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hey, im jane and i love helping people out with their problems even though sometimes i can't help myself and trust me i've been through a lot so i won't judge you with anything that you ask me. anyway i love giving advice to those people who need someone to tell they're problems to. so ask me a question and i'd be happy to answer. c:
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I'm 13 years old and I have very small breasts and all my friends have big breast and I feel uncomfterble also all my other friend have started the period and I haven't so basically all my friends have breasts and started there period and. I haven't I have small breasts and no period please help me. I beg you
well your young and you can't rush these things to happen. i'm sure your breasts will enlarge at the right age. exercising can help but still as i said your young and you don't have to rush. just wait and you'll see. it'll all happen so quickly :)
Okay people,
I'm being serious when I ask this and no hateful comments because I'm really wondering.
Is it real? It's it beginning?
I mean, I know this sounds silly, but everytime I get on facebook someone is talking about it;
and than the guy from Miami that ate someones face and was only killed by a shot in the head; is that a start?
I know he was messed up on some type of salt; but still?
I'm curious to know. I never believed it until my friend showed me all these news clips saying it's about to begin.
i think that guy was just really out of his mind and didn't know what he was doing. maybe he felt high or something that he had the erg to do that. don't worry about anything he was just really not himself.
Okay so I've seen the answers to a previous question that I asked. in my eyes I think that I am very mature for my age. It's really not a good thing of why, but I've been through more than an average 20 year old has went through. I've been abused and misused over and over agian. When I lost my stepdad it's ike everything got worst. I started having sex with any and every man that wanted to. I let them take advantage of me and kept letting it happen. I met a guy my age and we stayed together for like four months until he thought that i was pregnant then he left me without any last words or anything. I stopped looking for love and stayed to myself. Then in July of 2010 I met my current love. We didnt start dating right away. We just talked all the time and hung out alot. He was and still is my best friend, then we started dating as of November 17, 2010. I fell hard for him and he showed me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me every day from that day. Here's the catch though: He's 25 (as I stated earlier) and i'm 17 (18 in july)People call him a pedophile but I don't see how (well i know how) but he's not off or anything. PLEASE HELP!
Don;t listen to what other has to say. the hell with their opinions. if he loves you and you know you love him and if your happy with each other than go for it and don't mind the people around you.
I met a man through friends and we have been dating for the last ten months , in that time we have gone from being best friends to tolerating each other. I love him but im not sure whether I want to keep it going. We have spilt up a few times and always got back together stronger but this last episode has just crushed me. i had a party on Sunday and a few people told me that my BF was oggling my best friend now shes a big girl and they are on display so i took no notice but then I caught him doing it and then to top it off another member of my family told me if my BF had the chance he would get in with my best friend (Happily Married) when I asked him he didnt say no he just muttered something about maybe not. I told my friend what he had done and she was embarrassed and upset about it. I have to decide do I carry on or do I let it go ??? I am suffering with the menopause at the moment and seriously think I am losing my mind !!!!!! Can someone give me some advice before I do loose my mind
if you think your BF is not capable of being loyal to you anymore then you should just let it go before he really does something that will seriously hurt you. being happy with him is nonsense if you feel that he's gonna do something wrong or if your unhappy with him. confront him with your feelings and talk it out and then decide if you still want to be with him or not.
i am 17 and i am pregnant, my mom is trying to lie to me and mt boyfriends parents sraying i have cancer and i need to get an abortion or i will loos the baby any ways. me and my boyfriends parents think she is lieing. what should i do plz help a.s.a.p
on my honest opinion i really don't think you should get an abortion. first of all killing an infant is not a good thing. you should take responsibility for what you did. and, if you and your partner love each other and are willing to take care of the baby then you should. i think your mom and his parents are wrong for telling you to have an abortion.
