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Q: okay i dated this guy for 2 years and i was in love with him! he broke up with me at the end of his senior year (i was a sophmore) we would still talk for that month we were broken up but i was devastated. we would still talk since we would see eachother at school a lot and i know he still had feelings and i obviously still loved him but when summer started it was basically the end cause i knew id never see him again unless it was somewhere random or quinceidental. during the summer i really started moving on and i started getting over him i even started to like a boy which was extremely weird cause i never thought that would happen! anyways at the end of the summer as school was coming close he went to college and before he left he actually texted me telling me goodbye. it was the most confusing thing ever cause i didnt understand why would he text me? i ignored it and a couple days later he actually called me. we talked for over an hour and he told me how he really wanted to see me and what not. we kept talking for the next couple weeks and evntualy i went up to see him. obviously it made all my feelings come back. i visited him a couple more times, but every time i did.. it was like sooo much fun but then when i went home if i would call him or text him hed either not respond or just be like hi. ya. things like he didnt really care? i got fed up with this because i felt ilke he didnt actually care so i finaly brought up the whole situation and he didnt act like he cared he was like "ok" things like that so i just felt like i was wasiting my time so i told him i was done with his games. about 3 weeks later i heard he was going to be in town and that weekend he called me.. he wanted to hangout cause he was in town so i went to his house and we watchd a movie until he had to go to his buddys house. it was kind of awkward, but it felt good being there with him. he tried to have sex with me but i wouldnt beacuse i didnt want to get hurt cause when i had went to visit him at college we did and it ended up hurting me more cause we would have sex and he never would ask me back out or anything. i said i didnt want to get used because we probably werent going to get back together and he just laughed and was saying things like "what are you talking about" "who cares" "stop being gay" it was kind of disrespectful?? idk im so confused what do i do i want to be with him but its like i cant tell if he still has feelings for me or if hes just using me or i dont know how to talk to him about it because whenever i try to talk to him about how i feel hes just like "omg stop" ERRRG

sorry if this was really long..

Hey,

I think you should ditch him. He's being a real tool. Don't bother with him anymore. If he calls or texts don't answer. I know that's probably going to be hard but he's not worth it. He's definitely using you. Just walk away. He sounds like he's only looking for a good time at your expense. Plus any guy who will disrespect you like that when you don't have sex with them is definitely only looking or sex.

Q: OK...so me and this boy were talking about 7 months but we have only been together for about 2. Anyways it was love at first sight and we're crazy about each other, yesterday he actually got down on one knee and asked me to marry him...i love him and my answer is yes but i think we're too young for that.I'm 17 and hes 19 any advice is helpful.

Hey,

I think it's great that you both love each other and want to get married. But you're right, You're too young. Even if age wasn't a factor. How would you be able to support yourself? If you both have living arrangements then it won't be a problem. But college might be hard to do if you're trying to juggle a marriage too. I think you should both just plan a date in the future of when you're going to get married. You can both wear promise rings,(rings that promise you're going to get married one day) until that time comes.

Q: What can I remove finger nail polish with besides remover?
I dont have none at the moment. And I dont like to bite the polish off. And its heavy coated. So Any ideas?

Hi,

Sometimes if you paint another coat of fingernail polish on you can just wipe it all away. You can also try using a fingernail file to scape it away too.

Q: 15 M/ ok well i'm kinda scared cause i've been waking up from a dead sleep and i'm ready to fight like i've made countless holes in my wall from just waking up and as soon as i wake up i'm swinging (and well i'm kinda sick of having to fix the walls) i haven't talked to my mom or dad about it cause they will just think i'm you know a "teenager" and i'm wanting to punch holes in the wall cause i'm mad but when i first wake up it's like i have to fight something off it's like i HAVE to in like risck of my life or something? and i have cold sweats and when i try to remember what i was fighing or doing in my dreams i just go blank i can't remember anything now i don't know if i'm going insane or what all i know is i need some advice on it. thanks

I don't think you're going crazy. I think you have a sleeping disorder. It could be night terrors. Though I'm not sure. I don't think it;s just a teen thing. You should see your doctor.

