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Q: About a month or so ago, i saw this show degrassi. There was a girl named elli and she cut herself. Ever since i saw that one episode my life has been gettin worse and worse. My bf dumped me for another girl. My best friends dont ever want to do anything with me, and the guy that has liked me for 3 years hates me now. and well...i started to cut. It really relieve my pain and helps me get things out. But recently my friend say my arms and legs in gym and shes going to tell a counciler. i mean, i dont want her to!! i know its gotten really far..and its really hard to stop i've tried everythign! i've tried hiding my scissors and puttin a rubber band on my wrist NOTHING works!! I NEED HELP! what should i do? if my parents find out they might send me to a mental hospital!!

-hurt and scared

i found out that when your cutting yourself you mostly do it for attention evevthough you may not realize it. the best thing for you to do is stop and find another way to express yourself cuz cutting could lead to other things and their not worth it

Q: I dont know why, but lately my best friend has been her normal self and its been bothering me. Just normal things she always does are bothing me. Like her laugh, its annoying now, and the jokes she makes just piss me off for no reason! i dont know what to do!

dont be her friend anymore

Q: I'm a 16 year old girl, and I don't shave my legs or armpits on any regular basis. I'll do them for special occassions or if I'm wearing a special outfit, but most of the time the hair just doesn't bother me so I don't bother removing it. I figure that it's my body, and my time and energy that I'm saving by not shaving, but sometimes I worry that guys won't be interested in me because of this and I've got to the age where I wish guys expressed more interest in me. Should I start shaving, or should I just wait for a guy who doesn't mind me being me?

i would shave on a regular basis but thats just me

Q: hey i work as a cashier at a grocery store for 6 hours a day. it gets really boring and i feel like screaming!! can anyone please give me some helpful hints to get through the day without wanting to scream?( its so boring and i need help passing the time..)

quit

Q: Do boys like secret admirers???? my school is doing this this thing where u can give either chocolate or a flower to someone, and i dont know if i should do it.

y dont you ask a guy and find out

Q: Hey all! Okay, well there is this boy who I work with. I went out with him for a long time..9 months..and then we broke up. I had felt too tied down and he had really been starting to annoy me. Well I was talking to him a few days ago and he wants to get back together. I really don't want to, but when I tried to tell him that, he didn't take no for an answer. He still thinks I wanna go out again regardless of what I say. What should I do??

tell him to go suck your dick cuz it aint happenin if you dont want it to

Q: ok so i know im kinda old to be asking this but im 15 and i really want to start using a tampon. i have tried a couple times but it always feels uncomfertable and i can never get it in all the way, only half way. i dont know if im putting it in the right spot. any help would be great! ill rate high

Hey,

Maybe you should try to read the direction on the back of the boxs and if it still can go in all the way then maybe you should stick to pads.
Hope I helped.
bbgirl15

Q: are sit ups or crunches good to do because I am skinny but I have really tiny love handles. I am 5'6 and weight 128 and I wanna get down to atleast 120 what can I do?

Sit ups are ok for you to do but i wouldnt do 120 the first time, you could hurt youeself. Have Fun and Work Those Abs!!!

Q: I've noticed lately that when I take a shower there are red dots on my left breast. Its sort of worrying me and I dont know what to do.... Does anyone know what it is? Do I have a disease? I've never had sex before and I'm 13. What is this stuff?

My best bet is your most likey be o.k. but if it doesnt go away then go to the doctor to get it check out

BBgirl15

Q: i`ve never shaved 'down there'..i`m scared i`ll get razor burn, but it really bugs me and i want it all gone..without getting it waxed. Does using shaving cream keep it from no razor burn? what else could i use so i dont get it, because i`m in a swim class at my school..and i really dont want red bumps to be visible. i use a venus razor, if that counts for anything..

Frist of all you dont have to shave you can always trim ( if your scared) or if you want to try something new then my best bet is to use ALOT of shaving cream. Good luck

BBgirl15

Q: ok over the summer i was raped by this kidthat i was kinda friends with but not like best friends but i didn trust him and we were at a block party and he was like "do u want to go see my new computer?" and i was like "okay?"
and so when we got there he like locked the door and pulled out a condom and pushed me down and wouldnt let me go. i said no over and over again but he wouldnt stop. then i started cutting myself and crap bc my parents like beat me and cps is even involved with my family...so i cant tell them bc they wont believe me. i still cut and i dont know how to deal with the rape bc thats all i ever think about and i dont know what i can do. (i dont know where he is now and i dont know his last name and there is no proof so i cant press charges) what else can i do to deal with this?

You need to get help before its to late or before he can do it again. Its never to late to press charges!!!And I think you should stop cutting because thats not going to help.

