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16 f I realy like this guy and when i see him i want to have the best makeout session. ive madeout with guys before but its never been really hot and passionate, sometimes theyll be good kissers but I will want to stop. Now this guy is reallyI special to me, we have a love hate relationship, but we love it. so what can i do to make this realy good? it can lead to anything jus not normal sex. I know guys kinda aroused kissing and touching, but how can i get that to the extreme? (link)
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I am pretty sure like every girl ever wants there boy to feel this way. You, my dear, are certainly not alone.
First, guys get turned on by the way a girl acts. Before you actually start to even physically touch him, you can make him want you by really intense flirting, and complimenting his body, and even showing off your own body by running your fingers through your hair, or putting your thumbs in your back pockets.
Now, lets say you are close together. A trick that always seems to make guys (especially fit ones) crazy, is when you take your hand, and go down his stomach. For example, after you hug, you take your right hand thats on his shoulder, and slide it all the way down his chest and abs to the top of his pants.
When you do begin to kiss him, think about where you are touching him too. Mess with his hair, his ears, his shirt. You can even put your had onto the skin of his lower back under the shirt and sort of caress him. All of this touching will probably lead him to do the same to you, and by the end of the make-out sesh, you will be a couple of turned on people!
Happy Kissing!
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i am 5 ft5 he is 6ft ive got long brown hair and hazel eyes with a round face. I like this guy who is amazing and is tall with nice brown hair. he likes the same things as me i knows alot about him and he knows alot about me. but he always talks about the girls he likes and i help him when he has trouble with them. he likes girls who are tall blonde petite and beautiful. and when i talk about guys he stops talking to me for the rest of the day. but he really listens to me about everything else and hes like my other half. but because he is a year older hes like your like a little sister to me, but he always hugs me and he always kisses me on the mouth and when i go over to his house to sleep we sleep in the same bed. and his family love me but he always says something like your part of the family or your like a sister to me. and he always says i love how your eyes change colour in the seasons i can look at them for ages.but i know he doesnt like me in that way. his friends like me. i need a way to get over him or to get him to like me in that way? please help (link)
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Girl, if he is kissing you and sleeping at night with you, and he gets jealous when you talk about other boys, he definately likes you. Even in relationships, some boys talk about other girls. it maks them feel powerful, like an ego boost.
If you want him to like you, try this:
-Stop talking about other boys.
-When he talks about other girls, act a little jealous. (not tooooo jealous, you want to give him space)
-When he looks at you or kisses you, make it last longer, make him know you want more.
-Talk to him about it.
Sometimes these steps can be hard, but just take it slow, and remember to SHOW him you like him.
Sounds like he will come around...
Best of luck!!!
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so I have been with this boy for probably like 2 weeks.
but im wondering when we should kiss?
we havent yet, and he would be my first.
any suggestions on what to do?
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Do you hug at all? You know, my first real kiss with a boy was actually at school! We were walking to my locker after school was out, and he was hugging me, and then i pulled back a little, and looked at him in his eyes.
If you do this and the chemistry is right, it will feel natural to kiss. He may be nervous, so you can make it easy on him by asking him to go for a walk, to go to the park, to walk you to your car- places where you can be alone.
Once there, you can either ask him to kiss you, tell him you want to be kissed, or kiss him. Relationships are all about communication, so don't be afraid to tell him, or show him how you feel.
Good luck hun, and happy kissing :)
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I'm really hoping someone can help me out here. I've searched the internet, but it's hard to find an answer...
I just had sex with a pregnancy scare, and I'm supposed to get my period today or tomorrow. How will I know if I got pregnant or not? Will I miss this period? Or will I miss my next period? When is the earliest I can take a pregnancy test?
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Hey girly! So sorry to hear about your pregnancy scare, maybe I can help you out. 1st Response pregnancy tests can determine if you are pregnant before your missed period, but I think you have to test three days after the sex. Other than that test, you will have to wait probably up to a week before you can test using others.
Now there are a few things that could be to your benifit here. Since you were so close to menstration, it is possible that you couldn't have concieved. That is, unless you don't have a fallopian tube malfunction or something.
