I enjoy doing what I can to help people with their problems, whatever they may be.
As an outside viewer, I also try to put myself in your shoes, and that way I can look at the situation from both sides.
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Okay so, I'm a virgin and I'm 15. I'm not planning on having sex for a really long time, my period is the 6th of every month and today is the 28th! My boyfriend came over and we were "dry humping" ? He wanted an orgasm so i was like Okay? I was in my underwear, he got one and like sperm? got all over my underwear and soaked through, I ran into the shower and scrubbed my "area" could I be pregnant?! PLEASE ANSWER! I'm so scared ): If my hymen hasn't broken, could there be a chance I'm not?! (link)
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As long as the semen did not go into your vagina, you should be fine. To relieve your worries & make sure, you can go to the store and get yourself a pregnancy test. If you have not gotten your period yet, it could be do to stress or simply because that just happens sometimes.
So to answer your question, there is definitely a chance that you are not. To not risk this again, remember to go the same route and make your boy wear a condom, or at least to turn away from your "area" when he gets an orgasm.
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Now I know that everyone has their own personal preferencese when it comes to dating. My question though is, is there something wrong with a 17 year old guy going out with a 15 year old girl? I mean do you see anything wrong with it? I know i'm going to get many different answers and that's what i'm hoping for. There's just this guy that I really like, but he said that youngest he would date is 16, and i'm 15, and he's 17. He's a really great guy. We both have a lot in common, and are a lot alike. I'm not saying that because of these things that we belong together or something I just want to know everyones ideas on this. Any and all answers are greatly appreciated, and thank you in advance. (link)
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Well, my boyfriend is 2 years and about 3 months older than I am. We have been together for a year & a half. So obviously from my experience, I would say that I don't see anything wrong with the situation. But all people are different and have different opinions. When you are older, the age differences will be more lenient in most cases. Maybe there is more to what this guy is telling you. Him saying that could be a possible coverup of whatever else. For example, maybe he just didn't want to date you but he's trying to be a nice guy.
From another perspective, my mom would say that 15 is too young to be dating, period, and that 2 years is too big of an age difference at this point in your life. Although, in my eyes, age doesn't tell much about maturity or in some cases life experience.
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SORRY FOR THE LONGNESS . BUT PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE .
Okaay . SO this guy named Chris and I have dated twice . I broke up with him first , in grade six , because i wasn't ready for a boyfriend . Then in grade seven , I actually started having feelings for him , and I admitted it to him. He told me the same and we started going out again . I really like(d) him and he was the only boy I'd ever felt that way for . We were in two different classes and on two different lunches too. It was hard to get together because we were both so busy. I was there for him through everything then. I cared about him alot . When he got a suspension because of some lie a girl told , i missed my bus comforting him . I also got presured A LOT that year to break up wtih him becasue he was SUPPOSEDLY flirting with other girls . I really liked him.
But later that year , he broke up with me . It was because we never saw each other anymore. Even though i didn't show it , I was terribly sad and still really liked him A LOT .
Not even my best friends knew I still liked him until grade eight (WHICH IS NOW).
We are now on the same lunches and his class is across from mine. When he broke up with me , he never said he didn't like me . But i never know , he could've moved on . But he's the onlyy boy i've EVER liked and i just can't think of anything else when he's there . He flirts with me , and says I remind him of his girlfriend , and he asked me if i was still going out with my boyfriend (last time i had one , summer 08). He says he misses talking with me and stuff like that ... do you think he still likes me ?
thank youu !
-maycee (link)
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It sounds like he enjoys toying with your emotions. You also have to realize that if you were his girlfriend, he could do the same thing to you that he is doing to his current girlfriend, by flirting with others. That makes me think that there could be some truth to what your friends were saying before.
If something does happen with you two, remain wary of his actions, you wouldn't want to get hurt if he really is just a playboy. In my opinion, you should have an honest chat with him and ask him about his true feelings and thoughts on all of this.
Girl to girl respect is important too, so remember that he does have a girlfriend and how you would feel if you were in her position.
