not here? If you are smart about it it shouldn't hurt anything and I do think that you sound like you will be smart about it. So do it, enjoy it, and don't think too hard about it. Just enjoy your youth and the experience and if nothing else it will be a fond memory years from now.
I don't think I need to tell you not to be free with you use of the word "love" and not to say or do anything unless you mean it, but there I've gone and said it anyway.
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well, some stuff just happened and my crush asked me out. so we're gonna try the whole dating thing.
before, we went out for a day but he broke up with me. he told that it was cause he wasnt sure what i wanted out of the relationship and was worried about how to handle things.
anywho, now he told me he wants something "more" and not like..an occasional see him at school and hug in halllways. so now i'm pondering. the next time i see him and spend time with him should i make the first move or wait for him to?
i'm afraid if i wait he might break up with me again, but if i don't and kiss him or something, he might take it as i'm too eager and such.
so, should i be the one to make the first move?
It might just be me, but I've always thought people should actually date before they decide what they really want out of the relationship. In America we must declare our love for a lifetime before we are married, but in some Eastern countries love is a house built gradually throughout the years as surely as the house in which the children of an arranged marriage grow.
As for my advice, don't make the first move. Don't make any move in fact. Just back away slowly and keep a careful eye on what both of you are doing. Go out and have fun. Date casually for a while. After all, any successfully married couple will tell you that in order to stay in a relationship your lover must become your friend (sometimes your best friend in fact) as well. If you two want to make things physical, let it be mutual and let it be a symbol of the purity of your relationship and your feelings for each other. A physical relationship without the emotions to back it up is like smoke without a fire, it may look pretty for a while, but it won't last long and is likely to confuse people in the meantime.
That said, I'm not opposed to friends with benefits, I just believe that people do need to know where they stand as friends or as lovers before they start acting out their feelings.
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I don't really have a specific question I just need some advice on what to do because I have no idea.
Background Info:
Jon and I have known each other and been best friends since we were 4. Our fathers own a law firm together so we're together a lot, obviously. I've only had one real relationship. I've had many boyfriends but only one serious one. Same with him. We're both 17.
Early Jan.:
My parents threw a big block party which Jon and I both attended. I wasn't feeling well that night so we left the street (were the party was) and went to my backyard and just hung out. Everything was going fine until he told me that he wanted us to try to be more than "just friends". I was completely blown away because it came out of no where. At the time, I didn't see him in that way so I let him down. It was weird between us for a while but eventually, things got back to normal. Around early Feb. he met a girl who he claims is "absolutely amazing" and they started dating. I was fine with it.
Now, my real problem:
About a month ago I started to realize that I want to be more than friends and that I do like him. But, he now has a girlfriend in the picture, so there's a problem. I'm not the type to break up a happy couple so I tried to forget about it. But, I couldn't. A friend told me to talk to him about it (she though he still might feel the same way). So, I did and it went horrible. I don't think I've ever known a guy that ever reacted the way he did. All he said was, "I asked you before and you said no. Now you're too F*king late. I like Lauren a lot...you should have F*king said something sooner I can't F*king believe you" and then just stormed off.
That happened 4 days ago and I haven't had the nerve to talk to him since. I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks
Well for starters, no one can control the tides of love and those who try get swept away. Just thought it might make you feel better to know that neither of you are wrong for feeling the way that you do.
To make an observation, Jon is upset with you because he is considering leaving his girlfriend for you. I could be wrong, but I doubt it. If he didn't still have feelings for you, it wouldn't bother him that you were interested in him. At most he would simply feel sorry for you. As much as he might be frustrated at you for bringing this up now, he is also frustrated at himself for having a girlfriend at this time.
Given the timing, I would not be surprised if he started dating other girls in an effort to find what he wanted to have with you. This is not to say that their relationship is meaningless, simply that it may have its roots in some more complicated psychology than any of us can understand at the moment.
My advice is this. Do not under any circumstances come between he and his girlfriend, he will only resent it later and it will ruin your chances of having any future with him as friends or otherwise. What you do need to do is be patient. You need to apologize to him for putting this stress on him when you knew he couldn't act on it ethically. Talk to him, make friends with him again, and be the good friend that you have always been. I suspect that in time if he does have feelings for you his relationship with this new girl will not survive, oh, say, the third argument they have. This will probably be about midsummer, but who knows. If he tries to make a move on you while still with this other girl, do what's right and tell him no. Don't be a part of cheating, it just hurts everyone.
Also, I am deeply concerned about your friendship with him. If things don't work out as lovers, you will want to keep him as a friend and that can get damnably difficult in a situation like this. My suggestion, just don't get physical. Don't say I love you till you know it's true, I'm talking months here. Don't let him say it either because it will hurt him if you don't respond in kind. Don't get physical until you have been able to keep up a romantic relationship as well as your friendship for quite a while. Getting physical will confuse everyone as to which emotions are in play. It's too dark under the covers to tell the difference between love and lust.
Finally, for goodness sake, if you ever break up with a guy ever again do me and all of us a favor and let him see it coming. When your ice cream cone falls appart you can grab some in your hands, but when the bottom falls out all at once it just splatters on your shoes. Good luck in this, I hope it turns out well for you too.
Also, take care of yourself too. This can be a lonely world and though you may not be ready for a serious relationship with someone else yet, the companionship emotionally and physically of a casual or friends with benefits situation with another guy will help give you someone to vent to, share your feelings with, enjoy yourself with, and boost your confidence without hurting anyone. It varys from person to person, but many agree that the quickest way to get over someone else is to start dating again. I guess I'm just saying that if you have to wait for Jon there is no reason to have to do so out in the cold.
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okay. i like this really hot guy. and we flirt everyday. and i think he likes me. And i DEFIENTLY like him!!!! should i tell him???
and if i should HOW??
First off, do you like him just because he is "hot"? Just some ethical concerns you may want to take into consideration.
In direct response to your query, ask him out, but not when there are many other people around. You'd be amazed how sick men get of having to do all the pursuing in a relationship. Unless you have a second head which is not spoken for here, most guys won't turn down a girl who makes the first move like that.
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i just started straightening my hair and when i straighten it its always frizzy and doesnt stay straight..i always see ppl with perfect straight silky hair and i wanna know how to get mine like that. please help!
Did you know that egg whites have historically been used as a hair creme?
Sounds like you probably need to start using a thickening shampoo and conditioning regularly if you don't already. Also, make sure to have your split ends trimmed off at least once a year to prevent your hair from splitting irreparably.
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im 15 and i still have an A cup... all my friends have like huge boobs and i have no idea how to make mine any bigger!! how can i?!
From a guy's perspective, let me say, more is not always better. How tall are you? How much do you way? Think about the physics here for second. I'd much rather be with a girl who has small to medium size breasts than one who is so large she either needs $50 specialized back support bras or a multi-thousand dollar breast reduction. Remember, the bigger the breasts the farther the sag over the rest of your life.
Finally, for a more practical response, buy a couple lift-up bras. You aren't the first and you certainly won't be the last. Also, remember, you are not as ugly as you think you are.
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