I'm Suki. I love to see the first bloom of a wild rose, to smell the salt spray of an ocean breeze, to hear the laughter of little children at play. Oh no, wait - That's somebody else.
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Sorry if this is semi long.
It seems as though my best friend is replacing me with someone else. We used to do so much together and have so many great memories and great laughs. Now, it seems like shes doing it all over again, but with a different girl. They went on a trip together and talk about it nonstop..now they are so close. It's like I'm not even there and shes starting over with someone new. It's depressing to see them together, like me and her used to be. We had a big fight not to long ago, but we made up..or so I thought. Tonight we went to a party and it was a blast, but it was like she was ignoring me. She was only hanging out with her new "best friend". I really don't understand what I should do. I miss her, but when we were having that fight, it was like I was the only one trying to keep it together. Why can't we all just be friends? Should I talk to her about it? Or should I just let her and the other girl be friends and get out of the way, then just loose the friendship we had?
Thank you so so much if you can help.
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Sometimes people change. The situation you are going to happens often and to many people within their teens. You really can't do anything to stop it. The most you can do is talk to her and tell her what you think about it. If she listens, that's good. However, if she doesn't, you just have to accept it and move on.
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PLEASE READ. need adive now. =DD
background info:13.f -- alright so i have a really good best friend who ive known since kindergarten. (amanda) she considers all the people who sit at our lunch table to be her 'best friends'. but they're all quite annoyed by her. We had a chat about her, and she never gets invited anywhere, and while i admit that i was part of those things -- i hated it. so my other best friend was having a 'party' this weekend, and amanda figured, "oh ill be invited," and when she wasnt she asked me if my other best friend still liked her.
& what was i supposed to do? If someone didnt like me id want to know. so, i told her. and she got really upset and started to cry. and she decided to corner my other best friend and ask about everything. I asked her to say i hadn't told her -- but she did.
So my other best friend did what she always does, and denied everything, the chat, parties, behind back talking -- everything. And amanda being who she is, forgave her without even an explanation.
I got back from school that day and signed online and my other best friend was reall p/oed. she kept yelling, 'ew' at me. and saying things like, 'you screwed yourself over more than you did me' and then stated she didnt want to be my friend anymore. So tell, me -- how am i screwing her over by telling someone SHE DOESNT LIKE, thats she doesnt like her?
Being in seventh grade, theres drama. its funny how many people hate my other best friend. You love her or you hate her.and up till this point, id pretty much been her follower. and then she jujst makes everything more confusing by putting amanda on her away message. why would she do that if she hates her? trust me, she hates her.
and during the im conversation, i said i was sorry a million times. because i hate getting into fights especially with this one friend. she freaked out even more. and was being quite a bitch. so of course, things work out really crappy. shes not mad at amanda, but now she says im not even her friend. i didnt go to lunch yesterday becuase i had no place to sit, so i stood out by my locker the whole time. Its almost my birthday and it'd be a sucky present to lose who ive considered one of my best friends.
Help? adive -- opinions? please. ill rate 5s for any help if you bothered reading this thing. xx (link)
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In my opinion, you were right to tell Amanda. If someone who was claiming to be my friend hated me, I sure as hell would want to know. The only reason why you shouldn't have told Amanda was if the other friend had a good reason not to tell her yet. For example, she was trying to ignore Amanda and not start problems because she didn't want a big fight happening within your group of friends. However, that is not what happened. Therefore, you were right in telling.
A similar thing has happened to me recently. A friend of mine that I used to be quite close with, whom I'll call Jill, started changing. She began to talk about many of her close friends behind their backs and secretly hated some of them. Still, she pretended to be nice to them to their face. I started to resent her because of this. She has been pretending to be friends with my closest friend, whom I'll call Nora, for a while. I didn't tell her for reasons of my own, but one day it came up in a conversation. So I told her about everything Jill had been saying. Even though if Jill finds out it was me she'd be pissed and I'd probably lose the few people I actually like, it still would be worth it. I have no regrets about the situation.
Truth be told, you shouldn't associate yourself with "friends" that talk about other friends behind their backs. Someday, it -will- happen to you.
As for the away message thing, she probably did it so that Amanda wouldn't think that she hated her.
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in school the other day me and a head of the guidance office. Got into a argument over if i was cutting A period. I told her i was in the school but didn't sign in right away because i didn't want to go to the detention room (T1).i told her i was at school in the cafe room. she keep telling me im lying to tell her the true. i started to yell and told her i know where the hell i was at. she kept saying in know what i saw but she had here times mixed up and when i told her about it she corrected here self. now at home i lost my computer right. my mom say i have to tell her im sorry for the way i acted but i feel that i didn't it in my own self defence. But this is not the only time she tryed to get me to lye or tell here were i was at. (link)
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I wouldn't tell her that I was sorry. From what you said, you had every right to get angry. Try explaining what happened to your mother. If saying your sorry is the only way to get your computer back, you have two options:
1. You can swallow your pride and go against what you know to be right and say your sorry.
2. You can just be without a computer for a while. If you help out enough around the house and shit, maybe they'll give it back to you some other way.
