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Drugs
Okay.. Me an this girl have been friends since like the 6th grade and now we are freshman. Well at the beginning of the school year she got caught taking pills along with some other kids. Well every since then she has been hanging out with these other people that are wrong for her. So now she does crack, weed, sniffs muscle relaxers && drinks. I try an talk to her but all she does it cuss me out. She says this is the happiest shes been in awhile, and that she likes doing it. She says shes tired of me acting like a "perfect christian" thats it's p'ing her off. She also said that if i told anyone that she was gonna beat my butt. She parties every weekend and even on the weekdays. I don't know what to say to her anymore about it. I want to help her so much. But I dunno what to do. Please help me.
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well the truth is..that there isn`t really anything you can do. she has the right to do whatever she wants..even if it is the wrong desion. eventually she should realize that this isn`t her. i hope everything works out..but for now try and keep your mind off it. if you need anything else feel free to ask me!
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Everyone has the opportunity to grow up at some point or another. These opportunities come in different forms. You have to accept and be understanding towards the choices your friends make, but not necessarily their lifestyle. They may not always be the same choices you make, but everyone has their own path.
If you are concerned, you can tell a counsellor, but don't go over-board. Keep in mind that she needs to live her life and sometimes for people to learn and grow, they have to experience different things and situations.
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You could try talking to someone about it but it sounds like it won't help too much. I appreciate that you want to help her but if she doesn't want to be helped then you're not going to do much good. You could try talking to her over a drink like vic said but other than that there's not much that can be done. If you want then you could go to an adult but like I said, to get help she needs to want to be helped (and it certianly won't do wonders for your friendship)
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I know how you feel. The same thing happened to my friends. They did that stuff and wanted me to do them but since I am christian i wouldnt do it because i knew it was wrong. They would make fun of me for being such a goody too shoes. There isnt really anything you can do but let her learn from her mistakes. When she does learn all you can do is help her when she needs you. If you make her stop she will just pull away. Its good that you are christian and wont do these things. She thinks that drugs are the answer for her anger but it is not and soon she will learn that and she will need you. I know it is hard for to let your friend throw her life away. All you can do is try to get her to stop and never give up on that.
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one day you should like have a drink with her dont do more then drink a glass or two maxi so your still all there and she will think your like "cooler" then i dno she will act more relaxed with you and maybe you can talk to her then. coz i know ppl addicted to light drugs liek weed crack and shit and trust me its fuckin hard to get out of it and i think that if you chill out with them they will be like wow shes cooler actually and then maybe you can calm her down or else if it doesnt work stay out of it i mean it is her life! but you should still try!
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First of all, let me commend you for your concern and your active confrontation. It is not easy to confront a friend with sin. Keep trying to become the "perfect christian." God says, "Be ye holy for I am holy." We are to strive for perfection. We won't reach it until we leave this unredeemed flesh, but we are to try.
Secondly, go to your pastor or to your parent. If the pastor or parent knows the parents of this girl, they are in a much better position to help her. She may be angry at you for saying something, but in the long run, by God's grace, she'll thank you for it.
The best thing, other than telling a proper authority, is praying for her. You can't turn a blind eye to what she's doing, but you should let someone else in the driver's seat on this one.
Then when the authority confronts her, be there for support. That will mean very much to her.
Let me know if I can clarify or help in any way and let me know how you decide to handle it.
-ByReasonofUse
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Alright, regardless of whether or not she wants you to tell, Tell someone! Tell an authority like a teacher, and they'll handle the situation properly. Just make sure it's anonymous. Don't make yourself responbil for her well being either. It's not your job and you don't need the stress. It's great to be a concerned friend, but it's not your place to make sure she gets into rehab. Also, if she has a problem with the way you live your life, she's not worth your time anymore. People change as they grown and it's not always for the better. I know it's tough to watch a friend fall away, but sometimes that's all we can do. If they aren't open to getting help, we can't give it to them. Just be sure that whatever you do, you alert an authority to her actions and behaviors. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, feel better.
~Luna
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