Q: Well i've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months. He has had sex before and I havent (15/f). For the past couple of days I have really been thinking if i want to do it or not. My boyfriend is perfect, but im kinda nervous about the whole thing. Dont get me wrong, I do want to have sex with him, but its only been to months and i think its kinda soon. I have been sort of leading him on, but i really thought about it today and im jsut not ready. What ways can i tell him that im sorry for leading him on but im just not ready yet?????
Please help

Well just be straight forward and tell him how you want, to but its to soon and your not ready. And if he really loves you he will wait untill the time is right.Hoped I helped!!!!!!

Q: There's this guy that i really like at school. I found out a couple of months ago that he was in "love" with one of my friends. However after a week she insisted that nothing was going. NOw ive fallen for him, but he tells me he is still in love with my friend and just wants to be mates with me. However she is just flirtig with him for fun and wants nothing more. Now he is still flirting with me and i really dont know whats goin on. Help

Claire, age 15

I can relate. There was this guy who I liked and we would flirt all the time,it was great untill I founded out that he like my best friend and it got me mad when he was still flirted with me, but in the long run we ended up together and I couldnt be happier. So I think that you should just wait and he'll come to you. Trust me!!!! it will all work out

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!1

Q: this guy who likes me (Kyle) and i like him well we haven't gotten into a relationship just yet! but there is a rumor that me and another guy (Mark) are going out! and when i see Kyle looking at me when i'm flirting with Mark! and that gets him upset. what do i do? and what if mark does ask me out?! what do i tell kyle?

Just be strait-forward and tell the guy you like, that you want him, and the guy you dont, that you just want to be friends.

Q: I have a really hot boyfiend thats cute,funny,nice and caring but I have the biggest feeling that he's cheating on me and I don't wanna be hurt what should I do?

Hey I can relate. The best thing to do is confront him or catch him in tha act.Or just run it pass him (joking)- just be like ''would you ever cheat on me ''? or something like that.

Q: I like 2 different guys but when I told my friend she got really mad at me. She told me when I like a guy just to stick with him and not find 5 different guys to like all at once. I am so fustrated but I don't know what to do. the one guy I asked out and he said no. and the other guy I just think is really really hott. Please help me I don't know what to do!

Hey I can relate totally. Sometime friend dont understand it not your fault that you 2 guys. Anyways just go for it ask out that hott guy it never hurt to try.Good luck!!!!
P.S- in the long run it all work out trust me

Q: I have this guy friend who i never EVER thought as a boyfriend but i also have a boyfriend that i love very much well today my guy friend wrote me a note and gave it to me between classes it said " Would you go out wit me and if the answer is no keep it between us 2" I don no what to tell him and i need some help NOW!!!!

Yours truly, confused

Hey I can relate. Just be honest tell him about your boyfriend and how you think it would be better to be friends for now. If he get mad then he never really like you . Take it from me we all get hurt once in our life. Sorry I couldnt help that much but good luck!!!!!!!

Q: Hi i am 17 and female and really quite shy, i would like some advice on how i can tell this guy that i really really love how i feel about him, i already know him and kinda friendly but not as close as i would like it.Help somebody!

I can relate. It hard to tell a guy that your in love with how you feel.To start it of why dont you ask him to a movie or something were you to can hang out- get a little closer, then when you think the time is right let him know how you feel. And if that doesn't work then maybe your better of as friends for now. Good Luck !!!!!!!

Q: Im a male. Theres a Girl I really like. I don't think theres a possibility that she likes me back. I don't want to do anything wrong to get her to like me. I dont even know how to act around her. Do you have any suggestions on how to get her to like me?

Take it from me Im a girl, theres nothing really you could do just be your self and if that dont work then she wasn't even worth your time.

Q: if you have oral sex, or your boyfriend/girlfriend has done anything sexual to you besides sex, is it a sin?

To some people it could be but if you both want it then I guess it fine.But if you do it to alot of guys thats just NASTY!!!! and if you have sex before marraige its your bussiness and of course god will forgive you.

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Hey I am 15 years old and go to High School. My best friends are Cynthia and Kristen I love you guys lots and I dont know what I would do with out you guys and I have the BEST boyfreind in the world and I love him soooo much. Just so you know I play basketball and I am almost a black-belt in karate SO WATCH OUT BITCHES!Don't mess with the Italian Black Belts!! lol. Just so you know I specialize in giving advice aside from my many other talents!(Which i will not mention) lol So please feel free to ask what ever the hell is on your mind!!!

~I LOVE S+M~

P.S
Cynthia wanna clean my carpet after your done eating your doritos!!! lol