I play volleyball. I'm not just a normal teenage girl. But I am going through the same crapola of highschool like everyone else.
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I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 months. We've been doing great. We haven't had a big fight or anything and he's really sweet. We started dating at the end of the summer when I saw him every day. We go to different schools, though. After school started, I got a 10:00 curfew on the weekdays, a 12:00 curfew on the weekends, and only two days I'm able to take the car (I don't have one of my own, so I have restrictions on my parents' car). My mom has helped me out by giving me an extra day or a curfew extension here or there and she lets him come over and she takes him home so I can be with him without using one of my days. He only works on the weekends with his uncle and I've only been working on the weekends too. For the most part, we've gone a maximum of 2 or 3 days a week without seeing each other. We always find ways to be together.
I am getting my own car within the next day or so, so I no longer have restrictions with a car. However, I now have to pay for insurance and my own gas. Therefore, I got a better paying job where I'll be working Monday-Thursday evenings and Saturday mornings. He works Saturday mornings so it's not a problem. That means that I'll get Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights with him, and that's it. I still have the same curfew. Plus, he may have to get a job soon during the week, so we may be seeing each other even less. It will just be phone conversations for the majority of the week.
I'm about to turn 18 and I'm graduating high school this year. After I graduate, I'll be able to do more things. I can stay out a lot later, stay the night out of the house, and eventually get my own apartment while working and going to college. After school lets out, if my boyfriend and I are still together like I hope we will, it will be a lot easier for us to be together. It's just now that is going to be hard for us...at least until this school year ends in May. That means 7 months of only seeing each other 3 or 4 days a week. I'm scared to death that 2 1/2 months isn't long enough to withstand 7 months of working to see him.
I just wanted some thoughts on my situation. I'm extremely stressed out, because between school, work, graduation, college applications, etc. I won't see him nearly as much as I have been. Maybe this is a good thing? But maybe not. Any thoughts? (link)
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Considering that this is your hardest school year, working in a boyfriend who goes to a diifferent school is going to be extremely difficult. I'm not saying you should break up with him by any means, but because this is a new relationship, I'm sure you still feel that this year is more of a priority than your boyfriend. You can try to set up a schedule where you can both see each other regularly eithout overloading yourselves with work. It's going to be hard to try to make it operate all together, but if you and him honestly feel that this is a relationship that can make it far, then you'll work through the odds. Plus, theres always holidays during school years and spring breaks to see each other for longer periods of time. Good luck!
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Another boring "love" predicament.
There is this boy I have liked since last year but we've never had much of a chance to talk therefor we aren't really friends. I REALLLLY like him and every day I just get deeper and deeper.
Everyday he always stares or always does something that makes me think he likes me too. My friends would stop me to say that they saw him looking, even random people I hardly know would tell me that. I'd even catch him looking and he won't look away. I've danced with him at dances, and he's pretty much wherever I go. He also copies a lot of my movements and I hear that when guys do that they're subconciously showing they like you. Ex) Standing with arms folded. He'd copy and do the same.
He's the shy type but he hangs around with all the jocks so it just kinda makes it harder to approach him.
I really want to talk to him or get up the nerve to ask him out and I ALWAYS chicken out. I'm stuck in this rut thinking that maybe he'll make a move, but its going NOWHERE.
1. I can't move on. I've tried. I'm too deep.
2. I've tried subtle moves I guess.
Idk what to do anymore.
Any idea's on how I can approach him and make a subtle-obvious move without scaring him off? He's REALLYYY shy and I figure he'd get a little creeped easy.
ANNNNYYY advice would be good.
Even if it has nothing to do with "approaching" him.
THANKS (link)
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well first of all, don't get your friends to do it for you, cuz that just shows that you're insecure about the whole thing. talk to him in person, when he's alone. you don't want to risk being embarrased in front of all his friends. haha. If he's shy then he might not make the first move, and if you really want to pursue him, then you'll have to get up the courage to talk to him. Try to catch him in passing periods, or online. Don't make it too obvious and awkward. Think about what you'll say before you approach him. Once you do, it all falls into place and the hard part is over. And who knows maybe it'll be the best thing you've ever done, plus it builds character as a person. :) Good luck! Let me know how things turn out.