18/f
I'm going to college in the fall and want to make a lot of friends. I'm generally shy but I'd like to push myself out of my comfort zone and become more outgoing. What can I do to be a more outgoing person?
i think you just have to be yourself and find out who'll like you for that. And try to talk to people so you could get to know them better.
okay so theres this guy jared tht i like and my friends do watever possible to embarrass me in front of him at the start of the school year this kid nic screwed me over and told him that i like him now he glances at me and looks for me in the morning for when we have to sit at the bleachers my friends say his feelings are changing or hes parinoid of me...what should i do to be his friend and find out answers?
btw im a female and im 13 going into 8th grade
just try to talk to him. ask him if you guys could hang out sometime and start a conversation with him. then when you feel that your close with each other ask him if he likes you or not. just try to be frank with him.
what child female actress played the role of a little girl who would only talk in a british accent when her dad got a new girlfriend.
daphne moon? hmm.
Okay so I'd say I'm pretty familiar with my own vagina. The thing is though. I was exploring up there today and i noticed a hard ball. I mean I know girls have that but this time it feels extremely different, almost as thoigh its bigger and I feel it every time during insertion of my fingers now. And if I put my fingers on the other side of it, it leads to another hole.. but it seems much more prominent.. like its standing out more than usual. I'm pretty freaked out right now. Is this normal? I've never noticed it like this before...
well i don't think i could give you that much advice on what to do. but, you should really let a doctor check that out cause that might really be a bad sign of something growing. you should have a checkup.
So I have worked things out with my boyfriend after a terrible situation we both went through,I wanted so much to sort things out with him once again so we had a second chance,but now that everything seems to be right again,I feel like I'm not that happy anymore with him and just think that it'd be best if we just finished our relationship,help?I just don't know what to do since I know this is not quite normal.
Actually it is just quite normal for you to feel that way. You guys had a second chance at love and you just don't feel the same anymore. maybe i would give it another week and if you feel like you really want to end it then tell him frankly.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. He changed so much. He doesn't text me in the morning to say "good morning". Or at night if we are having a short conversation on text he just disappears without saying goodnight. I don't even get an explanation the next morning. When I do the same thing he gets mad. But I told him how I felt. I told him that I feel no affection from him at all. I am the one that does these things that I wish he would do. Simple things. I also just don't trust him due to him talking crap about me to one of my close friends. I ended the relationship because things are just not the same anymore. He doesn't motivate me with anything that I want to do. Its very annoying. And for some reason I would rather hang out with my friends than him. What could all these feelings mean? By the way he is 21 and im 19
Well it just simply means that you don't love him anymore and that the spark between the both of you is gone. It was the right decision for you to end your relationship cause it looked like it was going no where anyway. So just go find someone who will give you more effort and who will love you more than you'll love him. You deserve BETTER :)
i am so head over heels with a guy who i get long really well with he dosn't notice me when he is with his friends but he and i have a good time when they aren't there and he already said i would never go out with her to one of the other girls i was crushed but then at lunch he was helping me and having a great time counting tokens i no it is so stupid couting tokens for a school libery but yea i jnust dunno what to do about it.
plese help me.
Sometimes, it's just much better to accept the relationship you have with each other as friends. try not to show him that you like him so much and just be happy with what you guys have. And don't worry if he never notices you when he's with his friends (boys are just like that). Besides, if he told someone that he wouldnt go out with you maybe he just wants you guys to be friends. you just have to accept that.