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Ok im 18 and i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now.In the begginning things were so great, he was everything i could ever ask for. He told me he loved me, and its not a word he just throws around, and he talked about wanting to get a place with me blah blah, perfectness.Then he got laid off his job and had to move back with his parents. Things have changed drastically, he is always so stressed out and mad. he cant get a job (we live in a small town) and he doesn't care about ANYTGING anymore. i have been so unhappy for like a month now,crying so much. he doesn't say i love you, he said he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship that he's not ready for that again(he was with his ex for 3 years, they broke up like a year ago) that he just wants to take it day by day. and also he possibly wants to move to utah...without me to live with his best friend because ha has nothing going for him out here! I am so scared of losing him, because i truley care about him so much and he does care about me too. i am trying so hard to make this work, and he is putting in no effort! i honestly dont now what to do? i cant just back away from it.Because he does want to be with me. i need advice!
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I understand that you do not want to let go, but the effort and care needs to come from both sides. It will not work if you are the only one who wants it to, it really takes two.
It sounds like he has been going through a rough time and needs to figure things, and himself, out. You should have a serious discussion with him and be honest with how you feel about all of this. Get your time to talk and then listen to what he has to say. If he is willing to compromise and try to work on this, then good. But be careful, his actions say a lot.
If he still wants to leave and does not want to continue this, no matter how hard it is, you have to respect that and try to move on. It would not be fair for either of you to force anything on the other person when that is not what is best.
Believe me, things will get better one way or another. Just don't stay in something that will turn out destructive.
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my boyfriend was really good playing college baseball last year. i met him this year and he hasnt been playing well. his team has been losing latly and hes not playing his best. i am being very very helpful. i wish him luck before a game, sending him cute pic messages about baseball, telling him he'll do better. anything i can think of a supportive gf can do. (we are in different states). today he had a bad game, he texted me and said hes turning his phone off adn doesnt want to talk to anyone for a while. he texted me back saying he talked to the coach and feels better. what do i do? (link)
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Good for you for being such a supportive girlfriend to him!
It sounds like he did not feel like being consoled at that moment because he was in a rough mood from playing badly. After cooling off and talking to his coach he probably does feel better. You could just believe that or if you still feel like something is wrong, be there for him and make sure he knows that he can talk to you about it.
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okay i just got my tongue pierced on saturday and it is now thursday. (its been 4 days) it is still swollen, and ive heard it stays swollen for about 5-7 days. but ive been worried because under my tongue ring theres a big hole the size of the ball of my tongue ring and the ring is kind of pushing into it. is this normal?! i think the ring is too small because my tongue is swollen.. and i told my friend and he said that i shouldnt exchange it out for at least a week or two and to just wait till the swelling goes down. anybody with tongue ring experience please tell me if this is normal, and when the swelling is gone, will the big hole heal? because its a hole the size of my tongue ring ball and the ball is sitting in it lyk a crater! (link)
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It sounds like you definitely have a too-small barbell in. It should be long enough for your tounge to have that room for the inevitable swelling. Usually you then would switch it out to a proper sized barbell after up to 10 days (or whenever your swelling goes down).
If you try to change it before it has had healing time it will probably swell back up.
If possible, you should go and discuss this with your local piercer. They should be able to do something for your tounge.
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can you pop your cherry by masturbeting orbeing fingered? (link)
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There is of course a possibility, but more than likely that is not enough to break through the thin, skin lining that you are talking about. This could happen though while you are being active, like playing a sport or horseback riding, and you might not even realize it. Most people have their "cherry popped" while inserting a tampon or of course, through sexual intercourse.
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Someone I recently started seeing is getting ready to deploy for six months. I have yet to share with him my feelings towards him. I want to tell him before he leaves which is next week. But I don't know if I should or not. We text each other everyday and have been communicating with each other in some form for almost two months. I want him to know I will be here for him. (link)
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I think that you should definitely talk to him. Be honest and do not be afraid to let your real feelings out. I am sure that you would not eventually want to regret staying closed up about it. I don't know the whole story between you two but if your gut is telling you that this is the right thing to do at this point, go for it.
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When will I get my period? I had discharge (since September), I have public hair (since November), and I have under arm hair (since January). Can anyone predict this for me? (link)
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Honestly, it is possible to have discharge weeks or even years before you get your period. These signs mean that you have hit puberty though. It is not too simple to predict this because everyone's stages of puberty occur at different times.
