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Q: okay so my boyfriend does dip and i really hate it..ive told him this before and his last girlfriend even broke up with him because of it..you guys are probally gonna say if he loved you enough he would stop and you should end things but i really really like him and i dont want us to break up..how can i help him quit..or atleast convice him too?

Ask him to quit as a Christmas present because it means a lot to you and you care about his health. Health is the biggest gift of all.

Q: Does anyone know who sings the song "Jump On It"?

They play it at alot of bar/bat mitzvahs, it's the left,right, front, back, left, right kind of dance if you know what i mean.

Who is it by?

The one your talking about is called The Apache and is by the Sugar Hill Gang.

Q: Can anyone help me and im a guy.

Girls talk about the randommest things sometimes so mainly just let it go with the flow. Ask questions about hobbies, food, weird teachers, and whatever you might find yourslef talking to your friends about randomly. If she's into sports ask her if she follows any teams or if she plays a sport. I like talking to guys about sports because I don't always understand everything. Maybe explain something she doesn't understand.

Q: Ok so I JUST turned 13 and I want to wear makeup. But I was wondering how can I put on makeup so it actually looks pretty, not slutty or trashy lol? I want to wear makeup for back to school. What kind of makeup should I wear and how should I wear it? I have light brown medium length hair with highlights in it from going in the sun, I have gray-ish blue eyes, and pale skin. Please tell me good makeup ideas!

I have the same color eyes! Use a charcoal colored pencil and super lightly line the bottom of your eyes. To do this, sharpen the pencil and draw over the bottom lashline. Go right on top of your eyelashes. Start from the outside of your eye and work in. Use a little bit of mascara. NOT TOO MUCH!!For eyeshadow, maybe use a goldish color or blue. I wouldn't use much else. Maybe a little powder and some lip gloss.

Q: Female. I used to have a lot of best guy friends, we had this huge group. One guy got all of them in to drugs, now they spend their days getting stoned. They're so perverted now, they expect since I have big boobs that I`ll do things with them. I've fallen really hard for one guy, he's totally sweet and respects me, but I hear from everybody he does drugs too and he's not a virgin. (Keep in mind, were 13)

What should I do? Is this guy totally unsafe and wrong to be around?

Wow! You're body and your self esteem don't deserve to be subjected to this! They're ruining their childhood and chances are they will try to get you too as well! I would definitely not hang around these people. You'll find yourself in tough situations and it will be difficult for you. They don't even respect you for who you are! Find friends that treat their friends with as much respect as they treat their bodies.

This guy that you've fallen for is not a good idea at all. How can you trust everything he is saying if he could be on drugs?? And you're right, he could be dangerous to you.

Good luck and make the right choice!

Q: What are the best excersizes for your inner and outer thighs without equipment of any kind? I'd like to get in the best shape possible before Halloween. Thanks!

Sit on the side with one leg on top of the other. Bring the leg on top back about 3 inches from your body. Then lift your leg up slowly. When bringing it down, don't go down all the way. You got yourself some leg lifts! They work great for your outer thighs. Just do 25 at a time once or twice a day!

For inner thighs try doing squats. I'm a dancer, so believe me when i say they work!!

Its also great to go running just to get your whole body in shape!!

Good luck!

Q: So I have these two friends, Shelly and Gina. You see, when I hang out with Shelly and Gina separately, we have alot of fun and there's no problems. But, whenever I hang out with them together, like all 3 of us, i totally feel like the third wheel and they leave me out. They're always walking away without me, hugging each other, and telling each other they're each others` best friends. Sometimes it feels like they don't even know I'm there! For example, we were shopping at Old Navy awhile ago and they kept trying on the same things and telling each other what to wear, but when I said I was gonna try something on or I liked something, they either totally ignored me or walked away. Also, people always seem to associate them with each other and invite both of them to things, but not me. I'm pretty sure Shelly is doing it purposely, but Gina probably isn't. This is really making me feel bad. And it's not like I can move on and hang out with my other friends, or hang out with them separetely all the time, because i take dance with them 5 days a week and that means we're all together ALL year long. Any advice on what I should do? Thanks.

You could make small comments like when they walk away go "hellooo? what about meee??". Or when they try on outfits just quietly ask them if it looks cute on you or if they have any suggestions. Make small comments to make them remember you're there!!

Q: If god loves every one then why dose it seem that being gay is wrong. im a big gay rights person and i dont understand how in most religions its like one of the bigest sins

God wanted relationships to be man to woman from the beginning of time. He created Adam to be with Eve, end of story. Gay and lesbian relationships are breaking the standards that God has created, so that is why religions have such a problem with it.

I'm not against Gay relationships, but when you think of it in religious terms it kind of makes sense why they would make it such a sin.

