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this is a bit long, but it is some juicy stuff! (I'm 21, almost 22)
So, there's this guy and I used to like him back in high school and maybe a bit before. I've known him for.. 14ish years. we were never really friends.. maybe early on in like 3rd/4th grade. We kind of had a mutual hatred for each other in High school as well. ANYWAYS
So it all started with a FB poke. I poked him, because.. I still consider him the hottest guy I've ever liked. and a few weeks later I was super surprised when he poked me back, whatever. No big deal. Then on april fools day, he said hey text me (and put his number). I didn't it being april fools day. I was convinced it had to be a prank, because to me nothing else made sense. I asked him a few days later, he said it wasn't.. he wanted to ask me something but never mind. I was like okay. and still continued to think it was a prank. (paranoid, I know!)
so then.. one night he just FB messages me and says basically oh hey, let me come over.. let's hook up.. I have never been more.. baffled/surprised/confused in my life. So, I know, not very lovely but I did see him that night (he lives super close). We didn't have sex. But I gave him a bj. (I'm 21, don't lecture me on how bad it was, I know.. I know.. awful, but I used to like him! so.. that counts for something) So after he says oh don't tell anyone about this I have a gf. (not that I would tell anyways)
but okay, here is my question. Obviously he was drunk (well not obv. but he was), and obviously he was just using me because he knew I used to like him and because I lived so close. But why would he cheat on his gf? I mean in general are guys really that.. uh.. I don't know desperate they'll hook up with some random girl.
I'm just super confused about everything in life now!, I haven't talked to him since. I haven't told anyone about it. and I just need some thoughts about all this. please share. (and I know! I'm awful, so don't feel the need to tell me that)
thanks for anything! (link)
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Wow. That was so extremely disrespectful for him to ask you to hook up. Not only disrespectful to you but to whomever his girlfriend is. Imagine how many other girls he had done that with while being with his girlfriend. He obviously cheated on her because he wanted to try someone else. But at the same time he is making her his main girl while he is using you. I think he is just doing it for fun. You made a good decision to not talk to him. He sounds like a guy that likes to use girls for the wrong reasons.
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So I have an advertisement on the newspaper and of course my phone number appears on it as I teach English,well a few days ago this strange guy started to call me pretending to need Eng lessons,but then he kept texting me saying horrible things related to sex,like a blowjob and even bareback!!I don't know how to get rid of him,I have a boyfriend and I'm really ashamed,I don't dare to tell him anything,cuz he'd go mad,I need help,thanks! (link)
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That is harassment. You should let him know that he needs to stop texting your phone or else you will take him to the authorities. Whoever is doing this is obviously extremely immature. Maybe you could also try and change your phone number. Just talk to your boyfriend about it. He might be able to help you find a solution to the problem also ;)
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I am from Canada. Ok so there's this guy in my class that I really like and I don't know how to tell him and I don't know if he feels the same way about me... What should I do about this?? Should I tell him??? Should I ask his friends if he likes me??? PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Most of the time when it comes to guys, it's best to lure them in before you say anything. You can talk to him and try to be his friend. Flirt with him and laugh about silly things. And he will start noticing you and most likely HE will make the first move. Let him chase you. Most guys like chasing girls.
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hi im a 16 year old girl, how do i become flexible? i can barely do anything that is flexible and i want to change that! any suggestions? i dont want something really really hard to do or something that hurts haha! thanks! :) (link)
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Stretch and make it an everyday routine and you will see results! I used to want to be more flexible also and this worke for me. Go on YouTube and look it up and there will be quite a few helpful videos on there.
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I'm a 23 yrs old girl, I met someone online, and he was just the way I like.. I liked him & and he was so emotional, romantic, and caring. after a while, I fall in love with him, then I discovered that his real age about (37) and that he's already married and thereis noway for our relation to work. however, I continued with him and we had a cyber relation and met him only once in real.. now, we still talkin' to eachothers on the internet, and I we still like eachothers......... what is the expected future of this relation? (link)
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He lied to you. That's a big nono. Lying about his age. Pretty much about his life is not good at all. He based whatever you guys had on lies. A relationship founded on lies most of TW time doesn't end up too far.
Once you found out that he was married, you should have cut the whole thing off. It's disrespectful to talk to a married man. Just imagine how hurtful it would be if you were being treated the way he is treating his wife. You don't deserve to be a side chick. You deserve a guy who will put you first and not keep you a secret. Think of all the other girls he could have met just the same way he met you (especially within being a liar t not only you but his own wife).
