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My boyfriend is always saying stuff like, my other boyfriend this and my other boyfriend that. He says he is just playing but sometimes I dont think he is. We are both 16 and we live together and its starting to get worse and worse. I am deeply in love with him and I dont know what to do. He also grabs me y the arms and my hair sometimes, is that the start of abuse? If some one could answer that question and help me with how I ould make the other boyfriend thing stop, I will love you forever!! Thanks, Kacy
If you have to ask if it's abuse, then chances are, it is probably a form of it. It is aggressive to grab someone by the hair or their arms. In a healthy relationship, that kind of physical contact is usually inexistent.
Perhaps neither of you are ready to be living together. Both of you seem very insecure. You should be discussing this with your boyfriend. When you live together, you have to sit and talk about what is going through each other's mind. You have to be honest because trust is the foundation of a good relationship.
Also, please keep in mind that sometimes jokes can be a way of trying to tell you something. Prepare yourself for the worst, just in case.
i am 20 yrs old n studying medicine...i hav a hectic schedule like 4m 7 am till 4 pm i am in college..den i am really tired but i am 66kgs n wanna hav a weight loss of 10 kgs to b fit ...wat can help me get rid of dese extra kilos...plz help ...i am in hostel so food is provided by dem...plz help me stay in shape...
According to your schedule, you should be losing those pounds in no time. All that running around would help you lose some weight, but you have to eat healthy and exercise when you can.
Eat vegetables, rice, foods you can cook instead of meals that come prepared. Drink about 6 glasses of water a day, or at least bring a water bottle with you.
Also, you don't have to lose weight to be fit! You have to exercise to be fit. Jogging, rollerblading, yoga, and even walking help you lose weight. All the walking you do probably helps too, so just concentrate mostly on eating healthy.
Okay, my friend from another town has a guy friend. And she showed him my picture before and he thinks im hot and wants me to hook up with him. Id make out with someone because Im not prude. But he wants me to give him a blowjob - In the movie theatre! And my friend doesnt think its a big deal. What should I do? Would it be wrong to just make out with him or is that bad? Hes really cute from his pic...My freiend has given him a bj once but ive never done it. 14/f
If to you, it is a big deal, then treat it like one. He is obviously not a gentleman. I understand you like him, but if he asks you to do something you don't want to, you are free to stand up for yourself and either deny him the request verbally or physically by walking out. For a boy to ask sexual favours of a female is quite egotistical and disguisting, especially after you know your friend has given him a blow job.
Do what you are comfortable with. Not what someone says or asks of you. Just make sure to always stand your ground. It will be a useful trait when you are older.
I am 5'1" & I weigh around 139 to 143 lbs. I am not happy with this at all..I am a lil pudgy around the middle and want to loose this! I have tried and tried with the crunches everynight but that hasn't seem to help so now I am at a loss of what to do next! =[ One of my friends can loose 10 lbs in a week by just drinking water...maybe I can try this! If you have any suggestions then PLEASE let me know ASAP!!
Don't you dare go on a water diet. That is an awfully stupid idea and for me to say otherwise, would be lying. Your friend can lose all the pounds she wants, but she will probably gain it back soon.
If you want to lose weight, you have to be committed to a diet and exercise plan. This means eating healthy things you can cook at home, vegetables, fish, eating fruits and committing to a specific exercise plan.
If you want to lose the fat in your stomach area, you can go for a walk or a run every single day. If you are unable to run, you can build up to it by going for a mile or two walk and eventually jogging for the same amount. You also have to build on your accomplishments. If you walk a mile one day, walk one more mile the next. Work out at LEAST 3 times a week. Cardio is important when you want to lose fat.
Eventually, you will increase your metabolism and you'll notice the effects of healthy living.
i died my hair and it was suppose to be dark brown but it came out as dark dark black.. my natural hair is black but my hair now looks 10 times worse ...my question is what can i do to make it lighter again... if i die it again will it work ? and
The more you dye your hair, the more it gets damaged.
