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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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what should I do about my dad losing his job
The best thing you can do is support and encourage him. Losing your job is a hard thing to go through especially when you have children. So dont make fun and be careful what you say because repeatedly mentioning it can cause extra stress. Maybe offer to get a paper route or something to help out with finances until he is back to work. Good luck!
I started using trigestrel on the 16th january and been using it everyday,same time..i then had unprotected sex on the 23rd january bt then drank the morning after pill as soon as possible..can i still get pregnant seeing that i only waited 7 days and not two weeks for the trigestrel pill to kick in eventhough i took the nerlevo morning afterwpill asap..im a bit unsure because i started taking trigestrel a week after my period?
No birth control is 100% effective. The only sure way to not get pregnant is not having sex. But if youre using your birth control properly then your chances of becoming pregnant are slim. Best thing to do is wait a few weeks and take a test. But make sure you are still taking your birth control in the meantime. Good luck!
Hey, so I'm a 13 year old girl... I recently went to the doctor about depression... I'm going to get two types of counciling, but she hasn't scheduled an appointment for me yet... I tried this thing where you wrap a hairband around your wrist and flick it, it was fine ... More of a distraction and I could control when I wanted to stop or start, I didn't like the fact that it left red marks on my arms though... Two of my friends cut (that I know of) and I thought that it would be an okay idea to experiment, so I cut my leg multiple times, not deep or long... Just a scrape to draw a little blood... I know I have problems, and I'm not going to do this again (despite the fact that I want to). The two friends that I've mentioned know about this, and promised not to tell anyone unless it got really serious. I feel terrible because I promised my mum that I would never self harm- and I feel ashamed and I don't want to burden her with any more problems (she already has enough to deal with), the depression was hard enough to tell her about... I just don't know whether I should tell someone and I'm scared and lost and I feel alone... I was stupid I know, but I don't know what to do... Please someone tell me what to do, and don't bother asking why I did this- that is confidentual... Thanks, lea wills xxx
Lea,
You're not alone. I understand what you are going through, I've done it myself. Its really hard to deal with life at your age. You have everything from boys to hormones working against you. Its really hard to be a teenager. People telling you what to do and how to be. I remember that age all to well. Everyone says it gets harder and adults are telling you that you're just throwing a pity party for yourself. And well with all that craziness going on I fell under the pressure and I cut myself too. But then I had my first child and I realized that someday I am going to have to explain the scars when my child comes to me and says "mommy what happened?" That day has not come yet but someday it will and I know that by telling them, I will risk them doing it to themselves. Dont think of yourself when youre doing this, think of the other people you hurt by hurting yourself. Like your family, or future children. You definately should tell your mom what has been going on. You need her right now and you wont be putting a burden on her you will make her happy for trusting her and going to her in your time of need! She is terrified right now knowing that her child is depressed and she cant do anything about it. If you open up to her and talk to her about what is going on and what you are doing it will help you and her get through this rough time. And as for your friends, you need to tell an adult so they can get help as well. They might get mad at you but just think you can be saving their lives. If you dont tell what if one of them cut too deep and kill themself? Do you want that on your consious? Be a good friend and help them too. You are so brave for talking the first step and admitting you have a problem! Keep it up dear its going to get better as long as you let it. Stay positive and keep your head up. Dont give up! Good luck feel better and if you need any more help please let me know!
My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends)
Well it sounds like you have to decide what is more important to you... Your friendship or your marriage. If it were me I would chose my husband. If she really is a true friend like you say she is, she will understand that your marriage must come first. Sure it seems unfair to you that your husband is making you chose but your marriage is forever do you really want to regret not spending the day with your husband on your first anniversary? He is right anniversaries are important. And you only get one first anniverdsary. Your very first cellebration of your marriage!
If you really feel like you have to be there for your friend, why not comprimise. Ask your husband to let you go to the ceremony and then let your friend know that the rest of the day (reception and whatever) you need to spend with your husband.
Hope it all works out for you! Good luck and vest wishes and congratulations to you and your friend on your marriages!
My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends)
Well it sounds like you have to decide what is more important to you... Your friendship or your marriage. If it were me I would chose my husband. If she really is a true friend like you say she is, she will understand that your marriage must come first. Sure it seems unfair to you that your husband is making you chose but your marriage is forever do you really want to regret not spending the day with your husband on your first anniversary? He is right anniversaries are important. And you only get one first anniverdsary. Your very first cellebration of your marriage!
