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Sorry about the Category.. I'm not sure which one it should be under.
Anyway, I play soccer a lot and I sweat A LOT on my back. It's really really disgusting and embarassing, because it leaves a huge sweat mark on my shirts. I've tried wearing another shirt underneath, like a cami, but it gets even hotter and more sweat comes. Same thing with black shirts; it just makes me sweat more. I'm starting soccer again in the middle of the month, and it's going to get really hot. So my question is, is there anything I can do to reduce the amount of sweat? Is there anything I can do that won't show the sweat as much?
Thanks in advance. =]

Hey.
When you play sports, people hardly notice if you sweat because everyone else does. But if you still are self-consicious (haha, sorry, I can't spell!) about how much you sweat, wear like a cami under your shirt and bring an extra. So after your pratice is over, and u have sweated all over your over-shirt, you can take your shirt off without worrying about people seeing anything and just put the shirt over it.

It works for me: i play hockey, so I know how it's like. Wrap yoour water bottle in it or stick in in a bag with your regular shoes or just leave it in your rides car.

Hope this helps!!

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Ok, first of all I'm very self concious about the number of friend I have so I was wondering how many is a good amount? Or just any advice on that problem at all?

Next, I'm starting a new school next year and going to camp this year and all that jazz. Do you have any tips on making new friends?

I had 3 friends when i was 10. My best friend Katherine moved away right after being a bitch to me. My friend Elena went to a huge private school. though we still talk and such, it's just not the same. My friend Alison, but she got involved too much with her boyfriends, was called a slut, and we basically lost touch *sorry if your one of them.!*
So at the start of 7th grade in the junior high, I had 0 friends. Today, at theend of 8th grade, I got 38 people to sign my yearbook, and I had only close friends sign it.
My dad always said to have just one good friend. But as I learned, having more than 1 friend is better. You need 1 or 2 friends you can trust with everything. I have gotten thoes 2 friends. Then you need the friends that make you feel good. I got thoes too. Also, the crazy cool friends who you can joke around with are always nice and then the people so different from yourself. Now, if you can find someone who has all thoes traits, thats who I would want to be friends with. That is your 1 friend. But beacuse I couldn't find that person, I made over 20 best friends whom i love so much.
But there is people like my brother who has had 1 friend for 4 years and they are insepreable. We call him his boyfriend--- this guy is like my brother, he's over all the time!
My brother and me-- we're just ourselves around people, and soon enough, you'll meet someone you really like. =] So for next year, take your time meeting people and soon you'll have as many friends as you need.
I need to do the same thing, so I wish you the best of luck. And don't loose touch with your friends now... because at least for me, these are the best friends I've ever had.

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Why do people say its special to kiss in the rain?
What makes it diffrent then kissing when its not raining?
Does it feel diffrent or something?.

Thank you
please answer a.s.a.p

Hey.
Thanks for just dropping it in my inbox. Feel free to do that anytime!
I think that these are kinda oppion questions but I'll answer them how I think, which means you might want to ask someone else too.
I personally have just once, kissed someone in the rain. It wasn't raining too hard or too soft, just perfect. And if I forget I was kissing a total jerk, then it all would be good! =]
No but seriously, have you heard or a white noise? At least I think it is called that? Sometimes at night, when u cant sleep, and you hear a low noise of like the heater or something and it relaxes you? The rain does that: when its not downpouring, its soft and relaxing.
Also, you can hardly hear anything but you and the guy's *or girl's* breathing and heartbeat. It's usually, not romantic, but relaxed and comfortable (once you forget you getting wet!). When people kiss in the rain, it's usually passionate (at least for me.... the first time I made out with someone! Score! Just kidding!)
I think this is because maybe everythings moving around you and it makes such a noise that you want to get closer?
I'm really not that sure: in that I really can't explain. But it did feel different. Now when i kiss someone, I want it to feel like that, and sometimes it does: slow, relaxed and passionate.
I hope this very confusing explaniation helps....

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ok so i only want to lose 5-6 lbs in a short period of time any one know how if so please tell!!!

Hey.
Though I am not sure of this, my father, who has been a doctor for close to 25 years now always says that it is unhealthy to loose more than 2 or 3 pounds a week. Which in your case, you can loose your weight, but staying healthy in under three weeks if you really try. You might want to try the exersizes *free on the web* at these webpages:

http://www.bodybuildingforyou.com/training-fitness/abs-exercise-leg-raises.htm

http://sportsmedicine.about.com/od/bestabexercises/

http://www.muscletech.com/TRAINING/SUPER_SCULPTING_ABS/Ab_Sculpting_Exercises.shtml

http://www.muscletech.com/TRAINING/SUPER_SCULPTING_ABS/Ab_Sculpting_Exercises.shtml



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this may be a little weird...but i was wondering, is it better to sleep with a bra or without one? thanks

I usually wear a cami thing. =]

it's more comfortable than a bra but its not as loose and just a shirt.