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me and this kid hooked up and we've kept in touch. we really like eachother .. well i really like him and he says he likes me and ive heard hes something of a player, but thats not my problem. he has a drug alcohol and ciggerate problem. He said he was getting sober just for me. hes really important to me. Hes gettin off of drugs, but going thro really bad withdrawels and i dont live near by so its not even like i can run to his house and help him. Hes also getting off alchohol and he says that he needs his ciggs right now to help him get through all of this. The only thing is i havent talked to him in 3 days. He hasn't been home and he hasnt been online. Im really worried. I dont know what to do. He cant go thro this alone, but neither can i. I wood really like to talk to someone whoes been thro this to talk to. Please, anyone. (link)
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This is his personal issue. You can help him through it but in the end this has to be something he does for himself and you should consider.....keeping your distance until he shapes up because it's not healthy or safe for you to be with a guy you think you know really well when it sounds like you don't just because you guys have a little crush on each other. I know it sounds harsh, but if he has all these problems and you're going to be in a relationship with him......you're going to have to carry around a lot of extra baggage. And eventually you're going to get fed up with it. I think you should let him figure out his thing before you consider being in a relationship with him,
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how do i make photos or icons as my picture caption? (link)
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Put the URL of the picture you want in between the two quotation marks of this code:
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In the trailer for the movie, "Across the world" I think it was called.
It was on The View today. lol.
What song is palying.
It goes something like, "To make it better better better." (link)
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Hey Jude, by the Beatles
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the other day i excercised and my muscles were still aching the next day.
is that normal/okay?
should i postpone excercising until they don't ache anymore? or go on as usual? (link)
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Thta's just because your body usn't used to that kind of workout. it's good that you ache, it means you got a good workout. You don't have to postpone exercising, unless the pain is unbearable to wear you think it's too hard to exercise.
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is there any upright excercise i can use to tone my stomach? (link)
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no, not effective ones anyways.
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what mascara should i use if i have straight, medium length lashes?
'cause with my current mascara that a friend gave me, it kinda lifts my lashes but only far enough to stick straight out [because without it slants down] .
how much would your recommended mascara cost & where could i find it?
ps. i hate using eyelash curlers, so keep that in mind. (link)
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Find a mascara with a curved brush so they extend and curve at the same time. A good one that is not so expensive is Great Lash with a curved brush. Hope this Helps!
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hey i have green eyes and i am always trying to find what color eyeliners, mascara, and eyeshadows to use. I was thinking about buying almay's "bring out the green" eyeliner and mascara which is a colro called rasin quartz. but im not sure. Do you think this is a good idea to buy or do any of you advicenator experts have some better ideas. Please help i need to find a good color before school starts.
Please Help!! (link)
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I love the Almay bring out the (whatever) brand. I think it's a really good buy and it lasts a long time. Just make sure you know how to apply it! People with green eyes, look good with pink, eggplant, and bronze eyeshadows. Hope This Helps!
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I see you play, and I was wondering if you had any tips for getting better and practicing? :) (link)
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Well, if you've NEVER played before, then I don't really know because you just kinda have a knack for it. you know? If you've played a little in like P.E. school volleyball or something and you think you're not to shabby. See if there's a local camp you could go to. It doesn't have to be huge, but it'll help if you are with other people who play who can give you tips and coaches who can coax you along. If there's nothing like that in your town, watch volleyball games to learn the moves or go online. Bt it'll be better if you are with an actual coach or person. I mean I could give you tons of tips and tricks if you knew what position or if you wanted to be more muscular or if you wanted to have a better practice ethic, but since I've never seen you play, it's kind of hard for me to answer this question. I'm sorry.
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hey :)
im almost 16 and im going to be a sophmore in highschool. i've had over 26 boyfriends since what the sixth grade. and i kknow thats outrageous. i've never been broken up with and my longest relationship was a little over 2 months. most of my relationship end in a matter of weeks. i dont know what's wrong with me i just can't keep a relationship going i always end up breaking it off. then i tell myself not to say yes to anyone else so i dont go through it again but i can;t help it sometimes. =. any advise, or explanation? thankss (link)
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If you find yourself breaking it off with every guy, then he's just not the right guy. It sounds to me like guys are liking you before you like them and end up asking you out and you just say yes to give them a chance. Well wait until you like somone because then you know that if you go out you already have the "liking" factor there. Sometimes even if you like someone and they like you and you go out, it doesn't work out anyways. And there's nothing wrong with experimenting with a lot of guys but eventually people will begint o notice and you might develop a bad reputation and then guys will give up on asking you out. For right now, if guys you barely know ask you out, then you know it's kinda a waste of time, because it'll most likely end up the same as the other ones. But if you can look at a guy and look at a year from now and you can see yourself still with that guy, then go for it. Hope this helps!
