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internet stalker - help me!
17/f
I'm not a stupid girl, but I did something incredibly dumb. I was in kind of a depression fopr a while and I compeltely lost myself, this guy contcted me through a website and we started talking. He made me feel better and i loved talking to him but soon it became something incredibly creepy. he is in his 40's, which I did not know at first, and he says horrible graphic things to me. when i dont respond he calls me a bitch, slut, tease etc. then he aplogizes later and tells me he loves me? I started to get really really scared so I blocked him everywhere i could. He messages me through myspace and I don't respond, i put my profile on private.
it's been 2 weeks and he still tries to contact me. I got TONS of friend requests on myspace of people I dont know and they are all myspaces made that dya, w/ no friend,s so I think it is him... He messaged me and told me he missed me. Looking bck at our conversations he got alot of information out of me because I stupidly thought it wouldnt be a big deal! I'm really scared, I think he could find out where I live, he won't leave me alone, what should I do?
he says things to me like "you're my barbie doll, my sex slave" I start crying when he sends me things like that.
I don't want to go to the police because my parents aren't normal, they are psychotic and they would look at me going to the police as embarressing them. They would for sure kick me out or something horrible if they found out.
I told ym boyfriend, I don't think that's enough. Is there something I can say to him that would make him stop? How do you handle crazy people, should I ignore im or tell him off or be nice about it?
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hello internet stalker - help me!
i have had the same thing happen to me and i am a man over 40 and live in china i can not stop some one from sending bad emails they start to try to destroy my life and make a TV program about me and make up fake sex photos of me with some other persons body and try to say bad things about my family and a lot lot more but in china there is very little law for this i am not chinese so there is not much i can do about it i never say bad thing back in the email but i just joke it off and the emails just use a new MO every time they change
so if you want to get help and go to the police as they can do some thing about it i think it would be better you have a email with ms outlook express so you can see his IP address so the police can trace him
i hope this helps i very hope you can get it to stop but may be i will have it all my life i am afraid they will attack me some other way with my family or new wife and baby when i have one
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Hey,
Tell your parents and then tell the police. This guy sounds like a creepy loon. Who cares if they're embarrassed they'll proablly be happier if you're alive. Then ignore that creep.
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Honestly, Tell the police. I know you don't want to. but this guy could take it a step further & find you. Wouldn't your parents rather you be safe over a little embarassement. If he is really bothering you and your scared tell your parents && call the authorities.
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That's good that you already blocked him on everything. If you want to take it a step further, go into your myspace settings and make sure that it only has your FIRST name on file- that way, he can't really search for you as easily.
If I were you, I would delete my myspace for a while, or at least change myspace profiles. I would also change email addresses, AIM screennames, whatever else. This sounds pretty serious so you need to try to cover up your tracks as much as you can. If that means deleting all of your internet profiles and email addresses, then that's what needs to be done.
Also, go back through your past messages if you still have them and try to figure out what information you gave him- if you gave him the name of where you live or anything. If so, you really, really need to go to the police.
Whatever you do, do NOT contact him or acknowledge him in ANY way. Completely block him out on everything.
Here's another tip... Google yourself and see what comes up. If stuff that has personal information (blogs, school website, whatever else) about you comes up, do whatever you can to erase it.
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ok i know what it's like and i've been there. DON'T TALK TO HIM PERIOD. the more you talk to him the more he talks to you. EVEN IF YOU SAY TO HIM "STOP TLAKING TO ME BLAHBLAHBLAH..." HE'S STILL GOING TO KEEP ON TALKING TO YOU!!!!
if you ignore him he will eventually get tired of you and go away. just don't say anything. as for myspace i suggest you don't add anyone you don't know and delete anyone off of your friends list that you don't know. also if he has a myspace you can report him. if he has aim or yahoo you can block him and he wont be able to tell when you are online.
MOST OF ALL DON'T CRY ABOUT IT. think about this : you're crying over a guy who won't leave you alone. don't even cry it's not worth it all you need to do is make sure you don't talk to him and you lose contact with him. change your screen name or whatever.
IM me if you need more help (xxes25) and i hope you get rid of him =]]
es =]]
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One more message to send to him. You can use this word for word if you would like too:
"I don't want to speak to you anymore. I don't want you to contact me anymore. You have made me very uncomfortable and frightened and it must stop now. If you cannot respect my wishes I will need to get the authorities involved."
Then go back to what you were doing. Ignore all messages, e-mails, everything. Never, ever respond agian.
You are right that telling your boyfriend isn't enough. He has no more life experience then you, he doesn't know what to do anymore then you do. At somepoint you might need to tell your parents, better they be a bit ashamed of you then attend your funeral right? For now though, try telling an older female. A teacher, an aunt. Frankly, anyone female over the age of 25 is bound to have a bit more experience with guys behaving badly and will be able to listen to you and help you figure out how serious the situation is and what response it warrents.
The best thing for anyone to do when you are being threatened is to tell EVERYONE you know, friends roommates, family, co-workers. Let them know and they will help defend and protect you. At this point, tell as many people as you can trust too.
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YOU NEED TO TELL THE POLICE!
I don't care how embarrased you think your parents will get or any of that, and you shouldn't care either.
Your life is a lot more important than allowing this to continue.
No, there is nothing you can say to make this guy stop. He is going to continue harrassing you. What you need to do is save any messages he has sent you. There isn't much anyone can do without proof. Continue ignoring this guy. Continue blocking anything of his that comes your way. You're right - those random friend requests are probably him. You should NEVER add anyone you don't know to your myspace, facebook, etc. and I'm sorry that it took something bad like this to happen for you to realize that.
I'm not going to sit here and chastise you for giving out personal information. You know how stupid of a move that was and I'm sure you've learned your lesson.
As of right now, just continue ignoring him.
If you gave him your city - that's not good, but your city doesn't give away too much. If he knows your city and grade - he could find a few schools you might attend. If he knows your city, grade, and school - or if he just knows your school - that's dangerous. It's even worse if you're in a certain club or sports team and he knows. Even worse if he has your first and last name.
If you gave him anything that could track you to your school, he can find your house.
If you're frightened to go to the police because of a family situation, know this much...
Ignoring him MAY help you. He may get tired and leave you alone. BUT, he may move on to someone else.
Do you want what is happening to you to happen to someone else? I'm sure you don't.
Besides, ignoring him might not even work. He may come find you.
Your only sensible option that WILL work is to save anything and everything he has been sending you. Print things out when you get them [once some things are deleted, it's difficult to impossible to get them back], and CALL THE POLICE!
Your life could be in some serious danger because of some crazy internet stalker. Do not put yourself through this.
Your parents would much rather go through this ordeal then find their daughter dead.
If your parents did something crazy like try and kick you out for this, I'm sure you could find a relative or your boyfriends family to take you in.
You're 17 - I'm guessing you're a junior or senior. That means going off to college soon. You won't have to deal with your parents much longer.
Going to the police is WORTH IT!
I know I'm sounding like a broken record, but you need to hear this.
Go to the police.
This needs to stop - for good.
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