Depending on the dye you used, it should wash out eventually. Since you have black hair, you should go to a professional when you want your hair dyed.
Black hair has to be lightened in order to get a brown colour, and I would never suggest doing that at home if you want minimal damage.
If you bleach your hair to get it light on your own, you could end up with really ugly results.
Why don't you just put streaks in your hair? At least they look fantastic without the commitment!
I have wavy hair and i hate to straighten it any advice on how to do it nice every day before school(which means it has to be quick)with out straightening it
Easy 5 for any advice at all!!!
Wavy hair? Consider yourself lucky!
I would suggest buying a light hair wax. After you shower and brush your hair, just put a dime-sized wax on your fingers and put it on your hair and near the tips, then blow dry it. You can put some wax on your hair after you blow dry it as well.
You can also wear it up in a messy bun with minimal bangs at the front.
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after gym i sweat a lot. you can see the sweat from my armpits through my shirt. whats a good deodorant or sumthing else that can help me sweat less (espeically my armpits)
Try applying some baby powder under your arms if you don't have any deodrant.
There are a lot of great men's deodrants that are available. Just go to the store and find one that you feel suits you. Don't forget to take the scent into account. You can always ask your dad to recommend something good.
I have heard good reviews about Right Guard.
ok, pay attention very closely. my parents have always thought my friends were really bad influences on me. this time, they just went overboard. they found a condom and a shot glass in one of my drawers. they also easedropped while i was on the phone with my friend and heard me tell her that i was making out with this guy and stuff. so now they've drawn the conclusion that this is all my friends faults. they've just had enough of my "bad influncing friends" they believe me that im not having sex with anyone but they wont let me keep my friends. they told me that im not allowed to hang out with any of my friends with the exception of 3 of them which arent even friends with my big group of friends. im so depressed, its only been a day and i miss my friends already. i see them for 10 mins before classes start every morning and for maybe 5 mins through the day cause i dont have classes with them and i only have lunch with one. i already cut myself about 5 times. i dont know what to do. when they say something, theyre not gonna go back on it. so i really wanna know how to convince two very stubborn people to let me have my best friends back. please help.
For as long as you are living under their roof, you have to obey their rules. You have to earn your parents' trust. Tell them the truth instead of being dishonest. Sit them down and tell them what you do and what your friends mean to you. Always tell them that they can't control everything you do and in order for you to grow up to be a decent person, you have to have your own life and make your own mistakes. Compromise with them about certain rules. Tell them where you are going and what you are doing. Tell them that you will call them when you're somewhere and if you will be drinking, make sure to let them know.
Parents mean well and they just want what is best for you. While you may think that it angers them when you do silly things, but in reality, parents just want the truth; a reason to trust you. They want you to trust them as much as you want them to trust you! We all know what kind of people are out there in the world and parents just want to make sure you are safe and secure.
hEy please help me if you can.! Okay, well ive been going out with the same guy for 7 months and im 13 if that means n e thing. We've done everything but sex, but im in love with him. The bad thing is that i dont do that stuff with him n e more bc i guess i dont feel a connection. I know he is in love me but how do i go about telling him that i dont want to be with him anymore? Im only 13 i want to go out with other ppl..also i think i just want to go on break with him..how should i go about telling him that?? PleAsE heLP! I know this is going to break his heart but i would rather do this than cheat on him!
You should be straight-forward. What do you think would break his heart more? Honesty or cheating?
People learn to trust you more and completely when you are honest with them, even if it means hurting them. At least they know they can rely on you.
Okay so theres this really creepy older guy that is living common low with another woman and is always hitting on me. He honks at me when he drives by in his car (which is almost every day)and has called me cutie when he was on his bike.
This one time he came into my work ( I was receptionist) and started asking me how old I was, where I lived, and then told me I looked really good and he wanted to phone me. I told the staff and they were going to phone the cops, but he never came in again so they never called them.
