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Q: I put a question like this on here a few days ago, but I'll go over whats going on again.
My friend and I both liked a guy, then I backed off so she could have him, then she didn't want a bf. So I stepped up and now I like him and he likes me and outa no where she says she likes him again, so I told her I liked him too and now shes all wierd about it. I told her I didn't want a bf though, and now me and Andy (the guy) have been hanging out alot and I really like him, and when I come home from our dates I hear "Amanda really likes Andy, what are you doing?" and stupid stuff like that. What the hell am I supposed to do? I mean I can't control my feelings, and she had her chance with him. And I'm not going to date him right now anyways b/c I want to get to know him...so people are making it into a lot bigger deal than it is...what do I do?

ok-tell your bestfriend to back down a little-tell her you told her she could have him and she didnt take the chance-its her lose-and its your turn-tell her you love her but its not fair because she had her chance and blew it-

Q: i was sitting in class and then all of a sudden this guy in back of me said crack kills and i had no idea what he was talking about so i was like "i don't do crack" and then they started laughing and it was about 5 days later that i realized it meant my buttcrack was showing. i feel like sugh a loser i don't know what to say and they make fun of me for it like everyday!!

wow-that suxs-the best thing i can say is to ride it out till sumthin happens to them-then they will forget-let them laugh it up-if they have no life to where everyday they have to remined you of ur mistakes,then there bigger losers anyway

Q: What do you do when your best friend is kind of blowing you off and when you aren't hanging out anymore. I miss her and don't want to let go.

wow-the same thing is happening to me-except its kinda over now-its hard-to see your bestfriend move on without you-heres sum10 that i read and it made me see how things are-"sum people come into our lives and quickly go..sum stay for ever-and they leave footprints on our hearts forever."-im not shure if youll understand that rite now-but rlly its the only thing i can tell you--i lost my bestfriend to a prep-it sucks-but soon your gonna see that she wasnt a waist of time-cuz of how much you learned while bein friends with her-shes part of your life-nvr let that go-but nvr forget-she mite come back to you-and bein a good frined-you should be there with open arms

Q: Dear advice people givers (lol),

I got my heart broken recently. Last Sunday to be exact. We'll call him Jason. Jason and I have been going out for a week and 4 days. We known each other for a couple of months and have been aquainted. Jason and I got in a fight the day before we broke up. He was on the phone with me and I told him my personal life and I began to cry too and he threw it in my face saying all this mean stuff. It left me so mad at him. You can't even imagine. Well on the 11th (next day) day he calls and he was all like "Hey what are you doing?" and I said "I am at my house.." I said it with an attitude because I was mad at him. Then he was like "I think we should just be friends..." I just hung up the phone. I have no idea why he broke up with me... I could not talk to him, I didn't want to. Then like 15min later he calls my cell on his friends phone and when I answer he hangs up! I was so mad and so sad. I know boys lie but somehow they make you believe their lie, He said I was the best thing that has ever happened to him and he loved me soo much and he wanted this realationship to last forever. Well...I believed it. I haven't talked to him since we broke up (dec. 5) and for some reason I really want to call him and talk but then again I think I don't want to but then I really do...do i make sense? But then my best friend told me the weirdest thing, she said that when we started hanging out as just friends, that he thought I was a ho or a slut (i wasn't supposed to know). And 1st of all I do not dress or act like one because, yo, I am the farest from being a slut and dude, he wouldn't have gone out with me if that was all that he was looking for. Because he knows me...everything almost. Should I call him? I really miss him...a lot. But he hasn't called me, not even once. I don't want to call him and feel like an idiot...srry 4 it being so long :)
Thanks :)

--wow--that sucks-like bad-but no,i wouldnt call him-not for a little bit longer atleast-cuz you were friends befor-maybe you can pull it off again-but you need to kno-you not ready to be friends with a guy that just broke your heart-and yes if you loved this guy it will take a long time to get over(sry to say)-it took my half a year to get to the point where i could finaly hangout with him-but i still hurt and its been well over a year and a half--and lets get this clear-when most guys say forever-forever to them means until there ready to move on-(also sry to say)-you will miss him-for a long time-even if you do become friends again--this is rlly all i can say to you-broken hearts happen often-the guy who fixes it for you comes not so often--
--good luck to you--hope things work out

Q: If you took a rat on vacation with you, but kept her in one of those mini cAges, would that be too stressing for the animal?? (i'd keep food, water, and toys in it)

-well if your going in a plan-dont take it-it will die or get very sick-because of how high the plan is-and even if your not going in a car-your better off leaving it at your house or with a friend you rlly trust-

Q: Hello, I'm 16 years old and I'm female. Let me start off by saying I hate the phrase "Let's just be friends." My best friend is one of those types of people who's actions very easily deceive you. I love him so much, and it hurts so bad. We hold hands, hug all the time, even say "I love you". But he says that to everyone. It's so hard because I'm confusing platonic love with "real" love. I take his gestures seriously though, and I really do love him. I want to tell him how I feel, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. He likes someone else, but he is currently single. Should I even bother trying? Am I too young to even be thinking about love? What should I say to him? Thank you so much!

ok to start of with-NO-your not to young to be thinking about love!-are you crazy?-you dont think about loving sum1-it just happens-so make shure your not forceing yourself to like him-cuz we tend to like things we cant have-he may act a little flirty towards to sometimes-but thats sum10 all guys will do-and because your friends with him-your always there so he is able to flirt-and if hes into another grl-he most likley wont want to try goin with you at the moment-friends are the best type of people to go out with-because you kno them so well and are with them all the time-so if you give him time and dont let this get in the way of your friendship-thats rlly all i can tell you-just dont give up on him-but dont let your heart get hurt by sum10 he doesnt mean-like sayin i love you-and maybe he does mean it-just not the way you want him too

Q: My parent's are like, sexist. They won't let me hang out with boys. They think that I'm just going to go out and have sex with every boy I see. I tell them that all we're gonna do it hang out (which is true) but then they have to make up the excuss, "Honey we trust you, not the boys." Soo, what can I do to make them trust me?

