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Strange Love
My boyfriend is always saying stuff like, my other boyfriend this and my other boyfriend that. He says he is just playing but sometimes I dont think he is. We are both 16 and we live together and its starting to get worse and worse. I am deeply in love with him and I dont know what to do. He also grabs me y the arms and my hair sometimes, is that the start of abuse? If some one could answer that question and help me with how I ould make the other boyfriend thing stop, I will love you forever!! Thanks, Kacy
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If you have to ask if it's abuse, then chances are, it is probably a form of it. It is aggressive to grab someone by the hair or their arms. In a healthy relationship, that kind of physical contact is usually inexistent.
Perhaps neither of you are ready to be living together. Both of you seem very insecure. You should be discussing this with your boyfriend. When you live together, you have to sit and talk about what is going through each other's mind. You have to be honest because trust is the foundation of a good relationship.
Also, please keep in mind that sometimes jokes can be a way of trying to tell you something. Prepare yourself for the worst, just in case.
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My brothers friends all joke about that stuff to but they dont really mean it. I think that he isnt serious because if he was wouldnt he be with a guy instead of a girl. I dont think that it is the start of abuse but he really seriously hurts then i suggest seeing someone else. I know that your in love but if he is hurting you then you shouldnt be in that situation if he loves you back.
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Kacy,
First of all, I don't quite understand why or how two 16 year olds are living together. But that is beside the point.
Let me tell you my first impression after I read your question.
Get out of that situation. Your boyfriend is insecure and has trust issues. That will continue without doubt. The fact that he's putting his hands on you in an aggressive way concerns me. I don't know if it's the "start of abuse" but it definitely isn't a good thing. It could turn out to be ugly.
As a believer, I am obligated to speak truth in love. I believe that this "relationship" you have is destined to turn and end on unfriendly grounds. Girls supposedly mature faster than guys and you're probably a bit more mature than him. I just don't believe that the two of you are ready for a full-time commitment to each other when neither of your brains are fully developed. He is already showing signs of immaturity since his way of "handling" sticky situations is to physically grab you. Please, for your best interest and his, get out of the situation you're in. Find a youth pastor, pastor, parent, or friend that will help you out until you can get on your own feet. Whatever you do, do NOT stay.
-ByReasonofUse
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