He is a total sleaze, I talked to one of his kids once and they said that he's fathered nine sons by nine different woman.
Other people have told me he his really mean to his wife. He has spent time in jail and was banned from the place I worked for harassing other people.
At first I just laughed off his behavior but It is really beginning to bother me. I don't want to tell him to stop honking at me and stuff because I don't want to piss him off but also don't want him to think I like him.
What should I do?
Your safety is very important, therefore I would suggest taking some sort of a self-defense class as a 'just in case'. Also, depending on where you live, you can see this 'gentleman's' criminal record to assess his past. Make sure you tell someone he is bothering you, whether it is a friend or a family member, in case of anything.
Just don't let him approach you. Walk away or walk in the other direction. He'll get it. If he doesn't, then this guy may be a danger and it would be best for you to report harrassment.
help i just got my dog some shoes from pet's mart, and they're sooooo cute! and we just got them today, but she walks really funny and weird in them... like she lifts up her feet too high and walks slow, and doesn't really want to move... do you think she just needs to get used to them... and do you think that once she gets used to them she'll start walking normally? if you think she will, how long do you think it'll take? we only put it on her feet when she goes outside, and she goes outside like after every few hours or something.
please help i rate high!!!
P.S. also, if you have a dog that actually has shoes too, then tell me how your dog was walking at first, and if it ever got used to it, and all that stuff!!! please give me some details so i'll know exactly!!!!
As cute as shoes may be for dogs, some don't like them. Why put your dog through the torture?
She's obviously uncomfortable in those shoes so just take them off and let her relax.
But when the weather is cold, some dogs do appreciate their little paws warm.
On august 13th I got an industrial on my right ear and i didnt and cant soak it in sea salt solution for the recommended 5 minutes a day because i didnt/dont have time, so i am developing keloids. i have a raised pink one right on the top 1st hole, and im getting on on the other side(bottom) of the 1st hole. Now on the second hole, right in the middle of the two is a lump. its sort of coming out of the bottom part of the second hole (if you really know pericings, youll know what im talking about). Now i went back to the place i got it done and they told me to soak it 4-6 times a day, and i dont have time for that. Now i was reading something about this, and someone said something about crushing up aspirin and mixing it with water, and putting it on the keloids? If anyone knows anything that is like that, please tell me what is it. I need something that will make them go away(the keloids), and isnt time consuming, because i dont really have time for much things anymore =\. thank you guys soo much i really hate these.
To be honest, you should try to make time for it, even if it is for a minute. Don't crush any aspirin and mix it with water. It is totally useless. Make sure to take care of your piercings and listen to the piercer's instructions. They are not just there to puncture your skin and if you can't spare the time for your piercings, don't get them. Why put your body through the torture of the possibility of Toxic Shock Syndrome? It is possible when piercings become infected.
Oh, and keloids are usually genetic. Chances are, you have a family history of them, so they will usually happen when you get piercings.
Keloids can be removed by freezing or surgery, therefore you would have to go a doctor and get a referral for a specialist.
My first suggestion would be a visit to your doctor. Make sure it is not a hypertrophic scar because some people mistake them for keloids.
My best friend had phone sex with my brother and she doesnt want me to be mad. Do I forgive and forget, or stay mad at her and forgive her eventually or stay mad at her forever??
Signed,
Grossed out
I don't see what reason you have to be mad, unless you are dating your brother. I would suggest forgiving and letting it go. What your brother does in his privacy should stay in his privacy. Next time, just tell your friend, who obviously likes your brother, to keep it to herself. No one wants to hear about their family's sex life or anything remotely close to it.
one of my best friends is going out with a jerk. and i'm not just being judgemental. he really is a jerk and is a bad person. and i cant stand him. he treats her so badly. he's a player and is really flirty to other girls and gets their numbers.. this is while they're going out. it makes me sad to watch this happen.. and this happened in her last relationship and she was really crushed. i wanna tell her but i dont want to hurt her feelings because she's really sensitive about this kind of thing and probly wont listen to me. what can i do??