These things happen a lot and there are many people out there that can help you. Even if you turn out not to be pregnant, as you said, its a scary thing. Don't be afraid to talk to a good friend, or counselor about your feelings.
Unfortunately, the best you can do now is just be patient. You will know in a few days. If you don't get your period by Thursday, I would test.
Best of luck to you,
please let me know if you need anything else.
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well, heres the story. my boyfriend and i had planed to have sex saturday night, the first time for both of us, but it went all wrong. he couldnt get turned on enough so we had to stop trying. now because of that he hates himself, he says to me that everytime he thinks of it he just wants to cut his throat. i dont know what to do anyore :( he wont let me help him and he refuses to talk to me about it face to face. he also wont tell me whats wrong. its now tuesday and all ive found out is that when i was trying to get him excited with oral sex he just felt nothing. he doesnt tell me what he's thinking either, i dont know what he likes and what he hates cause he wont tell me, he just lays there doing nothing. sometimes i can get him excited but not this time. is this normal for some guys to feel like this? he told me last night that he just needed to sort himself out and refuses to let me help him :( i really want to help him though, i feel like all of this is my fault. do you think he might be feeling like im pushing him into sex too soon? he wont tell me anything so i dont know :( is this normal or not? please give me heaps of advice.
by the way, he's not gay and he's not going out with someone else, i know this because i know him too well.
thanks
im 16f he's 17m (link)
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Hey hun! Sorry to hear your plans didn't go so well! But don't worry, these things happen to a lot of girls just like yourself! I am here to help :)
Like the other answer already mentioned, there is a lot of performance anxiety involved. I know even I don't completely understand how that works, but you should take it as a compliment. This wonderful boy of yours obviously really wanted to please you and make you happy- so much in fact, he stressed himself out about it.
If I were you, I wouldn't worry about his sexual health just yet. Maybe in a few months or something after everything seems to have failed I would ask him to see his doctor about it, but really I do think it comes down to the nervousness and preparation around the event.
You do need to talk to him about this to discuss your feelings, BUT I would say that he is clearly feeling a lot too and you should try to comfort him before you vent. These sorts of things are really embarrasing for guys, no matter how much we tell them that its okay, they have a hard time coping with the fact that they couldnt do it. So, instead of asking him about how he is feeling, build up his ego. Let him no that you love him and that you care about him.
WARNING: Do NOT do this all at once, take a few days to convey to him how much you care and how much you like him BEFORE you talk to him about it.
Next, here is the conversation. Tell him you want to try again. You don't need to remind him of all the things that went wrong. If he asks you, tell him that you would never think that he is less of a person or anything just because he was having trouble that one time. Talk about it. See what he thinks the problem was. I would suggest that the problem was your own nerves. You two were both excited and nervous and happy and probably overwhelmed. These are big steps, you will both need time to deal.
Okay, so lets say the big night comes again! What do you do? Okay, some guys honestly dont get turned on by oral. Every guy has his own vice. There is no way to find that out, save you experiment a little. Be yourself, but also, remember you are trying to get him in he mood, so just be sassy, cute, sexy and adorable. That should help things along.
Good luck girl! Don't get discouraged. Everyone's got to try it someday!
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ok, i cant get a bf. my mates think im addicted to boys. i think i am but no one will go out with me! its so annoying! (link)
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Welcome to womanhood! Haha, sounds dorky but it is so true! Boys are really cute, and many can make great boyfriends.
If you want a boyfriend, first you will have to drop the reputation for being boy crazy. Try to tone it down. Don't talk about guys infront of other guys. This is for sure the HARDEST step. I want you to be who you are, because that is who guys will fall in love with, BUT try to tone down all of that vivaciousness when you first met people because it could be misconstrued.
Next, meet people. Meet your friends' guy friends, the kids in your class, kids in the commuinity. Just put yourself out there.
Someday, you will find the one. You just have to be patient, and the right man will sweep you off your feet ;)
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is your real name karianne? (link)
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Haha, no it is not :) Sorry I couldnt be of more help!
