Allow me to introduce myself, I am the Knight Owl. Or, as my friends know me, Sean. I can't guarantee that I can solve your problems. But the majority of the people I know seem to come to me for advice. I listen to people very well, and I assess. Sometimes I can offer suggestions, other times there are no suggestions. But I promise to try my best. Remember, everyone has problems, I know I do. All you need to do is ask. I invite you, to talk to me on AIM or Yahoo, if you want to ask me privately for some advice.
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I'm thirteen and I want my navel pierced. My Grandparents [who were really strict with my Mom and her sister], are even okay with it. Both of my parents say that I'm too young. But my Dad doesn't live with me, so my Mom can still say yes. I asked her why she wouldn't let me get it done and she said 1] that she thinks if I got that done I would want my nipples done or something crazy like that. 2] she thinks I would walk around with belly shirts or something. I told her I'm not a whore like that and that I wouldn't do either of those. And my question to you is do you think I'm too young? And what do you think I should do to convince my Mom? (link)
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The problem with that is, that your mother has all final say. Frankly, I think 13 is the perfect age to get a naval piercing, but that's just me. You could try a few methods of persuasion, for instance, bargaining, instead of jumping to the defensive when she mentions that you would want your nipples pierced or that you're going to be wearing belly shirts all the time, tell her that you just won't. Promise her that if you get this piercing that the nipples will stay untouched, and that you'll only wear a belly shirt once in a great while. There are other tactics, but they're slightly more extreme, if this doesn't work come back and talk to me.
-The Knight Owl
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 2 years now and i love him soo much. Well we got into a REALLY REALLY big fight, and he said really mean things to me so I broke up with him and when he came to my house the next day we talked and he told me that he thinks alot different of me now and he made it pretty clear that he didn't want to get back together with me at all. I didn't mean to break up with him and I want him back, the problem is, he doesn't want me back. My heart is broken and I'm really lonely. He was my life, I was with him EVERY SINGLE DAY. I feel lonely and I don't have anyone I can really talk to about it. What should I do? How can I get him to want me back as much as I want him back? (link)
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This hurts to say, but you can't. It sucks I know, but you can't change the way someone feels. I can't say how long its gonna hurt, but on average it lasts about two weeks. My advice, move on. Stay single for a bit, re-evaluate your ideas of dating, because spending every single day with someone for two years is not healthy. Part of a relationship is appreciating the time you spend together after spending time apart. I'd keep yourself available for about a month, if he doesn't change his mind by then, he's probably not going to. My heart goes out to you, and I'm sorry it ended that way. Good luck, hope that I've helped.
-The Knight Owl
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here it is quick and dirty version.
i met a girl on an internship. we both are in the same field. we have alot in common besides our profession. there was an instant attraction when we met. she had a boyfriend for 5 years and dumped him after we kissed for the first time. we got to know each other a it before our internships were over, she came back to see me and we were intimate. now we she each other occasionally but we live in different states. i am moving to arizona for a traveling job which will last three months. i would be away from her for 3 months and our relationshiop is just starting out. she is more uncomfortable about it than i am. i really like it out there but she is everything that i have ever wanted and if her and i were to end up together i would have to move back to her city. she just got out of a 5 year relationship and i am ready to get into a long term relationship so i don't know if i should move to her state to try things out because she may not want a relationship like that. i am worried about being the transition guy. she has a problem with trust because of her dad having an affair on her mom but i would not doing anything to hurt her. any suggestions on if i should second guess moving to her city and stay where i like it and how can i convince her to trust me? asically if i don't move to her city it would never work. (link)
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Ooooh, this is quite the catch 22. All right, here's my advice, and take this to heart. You seem like a hopeless romantic, its okay, you're not alone. If your feelings for this girl are as strong as you claim, then here's EXACTLY what you need to do. Before you leave for Arizona, you need to have the heart attack conversation. Most of the time, this conversation is started by the woman, and gives a guy something close to a heart attack. Hense, its name. The conversation always starts with the same phrase, or something VERY close to it, "Where do you see this relationship going?" This, in a sense, will get her to think "Is he really the man I want to spend the rest of my life with?" You should be prepared to answer the same question, as it will be turned around on you at some point in the conversation. Now, onto the results. If it turns out that she feels this relationship won't work, then hooray, you get to move to Arizona after all. If however, you both feel this relationship can get serious and lead to something like a family, then I think you should put off the job in Arizona, find a job in her city and take it from there. It shouldn't be that hard to find a job somewhere else in the country, her city, or where ever if in fact it does not work out. But cross that bridge when you come to it. On behalf of all hopeless romantics, I wish you luck.