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i keep seeing people with these tan braided bracelets. why does everyone have them? do they mean something or something like that? thanks. (link)
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They are hemp bracelets. A lot of people wear them during the summer. It's just one of those fads.
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today was our 8th grade trip to chicago. i was told that i wasnt alowed to go. so i couldnt go and all of my friends went and then they called me on my best friends cell phone and it sounded like they were having a blast. (link)
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Nothing is wrong with you.
You probably just are upset that you couldn't go, and since everyone sounds like they are having a fun time, you feel even more upset (because you wanted to go) and possibly left out.
Many people who are very social and like being out tend to feel this way when they are the only one not going somewhere.
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does anyone know any good websites other then myspace, livejournal, xanga, advicenators ect. that are fun??
5s for anythingg (link)
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Some websites I go on often are...
imdb.com
fanfiction.net
thefanlistings.org
toccionline.com
bigmixup.com
bored.com
getamused.com
quizilla.com
blogthings.com
...And various fansites for bands/movies/TV shows that I like.
If you want to find a -lot- of new sites, go to stumbleupon.com and download it. After that, you fill out a questionnaire about your interests, and it will recommend numerous sites for you.
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My name is Januari. I am thirteen, female, and I have an issue. Now I know all about the bads of drugs and what not but can we forget about them for a second. My best guy friend Derek got high for the first time last Friday. This usually wouldn’t be a big deal because me and most of my friends smoke pot but Derek said he wanted to for the first time with me there. Though this was not the case he did meet up with me that night while riding his bike and this is what happened: He comes up to me while I'm with a group of people and I know right away he's high, they don't. I ask him if he did it with so and so etc. he answers all of my questions with a giggle, a shrug, and a direct answer. He was acting a little different but not too much until he decided to get off his bike and lay on the grass. As a joke my friend Ashley goes I bet Januari wants to lie down next to Derek which is a reasonable comment considering I've had a huge crush on Derek since the beginning of time. But regardless he answers "I wouldn't mind that." with a smirk. I don't lie down just giggle and then walk away. He gets back on his bike comes over to me and in a sing song voice says "my dearest Januari,” At this point his two friends who got high with him are saying lets go and he’s standing there singing to me. Then I notice he is giving me this meaningful look and I want more than anything to kiss him but I don't. Then our lips are about a foot apart and he shrugs. Then I shrug and this continues for about one min. with each shrug our lips get closer. Just when it's about to happen I say you better go. He doesn’t get angry or anything just giggles and starts leaving and I walk away. But as he leaves he starts yelling my name but I pretend not to hear him. The thing is I know from experience and story of ear that you don't get high the first time you smoke. So there is this possibility that he was faking it all. And also Ashley thinks he is repressing his feelings through the substance unlike when he’s sober because then he acts just friends with me especially in front of his friends. I can't tell if he likes me and I thought maybe you could input something. If you bothered to read all of this say anything and I will rate high. (link)
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People can get high the first time they smoke.
That being said, there are two possibilities:
1. Through the drugs, he was able to express his hidden feelings for you.
And now the more likely of the possibilities.
2. He was just high. Trust me, people do that kind of just when they are high.
If you must know, ask him about it when he isn't high. For now, don't think much of it.
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Is it wrong that I never tell my "best friends" anything anymore?
Whenever I do tell them something, they end up telling their other really good friend who tells someone else, who then tells other people and the next thing I know, I'm walking into Best Buy and the guy at the register asks me about what I did with who at what party a few weekends ago. True story..that really did happen. Kinda funny but I was pissed as a mofo.
Now that I don't talk to them about anything serious, they get all mad. But why should I tell them things when the rest of the world is just going to find out about it?
I don't want to loose them as friends because they're still fun and everything so I just figured okay, I'll still hang out with them but not tell them anything that I would rather keep between us. But, turns out that they don't like that.
What should I do? Just ditch them?
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It's not wrong. You don't have to tell people anything you do not want to. If they are pissed off about it, tell them why.
I hardly ever tell my friends anything "important", and they don't really make a big deal about it. They just accept that it's my personality.
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ok,well,i have BADD alergeys,(tree pollen) and i already have medicine for it,but it doesnt do the trick (its clariten Reditablets) and i have a dance on friday,i dont want to walk in with puffy eyes!!!
any other (powerful) medicines i could use? i've tried almost everything!! (link)
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I use Allegra. You can also use Zyrtec or Flonase.
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if you have sex, can a doctor tell becauee your vagina is stretched? (link)
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No, he can't. And hymen can break from things other than sex, so he can't tell by that either.