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my bf lived here when we started dating. went away for college and i cheated on him. he found out and we stayed together to make it work. some days were good, some not so good. we broke-took one day breaks on and off. we have broken up for good now because he thinks i just lie all the time. he said id get a fresh start. i never did get it. i want to go visit him this weekend but what can i say to make him reconsider, not think bad of me or just get us back together. when we are together, we are extremly happy. this is a bit of the huge problem bc im going this weekend and cant describe the little details so please please all and any good advice would help! (link)
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Wow! What an intresting story, and hard predicament. First, I would make sure you REALLY want to get back together with him. I know you are probably thinking "Wha? OF COURSE I DO!" but really, take some time to make sure that everything with you is on the up and up, before you add another person to the mix (for example: are you looking to this relationship because you feel empty? Or do you actually love him?) It will be hard to think un biasedly because this guy, if you like him, is bound to be amazing.
So, lets say you are really ready for this relationship. How do you win him back? Lets do this thing :D
First, disconnect from him. Okay, every dating site on earth will tell you this. But really it is quite true, how does he know he needs you if he hasn't had to suffer with out you? I don't know how often you guys see eachother, so this step might already be taken care of.
Next, BE the person he fell in love with. You said somedays were better, others worse. How were you on those better days? Don't tell him, but SHOW him that you ARE that person.
Now, Remember those quirky, cute, little things about his personality or taste? Find a way to slip them in. Make him feel like you are similar, like you could be companions.
Next, allow yourselves time to hang out together. Get friends and go to dinner, play a game of golf, do something that you can both enjoy, but catch up at the same time.
Lastly, tell him part of how you feel. DON'T tell him you want to clean the slate or something cliche like that. These things will only remind him of the hardships you had previous. Tell him that you have been thinking of him, and that you are intrested in giving it another shot. You might want to start slow, ask him out for another night. Don't jump into a relationship right away!
I have faith in you hun, you will do great!
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they're saying that some plastic water bottles leach chemicals into your drink and produce more hormones. which water bottles do this? how can you tell if it will? i heard if it has the #7 on it, it will leach, is this true?
p.s.: my water bottle is a starbucks coffee one, and it doesn't have numbers on it so i can't tell.
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Yea this IS actually true. Water bottles that you by from the grocery store or gas station (plastic, you can squeaze them) these bottles you probably shouldn't refill more than 3 or 4 times or chemicals the manufacterers use to make the plastic, start to leak or dissolve into the water bottle. You are right, #7's are also bad and have been known to cause nerological problems in children and teens. If you have one of these bottles, you shouldn't freeze them or put them in heat, this will make the chemical leak worse.
Your bottle sounds like it is a mix of several different products, possibly rubber and plastic. Your bottle might say "BPA FREE" somewhere on it, which means it will not leak chemicles into your drink. As far as starbucks bottles go, I believe they are meant to be refilled and to withstand hot and cool temperatures. These bottles should be considered safe as well.
I hope I helped!
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My boyfriend asked me out about 5 weeks ago. We had an immediate connection (which I didn't have with my other exes) and I felt comfortable with him immediately. Well now I am having trouble keeping the big ily to myself! I really would like to say it, but at the same time, I know it's probably too early. I feel like I do love him (i feel the way i did with an ex who i went out with for a year and a half). But I want this to be a good relationship, and I want to truly mean it when I say it (but I feel like I would?) Please help! I'm confusing myself. (link)
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You guys sound so adorable! I love it! I would reccomend that you talk to him about it. After all, he is your boyfriend, he is there for love and support! There is no shame in loving someone. The hardest thing is finding out what love means to you! Long story short, if you feel like you love him, you do. Love isn't something that has a definition, it just "is".
So go for it! Maybe just say "I feel like I love you". Then you aren't springing it on him in three little words without allowing a conversation about it.