-The Knight Owl
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Okay...this is gonna be kinda long, but i really really need help. There's this guy I know, Alan...and he moved here from Utah, and I had a crush on him when i first met him, we go to the same church. well, i was real close to telling him, but one of my BEST friends took him. Then dumped him 8 months later. my mom invited him and his sister to come with us to Great America, a few months later. well, i finally got the guts and told him, and he told me he didn't really really like my friend like he does me. and we held hands on the ride home, and I'm only 13, and our religion says we arn't allowd to have a relationship until we're 16. and so i was really nvervous, esp. since his little sis (10 y/o) was sitting right next to us. It's been a year, and he keeps trying to hold my hand and kiss me an stuff, and i really don't think it's appropriate, and I've told him time and time again, that i think it's not right, and that we should wait a few years. well, he won't stop, and now we're in highschool. I'm really uncomferatable around him, esp. when we're alone. How do i get it through his head, i've tried just ignoring him, and i've tried talking to him. I dont' know what to do. His family moves around a lot, and i really don't want to let him down, cuz i know his past, it's been really rough for him. what do i do, I don't know how long he'll be living here. so I dont' know if I should just let him go, and tell him i don't like him, or just to put up with it until he moves again.
PLEASE HELP, i Rate really really High!
Signed,
Confused and stressed (link)
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Well, you have to ask yourself, how important is religion? I know that in some christian sects or denominations, everything is a sin, dancing, movies, music, holidays, and that is just plain ridiculous. But in the end it all comes down to one's personal beliefs. What I believe may not be right for someone else. You say your religion discourages dating before 16, which is unnatural, but okay. You say you like him, which IS natural. Its basic instinct, and a part of the human development to become attracted to a potential mate. I'm not out to shatter anyone's religion, I'm just trying to tell you that religion does not have ALL the answers. 99 times out of 100, if you ask God for guidance you won't get a reply, this is what I've experienced, however its all faith. So in the matter of how you should deal with it, ask yourself, how strong is your faith, and how important is your religion to you? If you find that your faith is more important than this guy that you have a crush on then tell him flat out, no, you are sworn to uphold your values that are issued by your church. However, if you do some soul searching, and find that your religion just doesn't make sense, then enjoy your new boyfriend. I'm sorry if I shook your religious pillar, but sometimes it has to be done. And I hope to my gods, that I helped you with your issues regarding this boy, and your God.
-The Knight Owl
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has anyone here graduated early, or is trying to? see, last year i took a class most people in my grade didn't, and will take next year. so i'm already ahead in math for most people in my grade, so i don't have to double up. but i'm thinking of doubling up on a lot of stuff. i might take 2 maths next year as a freshman (geometry and algebra 2) and whatever i need to do to graduate early. so, how do i go about doing this? i'm really not sure. and if you have, how much earlier did you graduate? is it really hard?
the reason i want to graduate early is because i moved here a few years ago (from Florida to Maine) and I really really hate it here. I've tried to like it, and it didn't work. And while you're young, you're supposed to really enjoy it, and this is supposed to be the best time of my life, supposably. But it hasn't been since I moved here. So I just need to get out of here asap. Like, I'd rather go to high school back down in Florida, but my parents obviously aren't going to move back down there just because I want to, so I have to wait until I'm out of high school and everything, I guess. Yeah, help?
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This question made me laugh, because clearly you're intelligent, but you're also a creature of habit. What I see is that you hate Maine because its not Florida, they're polar opposites. If you graduate from HS early, then what? Go to college at age 16? That's difficult, but do able. You have no patience either, which is a problem. You need to learn that, you need to accept some things for what they are, and they can not be changed yet. There are solutions to the school problem, with your intelligence, it would be easy for you to go to a private boarding school for gifted youths. I'd look into one in MA, we have a great education system here. Worth a look. Hope I've helped.
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what is a next bird or next girl i hear lads talking about it all the time they go oh i went with a next bird last night or a next girl it really anoys me cause i dont no what it is but i dont want to ask them incase i end up looking stupid they just come out with things like my mate wen of with a next girl does anyone no what it is or what it means (link)
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I'm sorry, but I have no idea. I think you have to ask them what they're talking about. After all, there is no context from which to piece it together. Sometime the only way to learn is to ask.