Q: so last night was my first night at a new restarant job as a waitress. ive done waitressing before, so im experienced.
a group of 5 kids my age (19) walk in and they were my second table on my very first night. one of them recognized me as a classmate in the college i attend.
basically they gave me a hard time about EVERYTHING! when i put a soda down, they asked it to be switched to a different one, no ice, etc.
To make it worse, one of the dishes got sent back because they thought it was going to be like "chinese" chicken they claimed.
I could deal with that to an extent. But they left no tip! ? And this kid sits right next to me in a small class of like 7. How do i act around him? do i say that was messed up? or do i let it go and just never be their waitress again if they come in

Hi,

I can understand your frustration. Some people think that their jokes are so clever. I think you should ignore him when you get to class unless prodded to talk to him by the professor. I also think that you should request another table if he comes in so you don't have to deal with him.

Q: What does it mean to be a Christian exactly? I have always considered myself to be a Christian and now I wonder what being a Christian means really.

My best friend and I were talking and she seems to believe that being Christian means you have to go to church every day it's open but I don't believe that. I think my best friend has good ideas about Christianity in that we, as Christians, should be tending to (helping) others, Christian or not, but I am unsure about the need to go to church.

I know lots of celebrities are Christian, like the Jonas Brothers (all three that I'm aware of--Nick Jonas, Joe Jonas, and Kevin Jonas), Miley Cyrus (Hannah Montana), Alicia Keys, and Tom Hanks. I don't think they go to church every time the doors are open, but I know they do believe in Christianity and God.

To me, all of the Christian churches I've gone to have almost been like social gatherings. Maybe I'm just going to the wrong sorts of churches or maybe I have the wrong idea. Is it wrong for a Christian to NOT go to church? If a Christian does not go to church every, say, Sunday then does it make them any less of a Christian?

What does being Christian mean to you? What defines as person as being Christian? Any information, opinions, and links would be highly appreciated.

Hi,

I'm one and I believe that being a Christian means believing that Jesus died on the cross for you. But also following what the Bible says and trying to live your life through the plan that God gives you. In the bible, if I'm not mistaken I think you are supposed to go to church. If you're don't feel uncomfortable at the church that you're going to then you should keep looking there's nothing wrong with that. God will lead you to the write church.

Also, you aren't the only one who has had that feeling that some of the people at the church are just their to socialize. But that too is a major part of church. Fellowship with other Christians. Though I think that a lot of times at churches people forget that they are really their to praise God and turn it into some sort of popularity contest. I don't go to church currently but when I did I always felt slightly uncomfortable. Kind of the same way you did.

Like I said before I thin you should try and find a church that you feel included in. In think a lot of churches like to socialize but you should try to find one that doesn't forget their focus is on the Lord. Plus after all the time I've had away from a church it has made me realize that just because you go to church you aren't necessarily a good Christian that's just a piece of it and a lot of people forget that. I think attending church is a part but not all of what God wants you to do.

Q: I really like this guy and I know he will probably never like me! What is there to like? I'm so ugly, I'm not as pretty as everyone else. I feel so hideous! I have unwanted hair, like on my upper lip, hands and legs, and I am a girl! How do I make myself feel pretty? I'm not even allowed to shave!