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only had sex 9 times my boyfriends condom broke on the last day of my period an he cumed in me i was a virgin before him.could i be pregnant? (link)
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You might be. One thing You could do is go to a planned parenthood or women's clinic to get a morning after pill. This could be really great for you just to ensure that you won't be pregnant. Hopefully it hasn't been more than three days since this happened. If not the morning after Pill then I would agree with the waiting a few weeks and taking a pregnancy test. I just think that's more risky though.
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I'm 13 years old and I have very small breasts and all my friends have big breast and I feel uncomfterble also all my other friend have started the period and I haven't so basically all my friends have breasts and started there period and. I haven't I have small breasts and no period please help me. I beg you (link)
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with small breasts. People just have different Body types. With patience from your side, in time your boobs will probably most likely get bigger :). When I was your age, I had small breasts too and it bothered me because my best friends ha big ones. I just ended up wearing padded bras! Lol if you want you can do that I'd it will make you feel better.
About the period. You should feel happy that you don't have it because honestly, it's not as cool as it seems. Most girls that start their period at a young age actually wish it could have came later. So you are actually most likely envied by your friends on that one :).
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19/female. There's this guy, named Bryan who started talking to me over facebook. He went to my school, graduated 2 years before I did. We started texting and I began to like him, every time he'd text me he'd tell me to come cuddle, or that he wanted to give me a massage and that I was pretty every now and then he would mention my boobs or whatever but I figured thats every teenage boy. We'd always plan to hang out but we always ended up both getting to busy, but we'd still text. Well, there was one day that we both got time to chill so he came to pick me up, but it was really awkward. I got in his car and it was just silent the whole ride from my house to his. We get to his house and go straight to his room. I sat at the edge of his bed and we just sat there for a good 5 minutes before he asked me if I wanted a massage. I said no, because that was the first time for us to hang out and I figured that'd be awkward, he insisted on giving me a massage so I was like whatever and let him give me one, he told me to lay down, he stareted giving me the massage and the first 2 minutes were normal he was just rubbing my back, then he goes under my shirt, which I didn't mind to much either, but like 10 minutes into the massage he reached up my bra. I stopped him there because I didn't want things to get that personal on the first date, all I said was "woah, what are you doing?" he then stopped the whole massage and said he had things to do, and took me home. On our way back I asked him what he had to do and he said his mom was about to be home. We didn't talk the entire rest of the way to my house. When we got to my house, I said bye to him and thanked him for the massage. I haven't talked to him since. He hasn't texted me or anything. I want to text him, just to find out whats up, but i'm scared he won't reply, and i'm scared he's pissed at me. do you think he's mad that I didn't put out? I keep thinking that he thought I looked better on the internet than in person and that's why he quit talking to me? I just can't stop thinking about him though. I thought he was cute. Should I text him? or should I leave him alone, like I've been doing? if I do text him what should I say? why do you think he quit talking to me after we met? (link)
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He sounds like a jerk. If EVERYTIME you talked he mentioned cuddling with you and even went as far as talking about your boobs. I think that sounds wrong. It seems like he just wanted to get physical. Especially the part where you reject him an then emediately decides to take you home right after. You should be proud of yourself for keeping good values and my trying to take things too far on the first day of hanging out. Peoplego I deserve a guy who you be interested in getting to know you and be willing to hang out with you "with or without messages".
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Well it all started 4 1/2 months ago.I have a FaceBook account so what I did I started to look for my high school friends I went to high school with,,,,so I found a couple of friends and they accepted me as a friend. To make a long story short I found one of my best friend guy and we started to text and call 24/7.He would text me every morning and text me through out the day until it was time for him to leave work.So day he told me he was going on a business trip so when I didnt hear from him I text him and he got mad....and texted me back with an attitude.I told him I was sorry and he told me sorry too that he had a long day. When he gott back from his business trip he got me mad and I said something to him that I got him scared.I told him I was in a car accident so he would feel sorry for me and call me.He did call me and he knew I lied...he was mad at me but he forgave me.He text me 03/5/2012 and said to me have a great day and goodnight I will text u tomorrow.Its be 3 1/2 wks and he hasn't text me or called me. I left him 5 text messages and he hasn't respond since.I thought we were best friends.I am so confused. (link)
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If you are just friends I think it shouldn't matter whether or not he texts you everyday. If you aren't in a relationship, he has no obligation to do anything. You two can pretty much just talk to each other whenever you feel like it. I think you have probably grown to like him to some extent and that's probably why you are feeling confused.