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(fourteen//female) ive been friends with a guy, Chad (also fourteen), for a bit over 2 years. in 7th grade i helped him get to know my friend b/c he liked her and they went out in 8th grade and brokeup about a week ago. anyway, since july, we havent spoken much. he changed A LOT. i didnt really agree with some of the girls he wanted to get involved with && he seemed to understand. now he likes this other girl and he is hiding it from me even tho i told him i would be supportive of whatever he wants to do. (i found evidence...he asked a question on here about it and everyone knows about it). he acts different too...i dont know whats up? we are/were close && could talk about anything but now we dont talk and when we do its light conversation. no, i dont like him and no, i didnt kiss him lol. id really like to rekindle the friendship we had. any advice is great! (link)
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*sigh* Too many times have I seen this exact thing, people change with time. I would bring this to his attention, let him know that you feel you two are drifting apart as friends. I would ask to go do something like bowling, playing pool, or what ever it is you fourteen year olds do. I realize there's not a heck of a lot of freedom at that age. But try and reach out to him. He may feel that you're trying to sabotage his chances at happiness because you're friends with his ex, and since then you haven't approved of the girls he's shown interest in. Perhaps. Good luck and I hope I've been at least a little helpful.
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I think I'm starting to like men, I don't know what to do. Should I just admit I like men? Have you ever gone through anything similar? (link)
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This question made me laugh just a bit. Speaking from a scientific stand point, one doesn't just START to like men, the desires and urges have always been there. So if you like men, then I suggest you do a little soul searching, maybe go on a date with a guy and see if its what you like, but also try dating women too. Don't exclude one or the other until you're sure. As to revealing your desires, I'd say its a matter of comfort. If you're comfortable with your friends, and know they'll never betray you, then by all means be proud of being bi, gay, or straight, which ever the case may be. Hope this has been helpful.
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Hey Sean,
I was just wondering what I should do about my love life. I'm a major flirt and I'm not sure if I should be with my boyfriend of 9 months. Please help. (link)
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It depends on how jealous your boyfriend is. For someone like me, I don't mind a girl friend harmlessly flirting with another guy. But if this is who you are, and he can't accept that, then it would be wise to break it off before anyone gets REALLY hurt.
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Hey Sean I've got a question for ya...what do you do when the friend you met in college is never on or you're never on because of work to try to arrange a time to hang out when you work in Brockton (link)
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I would keep trying until they agree. Stalk them!
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I don`t know if u check this anymore, but I left all my problems in a way to run into a major one. My girlfriend of nine months left me and I`ve thought of suicide since as mt friends are mostly gone and I rarely see them. No one knows I`m thinking this, but if I wasn`t scared of death I`d have killed myself long ago. I`ve basically given up on life and don`t know what to do? (link)
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Well first of all, suicide is never the answer. I know death seems like a good escape but you have to realize that life can't stay bad forever. Take me for example, I was in love with a woman who would never possibly love me. I had no job, my friends were slowing disappearing as they began leaving for college. And yes I too considered ending my own life, but I decided against it, and things got better. I got over my troubles and made new friends. There's a saying I use in hard times, "When you've hit rock bottom, there's no place left to go but up. But you have to start climbing." I hope that this has been helpful, and remember that I'm still rooting for you. Good luck. Feel free to write anytime, I do check this column.
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I want to duke guys in the butt. I heard you had experience with it. is it fun? Do you like to duke em? (link)
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Whether I like it or not is irrelevant. But to answer your question, yes you are gay. A FLAMING HOMO! Good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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i'm all alone i don't know what to do...i feel so unwanted so should i just kill myself off...? (link)
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Well, that's an odd sort of question. Truthfully, no you shouldn't. Loneliness is never a reason to commit suicide. Really, you should never commit suicide, euthenasia is a different story, and then its only if you're guaranteed to die painfully and slowly. So to answer your question, no, do not kill yourself off. Please and thank you. Good luck, I feel for you, life is tough.
-The Knight Owl
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You gave such good advice for me last time, I needed to ask you another question!! I posted it in the public answers but I needed help from a guy again! lol
Ok, you know already that I go to an all girls school, so I don't know any guys. Well, the other day I went to a restaurant and just started smiling at this guy. (What?? He was really cute!!) Then, supposedly, when we left my mom told me he gave me a look like "Why the heck are you staring at me?" I didn't notice it, but my mom did! Well, I was smiling at him! I thought guys like that!! Right??? Or did I som something wrong again? I think I must've scared the crap out of the poor boy. (link)
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It all depends on the kind of smile you give a person. What kind of smile were you giving him, its possible that your smile looks like a psycho smile. But the likelihood of this situation is this, you were in a public place smiling at a person that you didn't know and didn't know you. He probably thought it was just a liiiiiittle creepy. ya dig? So try this instead, go to a place that is designed for people to meet people, like a club. But picking up guys at a Jack in the Box is a definate no no. Good luck.