It's really sweet that you are taking her feelings into consideration, but whether she is sensitive or not, she will get hurt. Be honest with her. You are her best friend and best friends tell you when that dress makes your butt look fat or if that guy she likes is just plain mean.
She may not want to hear it, but it will do her a lot of good. If she does not listen to you now, chances are once the boyfriend hurts her, she will realize you, as her best friend, was honest and truthful with her. If she does listen to you, at least she can prepare herself for heartbreak. You can help her by just telling her how you see things from your perspective and how she should be careful.
Even just being there helps. Sometimes, the worst relationships allow us to grow and have the best relationships.
what are some good ways to remember not to get mad on the tennis court? i seem to have a temper when i play. also.. what are some good ways to keep your self esteem up and be confident? it's whats killing my tennis game and i could be a much better player without this. thanks and i rate well.
If you dwell on a situation, you're bound to lose. Sports are the perfect way to channel anger. That's just what you should do. Take your anger and use it to your advantage. Channel your anger to your body and use that fierce and strong attitude when you serve.
The only way to keep your confidence is to remind yourself you are good and you work hard. Don't punish yourself, but instead imagine yourself winning. The most important factor is to practice, practice, practice, the sure-fire way to gain and keep your confidence.
Is it ok for a guy to stay out late partying if his girl is sitting at home waiting for him?
Well it all depends on the situation.
If he was supposed to hang out with you instead, then no it's not okay.
If he is having a guy's night out, then it's okay.
If he is flirting or getting intimiate with another female, it's DEFINITELY not okay, assuming you two are not in an 'open relationship'.
Assuming he is having a guy's night out, then you have to give him his space. Go out on your own once in a while too. Don't be dependent and wait for him. Do you see him waiting for you? No. So go out and have some fun with your friends.
this is a dumb question, but i really don't know...
what is PMSing? I heard that term a few times in the last few days and i didn't get it. plz help
Pre-Menstrual Syndrome is the emotional and sometimes physical changes which occur in a woman's body before they get their period. Some women get fatigue and emotional, some will feel bloated, irritable, and get backaches. The hormonal changes will trigger these symptoms.
Not every woman is the same. Some women will, interestingly enough, get PMS after their period or even during. It differs from woman to woman, but most will tell you it's two weeks prior to your period.
Hey Thanks for all the answeres about the dance question!! but unfortunately it looks like i can't go becuz my mom doesn't want me to she is afraid the girls r gonna take me 2 some alley somewhere and beat me up!! so should i fight with my mother and ask me to go to the dance or should i just stay home?
I would suggest compromising with your mother. If you have a cellphone, assure her that you will call if you start to feel uncomfortable or if something happens. Or you can tell her you will keep in touch and call her every hour or two so she knows you are okay.
She needs to let you grow up. She can't shelter you forever. You can't survive when you're older if she keeps trying to shelter you from all the bad AND the good.
Hey Huns! This is advicenator: Strawberriilova92! Well, I know you probably have gotten alot like this. But, I'm fallin' for skateboarders all the sudden. And I have this best friend Sam, and he sorta likes me. He has skater blondee hair tha skater length, brown eyes tan and muscular. Tonight, we were totally flirting he kept hugging me, sitting on my lap, and sharing chairs. But I'm not sure if he likes me, how can I find out the truth without directly asking him!! Well im sure your advice will be great!!
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At this point, you don't need to ask. It's obvious.
i am at my wits end as to what to do circumstances are such that i may not be able to get my kids that much for christmas i know that christmas is more than gifts so if that is your advice thanks but my kids are use to gifts for christmas i am sure i will be able to figure something out but any suggestions would be helpful thanks this is really getting me depressed
Your kids don't need that much for Christmas any way. If they're good kids, they'll be thankful to have what they have already.
Why don't you go to a dollar store and buy a few baskets and fill them with goodies as gifts? It will look fancy and they will probably appreciate it. Plus, it's not costly at all.