If you are worried though, I would recommend wearing a thin panty liner which would keep discharge off your underwear and also prevent the eventual menstrual blood from giving a possibly-embarrassing-if-you-are-in-public surprise.
If you want more information on this, you could always go and visit your local doctor.
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alright so i wanna be a prep. and not act dumb or anything becuz im not like that and that irritates me. but im going to high school and i dont wanna appear the same. and i wanna look like the rest of my friends but the thing is i cant afford holister or american eagle. and even if i did i wouldnt know wat to wear. im completly cluless. and im tired of looking like im still in elementary school. so how do i grow up but still stay me??? (link)
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Remember to stay true to yourself & love yourself (without being cocky of course). When you have an inner beauty, it is much easier for the outer to follow.
Firstly, do not dress one way just because other people do and you want to please them. If that is the case you would probably just end up feeling awkward. But if you want to dress that way because you like that particular style and that is what you would feel most comfortable and yourself in, then that is a good way to go. Now, I don't believe or condone labels but I'm not going to pretend that I don't know what you're getting at.
You mentioned that you are clueless about what to buy and wear. A little change isn't always bad. Your sense of clothing is not always going to be stationary from elementary school through college. I recommend changing it up moderately so that you get used to the newer stuff. You see what kind of apparel you like and would want to be in.
My advice would be to go to stores that you can afford which have a variety of different clothing. For example, places like Ross or TjMaxx have apparel from all kinds of different clothing stores. If you scour through the Juniors Section you are sure to find things that appeal to you. You can always bring a friend or two along to go shopping with you if you feel like you'd need a second opinion on what looks best. Eventually you'll find it in yourself and your gut feeling will let you know. If you like it, wear it, and don't worry.
Don't worry about not looking exactly like others around you do. The beauty in all of us is our differences. Always be yourself, because yourself is just right.
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i have a bf
i went on vaca, and i like this guy nw
he lives like many miles away but we talk all the time
and i dont think i like my bf anymore
but weve been together a long time liek 7 mths
and now with this new guy i noticed i could do better
and the new guy lieks me back
and i wold be willing to do long distance w. him
but idk waht i should do , is it worth breaking up?
should i keep living a double life utill summer when ik i can easily b/u w. him
help pls any advice possible
16/f
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Seven months might seem like long to you because of the time and effort you have put into the relationship. Plus the fact that most couples at this age don't seem to last more than a few weeks.
I've been through a breakup after being with the guy for over two years. Sometimes things just don't work out. If you feel differently, it's not fair to either of you if you keep dragging it out.
If you have feelings for another guy and you are thinking about it in this way while being with someone else, you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel.
And to answer your last question- if you are willing to live a "double life" like that: yes, in my opinion you should break up with him. It really doesn't look like you're feeling him and you shouldn't play him for a fool.
If you end up breaking up with him, you should always conduct that in a respectful way and not pull the guy apart with your words when you do it.
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Hello. Recently, I posted a question giving symptoms of what I thought to be a vaginal infection and from the responses that people gave me, I do have one. Is there any way that I can just buy medicine over the counter and not have to go see a doctor? Thanks for the help. (link)
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I would really recommend seeing a doctor since I should not suggest diagnosing yourself, to be safe. Nevertheless, to answer your question- there are over the counter options. For example, a popular one is Monistat. It is available in 1 day, 3 day, and 7 day treatments. The 7 day is most likely the safest best because the dosages would be smaller. It is available at most drugstores and Wal-Mart (close by the feminine needs section, where the tampons & such are located). You can also check out this site for more information: http://www.monistat.com/
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what is spooning? (link)
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That refers to a specific way of cuddling. It is when two people are laying close against each other, front to back, on their side.
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My boyfriend and i just started having sex about a month ago. And a couple of times i have bleed. I did lose my virginity to him but i didnt bleed the first time. is it normal to bleed after the first time? we do it more than once at a time ...could it be that? please help (link)
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It is not unheard of to have bled following the first time. Either it is just because it was rough. But there are worse cases as well such as changes in cells, possibly an infection, or even small growths (called polyps) which could be harmful. If this continues to be a problem I would advise you to see a family doctor and get this checked out.