-The Knight Owl
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can you do me a favor, it's silly and kinda boyish, but i need a person i can trust a friend that's knows me and trusts me, a friend that has seen both my good and bad sides, i need a friend who is not afraid of me nor afaird to make fun of me and push me that extra whatever....and your name kept popping in my head...well my favor is i need someone to train me you know keep me motavated while i'm ( or you and me) worked out so reply to this when you read it...if you don't want to i understand...talk to you soon...
Your Brother from a Different mother,
Benny (link)
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If you have the equipment or the gym membership, I would be happy to. I'm going to pump you up little girly man. Peace brother
The Knight Owl
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alright that is a bit far, what about like across state relationships? do you think that's a bit far? now your thinking TEXAS yeah that's far i'm from Boston so think mass. thanks more bunches ~GraveDigger (link)
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Okay, if you're from Mass (GO SOX!) then I'd say the farthest I would go is two time zones away. If the person you have a relationship is only at most three states away, then THAT is very doable, but it takes a determination that you might not have the time or patience to give. Good luck, I hope this helped.
-The Knight Owl
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long distance relationships...
how far is it a bad idea to date the other person?
thanks a bunch...~GraveDigger (link)
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Good question, personally I don't like to place value on a relationship. Love can not be measured in distance, if you love the person then go for it. Whether or not the relationship works is entirely up to the two people dating. If this doesn't satisfy you, then I'd say opposite sides of the country is a bit too far. Hope I helped.
-The Knight Owl
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Hi TheKnightOwl. I am a 16 year old girl. I need your help with something, being as though you're a guy. I go to a girls school, so it's hard to meet guys. Don't have my licence, so it's hard to get anywhere. I am very pretty, a little overweight, and really want a boyfriend. It seems if I'm out in public, boys want nothing to do with me and I don't understand why. I am a little shy, but I would think a guy could come right up to a girl. How can I get a guy to talk to me, and why don't they ever talk to me? Thanks. (link)
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Hmmmm, good question, but men are not always as confident as they seem on T.V. guys do not always walk up to some random girl and start a conversation. Sorry about the all girls school. I as a guy would love to go to an all girls school. Sorry, poor humor. Hmm, if your friends know any guys that they think you might like try that option. Go to parties, go to the local hangout. Around here we have the bowling alley, and cosmic bowling every saturday. Yahoo personals works sometimes. Aside from that I can't offer too much advice for someone in your situation. Sorry, but good luck I hope it works out. Oh be sure to wear clothes that show off your feminine beauty. Don't dress like a slut, but wear something that will draw some good attention to you.
-The Knight Owl
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hmm where to start.. well gee its fair time where im at and last year i was with this guy.. lets say his name is * steve.. well i had my first kiss with steve there.. and wow it was all so good n sstuff anyway things ended and min en his friendship faded.. but then we hooked back up .. he cheated on me once.. but i got over it and me n him always messed around.. but really n the end i was being used.. and i fell n love with him uh.. and then like we got n this fight and didnt talk 4 months.. well eventually me n him became friends again .. and we messed around again.. but c he uses alot of girls and alot of my friends have been all depressed over him.. and its so bad i mean i got used to b his friend but then he kisses me n it all changes he so perfect for me he just doesnt c it i love him so much and friendship meant alot to me.. but c me n my friends had this thing kall'd game plan where i was supposed to lead him on then leave em haha yeah it was so mean so i didnt do it but he found out about it anyways and now he hates me (again) and i saw him tonyt at tha fair and he hates me he told me all nyt and to fuck off and he wuldnt ride anything with me and kept sayin shyt and weve been thru so much i just wish i culd tell him .. i juss need some advice =/.. thanx (link)
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Wow.... That is definately so..... wow. Okay if you want advice then here it is. It sounds like you guys have got this messed thing going on, so just forget about him. I'm not a psychologist (yet) but it sounds like he has some issues. You're just going to get hurt, and its going to suck. You could call him, or email him. But if you REALLY want to explain to him that you weren't going to go through with the "game plan" then have one of your friends email him. But if I were you, I wouldn't even give him the time of day. Hope I could help you.
-The Knight Owl
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Hey is it normal to want to take over the world and killing off a few hunred million people?...if not then is it normal to want a person to die or break up with someone so that someone will get closer to you?...if not then i ask the first question again...thank you for your time...~The Last King (link)
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Yes and yes, no.
-The Knight Owl
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