hi i'm a 17 year old female, about to be 18 in july. my boyfriend is 18, turning 19. anyways, we've had quite the past where before he was really very bad to me, lying all the time talking to other girls. but now everything is better (that happened over a year ago). but i can't seem to get over the trust issue, i try really hard but i can't help it that little things make me upset and i easily get jealous. he's in the marines so i never get to see him, and i get a little worried when he goes out to the bars with his friends, and i worry his friends will talk him into going to the club since that's something they all like to do. i'm more worried about girls going after him, than him going after someone else, but still. okay, so i kind of like to know who he's friends with on facebook, and this is my problem currently...but he added a girl i didn't like so i asked him to delete her, so he did, there was no problem. but then she magically appeared on his friends again...so i got a little ticked off, cause obviously he approved this, and i asked if he could remove her again, so he did. but now he's hiding his friends from me.. is it because i'm too controlling? or is he hiding things from me? i don't care that he has girl friends, it just depends on the girl, like some random girl i wouldn't be okay with, or a slut that i know of, or a girl who has a history of trying to ruin our relationship (she happens to fall in the last two categories) i just don't want to push him away, but i'm curious as to why he did this? i want to ask him but i don't want him to get pissy. we're usually really open, and we've been together almost 2 years now. thank you for your help! sorry for the length haha
I don't blame you for getting jealous and ticked off sometimes because he has a bad past. Anyway as you said you guys are very open with each other so maybe it's best if you be straight with him and tell him how you feel. if he gets pissy and all then let him know that your just worried that he'll be what he was before.
Also, you should just give a little trust whenever he goes out with his friends. if he really loves you i'm sure he won't do anything stupid to hurt you.
Okay, so i have a boyfriend of almost a month now. He's really cute & nice but he's a year younger than me and he can be immature sometimes and it kind of bugs me. We're honestly complete opposites, but somehow i've fallen for him. Except the thing is, he's a sucky boyfriend. He never sends me cute paragraphs, or just tells me what he likes about me. Sometimes I feel like he's using me for my body, but then again he might not be. And when we're on facebook or texting he never sends me smiley faces or anything. He's just boring over messaging. But then there's times once in a while where he can be really cute and sweet. I've been thinking about breaking up with him because my feelings weren't that strong with him but the last time we hung out I completely fell in love with him somehow and i'm stuck now. And i recently met this other boy, who had a girlfriend of 10 monthes and just broke up with her yesterday. He's a complete sweetheart in real life and over texting and he just seems perfect. But i know him and he's kind of a player.. plus i think my bestfriend likes him now. But he's still making an effort to talk to me and flirt with me so I know he's interested. He told me if i think my boyfriend treats me like shit then I shouldn't put up with it. He's so sweet, but i know he's probably taking advantage of me. But he has a point with the whole boyfriend thing. I don't know what to do.
well if you feel like your bf is just using you for your body then break up with him. if you feel that your unhappy with him and your feelings arent that strong anymore than maybe it's time for you to find someone better and if you can't bear to lose him try telling him how you feel.
now, with this other guy if he's flirting with you and all that then maybe he really likes you. if you know he's a player maybe you could try changing him. make him work hard to have you (that is if you broke up with your bf). the best feeling in the world is knowing that a person has changed because of you.
I'm live in Canada. So a while ago I asked a question on this site about how to tell a guy how i feel about him and everything.. Someone said to message him on facebook to tell him that i like him and how I feel about him and everything.. But I really confused on what to say! Any ideas?
just say hi and be straight with him. tell him that you like him and maybe you guys could hang out sometimes, talk and get to know each other better.
I'm 13 years old. Nobody understands me. I hate life for many reasons, and think of how I could end it the most painless way. I can not help but think that death is the only way to get out of my situations. I feel as though if I don't care what's happening in my life than no one else should. I think about what I would say if I were to follow through with ending everything. I just hate the lies I hear every day. I hate the harassment and judgement I have to bare with every day. The only true reason why I don't kill myself is because I couldn't do that to my family. My dad told me that if I was to ever need to do anything he'd want to just think I ran away with a friend and I'm safe and not have to identify my corpse and have a funeral for his child he couldn't image that. I almost feel that is selfish. My mom offered me counseling but I didn't want it and now I just want help and she won't listen. I am the ugliest girl at my school and spends the weekends by myself. I must sound as though I through a pity party for myself to others but they just don't know what I go though. I don't know what to do to just be happy, can anyone help me? I tried actually socializing but I felt fake for I had to put on an act as though I'm having fun, when in all actuality I am in misery. Someone please help me.
