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first move?
well, some stuff just happened and my crush asked me out. so we're gonna try the whole dating thing.
before, we went out for a day but he broke up with me. he told that it was cause he wasnt sure what i wanted out of the relationship and was worried about how to handle things.
anywho, now he told me he wants something "more" and not like..an occasional see him at school and hug in halllways. so now i'm pondering. the next time i see him and spend time with him should i make the first move or wait for him to?
i'm afraid if i wait he might break up with me again, but if i don't and kiss him or something, he might take it as i'm too eager and such.
so, should i be the one to make the first move?
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It might just be me, but I've always thought people should actually date before they decide what they really want out of the relationship. In America we must declare our love for a lifetime before we are married, but in some Eastern countries love is a house built gradually throughout the years as surely as the house in which the children of an arranged marriage grow.
As for my advice, don't make the first move. Don't make any move in fact. Just back away slowly and keep a careful eye on what both of you are doing. Go out and have fun. Date casually for a while. After all, any successfully married couple will tell you that in order to stay in a relationship your lover must become your friend (sometimes your best friend in fact) as well. If you two want to make things physical, let it be mutual and let it be a symbol of the purity of your relationship and your feelings for each other. A physical relationship without the emotions to back it up is like smoke without a fire, it may look pretty for a while, but it won't last long and is likely to confuse people in the meantime.
That said, I'm not opposed to friends with benefits, I just believe that people do need to know where they stand as friends or as lovers before they start acting out their feelings.
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Heck yea! Don't let him control the relationship. Take it to the level you want it at and if he is uncomforatable with it, he'll tell you. That's when you ask him to let you know when he's ready.
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It sounds like he just wants to do sexual things with you. Don't get pressured into something you do not want to do. If he breaks up with you because you don't do anything, then he is DEFFINETLY not worth your time. Good luck and follow your heart!
-Brianna
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See where it goes, next time your with him try and watch his actions and if he's getting nervous or looking for a time to do something with you. If you really dont know then just start off small, like grab his hand when he's sitting by you, or give a peck on the cheek when your in a hug, or lay your head on his shoulder, something like that. It will help build up the compfort level between you two, and maybe give him the courage to make the bigger move. hope it works out!
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Just remember thatHE BROKE UP WITH YOU.. and i dont think you should be with him because once someone breaks up with you i dont think you should go bac.. trust me, you will find the right guy someday. =) hope i helped
your friend,
Ms.Advice
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He is the one who asked for something more. I think you should let him make the first move. If he breaks up with you again then it probably wouoldn't have worked out anyway. :)
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