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Okay, so im 15. f.
i guess ill start from the beginning
i knew this guy named "joe" who had a friend named "kyle". me and joe dated for a while. kyle hated me because i was always with joe, and he never spent any time with him anymore. After i stopped dating joe. I started talking to kyle for some reason. We would honeslty talk like 4 hours every day on the phone, about like nothing. We were inseperable, we would always be together, he was my best friend, and he was my first guy that i actually fell in love with. But I dont really know what happened, but as soon as summer started everything just seemed to go down hill with him. I went to one of my friend mikeys house to help him with one of his problems, kyle found out by my brother because when he called i left my phone at home, and my brother told him where i was at and he got jealous, over nothing because me and mikey didnt do anything. so i called him back that night, and he just wouldnt talk to me, so i was said "well i have better things to do then if your not going to talk" and he hung up on me. and i didnt bother to call him back. like 3 days later without talking to him i finally did apologize over txt, he said he had to go somewhere so he couldnt talk for the next 4 days and he would call me when he got back. so i thought everything was okay again..wrong. he never called me back, i called him back like 6 days after the day he told me he had to go somewhere, and we talked for about a minute, cause he was tired and watned to go to bed. i thought it was just one of those mood swings he was goin through..but i dont know we havent talked for about a month now, and i still think about him alot, and im still completely in love with him still..and i dont know what to do, my friends tell me to move on, but ive tried and i cant, i dated one person after him, but i had to break up with him because i knew that wasnt fair to him that i was still in love with someone else. but now..i really have come to a drop dead end. and i dont know what to do..should i call him? or should i just give him his space, and wait for him to call me, which i know might take forever..and i dont know if im willing to wait that long? i cant move on..so thats defintaly not one of the options. any advice would help. i rate high for any advice. thanks for reading

Hey.
Guys are so weird sometimes. Trust me, I know!! But if I were you, I would go to his house. If you can walk there, that would be better so you arn't pressured for time. I wouldn't call him because you can make some excuse. I would go over there because it is harder to send someone away if they walked there.

When there, if he opens the door, say, I really need to talk to you about the other night when i went out with mikey. And tell him you really have feelings for him

I hope this helps!!

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hey im 14/f and my bf is 19/f i dont have a problem with it but i just wondered what do other people think? Well that isnt really my problem. The thing is i havent actually met him. When we meet we are gonna sleep together, he is gonna come such a long way to come see me and im not sure if im gonna do it because i want to or because i feel like i have to because hes gonna come all this way, i dunno the next time ill have a chance, but i do want to, I love him, What do i do? I really like this guy. What do you think about my situation, and what should i do?

My dad shows me shows on TV like this all the time. At the end, this guy from like CBS ends up arresting these 20-50 year old guys. I thought it was kinda creepy.

They talk via myspace or AIM or something and set up dates where they come and if the CBS guy wasn't there, thoes girls probably would have gotten raped.

And even with just a regural person, who you know well and are positive that you love, always be protected, even if he is coming a loong way.

I know this isn't the answer you probably want, but I think it only is the safe answer.

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hiya,
well... am 13 n i havn't EVER had a boyfriend! im not tht bad lukin but am sorta big.
Im 13 and i waigh 11 stone! im on a diet atm wich is workin 4 me.. am goin to the gym and so on.
How can i let myself get a boyfriend? any beuty tips or anything.. plus i have bags under my eyes! please help! x

Hey.
I'm 14 and I've had a few boyfriends, though i usually break up with them because I so enjoy being friends more. You dont want it to be your number 1 proirity to get a boyfriend. Maybe just hang out with some guys that you know and try to get to know them. Dating someone you know a bit is always easier!
And being big is fine. I mean, espically at our age. "Your bodies are changing." Is what I always hear. But I mean, I am 100% Italin and my dad, like 180 6'2 looks soo thin because hes got a wide frame. I got that from you, but it's not like I'm fat, infact, im average.
But if your so into looking prettier, getting more sleep is always good. Also, they sell different types of makup to minimize the bags under your eyes.
Hope this helps!