I understand what your going through, but killing yourself won't make it any better. it's hard being in a situation where you can't find your happiness but their are many things in the world that could make you happy. you are young and you still have many people to meet who will care about you and accept you for who you are. if people in your school don't like you then who cares about them. just be yourself and let someone see you for who you are. you don't have to pretend like someone else for people to like you.
spend time with your family. if they make you happy then you should spend time with them rather than trying to find someone who will like you. your family will always accept you for who and what you are.
never think that your ugly. everyone is beautiful in their own way. whether their beautiful inside or out. you should learn to appreciate and find happiness in the simpliest things around you. don't think to much and just enjoy your teenage life.
Im 16 and I've been going out with my bf for over a month and I really like him and he really likes me but the only problem is he likes to have sex and I don't. He wants me to sneak out with him a lot to do it and I don't want to. A couple of days ago this guy told me he wanted to date me and he is sweet and would never push me to do things like my bf does now. But the problem with him is we are so different. He's more of the preppy kind of guy and I'm more of the laid back person. I know if I leave my bf now I'll miss him like crazy because he's perfect except for the fact he pushes me to do bad things. The new guy is a good boy but idk if I should dump my bf for him or not?
I think it's wrong for your bf to push you into doing things that you don't want to do. If your unhappy with him then maybe you should just break up with him and give the other guy a chance to love you but if you think you can't handle losing the guy whom you love then talk to him about the problems you have towards him, and if he still doesnt change then you could just deal with it or find someone who deserves you and won't push you in doing something you don't want.
I know what you think oh how stupid she want to kill het self... But if you where in my place you would have done it long befor now...
I can't say the country but let's say I am from country (A) but I grow up in country (B)... I had a lot of dreams and I worked hard so hard studied up all night to go to the best universty... But the country(a) and (b) got in a war so country (b) took my father and we don't know where they put him and my mom left me my bro and my sis to go out and try to help... but she did not for 4 years but after 4 years we meet my mom onther country that is (c) we stayed there for 1 year and then came to other country that is Sweden and we asked for help here but they said no you can't stay here go back to country (b) now my mom is about to go crazy and I am not Going to school also my sister and we don't know what to do if we go back to any of the countrys we will get killed like my dad... I don't know what to do all I am thinking about is killing my self... Pls help... You don't have to tell me a way out but keep me alive till I get a way out...:'(
I feel really bad on what's happening to you and i'm really sorry that you had to go through all this. the best advice i could give you is to pray and be strong. life is a very precious thing and sometimes it's the only thing we want to take away from us because of the problems we encounter. But you have to remember that suicide is never the best way to solve a problem. you should always stand strong and show your problem that your not afraid to fight it and that you'll get through it. and it's best if you and your family stay with each other until the very end no matter what happens. stick together and solve your problems together. don't commit suicide it will just only make matters worst.
So there is this guy I like but I'm not sure if he likes me. He said hi to me once but other than that its been mostly the both of us not trying to get caught starring at each other. He looks at me and then turns away very quickly. He tries to avoid me looking at me but I know he sees me looking at him I mean wouldnt you notice someone looking at you? And lately we seem to be running into each other more than we use to or somehow hes near by where I can see him. And I can be with a group of people and he will talk to everyone but me. I'm trying to get his attention but it doesnt seem to work what do i do? Does he like me or not?
i think you should try talking to him. just try to get to know him better and become his friend and when you guys are close enough maybe you could tell him your feelings towards him. rather than just staring go have a conversation with him. you'll never know what will happen.
we have become close friends and even few times came very close to kissing, but nothing ever happened.
what am i to do?
it's not wrong to fall in love with someone younger than you. it's pretty normal. you can never stop your heart from falling in love with someone whom is very close to you. love is unconditional and i think you know that age doesnt matter as long as you love each other. so don't fight your feelings and go for it! :)