Hi there,

First, I know how you feel we all go through a phase in our lives where we feel ugly. You're not alone. Second, I'm not sure how old you are but I think you should If you're not allowed talk to your parents about how you feel. Maybe tell them that you're feeling so unattractive and ask them to loosen up a bit on the rules. If you're allowed to pluck your eyebrows do that. I'm not sure if you mean you're only not allowed to shave your legs or your entire body but if they let you ask them about waking your facial hair. Also try a wardrobe upgrade, find pieces that you can mix and match, if you don't know what kind of look there's always good ideas for girls in seventeen magazine. Also try wearing a little make up. It doesn't have to be much, just a little eyeliner and some mascara and lip gloss, and if your parents let you try some foundation and eyeliner. If you're not to familiar with applying it. You can look on youtube for videos of girls applying techniques. I know there are tons out there. Also don't forget to accent your wardrobe with a cute piece of jewelry. Again there are some great ideas in seventeen. And while the ones they show in the mag might be a little expensive you can see what you like and try to find the same type at a store with more bargains.

Most Importantly the only way to feel beautiful is to believe that you're beautiful. No matter how many new outfits you get you have to believe that you're beautiful. If I guy doesn't like you because you don't shave that's too bad. People should be focused on the inside, but I'm sure that this guy will like you more if you be yourself and show your true personality than if you worry about immaterial things.

Q: Female, 15.
Hi, the school year just started and it's only the 4th day of school. I am a sophmore. And i had this crush on a guy at school since last year. But this year my friend keeps calling him on my cell phone, and he thinks that its me prank calling him. Then just yesterday she shoved me into a door when he was coming out of the class room and made me crash into him!!! Then he got mad. So now he thinks that i am chidish and immature and he is mad at me and i think he might even hate me. Please i need advice on how to fix this!!!!
Thank you in advance!

Hi There,

First of all the first time I ever saw my friends prank call the guy I like, I would snatch my phone away. Don't Let them touch your phone. Second of all, you should seriously tell your friends that the jokes need to end, that you really like this guy and they are not helping. (Say it kindly of course.)

Third of all the next time they push you into him say something like, "Sorry my friends can be a little immature sometimes." Make them seem like the crazy one's not you.

Q: 15/f
I really like this guy i sit next to in one of my classes. i talk to him all the time during class and we have a good time. I want to let him know how i feel about him cuz i really do like him alot. I had an idea..1. i tell the other guy i sit next too to "causually" tell him that i like him when i leave class early ( i leave 5 minutes early everyday). is that a good idea or know? im way to shy to tell him myself. i hate making the first move. Another question is he asked me if im going out with this guy brian because he saw us walking together. but the fact that he asked me tht...does it mean anything? HELP!!

Greetings,

I think might work, though it might be a bit personal to have someone else do. Maybe you can just have the friend hint to him and see what he thinks about you, then if all is well then you can maybe write him note or something. I do think the fact that he's asking about your dating status at all is a good sign that he's very interested in you.

Q: yah so my period should be here, and i know it's coming, b/c i have bad pms and the aches and pains start up. But pmsing really causes me to be in a bad mood, and like everything pisses me off, and it can be the simplest things, it also causes me to be depressed at times. But depression it pretty normal for me at times. So is there anything to kinda like calm me down?
and i need some tips on losing weight, i weigh a little bit under 170, and i'd like to lose 10lbs by thanksgiving, any tips? I have exercise videos and ive been on diets before, i just want it to be effective and actually work.
thanks
15/f/usa

Hey,

For aches and pains I suggest Aleve. Whenever I start to feel those pains coming on I take a couple and they start to work right away. After the first to days the pains go away for me so it's like I bypassed the entire uncomfortable two days. Also I eat fudgesicles I think the chocolate is totally soothing and try putting a water bottle on your lower stomach it really relaxes me. I think you should just keep up with the exercising my mom wanted to lose weight and she just started walking, everywhere. To the store, the library, and she also cut back on what she ate eating mostly fruits. I saw the pounds practically fall off of her in a few weeks.

