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shes my best friend.. but am i hers?
Okay here's the deal: this girl, who i like to refer to as my best friend. We do a lot together, she slept over about 10 times during the summer. We have soo many pictures together. We talk about everything. I'm 14/f, and i've known her since i was 11. In the past years we've come really close, or so i seem to think. When we're togheter, we have a total blast.. but sometimes when we were with other people, she shys away from me and doesnt pay any attention to me. And i know she used to be really really good friends with 3 of my other friends, they had this little group, u know? And she always talks about how shes been replaced by one of my friends in that group, and talks about how they always leave her out and stuff.. then when were with them she gets all up and tight with them. It really bugs me. Is she like, ashamed of me? I mean i have plenty of other friends, but i really feel strongly about her. She's pretty much the only person i tell everything to. And yea, she tells me a lot too, cause she knows she can trust me with everything. I just don't understand why she can't say i'm her best friend. How would i go about talking to her about this? I really want to but i dont want her to get angry with me.. please help. I know it's long :S sorryyyyy. oh i rate!
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you are just like her back droup friend or maybe you are just her outside of school friend you only do stuff out side of school
but you are still good friends my best friend doesn't even go to my school
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I know your sick of hearing this but you need to talk to her and tell her how much your friendship means to you and maybe she doesn't know how she is acting or treating you when you guys are out in a large group. Trying telling her what she's doing and she may begin to realize it and change. That's awesome that you guys talked for a long time..I hope this helped!
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I NO HOW U FEEL!!i felt lk tht at times in mi old school....well ne ways u should just come out and tell her tht u rilly want to be best friends with her and not just buds.tell her tht when she tells u tht she feels left out and she is rilly all tight with her friends tht u feel tht u feel she is ashamed of u.and also tell her tht when u guys hang out tht u want her to pay attention to u and not just use u.well i hope i helped....!
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I can relate to ur problem, but most likely she feels like she can be more open in private with you. My best friend and I go psycho and have the best time, but then at school she kind of hangs out with everyone else and sometimes rejects me. Stay in that crowd and remind her about an inside joke or something. She might be ashamed of what u've done together-like kiddish stuff, but not of u. Call her up every day and just talk about it. I hope that helps.
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ok heres what i got confront her ask her be like are me and you best friends i no it may sound stuiped but try it and if she is just acting like ur friend only around you and not when you are with other people tell be like i feel like i have been ignored when we are with a group of friends
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Why does it matter? Does being "best" really make a differnce in friendship like that? By calling people "best friend" it becomes a contest, and maybe she doesn't want to compete. And it seems that you strive to have her give you the title "best friend" is if it were an award. This should not matter.
Now, if she's feeling left out or uncomfortable when you are with your other friends, ask yourself why that is. Try to see what she is seeing. Maybe she really doesn't like the others? Maybe she's selfish, maybe she doesn't want to share you? It is hard for me to guess not really knowing any more detail about your situation.
Now, you said, "sometimes when we were with other people, she shys away from me and doesnt pay any attention to me" - so, is this an issue with her, or an issue with you? Is she clamming up because she's intimidated by the other people that are around? Could it just be that she's shy? Or could it be that she will talk to the other people that are around, and you're perceiving this as her not paying enough attention to you? Again, I can only offer vague speculation because I'm not there to see how you interact...
...but all that said, you need to sit down and think about what friendship and trust really mean, and think if this is something really worth worrying about.
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