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Well last night, I just had gotten to the very end of my menstrual cycle, where the blood is very very light and it is mostly just residue. I was feeling turned on all day, so I decided to have sex. I was a bit skeptical at first, but I knew my period was ending after five days of being on it. My boyfriend did not ejaculate because we were being safe and used a condom as well. Even though we practiced safe sex, I am a bit worried. I woke up and I felt blood again, so I put in a tampon and felt kind of scared. I feel a little stupid, but I am trying not to get stressed out. I'm pretty sure I won't get any sign of pregnancy, but I'd like to be reassured... (link)
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You wont :). Theres a one percent chance of you getting prego if you use protection so I think you will most likely be okay :)
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i dont know what to call him now. i guess hes an ex that is still a friend. he lead me on for almost a year again and i guess we werent official but he recently dropped it with me. its always been secret and no one knows. but people do know me and i have been in his life for years. were teens but im a little older. we have had someone on and off. hes not very nice alot. sometimes i think he might be bipolar because he could just be so mean and then so nice out of no where. anyways i dont know why he is ashamed of me and intends to hurt me. for example he asked me to video tape something. then he watched it and he got mad and said because i was talking in the video and he said "aww why did u have to talk, because now people would know i hang out with u." and i said "thats rude" and he sad "well yeah its true". people already know me anyways. so i dont know what his problem is. or in public when im with him and his family he ignores me almost the whole time. or is mean to me on purpose. when we have been alone we have had special moments where we would talk sweet to eachother and he would tell me im pretty and stare into eachothers eyes ? it doesnt make sense. i dont think i can find anything that wrong with me. i have good hygein, i do my hair and makeup everyday, i dress cute, other people think im pretty. i dont really act or do anything embarrassing. why does he think this way ? (link)
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He sounds like a jerk. He pretty much just told you that he doesn't want anyone to know his association with you. That is extremely wrong. A guy who truly cares about you should not try to keep you a secret. I think you need to talk to him about it. If he doesn't feel your pain and try to make you happy and keeps acting like a jerk, you can at least say you tied and break up with him.
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My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but i am not ready, yet i do not want to loose him. (link)
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Tell him how you feel about it. If he respects your values and is willing to wait for you till you are ready (which could be five years from now), that's great. But if he keeps on insisting, then you will have to decide wether or not you want someone who wants so much to get in your pants, or someone who respects you.
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I don't know how other girls can handle wearing dresses and skirts! I feel so wierd when wearing them. And when I am forced to wear them I ALWAYS wear either a leotard or bootie shorts under them. Do ther girls feel weird about it? Or do they like it? Thanks. (link)
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I kind of understand where you are coming from. I wear them but it makes me feel uncomfortable for some reason. I think it's because guys stare too much when I'm wearing them.
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My boyfriend is flirting with this girl that i really hate .. What do i do? he's doing it infront of me and crap and im pissed but not showing it.. Its awkward and weird and ugh! What shoudl i do?!?!?!?? Grrrr... (link)
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I think it's disrespectful that your boyfriend is flirting with a girl, and to make matters worse, one you don't like and in your face. You don't deserve that kind of treatment from any guy who you are in a relationship with. Depending on how much you like him, talk to him about it, or leave him.
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Okay so this is kind of a long story so Im going to try and sum it up. I really need help because I cant seem to get over this. So please any help to get me out of this depression would be amazing.
So me and my ex(i guess) have been off and on for a while. He has a drug problem and I love him so much that I put up with it so long and listened to him say that he wanted to change and tried to help him. I know that was stupid because I should have realized if he wanted to change he would have asked for help other than me. But thats not too much of a big deal anymore..hes been 65 days clean (went to rehab and is now in a halfway house) Hes become very very religious which probably stems from his childhood but Im glad because it gives him morals and a standard that he should live by. (Plus im a bit religious too)
Well the thing is, while he was in rehab he called me every night. We werent officially together but we both knew we werent with anyone else. Its like I fell in love all over again. His personality was out again and we just laughed and talked for hours. (we live 6 hours apart)
Then one day he told me he couldnt keep doing this because he really needed to get himself together before he focuses on building a relationship. He said that he depends on me for a lot of his happiness and wants to be more independent so he can be there more for me. Now I understand all of this completely well and think its awesome. BUT im a girl so i got a little emotional at first but later on we were laughing again.
