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i've heard different things. i was just wondering what the best and most effective method(s) are. (link)
I know poeple who have them and they just didn't bath for a really long time and it formed naturally, that's how most people get them.


I've had a sore throat for about a week maybe 2 and it jsut won't go away. it hurts when i swallow food or drinks and when i speak its hurts sometimes. i've drank a lot of water and had a lot of tea. I don't know what else to do, any suggestions? (link)
I know someone who had that then one day they got a fever. They thought it was the flu, but when she went to the doctor they found out she had Mono. It's and airborn virus so if you went to the store and someone had it, walked by you and coughed, you could have got it. So just to be on the safe side you should go to the doctor and ask him about it. I hope your throat feels better. Try the Junior Mints, they help my throat.


Ok..soo i met this guy at a baseball game and he got my number from one of my guys friends. So he called me that night..and now we talk on the phone every night. And i mean we're starting to like eachother but the problem is..he lives like an hr n 30 min away. We really want to hang out..cuz we've only met once. But the problem is..it wont be awhile till come up there again..like the end of the summer. WHat should i do? (link)
I think you should just go with the flow and see what happens. If it's meant to be it'll work out. If not you could still be friends. Hope I helped.


Alright, before I ask my question I want you guys to know that even though it's kind of funny, I'm being completely 100% serious.


Last night I was over at a friends house and we found his step mom's...dildo. Well someone thought it'd be funny if we put Icy Hot on it so that whenever she uses it...well you know. I thought it'd be funny as well so I went with it. When I got home I realized that it was a pretty immature thing to do and I was questioning whether or not I should call her and tell her about it or to tell my friend to wash it off or something before she gets to it. What do y'all think I should do? Or should I just not say anything? (link)
You should have your friends wipe it off before she uses it that way nothing bad happens. You probally shouldn't call her and tell her becasue you would probally get in a loead of trouble.


OKay im 14/f and i have a guy friend whos 15 he is like my best friend and he has always been there for me... but latley weve been talking about like doing stuff with eachother and like fooling around... but like we wouldnt have sex or anyhting close to it.. but like do you think it will ruin our friendship or change it for the worse?????
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It might not be a good idea because you might get really close then one of you starts to get feelings for eachother while the other one realizes they don't feel anything more then friendship. Also you could dtae then brake up and not get along if it's a bad breakup. Hope everything works out though.


My cousin had a friend over. They asked if I wanted to see a movie with them at home. I said okay. I went. My cousin's mom told me that I couldn't go because my cousin never asked her. So I had to go home. My cousin never apologized. I got a phonecall. It was my cousin's friend, who asked, "Hey, do you have any money?" I said no. My cousin's friend asked, "Well, I have a proposition for you. I heard that you like me, so if you go to the movies with us and pay for me to go, then I'll call it a date." I said that I don't even know my cousin's friend and won't be used like that.

Should I be offended? My cousin is one of my best friends. (link)
You gave your cousins friend a good answer. NEVERl et nayone use you!! Yes I would be really offended and I would talk to my cousin if I were you.


me and my ex still have feelings for each other. i know he does because he tells me he does and we promised to date again once skool starts. but here's the problem we also said that we had summer off so we could date other people and he got a girlfriend. i didn't cuz well i don't really care for anybody but him. so anyways i think that girl and him might stay together for a long time and i'm worried cuz i love him and he's all i want. wat should i say to him. should i try to brake them up. i 'm really confused please help. (link)
Talk to him, ask if your plans to get back together are still on. If he says no act like you don't care and make him think it's a good thing because you have another guy you want. Actually find someone else if he says no, find someone A.S.A.P. that way he will get MAJOR jelous and hopefully will realize he made a mistake and try to get you back. I hope I helped.


well my parents just got divorced and i am 14 by the way and um well my dad cheated on my mom and now since there divorced he is showing me all to these diffrent women and i am really pissed about that what should i do



Help me!!! (link)
You need to tell him how you feel. If he doesn't respect that and still brings them around then don't go around him for awhile, then he will see you are serious and after a few days you two will make up. He will realize how his actions have consequences. He probally will respect that you don't want to see them beacuse you love your mom and everything.


So there's this guy at work (we're both 17) that I really like. When ever we work together, I always talk to him, sit with him on my break and stuff. My other 2 friends that work with him in his department keep joking around that we should hook up, which makes me wonder if he talks about me or has told them something. I also don't want it to get out that I like him because he's a good friend of mine and i don't want it to be weird at work if i did make a move or if he knew I liked him. I gave him my e-mail address 30 days ago, so like a month ago, and he never did anything with it. no e-mails or anything. so i don't know if he does actually like me like that and i would prefer not to have to tell anyone about it 'cause i don't want him to find out......