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i always here bout teens having sex and ect-but how do they get away w/ it when their under 16?
how do they do it w/out their parents finding out?
(i'm not planning on doing it- i'm waiting till marriage, i'm just curious)
thax (link)
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Some teenagers who don't have a good home life turn to sex as an alternative and having it too young because they want to know someone cares and sleep with people that they barely know, but that's not always the case. It seems to me like teenagers who have sex to young have parents that don't really care, whether they do or don't know. They can always do it when their parents are at work and such. But you don't always have to be a troubled teen to have sex at a young age. I've known people that just a dandy life and they've had sex before because they feel that them and their partner are ready.
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this is a complicated situation, and goes for a while but please any advice is greatly appriciated.
I've known this guy for a while now, and originally we were only just mates. We used to hang out a fair bit & chat pretty often. I never thought of him as someone that i could have any potential feelings for and those kind of thoughts never crossed my mind. Reflecting back on it i guess we used to flirt a fair bit, but i never really thought about it in that way.
Then out of no where one night we kissed, he made all the moves and kind of just came on really strong. I didnt bother me but it was just really unexpected and weird. I realised after i had kissed him the first time that i actualy kinda did have a thing for him. My best friend said she saw it coming a mile away. Ever sinse then we started kissing on a regular basis, except for the fact that he was uneasy about the differences in our age, him being 20 and me being 16. I know that sounds like its such a big gap, but it really doesnt feel like that and we get along really well.
The more i saw of this boy, the more and more intrested i became in him, and im never one to develop feelings for people, or put myself in a position to be hurt, but with him everything seemed different.
I go to an all girls private school, and everything at my school gets blown about 100 times out of proportion. As soon as i started seeing this guy all the girls at my school seemed suddenly really interested in him, talking about him alot in front of me, and going out of their way to catch up with him & see him.
It never really bothered me until they started saying things to him about me, just that i was "super keen" and that i seemed to really like him.
One night when all of the girls were at a party and he was there too, and i couldnt make it for some reason, he was apparently "all over" a girl in my friendship circle. Nothing happened apparently, but even now its still a bit of a grey area. The next day i had my 2 best mates ringing me up telling me about how dodgy the whole situation had looked & how this girl had been saying she wanted to kiss the boy id been with. I was a bit annoyed aboutt he whole thing, but thort it wait until i spoke to the boy before i said anything to anyone, kinda just to hear both sides of the story.
When i approached the situation with the boy he got all defensive, telling me that hes been friends with girls all his life, and hes not gonna change the way he interacts with them because of my insecurities. He bascially flipped his lid at me and told me that i needed to not listen to anything that "my stupid friends" told me because they were obviously over exagerating. i let it all slide but later that day he sent me a really indepth text msg telling me that maybe we should just be friends until "those around us" settle down and stop causing trouble.
i took the news really hard, and struggeled heaps to get over him. I didnt really no what id done wrong because everything seemed to be going so well. We decided to just be friends and he thort that i was fine with that, but i was really upset and had alot of trouble seeing him in social situations. All of my friends new how hard id took it and were really good about the whole thing. I was eventually getting over him when i saw him one night out in town (nightclub) i felt so confident around him and didnt even get the whole butterfly in the stomach feeling. I kissed another really nice boy that night and thort that it was the last id have to worry about the first guy. The next day i started getting attention off him again, him sending me txt msgs telling me how great i looked the night before and that he hopse i had an ok night etc.
from there onwards we have been talking heaps as i presumed as just good friends like we usd to be before the whole "fling" happened.
The other night he invited me over to his house to watch a movie and hang out I went around with no intentions, but he ended up kissing me. I knew the whole time that it was happeneing that it was the wrong thing and i shouldnt be putting myself in the situation i was in but i couldnt help it. The next day he sent me a msg telling me that his mum had liked seeing me again, and thort i looked as "stunning as ever" and that he was sorry if he came on too strong, he just couldnt resist.
