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Been friends with my friend Sam since 1st grade. We have always been tight. Been friends with my friend Melanie since 5th grade. Sam, Melanie and I had always been great friends. When I decided to go to a different high school, Melanie stops talking to me, and keeps hanging out with Sam excluding me from all activites. I begin to resent Melanie, but am still friends with Sam. Not until recently I told Sam how I felt about Melanie... bad idea. After hanging out with Sam almost every weekend (Melanie being there as well but not talking to me and I not talking to her) did not invited me to go out for mischief night. Hurt my feelings alot since I've been going out with them since freshman year. When I asked Sam why she did this she said something along the lines of "I couldnt invite you since you make it known that you don't like Melanie". hmm... I told her to call me. She texted me later that night at like 12 asking to talk and I said I was tired. Havent talked to her since. Word on the street is that she's ignoring me... even though I didnt do anything. What should I do? Give up on the friendship? I understand Sam feels stretched, but she shouldnt feel she has to choose. I know I dont make her feel like she does at all. I don't want to her call her up because everytime we get in a fight I'm chasing her for an apology. I wont do it this time. Please help... thanks.
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you probably won't want to hear this, but I think you should talk to Melanie. You guys should have a talk about everything. Tell her you are sorry for saying that, and explain how you felt excluded from the group. And how you felt so angry when she stopped talking to you because you were so close before. She is ignoring you. Ignoring you because you told Sam you resent her. I think this can be fixed so easily. Just talk to her. Call her. Ask her why you guys don't talk anymore...apologize for what you said to sam. I know this might be a little too much for you...but thats the least you can do...i'm just being honest. But I hope all goes well with this...and good luck! :)
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Well i think if they ignore you and exclude you from everything they do despite knowing you for so long then you should just make new friends because these ones are obviously not very good ones to you.You dont have to apoligize but i thinnk it would show that your the bigger person and then you can just tell them both that them treating you the way they have been hurt your feelings and if they cant change then you dont need to be friends with them anymore. I hope i helped good luck :)
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Well my adive is to not give up onyour friendshrip. From what you wrote you three seemed very close. Don't let this silly fight ruin your relationship. Try not to resent melainie remener forgiveness is a key to life. I know you said you don't want to b the omw saying you are sorry and mabye you don't. Trying getting Sam melanie and you together so you guys can talk about what happened that you guys are growing apart. An also why it happened. My friends and I are very close and we always try to not let silly glfigjts break us up. Also don't listen to everything people say it might just be a rumor. She might not be trying to ignore you. Well hope my advice was of some help
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