Well everything was going well, I was giving him his space and would answer when he called but then spring break happened..We made plans to see each other and then he cancelled because he thought it would be unfair to me because if he saw me all he would want to do is kiss me and blah blah blah. Again I tried to be understanding..
Then he called later in the week and said he really wanted to see me before I went back to school. So we agreed to meet and went to the beach. He predicted it right and was all over me and I held off for a while but later on in the day I figured if he kept trying he must have rethought it and would kiss him back and stuff. Well the day was perfect and we had so much fun and he said some of the sweetest things in the world about how much he cares. But then towards the end of the day he started talking about how he forgot his cigarettes and got really grumpy. I made fun of him and we were kinda joking. But then we got into a big fight out of nowhere..
I hated that we were gonna end on a bad note and I started asking him about when hed be ready to date and when hed be able to come visit. He ended up saying just move on and i asked if hed ever be with me again and he said no. But then its weird..he changed his mind again...and im not sure if it was because i was crying or if it was his grumpiness but he said that he loved me and just needed some time to fix things with himself so that we could have a happy relationship.
Then he texted me this long sweet thing later on in the night saying how he wanted a long and happy relationship and that he was just feeling sorry for himself. And thats the last thing we said to each other. Its only been like 4 days but Im trying to give him his space so I wont text him first.
My question is, which part of him should I listen to.. I really love this kid but does he really not want to be with me or what? I have such huge trust issues with him but he always comes back and seems to live up to what he says eventually.
Secondly, do I keep not texting him till he texts me? Its really hard but I dont really want to lose him.
Thirdly, do you guys have any tips on how to make this easier on me? :/ ive never felt so confused and back and forth on like moving on and having faith in him. I just need to decide a way to feel so that I wont one minute be like no move on and the next be like he will come back/talk to me eventually.
Im going crazy here and I wish I could be more stable. Thats actually what I wish I could work on while hes gone...is being able to move on if he does leave and having confidence that I will find someone else someday that makes me feel the same.Please help me anyway. Maybe some tips on how to not feel this sad and depressed :[ (link)
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I think it's great that you are waiting for him to talk to you first. He needs to make up his mind instead of leaving you hanging. It's not fair for you. When he does finally call you, I think you should tell him how you feel about the whole situation and let him know that he needs to tell you exactly what is happening. This way you will know wether or not you should move on or continue with the relationship. To me, he seems confused .
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I am 15f. there is a guy 16 who told me he liked me. We have been 'talking' and when i mean talking its only through texts. We will see eachother at school and he doesnt say anything to me and i think it is because he is shy about it. well, just yesterday he asked me to be his girlfriend. i said tha i need to think about it beccause we barely even talk to eachother when i do see him and i just need to get more used to hime. well i hear all of this stuff about him and i guess our school slut. my friend saw him sitting on her lap (they are in the same grade) and idk if they r friends or not but i knoew they r not that close. then another day, we were all in the library and my other friend got his phone and looked through it seeing messages form the s-slut saying stuff like good night and sweet dreams (think she likes him because he told me the s-slut was talking about me to him saying why do you like her? shes weird, you should like me. and ohhhh, did that piss me off. we used to be friends but then she talks about me behind my back and its over lol). but even though i hear all of this stuff, i am not jelous at all. do you think maybe its because i dont know him well enough or brcause i dont like him in that way? usually i would be a lil bit jelous of this but not this time. im just wondering if it is a feeling that i would turn out to like him or if i just really dont care. please help with these confusing thoughts!
and by the way...my friend ends upp texting him and says sumthin like y arent you texting her back, unless you like 's-sluts name' now. then he texts me no, i dont like her, i like you. and i was like, yeah right. . . . and this would be my first bf by the way. i've been asked out before but im not desperate to go out with anyone i dont really like so i turned them all down. (link)
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well, i think that you should tell him that you would like to chill. Just hang out and get to know each other more. That way you know wether or not you want to be his boyfriend. This way you can really figure out how you feel about him for real.If you go out with him without knowing him then you might not like what you see...so its probably better to just chill with him a few times and see if this is what you want. But anyway. I hope this helped and goodluck!
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In my psychology class we trade tests, and someone random grades it. I was going over my test to see what I got wrong for my final thats coming up, and realized a bonus question was counted wrong. The answer I wrote on the bonus question was identical to what we'd written in our notes/the correct answer. My grader counted it wrong, and that question is worth 5 points.