I wish you the best of luck with your man, and I appreciate your question, very cute! Have a good night :)
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heyy
i like this guy, lets call him Pete. and we were at school camp last week together. okay well he is new at our school and hes really shy. we had a dance party there and he asked me to go to his cabin room with him instead, and i did. we were sitting down and then he goes "Can i kiss you?" and i was shocked because he doesnt talk that much and hes shy so i went all red and didnt say anything and just hid my face and then i stood up and ran away and sat on the top bunk, and he was leaning against the ladder, and then a teacher came in .. xD. we got put on 1 hour of after school detention and he got upset about it because hes only been new for a month and didnt want his reputation with teachers to be ruined, and i tried to cheer him up and then i said If you want to be alone then i can leave and he said Yes please, so i left. He talked to me the day after and said Sorry about ignoring you last night and then we talked for a bit and everything was fine. That night we got back to school and everyone was getting picked up, and my best friend Andrew came to meet me. I got him to carry all my luggage for me lol so we were walking and we walked past Pete, so i said bye to my friend and sat down with Pete. He didnt talk at all so i got a bad vibe and so i asked "Do you hate me or something..?" and he just shook his head no and didnt say anything. I felt abit weird so im like Okay what the hell so i got up and walked off. I didnt talk to him since then and today i had a double class with him, and my friend sat down next to me just do that Pete would have to sit next to me or there would be no seats left. Well that didnt work because he didnt talk to me at all. the next day we had detention for what happened at camp so as we were going inside i turned around and stood right in front of him and i was like "Are you gonna ignore me forever?" and he just shook his head no. and then after the detention i walked up to him and he said "Im sorry for ignoring you its just that im new and i dont want to give a bad image and teachers now give me dirties and everyone is making a big deal out of it" and i said "Yeah i know but you should ignore them because its just stupid rumours"
then hes like "Next term everyone will get over it so it will be better" and i was like Okay so you say you like me, then you ignore me for a week, and now you say next term we will be better for us?!!" and he said "Yeah i just cant talk to you this week .." so i just said Whatever then see you next term. and i walked off..
i dont know whether i should wait for him or if i should just forget about it during the 2 week holidays ? please helpp :)
sorry that its longg lol
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Mmkay hun, lets start with how you feel about this whole thing. This guy is pretty new to school, maybe you don't know him well or maybe you do. Either way, deep down you may feel something for this boy. That is your answer.
Is he worth the wait? Could you live with out him? All of these are questions you should ask yourself. If you find he is not worth it, either tell him how you feel, or just let it fade.
If you think he IS worth it, I think you should wait, but also, I think you should try to talk with him. Rumors are stupid, and a teachers opinion is really not that important when it comes to your love life. If you both like eachother, you have the right to date as you please. So, call him, or go out for coffee or something, and discuss what the two of you should do. It sounds like he might have to sort out his priorities as well. Make sure you give him the chance to do that :)
Good luck! Remember to always be who you are, no matter what others may say. He sounds like an adorable guy!
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Just wondering what some peoples goals are. some things you would like to do before you die.Your dreams. (link)
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-Fall in Love
-Get Married
-See 50% of the world
-Learn French, German, Sweedish and Italian
-Become a teacher
-Write a novel
-Run for a government possition
-Have children
-By a car with out going into debt
-Write music
-Go to Austalia
-Meet Josiah Leming
-Learn to dance
-Be the best I can be
-Risk something of mine for someone else
that is a short list. Remember that everyone is different. You may not take an intrest in any of these things, just as I never ever EVER want to go skydiving ;D The important thing is that you live your life to the fullest, because you only have one :)
Love Always
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my boyfriend was feeling really down because he has a temporary depression. i prayed to God (i'm Christian) and asked if he could make my bf happy and i implied that i'd do anything just to see him happy, even give up my happiness for his. A week later he dumped me and i've never seen him happier. i'm hurt and i'm just wondering if you think it's the work of God or just a weird coincident. (link)
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Aww hun I'm sorry your boyfriend broke up with you. I think my opinion differes a lot from the other responses. You prayed that your boyfriend would be happy, and now he his. It is too bad that this entailed breaking up with you, but if there is one thing I know, its that God has a greater plan for us than what we understand.
Who knows? You ex could have been struggling for a while, he could have been confused if dumping you was the wrong thing, if you would be hurt. I believe that it was your selfless act to ask for his happiness that lead the promptings of the spirit to help him feel secure in his decision.
I believe God answers your prayers. Remember "Ask and it shall be given, seek and ye shall find, knock and it will be opened unto you." It was your faithfulness in Christ that lead to your ulitmate goal, for your bofriend to be happy. Please, never forget that God is there to comfort you. If you pray with the same faithfulness, I know you will be able to be comforted, and again feel the joy and love of Christ.
