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me and my sister never get along
Hi.
i really need advice. Me and my sister always argue and sometimes it gets phisical, like punching. I really try not to argue with her and it doesn't work. I've tried talking to her about it and that doesn't work. I really want to stop arguing with her. I've talked to my parents about it and they say to ignore it, but i tell them that doesn't work but they won't listen. What do i dso to try and stop??
Thanks sooooo much
-YOLIV
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That happens rather a lot in families. I understand that you have already tried to talk to her but can you try again at a point when you're not fighting, tell her that you don't want to fight anymore and try to work out some sort of code for when one of you wants out of the conflict.
There are so many reasons for siblings to fight, jealousy, being too alike, too different, wanting to be top dog etc. The good news is that this fighting should help you in years to come to assert yourself with others and not be taken advantage of.
I understand that it's frustrating that your parents are not getting involved but there's really not a whole lot they can do unless they actually witness violence. Then they could and should step in.
Can you just walk away when the fights start and tell your sister that you just don't want to go down that route again?
The chances are that when you have grown up and moved away from home you both will get on a lot better, it is very difficult to share a space with someone when you had no choice in it. As you get older, you both will start to go your own ways anyway and will see less of each other.
I know it's not much but I hope it helps and I wish you the best of luck.
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First of all, if it gets physical, get out of the way and just lock yourself in your room. Talk to your parents calmly and in details. Don't say my sisters beating me up and she's being mean. Say Mom, I really don't want to argue with her but I don't know how. I've tried to ignore her and that doesn't work. I've tried and talk to her but she won't listen. And if they still tell you to ignore her,have you, your sister, mom, and dad sit in one room. Sit across from your sister and look her in the eye and talk to her. Don't yell, don't scream, just talk to her calmly. Set the rules up in the first place: You will take turns talking. No interrupting. Have to listen. No yelling, shouting,etc. Get the rules? Then take turns talking and listen to one another. If that won't work and/or your parents don't do anything about it, go to your guidiance counsler. Hope everything works out well.
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Me and my sister don't get along either. Except we abuse eachother verbally which is much worse. Whenever she tries to start something just turn around. Face a wall. Grit your teeth real hard and count to 10. It helps just to get yourself back together mentally.
Just try to be mature about it. That was my motivation. All my family members would make comments about how immature I was being and that pissed me off. I wanted to act like an adult and be treated like one.
Good luck, babe!
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Well i was the same way when i was little. Now me and my sister are 15/18 and we get along fine. When you get older you will to, im sure. Its just a phase.
Jess
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As you guys get older you'll get along much better. I promise.
But that doesn't help you much right now.
For the time being, just walk away. If a fight starts, leave the room, turn up the tv, find something that you can tune her out with.
Are you fighting about one thing in particular? Like borrowing clothes, or hogging the tv or something. Whatever it is, try and call a truce about it. She can borrow your stuff as long as extends the same courtesy to you etc.
You'll also fight less if you guys spend more time together not fighting. Shopping, watching a movie, playing a board game, whatever, something you can both agree on.
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