--my parents were the same way-but see the problem was-that half my bestfriends were guys-at first my mom didnt rlly like the idea of that-but once i asked if they could come over to the house and hang out with my parents there-that way they could meet them-they totaly went for it-then after my mom and dad met them they said they were ok to hangout with-now my mom knos all my guy friends-she takes us everywhere and lets us hangout-yes it did take a while for her to see that the guys i hung out with were ok guys..--well i hope you can get your mom and dad to understand too-

Q: i'm a 17 yr old male that has a false reputation of being gay. i'm actually metrosexual and almost all the school assumes i'm gay. how can i show my peers that i'm straight without betraying who i am.

--get a g/f!!!!--duh-but make shure you rlly like this grl-or maybe you just have to accepct the fact that your school isnt fond of you-your 17-your leaving in like a year?-and wut they think shouldnt rlly bother you-as long as you kno"you"-then you will be fine

Q: okay so my mom smokes and i hate it.. like all my clothes smell like smoke b/c our house always smells like it and my teachers look at me evilly b/c i smell like smoke but i cant do anything about it do you know any way to either get my mom to stop smoking or to like at least have my house not smell like it all the time?!

ok-talk to your mom-tell her that its getting so bad that teachers are starting to question you-if she doesnt understand that-try opening windows and using sum air spray-and ask her if she could do it outside-not in--

Q: Theres this guy. and hes my close friend and he tells me he likes me and thinks about me alot and loves my eyes.Then he goes out with my friend. But he apologized to me 7347 times and said hes goin out with her for the wrong reasons and that when we were with her the one time that all he could think was me and how he hurt me. And he still tells me he wants to be with me and that he likes me a lot and even told some of his friends he might break up with my "friend" n get with me. But then today on my advice page he asked me a question about her n how he still likes her n how he heard shes gonna break up with him n he doesnt want to ruin the relationship by doin it first if its not true. It hurt to read that and i dont want to ber mad at him because its not in my nature.idk if i should wait for him or should i jus move on?? please help when i ask him about it he says " ur paranoid i like u"

ok- if your the kind of person who likes to wait around whilke the guy you like is messin around with ur bsetfriend-shure wait--belive me when i say this-this guy doesnt kno wut he wants-either that or he wants sum1 to be there is sumthing happens to "him and her"-iv had this happene to me-and he mite not have been lien-he could have ment it-but maybe now he sees that he rlly likes the new grl he found-so maybe you should just move on-and go to a guy that doesnt make you wait while he goes out with your bestfriend

Q: Ok, well, let me start off by saying i'm a 7th grade girl. Today at lunch this kid named derek passed me a note and said it was from my friend brian. I took one of my girl freinds, tara, to the bathrooom and read the note. It was really orny and soft....it read, "Roses are read, Violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you......will you go out with me?". My friend tara started cracking up while i was numb and shocked from the note. I threw it in the trash and ignored brian the whole day. Now, me being quite popular (not rele popular, but popular as in knoing everyone in our grade and tlk to them and hang) and brian being shy and non-social. It's really weird and almost gross that he asked me out.....i rele don't know how to tell him that i don't want to go out with him at all so that he on't get embarrased and i won't get embarrased. Pleask tell me what i can write to him so he on't get hurt.
Thank-you so much for the help

--ok-you seem like a nice person-cuz ur worried about how he will be embarrased. but also i think you worry to much about wut other people think-you havent even givein this guy a chance-but if you rlly dont want to-then just simply tell him that youv got another guy on your mind-now if you dont plan on ever going out with him-dont tell him maybe later-tell him ur not into him like that and that you think you two could maybe try being friends

Q: ok i am an awesome bball player but i get nervous when boys come and watch me play.. im afraid they will laugh if i miss a sot or somthin....what should i do...help me and FAST

ok look-i play bball and love it-and all the guys at our school come to watch-for a while i got that way too-but then i thought about it-as long as you play your best it doesnt matter if you miss a shot-just go out there and make the next one-and if the guys do say sum10-dont listen to them--do you see them out there playing?

Q: I went derrell online .we talked online for one months.I gave him my phone number ,he started to call me ,he's really funny.I think I like him
he also askedme out and I said yes.now he's the only thing I think about,dream about and talk about.but I'm having some doubts,he lives really far from me.I kind of scare to tell what I feel
when he asks me what I want to talk about I say nothing.what should I do??

-well goign out with sum1 far away isnt easy-trust me i'v been there-i also have been in a relationship where i had sum trouble beling everything he said-because he didnt live near me. He was also a guy i thought about all the time-non stop-but finlay i got to the point where i had to turn to my friends-they told me they had seen sum changes in me-so i decided that a guy isnt worth worrying abuot-yes i will be hard-it will be ver hard-but if you rlly want to be happy-this guy isnt going to help-unless you think there is a chance that you two could work it out--