God moves in mysterious ways, but each of these ways is to help you grow and achieve eternal life, "which gift is the greatest of all the gifts of God."
Your in My Prayers
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i have mad pimples on my leg. ill provide a link.
what can i do to get rid of these? they hurt and their annoying. honestly, i find this embarissingg! please help! (sorry the picture is kind of blurry, my camera phones kinda dirty)
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http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=1y8p50&s=4 (link)
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Don't worry hun, this is pretty natural. Pimples are normally fairly tender and the fact that you have them on your leg where pants, school desks and your razor can all harm them can make them appear even more inflamed. Just wash you legs in hot water with either some body soap or facial wash gentally. They won't go away immediatly, but after a couple days you might start to notice a difference.
Hope I helped!
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this is going to sound pretty stupid but I'm genuinely curious about what other people do. i can't seem to make it through a day without thinking of a guy, going out with a guy, my future life with a guy...the weird thing is, it's not even one guy! i could really have no feelings for a guy friend but think about them a lot...i guess just because i always have to daydream about someone. how do you stop that??? i know friends with the same problem. just curious about answers. :) (link)
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I think this is so cute, but I understand (and agree from personal experience) that this can be really frustrating. The only answer that I can really give is that it is natural to be excited about your future, and to daydream about what could be.
I think that most of us young ladies feel we have to hide some of out hormonal feelings where as guys can just let them out. Don't be worried about what your daydreams could mean, sometimes it is just the fact that you are really close to your friend that makes it easy for your mind to put you two in a situation together.
As far as stopping them, all I could suggest would be to keep busy, but truly you can't fight nature.
On a side note: As I'm sure you have already found, sometimes it is easy to let yourself want to be physical with someone. I would just warn you that you should probably think through the actions you actually intend on carrying out.
Keep dreaming big!
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I'm fourteen and just finished 9th grade. I go to a religious school one night a week that includes kids from grades 8-12. As a member of the student council, I met a certain 12th-grade boy (well, college now, barely) and we became friends. He, however, seems to want to be more than that. He often seems like he's trying to flirt with me and he keeps asking if I want to "hang out." The only sort of hanging out he ever seems to come up with is moviegoing, which sounds way to close to a date for my comfort. I'm quite willing to be friends with him but I absolutely don't want to date him. How do I send him the message that I don't want to go out with him when he hasn't actually asked me out, exactly? I'm quite sure that he likes me, so I hate just saying no because I know how he must feel. If he said, "do you want to go out with me?" I could use the let's-just-be-friends trick, but he hasn't so I'm very confused about how to let him know that our friendship stops there. Any suggestions? (link)
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Aww girly, that is really sweet of you to not want to hurt his feelings. He sounds like a fun guy who does want to have a good time with you. HOW good of a time... im not so sure. If this is a guy you think you can trust to spend time with, I really think you should! Just like how he can't read your mind, you can't be expected to read his.
Once he starts asking you "out" places like the movies, then you can say you would rather be friends. But if he wants to hang out, (be sure you even want to hang out as friends...could get awkward...and boy have I been there!) you can suggest that you will buy the tickets if he pays for the snacks, you could meet him instead of having him drive you, and dont go to dinner or anything w/o other people. Just think casual. If you don't let things get out of hand, then they wont.
Okay hun, so remember to be safe. Sometimes it hard to let someone know how you feel, especially if you think they feel differently. If you decide it would be best to tell him that you would like to remain friends, don't make a big deal about it. Just say, that you don't want to advance your relationship to be any more than friends. You have a lot of excuses on your side (i.e. You go to college and i wouldn't see you, your too old for me, i don't think i am ready for a serious relationship...etc.) but hopefully he will understand and not make you explain yourself for your own personal decisions :]]]
if you want more ideas on how to let him down gently, I would go to:
www.wikihow.com
or
www.ehow.com
both are great, I use them all the time :)
Sorry I couldn't be of more help hun, let me know how things turn out! Keep me updated!