If you really feel like you have to be there for your friend, why not comprimise. Ask your husband to let you go to the ceremony and then let your friend know that the rest of the day (reception and whatever) you need to spend with your husband.
Hope it all works out for you! Good luck and vest wishes and congratulations to you and your friend on your marriages!
Whenever i have sugar whether it be sugary drinks or foods my teeth hurt the pain lasts usually for a few days then goes away it's not constant when i have no sugar my teeth are completely fine could my teeth be sensitive? Could they be sensitive to sugar?
I don't think i have any cavities since i have none of the symptoms you'd have if you had cavities
Any suggestions of what to do? Until i can get to the dentist next month
It really does sound like a cavity or chipped tooth. But some people do have sensitive teeth. Try swishing warm salt water when your tooth is hurting until you see the dentist. You might want to aviod the sugary foods and drinks until you see the dentist.
So i'm a 14 year old girl.There's this boy in my school.. he's 15.So one year ago i liked him a lot but i wasn't very pretty and i was shy and unpopular and i had no likes on facebook and yeah..He didn't like me and he even told me that.He started dating one girl that was very pretty and popular.I was really sad for a while..Now its been like one and a half year and i'm prettier than i was before..i have facebook and i get more likes and when he saw that he started texting me but the sad thing was that i started first.So we like text now but i don't know what to do cause it looks like he only cares about my looks and popularity....What should i do?Oh btw i've cried like every night for him and i really really really like him and i don't wanna stop texting him i just don't know what to do please help...
If you believe thats all he likes you for than maybe you are right. You dont want to be with someone who just likes you for your looks. But You also have to remember that in the beginning of all relationships its mostly about physical attraction. You dont fall in love with someones personality at frist sight. So to be sure you should go on a few dates and spend more time together... Nothing physical, just dates and hanging out. Let him get the chance to like you for who you are on the inside and it will give you a chance to get to know him on the inside as well. Good luck and if you need anything else feel free to come back.
will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up
Please take time to think about what you are saying! Suicide is not the answer it is a permenant solution to a temporary problem. I understand where you are coming from. I myself have attempted several times and thank god I survived. If you believe in god then you know that suicide is an unforgivable sin and you surely will go to hell. You dont want this. I know jail sucks but not as much as burning for eternity. If you need help please call the suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255
or message me again and I will give you my personal email. You can alwaays talk to me. Just please dont do this! It doesnt seem like it now but someday things will be better and all you will be left with are the memories of what you have overcome.
Me and my girlfriend met on 2 june 2014 and i just touched her vagina with my penis till now she has not got her periods is there any chance of. Her pragnancy please give me advice what to do now
Unless you actually got sperm inside of her she cant get pregnant. Touching only does not get someone pregnant. To keep this from actually happening though you shuld seriously consider using condoms in the future if you do have sex. Let me know if you need anymore help or have any questions on how to prevent pregnancy.
Basically I like this girl and she's a lesbian, I'm also not straight (female 15). She started dating this other girl in our grade and on the day I was going to ask her out she told me all this and how much she liked the other girl. I cried all day after school. They have been dating for 2 weeks and I'm dying. I don't sleep. I want her to be happy but at the same time I am so unhappy. I don't make things awkward by saying I like her, because I know she likes me too (she flirted heaps). The other girl she is dating I used to be friends with a year or so ago, I was so jealous and mad at her at first, but I am not really anymore, I tried talking to her to try be friends again. My question is, what should I do? I know I sound like a stupid 15 year old and "I'll grow out if it" and maybe I will, but I would like advice now because telling me I will grow up isn't going to keep me going. Please help
Tell her how you feel but also let her know that you respect that she is in a relationship. Of course its hard. You really have strong feelings for this girl. But she may also feel the same about you and might not think you had any for her so she moved on. If she does not want to be with you then you just have to move on. It will be hard to do but there will be other girls. Check out my cloumn it has advice for a broken heart and I think it will help you. If you need any help feel free to send me a message. I will do my best to help you through your times of need. Good luck dear.
i am 17 years old n im dating this guy from the past 8 months. i have had sex with him many times ,it was alright and going well before 1 month but from the past 1 month he keeps ignoring me n when i ask him why he gives pointless reasons he says that hes busy because of college work ,we don't speak for days sometimes .is it because he has lost interest in me or something i love him a lot and don't want to loose him please give some advice what should i do to get him back the same way he was before.