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I HAD a problem. since i was 12 i started cutting. I dont know how to explain it to people that dont do it becuase its something you have to have gone through to understand. its like a drug i was addicted for 4 1/2 years, slowly killing myself. anyway everyone found out and i had to stop.
the question is like what am i supposed to replace it with. Ive tryed running writing (which is my passion) and everything in between. I just need some good advice as how to stop.
Please help, anything will be appreciated. (link)
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You should know that you are worth so much more than what you've been giving yourself credit for. Respect yourself and know that things will get better.
Writing down your feelings and letting it out on paper is great. Getting more hobbies, finding things you like to do, and participating in them will keep your mind occupied.
I've also heard that when you feel like cutting, instead of for example, using your arm and a blade, substitute the paper for flesh and the pencil for the blade. Get things out in a more healthy manner.
Also, if you have some close friends, remember to talk to them and don't keep everything bottled up inside. There are people that have been through very rough times too. You aren't alone.
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Does it hurt to get tounge pierces? (link)
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Any piercing puts a hole through your body, so there will always be some level of discomfort. Some people have a good pain tolerance and just feel a pinch, but others aren't as lucky. If you plan on getting any piercing, you will never exactly know how you will react. I recommend eating something beforehand (being anxious on an empty stomach usually makes you light-headed), bringing a bottle of water with you, and remembering to breath during the moment.
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ok, so my parents totally treat me like i'm four instead of 14. right now i was supposed to be asleep 1 hour and 40 minutes ago. i'm 14!!! most of my friends go to bed at 1 a.m.. all i want is another hour, mayne an hour and a half, tacked on. that's not much. but whenever i bring it up, my mom freaks. also, if i so much as mention boys, my dad goes crazy and starts asking for names, addresses, zip codes, where i met them, blah blah blah blah blah. and trust me, he's dead serious.
how can i make my parents understand i'm not a little girl anymore?
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I definitely understand where you are coming from because I've been there. Remember that your parents are not doing this because they want to make you miserable, they just care about you. A lot of parents could care less, so be thankful that they love you. When I was going to high school, I usually had to be in bed no later than 10. They want you to be well rested and to be able to function better during the day. If you talk to them about this calmly (when everyone is in a good mood), and discuss these things without anyone getting roused up, maybe you can figure out some compromise.
Your dad sounds like mine. I think that he probably wont like any guy that I do until I'm married. He's been there, done that, and he knows from first hand experience what males are like. Your parents are just protective of you, so give them the information. Show them by actions how you are growing up and are being a responsible, smart, young lady. If you start whining and complaining about it, they will know that they are right about you still being a little girl.
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So, me and my boyfriends mom get along pretty good. Except she walked in with me and my boyfriend with me on top of my boyfriend and we were kissing in bed in the dark.
We are a very serious relationship, and I'm never allowed to his house again :(
What willl I do? (link)
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She was probably put in a very awkward position seeing her son with you like that. Respect her & her decision, apologize if you can, and give it some time. If you two are as close as you say then the relationship will still be fine. This would just be a little uncomfortable bump in the road. In time, everything gets better.
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im nervous to make out for the first time. any advice? (link)
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It is normal to feel anxious before doing something for the first time. Just remember not to rush anything and you should only share something like this with someone you feel comfortable with. When the time comes, start off slowly and believe me, the rest just comes naturally. Remember to breath, swallow your excess saliva (so that it's not too slobbery), and enjoy yourself.
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so i met this kid about two months ago at a concert. weve gone out like 5 or 6 times. things are moving pretty fast and im fine with that. things just get really hot when we're together. were hanging out tomorrow, and were going to spend most of the time in my car. i know we're going to hook up, so far weve been to third base and he really wants to go all the way. im a virgin and i dont exactly know if i want to just yet. i do want to, but then i think about it and talk myself out of it. should i go for it?
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You two met just two months ago and are experiencing lust. It is understandable at this age of course, but I am almost positive that you would regret "going all the way". If you want to continue hanging out with him then I recommend places that aren't so private, that way there isn't that temptation and opportunity. If you really think that you two have something, you should get to know him first instead of basing your relationship around just the physical. Save yourself for something and someone special.
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