I got an 89 on this test, and if i'd gotten a 90, i'd be able to exempt the final. well, if my answer had been counted right, i would have a 94, therefore being able to exempt the final. the thing is, we took this exam on sept 23, and i only noticed now when reviewing for my final.
do you think its worth showing my teacher, and trying to get the extra points? thank you! (link)
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hel yeah, tell your teacher and ask them to fix it. those extra points count...so you really do need to show it to your teacher. its a good thing you keep your tests.
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Ok, so a few weeks ago I asked a question regarding my Best guy friend and you answered (i liked your answer the best) so i need your help... again lol. So i told him that one of our friends said we looked like a couple and we both laughed and then later that day i asked him if he's ever thought about us that way and he said sometimes and he asked me if i ever felt that way and i told him not until our friend told me we looked like a couple and so he said it was an interesting thought. The next day in study hall he passed me a note that said "Do you think we would make it as bf/gf instead of bestfriends?" and i put "IDK, what do you think?" and he put "I'm willing if you are". That was a week ago and we havent talked about it since--we havent TALKED since. What do you think i should do? (link)
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thats cute!...its obvious he is interested in you too. You should talk to him, try to talk to him like how you used to talk. Then ask him "why don't we talk anymore?".then you guys can talk about it. One thing i want to ask is, did you answer him when he said "I'm willing if you are"? Because maybe he felt like you didn't want him because you didn't answer the question. So maybe you can somehow tell him that you are willing to try also.
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Been friends with my friend Sam since 1st grade. We have always been tight. Been friends with my friend Melanie since 5th grade. Sam, Melanie and I had always been great friends. When I decided to go to a different high school, Melanie stops talking to me, and keeps hanging out with Sam excluding me from all activites. I begin to resent Melanie, but am still friends with Sam. Not until recently I told Sam how I felt about Melanie... bad idea. After hanging out with Sam almost every weekend (Melanie being there as well but not talking to me and I not talking to her) did not invited me to go out for mischief night. Hurt my feelings alot since I've been going out with them since freshman year. When I asked Sam why she did this she said something along the lines of "I couldnt invite you since you make it known that you don't like Melanie". hmm... I told her to call me. She texted me later that night at like 12 asking to talk and I said I was tired. Havent talked to her since. Word on the street is that she's ignoring me... even though I didnt do anything. What should I do? Give up on the friendship? I understand Sam feels stretched, but she shouldnt feel she has to choose. I know I dont make her feel like she does at all. I don't want to her call her up because everytime we get in a fight I'm chasing her for an apology. I wont do it this time. Please help... thanks. (link)
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you probably won't want to hear this, but I think you should talk to Melanie. You guys should have a talk about everything. Tell her you are sorry for saying that, and explain how you felt excluded from the group. And how you felt so angry when she stopped talking to you because you were so close before. She is ignoring you. Ignoring you because you told Sam you resent her. I think this can be fixed so easily. Just talk to her. Call her. Ask her why you guys don't talk anymore...apologize for what you said to sam. I know this might be a little too much for you...but thats the least you can do...i'm just being honest. But I hope all goes well with this...and good luck! :)
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Hi, I'm a 22 year old girl.
I just broke up with my emotionally abusive (now ex) boyfriend of about four years...over four years? Literally, about an hour ago. Right now, I'm feeling pretty free and good about it, but I know it's been an addictive relationship, and I'm worried that I'll second-guess myself and talk to him if he tries to contact me, and wind up stuck again.
I got my key back to my car and apartment, so he can't get in. I don't think he has any malicious intent...but I also don't think he believes that I'm serious about the breakup.
So...
When it sets in for both of us, I'm pretty sure we'll both be really upset, and I know I'll miss him and want him back at some point.
You guys have any suggestions to avoid that?
I appreciate any ideas you can give me. =) (link)
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Good for you to do this. What you can do is Try to keep busy. Find things to do, that way you won't have an excuse to stop and think about him. Hang out with your friends and go out, meet new people. If he comes back in your head, just try to think more about the negative things he has done to you, the pain he has caused you. This is really hard, but i do it all the time. Put away all the gifts and things that remind you of him...if you like you can also get rid of them. Date alot, because out there, there will be someone that is way better than him....You probably won't be able to avoid feeling really upset, missing him, or wanting him back, but these few things can help put it down a little bit. I hope this helped, and good luck :)
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