The weekend after he aledgedly spent the night with the girl who had tried to kiss him ages ago (the one that was all over him the night i wasnt there) and naturally my school made the rumours about 100 times worse. I felt really hurt and used seeing as he had kissed me only a couple of days earlier and had been calling me and msging me all week. I came the conclusion that he was just playing me and to steer clear, but that night he came over to my house pleading me to understand that it wasnt true and that he would never do that to me.. making out like i had some reason to be mad, like we had been something serious or something. I accepted his apology and sinse then we have basically been kissing regulary again, but this time more secretive so less people will get involved and talk about it.
I dont no whether he has any real feelings for me or if hes just going to play me all over again, but i dont really no what to do about getting an answer to this whole situation. I know that if i want to protect myself i should just steer clear all together, but i have such strong feelings for him i am just hoping that this time he treats me a bit better and understands what i want. i really dont no what to do!
sorry this has been so long, but i just thort it would be easier to explain everything this way!!
please help me, would be much appriciated, i will rate highly for any attempt!!
regards,
steph x (link)
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It kinda sounds like he only has feelings for you when it's conveinant for him. When you got more attention from another guy, he suddenly came in all lovey lovey again? But then when things were finally getting back to normal, he does stuff with other girls? It sounds to me like when you're there, he's the sweetest but when you leave you're just a grain of sand on the beach to him, not even considering you when he does stuff with other girls. If you honestly think that if you end up staying with this guy as more than a friend is what is best for you and that you think you guys have potential and you can look at a year from now and still see you two together, then tell him that you want to try and if he wants to too, then he has to stop fooling around with other girls. But if he can't give up his flirtatious ways for you, then you deserve better anyways. And whatever you decide, don't tell people because it's none of their business. Let them find out on their own, because the more people that know, the more rumors start. And if everyone ends up finding out and rumors are overflowing then clear it up with him first and ask him to do the same so you don't get mad at one another for a stupid lie. Good Luck!
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how can i put on my weight (link)
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A lot of protein bars and hearty meals.
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okay so my parents got divorced like 2-3 years ago about. and my dad started dating this girl that is really nice and they have been going out for like a little more then a year maybe. so anyway my dad told me and siblings that she was pregnant! it came as a complete shock to all of us. they earn't even married. so anyway i don't really like talking about my feelings and stuff to anybody and i don't want people to like feel sorry for me or anything, so i don't no how to tell my friends. my best friend already know's because our moms are friends, but i don't know how to tell my other friends. you can definatley tell that she's pregnant now because she's on like month 7. i don't even no if i should tell some of my friends because alot of them don't even come over to my house and we just hang at the mall and stuff. so anyway, how do i break the news or should i even tell them? i no i have to tell my close friends but how? please hurry and thanks in advance! (link)
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Well, technically, it's really not any of their business. If you're that uncomfortable telling them, then you could just wait for them to find out on they're own. I'm a little confused in why you're hesitating on telling them. What do you think they'll say? That they won't be your friend anymore because your dad's new girlfriend is pregnant? If they're not close friends then don't sweat it. Your best friends might deserve to know because if they don't find out from you then they'll wonder why you didn't tell them in the first place. This really doesn't sound like a big deal, but maybe there's something else I'm missing. Next time your family is brought up, you can tell them, or if you just want to tel them flat out randomly, that's fine. I hope this helps! AND RELAX! :)
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If I had to pick my 5 best features, I think they would be this:
(in NO particular order)
1) hair
2) stomach
3) eyes
4) legs
5) hands. (lol)
1. My hair is brown and curly, I can straighten it!!
2. I gues im pretty slim.
3. My eyes are dark green with dark blue around the outside.
4. I have slim legs.
5. Idk I like my hands they are cool lol
WHAT ARE WAYS TO PLAY UP THESE FEATURES?
links are always appreciated.