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my hair right now is a medium brown with blondeish highlights. i want to get it professionally dyed, but i don't know what color. definitley darker, maybe red, maybe brown? please give me some hints on the exact shade i should pick.
i am kind of pale and of german descent. my skin looks very ruddy against red hair that is too yellow, so no to that!
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Try a deep, dark red or a dark brown.
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16/F,This guy told me that he really likes me and I really like him too. But, the strange thing is that we're both really different and we don't have much in common. He is outgoing and is part of the whole popular crowd and mostly enjoys partying and getting drunk all the time. I'm the direct opposite of him cause I'm mostly a shy person and I'm not the crazy party type. Everyone tells me that itz cause of the whole opposites attract thing, but I can never understand why does it work that way?
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Maybe because you'd get bored of always hanging out with people exactly the same as you.
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how long does someones period usually last? i got mine like 2 days ago and i was just wondering how long it lasts for people. and how long it is between them. thank you (link)
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It happens once a month and lasts for about five days for most people. At first, your periods might be irregular.
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im 15/f and me and my best guy friend went to a party n both got a little drunk among other things. anyway we ended up having sex and since then i've found out im pregnant and i know its his and i told him about it. hes basically demanding i keep it but see i dont want to b/c its going to destroy my body, reputation,i know i wont be able to keep my gpa above a 4.0, and my mom will kill me. so should i just go behind his back or what?
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It's your body. Abort it if you want to. You are too young to be a mother anyway, in my opinion.
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hello advice givers. does anybody have the motorolla razor phone? because i kinda want it but i heard it gets bad within like 3 months, is this true? if any one that has experienced with this phone, let me know if its worth buying (link)
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I have that phone and like it.
I don't think it gets "bad", but then again, my previous cell phone was very old. I use my cell phone a lot more now that I have the razor one.
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On weekends, and such, I go out with my mother and grandmother. I'm very close to them, and they're really cool. We relate a lot even though we're all different generations. I guess I'm a lot closer to my family than most people my age.
I look at other seventeen year olds though, and they're always out with their friends, partying and stuff. I very rarely go out with my friends, because a lot of them annoy me and I have a lot more fun with my family.
But I'm starting to think I'm the only teenager who goes out with both my mother and grandmother, and I should be going out with people my age doing more "teenagery" things, as I don't want to look back on my youth and think of all the things I missed out on.
Firstly, is this pathetic? Should I be doing things with people my own age? If so, how do I meet some new people?
Be honest! I can take it. And thank you. (link)
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I don't think it is pathetic. I am eighteen and know certain people who are close to their parents. Some people who aren't end up regretting it later in life.
Personally, I am more of a staying-at-home-by-myself type of person. I enjoy it a lot more than hanging out with my friends, or others I am forced to coexist with. Everyone has different interests. Just do whatever you like doing best.
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Okay so I'm pretty thin; 5'4 and 110 lbs. I really don't like fat, at all on girls. I think girls should be thin and wear a pants size no bigger than a 3 or 5. Five is pushing it.
All my friends are thin and have nice figures as well, like me but I have a few that don't. I mean, they aren't huge but they wear like a 5 in Abercrombie pants. And those of you that shop there know that their sizes run bigger. When I see them in like a bikini (we're always at my house laying out and stuff) I want to throw up.
I don't know why I feel this way and I feel extremely bad sometimes because in my head, I want them to loose weight.
Now, I assure you that I have never said anything along those lines to them and I NEVEERR would, ever. I know I have some sort of problem with weight so I know better than so say something to them.
Does anyone have any ideas on how I can get over this?
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Well, at least you -want- to get over it. Be glad for that. This means you can still be saved. Most people who feel this was about thinness think their shallow views are perfectly fine.
There isn't really any way to definitely get over it. Perhaps you should try talking to people you are friends with who aren't obsessed with weight. There are many people who do not feel the need to conform to society's standards of the ideal person.
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is it true that guys are only your friends if they are some what attracted to you .. like theyd only be your friend if they like your of if they think your hot is that true? - 15/f (link)
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No, it isn't.
I have many male friends and that is not the case.
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Im a 16 year old boy who doesn't want sex....at all i have a girlfriend and i guess she expects me to be perverted maybe because her other boy friends were. Im a virgin shes not.She be offering me oral sex but i don't want it.then she calls me gay and all these other homo names.
I was raised on not being able to see people kiss at all if i said sex i was slapped,and i never seen a womans vagina ((Porn)) until i was 15 and I gagged when i seen it.Is this normal? am I gay? (link)
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You're not gay. That's just your upbringing.
Tell your girlfriend how you feel. If she can't understand, she isn't worth being with. She might just be kidding by calling you gay and shit like that. If it really bothers you, ask her.
Or maybe you just aren't into that kind of sex. Certain people have other types of fetishes and aren't turned on by the thought of normal sex.
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would you consider "to hell with it" to be vulgar? as in cursing? (link)
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I wouldn't.
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