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Ok so I am 13 years old and I want to start babysitting. I'm not sure if there are laws on how old you have to be (I live in England.) Is 13 old enough? How would I go about it?

Well, Im exactly the same age and I babysit 2little boys at the same time. It should be an okay situation, just call a local daycare or preschool and ask. They would know the most about ur case. Good Luck and hope u get the job

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P.S. I got $30 in 2 days! it's really not that hard.

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Okay here's the deal: this girl, who i like to refer to as my best friend. We do a lot together, she slept over about 10 times during the summer. We have soo many pictures together. We talk about everything. I'm 14/f, and i've known her since i was 11. In the past years we've come really close, or so i seem to think. When we're togheter, we have a total blast.. but sometimes when we were with other people, she shys away from me and doesnt pay any attention to me. And i know she used to be really really good friends with 3 of my other friends, they had this little group, u know? And she always talks about how shes been replaced by one of my friends in that group, and talks about how they always leave her out and stuff.. then when were with them she gets all up and tight with them. It really bugs me. Is she like, ashamed of me? I mean i have plenty of other friends, but i really feel strongly about her. She's pretty much the only person i tell everything to. And yea, she tells me a lot too, cause she knows she can trust me with everything. I just don't understand why she can't say i'm her best friend. How would i go about talking to her about this? I really want to but i dont want her to get angry with me.. please help. I know it's long :S sorryyyyy. oh i rate!

I can relate to ur problem, but most likely she feels like she can be more open in private with you. My best friend and I go psycho and have the best time, but then at school she kind of hangs out with everyone else and sometimes rejects me. Stay in that crowd and remind her about an inside joke or something. She might be ashamed of what u've done together-like kiddish stuff, but not of u. Call her up every day and just talk about it. I hope that helps.

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I just found out from my friends that I am going to Homecoming with them, which is next saturday! my family's budgit is very low and we can't afford to buy a brand new dress. I have my old dress from last years 8th grade dance. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas to make it look different. Here is a picture of the dress:
http://beallsflorida.com/page?name=process-page-call&page=page-style&styleid=47261

I appretiate any ideas!
Thanks!

Well for starters, thats an adorable dress. Ur dress would look so different and amazing if u wore jewelry, and i'm not talking about the jewelry that the other posters said. What i mean is that u should get either a regular necklace or a very long necklace, u could even use nice marti gra beads, but u could use it to make a belt like thing around the dress to fancy it up. For a very low price u could go out and get some fabric and make a shawl likething to match the belt. I think it would look very cute! Well good luck w/ ur dance!

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I'm kind of talking to this guy friend of mine, but when we get on the phone with each other, we dont say much, and its the same thing in person. Does anyone have any good topics to talk about with each other?

Well it depends on 2 things, 1st of all is it a guy u like or just a guy friend? In front of guys many girls don't know what to say and something stupid is blurted out. 1 good thing to talk about is something not really gossip, but ask him if he heard about something that happened or even school or the stuff u both like. Any of those r usually what get my guy convos started. Just ask him the kind of stuff he likes to do.

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For as long as I can remember, my currently 19 year-old sister, isn't having the best life right now. I'll refer to her as Lexi In 2003 Lexi dropped out of her senior year in high school about 4 months before graduation. She claims it was because she hated that school, and hated everyone in it. I mean, she's not really the preppy, Barbie Girl type. She did get her G.E.D. after dropping out of high school, though. She went to the 2nd semester of college. Our whole family was overjoyed and really thought that Lexi could make something of herself, finally. I mean, she is really, really smart and an extremely good drawer.



But then she ended up skipping her classes to sleep in, and the night before college finals in spring, she drunk so much alcohol that she passed out and was under severe conditions and had to be hospitalized. She didn't even call our parents, because she knew that she'd be in trouble for underage drinking at that tim (age 18) and she had missed finals. She went to court and pleaded guilty, and was fined. But our family left that in the past and forgave her.



Lexi's back home now, and I pray every night that she goes back to college, or at least gets a job. She always promises our mom to get a job and never does, claiming that "nothing motivates her to do anything." Usually she appears in a pretty good mood, but once every month my parents and her will have a nasty fight. I'm not saying physically. These fights involve swearing, screaming, yelling, shouting, and insulting. Then the next day it's almost as if nothing happened, but my parents and Lexi won't talk to each other. My mother cries her eyes out, and I can't blame her, because she went through several hours of pain and labor to bring Lexi into the world, wanting , and my sister does nothing but smoke and swear at her. She and my parents eventually make up, and then it will be another fight.



Lexi is in financial trouble too (I'm not saying what), and won't return tax collectors' calls. She is too lazy to get a job, all she does is eat, sleep, and smoke, and go out with friends. I really want Lexi to get a job and stop smoking. I really want her to have a better life and go back to college. I really want my parents and her to not fight. I can't control any of this, because she is 6 years older than me (I'm 13) and I can't tell her what to think. Lexi refuses to go to a counselor, and no one can change her mind. Sometimes I even cry myself to sleep because I'm only 13 and I'm already going through emotional pain. I really need help, and I would appreciate anyone's sincere input on this.

If she's the oldest child in the family that's most likely the problem. As the oldest sibling sometimes you feel like the younger siblings get more attention and get farther in life, but she needs to have better morals. For you it's ok to feel what ur feeling, but ur sister needs to be prepared for the worst. Most times parents will kick their children out of the house at an age like that becuz she's really old enough to survive on her own and she most likely could find a job that doesn't require full education for now. I mean, she could go and pick up a job at a local mall or fast food joint.

Smoking is another huge money crisis that will overwhelm her so it's best to make sure that she stops smoking by using the patch, or gum. She should try picking up another better habit like chewing gum or even a hobby in her spare time. Its best to stay out of her business as much as possible becuz as a smoker she may become grumpier and moodier than usual. Just continue to pray for her and help ur parents out by doing a couple of extra things for them that will help them feel better about the whole situation. It's really a great thing that u're doing for her, it shows that u really care about her, but just remember to not follow in her foot steps. It's best to make ur own way instead of following hers. Good luck and remember, God's always with u.

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ok me n my boyfriend broke up...n it hert me so0o0o bad cuz i really really love him...n i told him i wanted him back...n he wanted me back...well one nite (last nite) i was talking to him n he was like i've been thinking about us n i was like ok wat n his like hold on let me call you...n he jst keep stolen trying to piss me off(which was wrking) well he calls me n goes i want you back...but not right now...ill get you back soon..sooner then you think...n i'm not going to go out w/ anyone else...so we talked a lil bit n when we went to get off the phone he was like hey i really do love you...n i started crying cuz it really meant alot to me that he told me he loved me...but idk what i should do cuz i don't want to wait for ever...n i'm still kind of scared that it's going to be a long time....???i'm jst so confused about it all...srry that this is so long i ussallly(SP?) never type this much!!...

Ask him if it's really true love. Most times ppl say I love u without giving it real meaning. Cuz sometimes it could be puppy love, which is just greater than a friend, or there's real, true love. So just think inside urself, on a scale of 1 to 10 how much do i really love him?

If u really love him let him take a break, then he'll realize how great u really r.

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