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There's this girl,(lets call her B) who's been saying mean stuff about me on her blog, like how i'm annoying and blahblahblah. Some of our friends(we both know the same people)read her blog,and my crush knows her pretty well.I'm worried that B will tell my crush bad stuff about me,and he'll get a horrible first impression of me. Also, I don't want B to go around telling everyone how she finds me irritating etc. What should I do ?
thanks*

depending on how much you like this guy, I would talk to him. If he sees that youre a nice person, then he probably wont really listen to what person B is blogging.
Do youre friends know you well enough to know that youre not what this person is saying? They should, or they really arn't friends. Like if this person is saying that your so mean and you are a boyfriend stealer or whatever and your friends believe this, though its not true, they arnt really good friends. they could be nice people, but they wont stay true friends--- or ever be true friends.
As for this mean person, they might just have something against something small you did. Like I once accidentally told someone my friends secret (about her losing her virginity) and she was so mad at me for what seemed like forever! It was crazy though, because it was a total accident and I really didn't think of it until she told me why she was pissed at me a few weeks later. I appoligized and though she was angry, she forgave me and stoped acting all mean.
So yeah, Im always saying to talk, because that always helps!! =] So if I were you, I would talk to your friends, "person B" and your crush to make sure everything is straightened out.

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ok so there is this guy and i really liike him. but he is going out with my best friend. before he started going out with her he would flirt with me. But guess what he asked her out instead. she always gets the guys . But i really like him and when she isnt around he flirts with me. i dont want to break them up. but i need some help in what to do b.c they always want me with them when he is @ her house or @ his so i have to watch them flirt. i thought about making myslef look better and show him what he is missing but idk . Plz help !!

13/female

Hey. Some advice for you: my good friend was going out with my present boyfriend a few months back. And it really bothered me, because even though I really cared about my friend, I really liked this guy too. So I went to my friend and told her over instant messenger because I was too afraid to face her. And I told her that I though I liked Adam, the guy. She was fine with it and told me that she was going to break up with him soon no matter what: she didn't want to dat him anymore. She broke up with him, and said she was happy for me when I asked him out. So, I would talk to your friend. Hey, it worked for me!

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Our school is going on an 8th grade field trip to Cedar Point on monday. My friend sally is TERRIFIED of them. She says she will give it a chance but she ahsnt been on one at all in her life, her parents and family have all tried to get her on one and she refuses. I try and try and try, she says she will try to go on one. I don't know what esle to do anymore, ROLLERCOASTERS ROCK!! but i can't seem to get it through her head!! HELP

I love Cedar Point. We go every summer with friends. And even though it is a rollercoaster park, I have some friends who wont ride the roller coasters. Some people are just terrified of things--- like me and ferris wheels--- like roller coasters. What I did once was work their way up: We started by putting my little brother on a small rollercoaster at a local fair. We moved to slightly larger rollercoasters then. It was fine, but it took some time for him to get used the speed and so it was great that we worked up. If I were you, I would suggest trying this; its better than going to a roller coaster park and going on no rides!!
Hope this helps

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i am always fine around boys-except if they are my boyfriend. like, if i know i like a guy, and i know that they like me, but we arent together, i am fine and not nervous. but then if we were like a couple... and we were like talking or something, i get so nervous and stuff. how can i help this?


i'll rate 5's for stuff that helps me = )

I understand you. In fact, I was just having this problem. I've got a million friends who are guys and im usually even fine if i have to turn down a date to someone im not dating. But when there is someone who Im dating and they ask me out and I cant go, I always feel terrible! But on dates or even if u 2 are just alone, you're going to need to talk. And trust me, I know nervous. Its an akward feeling, at least for me. But what I've learned is if you think just as though your talking to a friend, and forget your dating for just a minute, words come easily. Like intrests--- what you have in common. they say its easy to talk about that kind of stuff, but i leaves awkard silences and stuff. So I dont know about you, but i find it so much easier to go with it---- to just have fun with a really really close friend who you have feeling for. Its so much easier that way. Hope this helps!!

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I worry about EVERYTHING. The smallest thing gets my mind going and I won't stop worrying about things until someone assures me of the situation. Even if it's something like my girlfriend not contacting me for just two days, I start to go crazy! My mind keeps thinking "what if? what if? what if?!" Are there certain techniques I can use to keep myself from doing this? Or anybody else who might have problems like this who could help me?

Thank you!

I know how that feels cause well, I'm just like that. I "Over-think" things as people say. Or at least I used to. But I've learned to find a GREAT friend who will really listen to you to share things with. And if there is a problem, like if ur girlfriend doesn't contact you, call there. If there is a problem, and she cares for you, she'll tell you.
Talking to someone about your problems--- wait, I dont mean like a shrimk---- but I mean, a problem at school, talk to that teacher. If they say that you have a C and could work that up with a great final, then you havent nearly as much to worry about. Just sometimes, sit back and roll with the changes.

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