Q: i've been having dreams about this boy. he's not a stranger to me, but he's not a good friend either. the last time i saw him was sunday, july 30th at a party. i would say that i'm attractive to him, but not in a crush kind of way. that night, i had a dream about him. it was about me and him kissing in my room. i thought that i dreamt that because i love seeing him and that, like i said, am attractive to him. then, two days after that, august 1st, i had another dream about him. this was about us seeing each other in a store, i hugged him, he asked me out, then i gave him a peck in the cheek. it was more detailed, but i don't really wanna make it too detailed. i told my good friend about this, and she thought that it was weird that i was having dreams about him and that maybe i'm starting to like him. well, since sunday, i've been paying attention to most things that makes me think of him. i think the hug from sunday gave me this feeling. before i left the party, we hugged. it felt really good, and i wanted to keep holding on to him. since then, all this has been happening. i still don't think i have a crush on him, but it seems like i do. i think maybe it's just beginning? he's really cute, with dimples to die for! he's funny, and he's pretty smart. everything i would want. i don't know if i'm starting to like him, but if i am, i don't wanna get too attached, because i don't think i'm his "type", although i'm not so sure. but it just doesn't seem like something he would do - ask me out.

i was wondering what you think about it? what should i do and stuff?

Sometimes dreams mean things and sometimes they don't. In your case, these dreams are making you like him. Your mind is forming pictures of unreal events. Maybe the guy you see in your dreams isn't what he is in real life at all.

Its hard to stop liking a guy once you've started, but in time I promise you you'll realize that he's just a dream. If you REALLY don't want to get attached to him, then I suggest avoiding him. The more you see him the more unreal dreams you'll have!

Q: Hi.
i really need advice. Me and my sister always argue and sometimes it gets phisical, like punching. I really try not to argue with her and it doesn't work. I've tried talking to her about it and that doesn't work. I really want to stop arguing with her. I've talked to my parents about it and they say to ignore it, but i tell them that doesn't work but they won't listen. What do i dso to try and stop??
Thanks sooooo much
-YOLIV

Me and my sister don't get along either. Except we abuse eachother verbally which is much worse. Whenever she tries to start something just turn around. Face a wall. Grit your teeth real hard and count to 10. It helps just to get yourself back together mentally.

Just try to be mature about it. That was my motivation. All my family members would make comments about how immature I was being and that pissed me off. I wanted to act like an adult and be treated like one.

Good luck, babe!

Q: My friend and I were talking the other day and the subject of food and weight came up. She says one way she looses weightand keeps it off and still gets to 'taste' whatever she wants is by chewing up the food and then spitting it out. Now, she doesnt do this for everything, just like chocolate and candy ect. Not like apples and everything healthy...but I was wondering if this really works, or does the fatty stuff still get in your body. Thanks.

I wouldn't think that the fatty substances would get in your body. Maybe just the sugar. But why would you want to do that to yourself?? That's torture! I don't suggest you try it. In fact, not eating substantial food may make you bloat and appear fatter. Sounds like an interesting concept, but I'd stick to eating normally!

Q: i have like white lil lines on my butt on the side of my butt cheeks..i guess stretch marks they call them but i dont know from what..im very atheltic and i run eevryday...i am 5'4 and 110 pounds if that says anything..and i dont know what its from..i feel selfconcious wen im in a bathing suit because of that..help me out

Stretch marks occur when you grow, gain weight, or loose weight quickly. They sell creams to help, but they take months to work unfortunately.

Try wearing shorts over your bathing suit bottoms or buy board shorts. Bathing suit season is almost over, so you should be fine. They'll go away in a couple months i promise.

Q: hey,

i have a question that has been stumping me for a while now and i was hoping you all could possibly help me on my lil situation. so here is the question

when you loose a friend who was really close to you a friend that called you a name and you called them one as in nicknames and it seems that they have forgotten you but you know you will never forget them and you will do everything to try to have the realtionship even if it is a friend that is a minor
how would you come about trying to regain a friendship of the past???

like how would you attempt to get a friendship with a person of the past. even if you mesed up in the past but have changed now. how can you try to find somthing in that person for them to notice you???

if you can answer anything on this then please do. any help is greatfully thanked.

you are all amazing people and god bless to you all.

monn

Why don't you call and tell this friend that something has been bothering you? Tell him/her that you've changed and you don't understand why such a strong friendship was broken over one silly mistake. Be sincere.

This same thing happened to my best friend. She walked up to the girl and confronted her about it and asked to be friends again. She no. She kinda walked into it too fast.

Maybe if you see him/her around town or in the halls at school flash a smile and make him/her think about why you did it. Ease into it. Then once you know that this person noticed you, confront them or call them up. If I were you I would call on the phone. It's just easier that way. Plus you can write down what you want to say and have it in front of you!

Q: so i am a cheerleader for the past 3 years and i have knee problems. i wear a brace to al lmy practice and games..& when i dont it hurts A LOT well.. i didnt war it to practice for 2 hours of straight dancing and then the following day walked around a fair for hours.. my question is.. it hurts extreemly bad now becuase i was stupid. is there anything i could do? i put tlike this thing called "Rapid Relief" and i put it int eh microwave and it worked for a little.. i also put my leg in my ice cold pool for a little.. nothing is working. it s20 till 11 so going to store is impossible till tomarrow .. i cant sit.. lay down.. stand.. anything hurts.. i am just misserbale. please help!.