Sometimes people change. Its all a part of growing up. Tell him you need to talk to him and let him know exactly how you feel about the way he is treating you. Also if he isnt earning the sex by treating you like a princess then just dont give it up. If he is not willing to change his attitude then its time for you to move on. And if it comes to that then it just wasnt meant to be and you will find someone who will love you and treat you like a queen. Check out my column there is a nice piece of advice for a broken heart if you need it. Good luck and best wishes.
I'm a 14 year old girl. Whenever I stand up I get very dizzy and my vision blacks out for about give seconds. The other day, I blacked out for five whole minutes when I first got out of bed in the morning. I told my mom and she says make sure you're eating enough food (I get 1,200-1,400 calories a day and drink a lot of water. I have a pretty healthy diet). My mom also said that looking at my phone screen for extended periods of time could cause it too. I also black out a little when I stretch up. Like when you first wake up and you stretch a little to crack your joints, I blackout for a few seconds. Should I see a doctor or can this be easily fixed?
This happens to me when I stand up too quickly or move suddenly try to slow your movements a little. This could be a sign of some type of health problem and you may want to get checked by a doctor just in case. You are just two years away from driving and you dont want this happening behind the wheel. Tell your mom that you feel like you should see a doctor. Good luck
Ok, so this question could be triggering I don't know so sorry if it is. I am an outpatient recovering from anorexia bulimia, depression and mild OCD , (yeah I know pretty messed up). my friend from school is having a pool party and has invited lots of people including the girl that effectively sent me to hospital, she bullied me constantly online and at school and no one knew.(the girl, not my friend) I still haven't told people about my problems with her girl because I know they won't believe me. Anyway I really want to go and I have set it as one of my short term goals to achieve but I am worried about this girl being mean to me, also I will be in swim wear so people will defiantly notice how fat I am now I'm out of hospital and also all the scars on my body due to self harm, I am just scared she will bring it up infront of people and I don't know what to do!?
First let me say, you are not fat! You are a beautiful strong young woman. All through your life there will be someone saying something about you.. I will let you in on a little secret.. She is just jealous. My advice to you is if this girl seriously bothers you then talk to your other friend about it. Let your friend know that if she starts saying mean things to you then you will leave and you will not come over when she is there because you are more mature than that. And as for the scars, wear them with pride... you know why? Because thats all they are, scars, as in the past. Something you battled and have overcome. And if she says something to you just tell her what you say hurts me and because of your harmful words I use to harm myself but then I realized you are not worth it and I am not going to let you bother me anymore. Tell her to please act mature and try to get along with eachother or at least be mature and do not talk to me unless you are going to be civil. You deserve better than that. If you ever need to talk or need advice you can come to me. I have scars too I know where you are coming from. and I know what incredible strength it takes to overcome that painful past.
I'm female-14, my boyfriend asked me to go to the beach with him tomorrow and I said I would go, but then I got my period, an I've never used a tampon. plus I've heard that you shouldn't go in the beach with a tampon, but i don't know. my mom said she would show me how to use one and to just wear shorts, but I'm not so sure...
Go to the beach. Most likly this wont be the only time in your life you are asked to go swimming when you are on your period. Dont let our period stop you from having a life one week out of every month. You can definately go into the beach with a tampon in. Thats one of the many advantages of using a tampon. Swimming can actually help you during this time as well. Those horrible cramps in your tummy can be relieved with the exercise you get while swimming around. Good luck and have fun with your boyfriend you deserve it!
I posted some helpful links below.
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here is a little information on swimming while on your period
http://www.beinggirl.com/article/swimming-with-period/
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here is a site that tells you how to use your tampon while swimming
http://www.wikihow.com/Use-a-Tampon-While-Swimming
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Here is a video that shows you how to insert a tampon (dont worry its not a real person just a drawing)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TjMBZ0AO99I
Hi guys so I'm 18 years old and in a few days my bf will be 21. We've been dating for 2 and a half years but our first year was a little rough. But I would like to go out to a club and dance with my friends along with my older brother. My boyfriend is totally against it. He says only single girls have business being at a club. But when he turns 21 he plans on going out without me. I understand his point of not wanting me to get grabbed and such on the dance floor buy I know I can handle it. And if for some reason I couldn't my brother and girlfriends will be there. Im sick of doing the same thing of nothing, every night with my boyfriend and sometimes we need our space. Could someone please tell me I'm completely wrong for wanting to go out and dance? My boyfriend doesn't even dance! He's not much fun when it comes to these kinds of things. Please someone give me advice if I'm wrong or not for wanting a girls night out plus my brother. Thank you!