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ok..i have 2 months or so..for my "sweet 16" i really dont see a purpose of it having a fancy party. all i want really is having like 25 friends or so over. something small. do you have any ideas?
or some sweet 16 quotes or whatever not having a buncha fancy stuff in it, just simple birthday quotes?
thanks in advance
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Sweet 16's are so fun!
For mine, I invited about 30 kids, and we had two teams, and then we played survivor games! It was sooooo much fun. After the games and cake and presents, we wathced CastAway. All of my guests loved it.
You could do the same thing with Fear Factor, or Dance Party, or whatever theme you find cool, where you would play games and watch a movie all related to the theme.
Your friends will love it because they dont have to dress up really nice, or get stuck doing something they totally hate. Having a big, casual party lets people come in late, or leave early and still have a really good time. I am so excited for you, and I hope everything goes great!
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I am still in love with my ex. When I think about him I get all hot and bothered. I want to let the thoughts of him go but its been hard. It has now been a year since we've been together. I need help to shake him. What should I do? (link)
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Hun, I know exactly how I feel. About a year ago, my ex broke up with me too! It hurt for a really long time, and even after other relationships, I would find myself still thinking about him. I think what you really need is closure. You can talk to him about your relationship if that is what you feel you need. Or, you can talk to your friends. They know how you are feeling too.
To get my ex from my mind, I wrote notes. I dont think I ever gave him any, but it helped to get all my thoughts out on paper.
I promise you, that one day you will meet someone who will love you forever, and you will love him so much more than you can even comprehend right now! Someone as faithful and caring as you, deserves someone the same in return. You can get over this hun!
I totally recomend romance movies. They made me feel so much better :D that is pretty dorky of me, but it helps to see those amazing guys in the movies that these wonderful women like you get to fall in love with! Also, try going out to parties and meeting new people. You can even treat these a little like a game. The more relationships you develop, the more fun you will have :D
Being single and in love is hard. You can feel lonely and scared, but you also have a great oppertunity to grow. You will feel so much better in time. If you are patient, you will be rewarded.
A year ago, I never thought I would get over my ex, but for the first time,I am so in love, and so happy. I know you can be too!
I would love to hear updates! You sound so sweet, and I know you will meet your match eventually!
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so recently my boyfriend fingered me its the only thing possible i can think of that can cause this.. i dont know if its a uti but when i urine it hurts on the last few drops of pee not during urination, is this a uti? if it is are there ways i can cure it on my own... i heard cranberry juice...my family isnt really into medicines and stuff usually i use homeopathic things (link)
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Cranberry juice really does seem to help. Weird huh? But it is important that if you start to feel a burn during urination, that you do go to the doctor. Your body can naturally get over the infection symptoms you are describing, as a matter of fact, several people probably have a UTI and don't even know it. So don't freak out! But if your symptoms start getting worse, or if your urine appears a little pink, your urinary track is bleeding and you need to get on antibiotics.
As for your bf contributing to the infection, im not so sure. Girls often get UTI's just because their body is mapped out differently than a guys. (I think you can figure out what I mean) So you shouldn't worry about your parents or doctor finding out.
Every day or so, you can recalculate your symptoms on WebMD, it will tell you when you should see a doctor.
I hope you feel better hun!
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I'm f/14.
I've had my boyfriend for 5 months, and I really don't like him as much as I did at first. He seems to be pretty in love with me, though. I feel bad because I don't return the feeling.
A few weeks ago I went to this camp and met a guy I really like. I think about him all the time. He lives in a completely different state, but I email him every day.
Now I'm seriously considering breaking up with my boyfriend, but I don't know how or what to say. (It will be my first time breaking up with someone.) I'm nervous to tell him about the guy from camp because he might get the impression that I was cheating.
Any suggestions on what to do????
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I actually don't think you should tell him at all that you like someone else. I think he would get a lot more upset then he needs to be.
Tell him that you know that he cares a lot about you, and you just don't feel the same about him.
Keep it short and sweet. If he asks you questions, which he might, don't get scared, or retract your break up statement. Be prepared to answer questions like why. He just had a major burn to his ego hun, so go easy on him. You can tell him that you really love his personality or something, but you really just wish you could be friends.
I would love to hear updates from you girly!
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