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my friend and her bf
one of my best friends is going out with a jerk. and i'm not just being judgemental. he really is a jerk and is a bad person. and i cant stand him. he treats her so badly. he's a player and is really flirty to other girls and gets their numbers.. this is while they're going out. it makes me sad to watch this happen.. and this happened in her last relationship and she was really crushed. i wanna tell her but i dont want to hurt her feelings because she's really sensitive about this kind of thing and probly wont listen to me. what can i do??
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FOR GOD'S SAKE GET YOUR ASS IN GEAR AND SAY SOMETHING TO HER. As your friend it should be your duty to tell her what you see and why you don't like it.
I'll put this bluntly. She is already past the point of no return: nothing you do now will stop her from having her feelings hurt. By this situation, she may not know it now, but every way she goes will end the same.
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I think the point is, that your friend needs to know, whether she will believe you or not, or be upset, mad, or depressed. She needs to be told no matter what reaction she has to it. You need to just assure her that you wouldn't lie to her, you wouldn't get her hurt on purpose, and that you only want her to have the truth from her best friend, and you just need to tell her, and if she starts getting rude and upset, just assure her again, and just say, "You can believe me, or you can't, I'm just letting you know what I saw this guy do, if you choose not to believe me, you can find out for yourself later, but I am telling you now, because you don't deserve this." Thats basically all that you can do until she finds out for herself. And just remember that this is about your best friend, so don't go up to her boyfriend and start yelling at him, because this situation isn't even half about him, its about his actions, and don't let a bunch of your friends yell at him either, again, that will solve noting, the only person who can fix this situation is him or your friend.
-TheTeenGirl
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If you really care about your friend and are worried about then one day when the two of you are alone just take her aside and talk to her about how you are worried about her and you aren't trying to hurt her feelings or anything but you don't think her bf is really good for her. Tell her why you don't think he's good for her, and explain to her that you really care about her and it hurts you when he treats her the way he does. Make sure you let her know that she is really important to you and you don't want to her hurt her or anything and you really care about her. Good luck and i hope it works out for your friend.
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It's really sweet that you are taking her feelings into consideration, but whether she is sensitive or not, she will get hurt. Be honest with her. You are her best friend and best friends tell you when that dress makes your butt look fat or if that guy she likes is just plain mean.
She may not want to hear it, but it will do her a lot of good. If she does not listen to you now, chances are once the boyfriend hurts her, she will realize you, as her best friend, was honest and truthful with her. If she does listen to you, at least she can prepare herself for heartbreak. You can help her by just telling her how you see things from your perspective and how she should be careful.
Even just being there helps. Sometimes, the worst relationships allow us to grow and have the best relationships.
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You need to tell her; bottom line. Be her friend.
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