Q: okay SO
i've known this guy since like 4th grade, right? and i've liked him on and off since then, and he says he's liked me on and off since then too.
last year we went out for a while, but i was a sucky girlfriend back then and never was able to go anywhere, so it didnt work out. a week later he got with my friend, which devastated me.
i ignored him for a few months, which was hard because he was still my friend, but it helped me to get over him.
about a month or two ago, he and this girl broke up, we started talking again, and he started confusing me like big time, acting like he liked me and saying he liked me, and his ex said he liked me & she would be okay with it if we went out, but at the same time he still acted like he liked her. THEN he apparently fell back in love with her and we're all good friends now, but im heartbroken. i thought this would be my 2nd chance, but i lost it.
i guess what i would like to know is, should i wait and see if maybe i could still get my chance with him, or just get over him?
i dont know if the last is possible... but i need to know if im totally insane for wanting him this badly, & if i need to back off since he's with my friend and all.
sorry this was long and confusing but any kind of advice on what i can do is much appreciated.
i'm 14/f, by the way.

Hi,

I think it's about time that you leave it alone. Unless he actually asks you out I think you should head for greener pastures I know it's going to be hard but it's not helping you to keep this up. He is with your friend. It sucks, I know but maybe you'll find someone else if you give yourself the chance. And if there ever comes the opportunity that you might get together one day then go for it. But until thin start living your life.

Q: Hi,
Im a guy, 15 and about 3 months ago I bought my own acoustic guitar. The brand is Washburn and the modle is Oscar Schmidt I think. Anyway, I've been going on to youtube and teaching myself songs. I don't know very much about music, so I don't know what songs are out there, but the ones I did find I've learned and perfected. So far I've learned "Follow you into the dark" by Death Cab., "Hey there delilah" by plain white t's, "Good Riddance" By green day, and a few other songs. These are the kind of songs I'm looking for, the softer acoustic guitar songs, u know like one with a good mellody. I'm ready to learn more, I just don't know where to look. Does anyone have any ideas on what songs I should learn next?

Hey,

I suggest these:

Dust In The Wind- Kansas
Sweet Pea- Amos Lee
Put Your Records on By Corrine Bailey Rae
I'm Yours- Jason Mraz
Nothing Lasts Forever- By Maroon 5
Oh and Sweet Home Alabama- by Lynard Skynard

And I haven't heard this in a while but you can check it out: Time After time by Eva Cassidy

Dust in the Wind and nothing lasts forever have the most guitar in them though so I suggest looking at those first but the rest are pretty good.

Q: Okay there is this guy who im reallly like talking to but the thing is one of my friend like him as well bu the thing is that Im the he calls after the football games, and after school, he walks me to class and hang out before periods. well i put his number on my cheek at a football game and well the other gurl that likes him is one of the trainers and im a cheerleader but the thing is that she saw me with his number in my cheeck and she didnt like it. well my point is we have different lunches so when i go to my 4th period class he walks her to the same class i have with her. well it reallly bugs me even through he talks to me more. should i worry about it. should i do anything about it?

Hello,

Is he some kind of player? I mean does he do this with all the girls? If the answer is no then I think you should just ignore it, maybe it's just a a friend of his unless it seems suspicious. But if the answer is yes then I do not think you should ignore it because he's probably just playing you.

Q: This might be kinda long..

I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and ahalf now. hes 28. im having a really diffuclt problem trying to deal with how many people has has slept with. (i was never really attracted to anybody untill him.. so i just dont understand). i realize now i kinda messed up by sleeping with him even though it was my idea and i figured me understandign and working everything out would take time. I really do want to work things out but there are a few problems. one. he does not live in my state, he is just away right now and hes planning to move back permenently, mainly for me and for better jobs. two. all the people he has had sex with, i feel like i have to share him with them. he seems to find anybody attractive even if he doesnt say it to me, he has been with friends, friends that are married, random people, people he found on the internet and "knew" for a while and then would have them come and stay with him for a while. it was like it was a sex party. So i guess my questions are: what can i do to try to understand his past (he doesnt like talking about it hes sorta ashamed.)? Should i just leave him, is this often too big of a problem in a relationship? (should i leave him before he tries to move back partly because of me). He really does not want to leave me. he cries about it everytime i want to talk to him about my problems (in the relationship). i feel bad that i make him cry and gives me more reason to think i should break up. im really sorry if this is too confusing you can ask questions or whatever you need. thanks for any advice in advance.