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Love yahhh! hahaha (link)
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well depending on the real color of your hair, you could use some highlights to play it up and really makes your eyes pop. :) But don't make it look really unatural, if you go to www.clairol.com you can upload a picture of yourself and see what you look like with different hair colors if your interested in something like that. If you have pretty natural curl then just leave it curly because if you straighten it everyday, your hair will get really dry, fried, and damaged. You would know what clothes look good on you and your body type so there's not much I can say about that. As for your eyes, eyeshadows that will bring out the color would be a light pink and bronze brown. As for your hands haha, I guess you could wear nailpolish a lot so they're more noticeable and rings also make hands look really pretty. Hope this helps! Sorry I couldn't provide more links.
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i really haven't ever used make-up and when i do my friends tell me that it doesn't look good. I have like SUPER LONG eyelashes and when i use mascara it doesn't go all the way down my eyelashes.
what kind of makeup(colors,types,ects) should i use?
I have red hair, blue eyes, fair skin, and freckles,and SUPER long eyelashes. if that helps. (link)
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Well, first of all, NEVER EVER EVER match your eye shadow to your clothes. It's tacky. You should use color that brightens up your eyes and don't pile on make up. Make it simple. Depending on your skin tone will influence what foundation to buy. I like Covergirl Advanced Radiance because it's really light and has sunscreen in it so you don't get a lot of freckles in the summer time. If you just want foundation to cover up your freckles, don't get foundation. Freckles are cute and if you try to cover them up, it won't look good. Only get foundation if you have a lot of blemishes. I have freckles and I only put a very little bit of foundation on them just to even my skin out. Colors that bring out blue eyes are burgundy and camel and deep purple. Don't apply one color from your lash line to your eyebrow because then you'll look drag. Start with a base color that matches your skin tone and then apply a neutral to your lid and a darker color in the crease of your eye, but you have to blend it. As for blush, people with fair skin look good with a very pale pink because it's not overpowering. If you have squinty eyes, you might want to use a little eyeliner, but if you don't think you need it, that's fine. I have blue eyes, and I love using this eyeliner, it's made especially for people with blue eyes to bring them out: Almay intense i-color eyeliner-brown topaz. Since you have long eyelashes, you don't need to buy volumizing mascara, which is a good thing, because it's more expensice. You can jus settle with a regular mascara like Great Lash (pink bottle, green cap). If you have really light eyelashes, you need to use black mascara, and if you're having trouble getting the roots of your eyelashes then try putting the brush at the root, wiggling it back and forth a little and then brush it from root to tip. No need to for intense lip color, a little chapstick will do.
Hope this helps! Good luck!
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im a 15 year old female. i think i might be pregnant but im not sure.. there is no way i can go out and get a pregnancy test. so is there any other way of telling if you are pregnant without the test?
thanks! (link)
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Well you could have morning sickness and cramps, but to know for sure, you have to get a pregnancy test.....why would it be so difficult to get the tests you can buy at a local pharmacy?
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My boyfriend and I see eachother every day and talk on the phone every day. I am 18 and he is 21. Sometimes we get naggy or fight about stupid things. He always has to be right and he sometimes says hurtful things not meaning to hurt me. I was wondering how we can strengthen our relationship so we dont ever fight and we are happier together. I love him so much and I love spending time with him. We have sleepovers sometimes and we are intimate. We have been dating for 3 months but we moved really fast. (link)
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There's no such thing as a relationship without fighting. You're going to have your little spats where someone gets hurt. It sounds like you guys don't fight about anything serious where it could end the relationship so, to be blunt, you just need to toughen up a bit. Obviously, if he likes the last word in things, it's because of his personality. You guys have only been dating for 3 months. Maybe your bothered by his stubborness and shortness with you because you guys spend too much time in the bedroom and not enough getting to know each other.
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sorry if its long.
14/f. me and my best friend were inseparable, until she got a new boyfriend. (i'll call my friend jen and her boyfriend zack.) jen started hiding lots of things from me, stuff we used to tell each other all the time. she started sneaking out and doing vandalism like spray painting, TPing, forking, egging, rubberbanding etc.
she told me this and told me not to tell ANYONE.
but im not sure i can do that. should i tell someone like my mom?
or do I keep quiet...? (link)
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I think you should confront her about her illegal ways. Tell her that she needs to stop before she gets caught and that if she doesn't get her act together, you will tell someone. Let her know that you're concerned about her and that you miss when you guys were close and that the path she's going down now is not something you want to deal with.
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