You are 18. You want to go out and have fun and that is perfectly normal and ok to do. Sit down with your boyfriend and let him know that you need some sort of independance. Let him know there is no reason to worry and that you will be faithful. Invite him along the first time so he can see how you are at the club. Maybe you both will have fun. It is important that you do stand up for yourself and not let him control you though. That will lead you to unhappiness in the future. He needs to be more mature and accept that you are your own person and it doesnt always have to be the two of you. And you also need to understand where he is coming from as well. He cares for you and doesnt want to lose you. The thought that you might find someone else may be on his mind. Reassure him that you are his and no one will take you from him. I hope you have fun good luck with the boyfriend :)
I feel overwait and I have a doctors appointment next week
And want to be healthy what should I do
Talk to your doctor about your concerns. Tell him what parts of your body you would like to improve and ask him if there is a weight loss plan specific for you.
My parents brought a dog home last night and it's so annoying! It keeps fighting with the other dog and has peed on the floor three times. Despite this, I'm the only one ticked off as everyone is like "aw look how cute the wittle puppy is". He was barking at three in the morning last night, and not just a little bit, a full-on frickin' chain of YIP YIP YIP. He knocked over my Chromebook and my mom got mad at me even though I put the charger up on the chair where I thought he wouldn't get it....I hate this dog and wish we would've gotten a kitten instead. Kittens are cute. I wish I could love or at least tolerate it though....what do I do? Just suffer until he's trained?
Make the best of the situation. If you approach this in a different way, you might actually find yourself saying "what a cute wittle puppy". Try teaching the puppy a trick like sit, shake, or my personal favorite... dont eat the dog catchers treat. That last one is very fun but takes some practice. Hold a treat and say this one is from mommmy, and let him eat it, this on is from the mail man, and let him eat it, this one is from the dog catcher, and when he goes to eat it say no dont eat from the dog catcher. Eventually he will learn I can have this trat from mommy but when you say dog catcher dont take it. It actually ends up being pretty funny when you show other people his new trick. Chances are, when you spend time with him doing fun things you will develop a bond with him and him with you. Hope this helps :)
Hi there,
You might want to address this:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=609954
Thanks,
DN.
ok I did go here I was directed to a question about annorexia. It was from 2013 so I wasnt sure if it was something that was still going on or not. But I did respond to it. Is there a reason you sent me here?
so, this is mainly for AliO22 so if anybody here can contact him/her, that would be great :). So... I already tried some stuff you suggested, she crummples up my notes, she got switched out of my classes that i had with her, and shes been pisssed now for about 4 months. Any other suggestions? Oh btw. Is anerexsia really that bad that she needs medical attention?? :( this is that oregon kid with the lady problems
Not sure why, but I got a link to this in my inbox. I am not sure about all the details on this issue or if there is still a problem since it was posted a while ago. But the one thing I do see here that I can answer is about annorexia. If this person you are talking about is still struggling with this you need to go to the persons parents or an adult that can help her get the help she needs. This is very dangerous and unhealthy.
i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
thanks in advance.
Ok first lets just throw this out there... she is not a slut. Everyone has some sort of sexual history. And lets focus on the big word here HISTORY. It happened in the past there is nothing that can change that. Im sure you have a sexual history as well. If you care about this girl, then you focus on the present time and future, not the past. If you ever expect to have any kind of future with anyone, you cant judge them by their past. If you cant accept her for who she is because of what she has done than you need to move on. And if this is the way you are going to handle relationships then Im sorry but you might as well get use to being single hun because as I said before EVERYONE has some sort of sexual history. Now to properly help you here I would need to have more information on the situation. Age would definatelty help. Because if this girl is like 15 chances are... you are not going to be together forever. Now I myself am married to a man I began dating at 15 but if we are talking statistics.. most likely you and her wont end up spending your lives together. Not if this girl is older and can maturely handle a committed relationship my advice would be to sit down and have a talk with her. Let her know how you feel about relations while she is gone and let her be honest with you as well. Listen to how she feels and express what is going on inside your head. Hopefully that will help. If you need any more help or would like to discuss this furthur dont hesitate to write back. Or if you and your girlfriend would feel better talking with help from me let me know and we will find a way for the three of us to talk and try to work out any issues you may have. I hope everything works out well good luck.