I have knee problems too. Iwent to an orthopedic doctor and he suggested physical therapy. If your problems have been going on for a long time, it might be a good idea!! If this injury JUST happened

-keep wearing the brace
-keep icing it
-once you see an improvement then use a heating pad

Q: I start school soon and I have the hardest time falling asleep. I've gone to a doctor and they told me to change some things like eating before I go to bed, have alittle light & no lights in my room, music on in the background & no music and other stuff. I have tried everything and I just can't fall asleep. I asked about sleeping pills and the doctor yelled at me and told me I don't need them because it just my eating habits and distractions. I know it's not because I've tried changing different things everynight or after along period. Most of the time when I'm lying in bed I think about the day and what tomorrow will be like, and other stuff. I have a journal because that way I can get my mind off of things. I'm not always stressed out about school so I don't know whats wrong! :( Do you know what might be wrong? Is there over the counter sleeping pills I can get? & What are some things that might help me fall asleep? Thanks. :)

I had the same problem as you a while back. My parents took me to a therapist which helped SO much. Maybe ask your doctor for one he/she recommends. Usually the problems related to loss of sleep aren't physical, so the therapist will work through the mental variables of it.

To help you fall asleep now try...

-breathing exercises to clear your mind
-thinking up things in your head you want to happen (i.e romances, getting a job, being couragous)
-drink tea its so calming!!
-moving your bed to a place the makes you comfy
- pulling the sheets all the way over your head to block out distractions

Good luck! Any further advice can be given if you need!!

Q: Tomorrow is my first day of school and i'm really excited. But I have to get up at 5 in the morning to get ready and leave for the bus stop at 6:20ish. Problem is my shower is broken and we can't get the repairs done till 10 in the morning tomorrow.. ughh. My mom is letting me use her shower in her room but I can't until her boyfriend gets up 5:45! I really can't wait that long because it takes me an hour to get ready. It's not like I can't do some things before I take a shower like putting on my make-up, clean my ears, and stuff. I asked my mom nicely if she could get up at 5 and so could her boyfriend just for one day. And it's only a half hour difference. She started flipping out on me too. Do you honestly think I'm being selfish? and how can I convince her?, I've already cleaned the whole house! thanks for advice.

Make sure you address that it is the first day of school and that her boyfriend waking up earlier is only a temporary solution.

Another suggestion...

Why don't you take your showers at night? You can blow dry your hair and straighten it and sleep on it. Hair always looks better after its been slept on. Your makeup can be done in the morning. I've done this for 2 years and its worked out great for me!!

Q: Ok so i am taking school pictures tomorrow and i have blue eyes blonde hair and i want to wear a shirt that will make my eyes like really blue! would wearing a blue shirt make my eyes look more blue? or if not what color???
thanks a ton

I have blue eyes too and I was always told that gold makes blue eyes stand out.

Perriwinkle and grey also look nice.

Q: I'm going on a date with this guy and I don't know what to do at the end of the date. You know nothing kiss on cheek, lips etc etc. Im 13

A hug is always a good place to start :D

Q: What don't guys understand about girls?!?!

I dont understand guys either, but I just want to know what they dont understand about us.

thanks!!

Emotions, moodswings,

I don't even understand me sometimes!!

Q: Everyone says American Eagle is the best store, but personally I hate it. All of their t-shirts are basically the same things with different words and colors. A lot of their clothes are really bad quality. I bought a cami from there once and I only wore it once and a HUGE hole ripped and I wasn't even running around or anything. It may be a little cheaper then Abercrombie & Fitch or Hollister, but atleast if you buy something from A&F or Hollister, you know the clothes are going to last. American Eagle's clothes arn't the most attractive things, and they look cheap. What do you think about AE?

Everyone has different opinions about different stores! Its what makes the world go round!

I don't agree with your statement completely
- I've never had a problem with the quality of AE clothes. Their t-shirt last for years without getting pilly! On the other hand, shirts from A&F and Hollister are paper thin and after a few washes, little pills show up.

-Yes, the graphics on the shirts in AE may be similar, but so are the shirts at Hollister. All of the shirts basically have some sort of beach scene that says "Hollister CO" on it. If you look around A&F you'll also see they use similar fonts and have a certain vintage feel to them. The reason stores keep similar designs is so they have a "vibe" or style to the store. All stores do this, so its not AE's fault.

I personally like AE because its different from Hollister and A&F. EVERYONE wears polos and henley tops from these two stores. The clothes at AE are more unique and preppy at the same time. Some of it does look shitty, but usually its a fresh new design! Everyone has an opinion about their style or the clothes you want to wear and thats just fine! Great question!!