Hi,

I think that if he's ashamed of his past that's a good sign that obviously means that he wants to move past that and is a different person. I think you should let the past lie. People make mistakes and they grow and change. That's just life. I know if it was my husband I wouldn't even ask who's he's had a history with, it just complicates everything and if I did I'd try to remind myself that it is past unless he's cheating on you I don't think you should break up with him, (unless you just can't take it anymore), he seems to care about you. If it were me I'd try to make it work.

Q: mkay. sooo I'm a senior. and the next step is college. I'm interested in so many diff. category's that it sucks. its kinda like, when i find something that i want to do, i end up finding something wrong with it. I'm interested in things from medical to culinary to business to film making! my problem is that i don't want to end up majoring in something i think i like, but in the long run end up hating it. I'm not sure what i should do. I'm not even sure what college to go to. i know this is really bad and time is running out, but I'm so indecisive that its making me crazy. how do i figure out whats best for me??

thanks in advance,
Jill =/

Hey,

College is about exploration. You don't have to be too sure about what you want to do, you don't have to pick a major for a few years. And the people who are in college, i'm sure have changed their major when they find something that they feel fits them better. I'm i college and I went from wanting to be an audiologist, to Library Science, to psycholgy. And I'm still open for change. Since you're not sure about what college you want to got to, try looking for a college that fits your needs the best. Do you want to be close to home or farther away?,Online or on campus? Should their be a semester abroad, large school or small,Instate or out?Do you want it to be religiously affiliated or no? Also you could try finding a college that has the majority of the majors you're interested in that way if you choose to change majors it will be easier. Plus if you look online I think you might be able to find a career aptitude test, to help you narrow down your majors. But don't worry people grow in college even if you take the career test you might want to change and there's nothing wrong with that.

Another option to is to look into going to community college for two years and then transfer. It's cheaper and It will give you a little more time to explore. I'm doing community college and it's helped me to narrow down a lot.

(And I don't know what state you live in but if you live in California, there's a website called Californiacolleges.edu they help you select a school that's right for you. and also check out Studentsreview.com, actually students rate the schools and tell you what it's like to live there and go to school there.Studentreview.com is good because it's for any state and not just CA)

Q: So my best friend hooked up with this guy over half a year ago.. lets call him Sam. They never actually went out and the hookup was a one or two time thing.
And shes had like 2 major boyfriends since then.
So when "Sam" asked me to hang out i wouldn't have thought it would be a big deal. Sam had his cell taken up so he called me from his house phone and told me where to meet him and then he left. As i was walking to go meet him i called my best friend just to check things wouldnt be weird.
She got extremely defensive and it was obvious that she was not okay with me meeting up with him. I told her i wasn't going to hang out with him since she sounded weird about it..
So I was going to meet up with him where he told me to just to tell him we couldn't chill. Mind you, we have a pretty obvious attraction to each other and I had been thinking about him a lot lately.. When i told him we couldn't hang out because of what my best friend and him did, he got kinda upset. I apologized and he reached down and kissed me. I was kinda shocked so it took a few seconds til i stopped it. After a little arguing i told him i had to leave and once i started walking away he ran after me and said he was just going to follow me home then even though my mom was home and i'd get in major trouble...
So i decided if he's gonna be this difficult i'll just stay a hang out a while, but one thing lead to another and we made out and he felt me up a little. But i didn't let it get any farther than that. Actually every time he tried to kiss me or pull me close to him i'd try to push him off but it never really worked. I really wanted to be with him and everything but i actually did try to get him off.
I really don't know what to do.
If i tell my best friend about this she'll totally freak out and we probably won't ever be the same.
And im pretty positive he won't tell anyone so it won't get around.
HELP.

Hello,

I hate to say this but I completely disagree with Lilimax is saying. If this guy was just a fling? Why should it matter? This girl rule is completely crazy, why should anyone not be "allowed" to date someone because of some made up lame rule. If it was an ex boyfriend that she really cared about then maybe I would consider stepping back but, I don't think it's fair that you should walk away from someone you like even though it was just a fling. I think your friend is being a little unreasonable. If she's had serious other boyfriends why is she still holding on to this guy, principle? Just because it's part of some "girl Code?" True you should try to see your best friends point of view but here's the real question. "Does she care that you aren't happy because you didn't date this guy?" chances are no. I say go for it. Because personally, I think you're correct this girl rule is out of hand and girls shouldn't use the girl code for every guy they've ever looked at.

Q: i really like this guy that is bi-racial. (black and white)
and i don't know if my family would accept it or not but i'm not sure that i care..
is there anything wrong with a white girl dating a bi-racial boy?

Hi,

No I don't think there is anything wrong with dating somebody who is bi-racial. I think you should go for it.

Q: For some reason all i want to do is eat and sleep what is wrong with me?

hey,

your lethargy could be do to a lot of things. For one thing it could be that you're not getting enough sleep or it could be your meal plan. Mabye you're not getting enough of a certain vitamin? or maybe you're eating foods that make you feel sluggish. Are you feeling depressed? Usually when we feel depressed we barely want to move. Or you could be catching a could. Trying drinking lots of water, eating healthy(foods and vitamins) that will give you more energy, Vitamin b for example, if this doesn't help and you still feel this way after about two weeks I'd suggest you see your doctor.

Q: Okay, so me and my mom had like this reallyyy deep conversation about her childhood and what it was like compared to what i have. Anyway, it made me realize everything that she does for me. So for her birthday--which is in July--i want to do something special. When i was talking to her she mentioned how she ALWAYS wanted a doll called baby thumbelina. She said how she belived for like 3 years that if you wished on a star and didn't tell anyone your wish would come true. And everynight that was what she wished for..that doll. So as a birthday present or something i was wondering, would it be weird if i got her that doll? Shes going to turn 45. I know shes old, but its kind of something she never forgot. Also, where can i find a cheap REAL one and one thats not damaged or like broken or has anything wrond with it.

Hi,

I don't think it's weird at all I think that's sweet. And it'll show that you care about her. I suggest checking on ebay they always have old stuff that you can't find anywhere else.

Q: 17/f

I'm not a stupid girl, but I did something incredibly dumb. I was in kind of a depression fopr a while and I compeltely lost myself, this guy contcted me through a website and we started talking. He made me feel better and i loved talking to him but soon it became something incredibly creepy. he is in his 40's, which I did not know at first, and he says horrible graphic things to me. when i dont respond he calls me a bitch, slut, tease etc. then he aplogizes later and tells me he loves me? I started to get really really scared so I blocked him everywhere i could. He messages me through myspace and I don't respond, i put my profile on private.

it's been 2 weeks and he still tries to contact me. I got TONS of friend requests on myspace of people I dont know and they are all myspaces made that dya, w/ no friend,s so I think it is him... He messaged me and told me he missed me. Looking bck at our conversations he got alot of information out of me because I stupidly thought it wouldnt be a big deal! I'm really scared, I think he could find out where I live, he won't leave me alone, what should I do?

he says things to me like "you're my barbie doll, my sex slave" I start crying when he sends me things like that.

I don't want to go to the police because my parents aren't normal, they are psychotic and they would look at me going to the police as embarressing them. They would for sure kick me out or something horrible if they found out.

I told ym boyfriend, I don't think that's enough. Is there something I can say to him that would make him stop? How do you handle crazy people, should I ignore im or tell him off or be nice about it?

Hey,

Tell your parents and then tell the police. This guy sounds like a creepy loon. Who cares if they're embarrassed they'll proablly be happier if you're alive. Then ignore that creep.

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