What should I do??¿?? (link)
If you give a guy your e-mail and he likes you he might not e-mail you because he is nervous about what to say. I would ask one of the people who worked with me and him to try to find out what he thinks about you and what his feelings are. If you don't want him to find out then ask them not to tell him. Let them know you are serious, if you can trust them in that way, I don't know how close you are with them, or how close he is with them. Hope I Helped!


I have this really good friend and I've known her for about 3 years. We're really close and all but i feel like I like her a little more then a best friend. I know im not a lesbian because i've had boyfriends and been completely comfortable with them. it's just that my friend is always there for me and always makes me feel better about myself. has anyone ever felt this way about their best friend? Or could i be bi? what do you guys think? (I'm 14/f.) (link)
Maybe you think of your friend as more then a best friend because you guys have become like sisters? Right now your at a confusing age with hormones going everywhere so it's probally hormones making you think that. If you still think it's more then that, you might wanna look into the Bi thing. Your probally fine though.


I have skipped two monthes in a row. I have not had sex. I am kind of worried. Is it normal to skip? My hormones are the same, as if I were on my period, but nothings happend for 2 monthes? Help! (link)
If you have only had your period for less then a couple years it is normal because you will be irregular. Don't worry even if you have had it longer because if you get really sick or stressed out you can skip. If you continue to skip your period you should tell your doctor, but your probally fine!


My friend is doing drugs a lot. She smokes weed every day and does ecstacy a few times a week. I have talked to her about it a lot, and she's not going to change. I don't know if I should tell her mom or do something else. So what should I do? (link)
You should tell her mom. I know It will be hard but that's the best way you can help her get through this. She might be mad at first but she will forgive you once it's all over and will respect your choice. That's the best thing you could do for her. Good luck, I hope everything works out!


my boyfriend has gone away for about 2 weeks and I wont be able to talk to him until he comes back. I want to suprise him and have some really special things for us to do when he gets back. Could you guys help me brainstorm some ideas?

I love him so much I want to show him (link)
Try to cook his favorite dinner, for him. Guys usually love food :) You two could have some kind of a romantic dinner and you could light candles, and play soft music. That would be really sweet. Hope I helped.


Mmkay.. here's the deal.
I have plantar warts on my feet (gross, I know) and I have to go to the doctor to get them removed.

Can anyone who's had them removed before tell me the process and how abd it hurts.
Like is it majorly paniful!? It's scaring me to think about it, so I wanna know from someone whos ahd it.
Any helps appreciated


Thanks ♥ (link)
My best friend had them and had to have them removed. It hurts to walk for a few days, and the needle numbing your foot hurts the worst. (What she told me). Good luck.


Well, my situation is as followed.

I have two best friends. One of which I dated, and we broke up. Now my other best friend whom is a girl, always thought my boyfriend was hot and lusted after him.

I trusted both of them completely, and not even a month after we broke up they had sex. Well, If one of them would of told me - it would of been nice but I found out thru HER ex boyfriend, and only because there was a pregnancy scare.

I feel betrayed because she promised she would never do anything with him, and I am still in love with him and she knew that when she did what she did.

He's away at basic in the army, and I had to deal with her. Her response was, "It's in the past, I cant do anything about it now." and her explanation for the event happening was that He started it, and she said (I quote) "I'm a ho, It's in my blood. Someone wants to hit this, I let them!"

I don't know how to deal with this situation. I didnt deck her like I wanted to, but I stayed over at her house and chilled that day because I wasn't sure how to react. Now she calls and I don't want to anwser her phone calls...how do I deal with this?

She seems to feel no remorse for it.. wants to be friends still..

But I know I can't just go on without having my say in it or else I will always feel bitter.

Yes it's in the past but the consequences are NOW.

I need help right away!

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If I were you I would be finding myself a new best friend. A best friend is supposed to be someone you trust if she is going to be like that then she isn't a true friend. You shouldn't have to deal with it anymore.


Can you pee with a tampon in?? also...is it ok to wear a tampon even if you dont have your pieriod?? and does it hurt more to take out a "dry" tampon??? (link)
You can pee with your tampon in, but DO NOT wear one if you are NOT on your period. It isn't healthy. Taking out a dry Tampon hurts way more then taking out a wet one. Make sure you know about TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrom); make sure you read up on it. Hope I helped.


i was wondering is there a site i can go to get a email pal or something? i dont want a penpal to write to but i want to talk to them by email? i dont mean anything like a chat room. thanks (link)
Here are some sites I hope help:

http://www.easypenpals.com/
http://www.europa-pages.com/penpal_form.html
http://www.europa-pages.com/penpal_form.html


ok well...sorry if this is too long but..... i have been gettin these strong feelings....first i thought....no sex before marriage.......then i thought.... you know sex before marriage is not that bad....then now i am thinking it is great to have sex AFTER marriage, but then i am asking all these questions in my head..what if he doesnt like my body? what if...this happens what if that... i have been thiking alot ...and i have been lusting....ye lol...and i have been having these ideas maybe a month ago..children? my ass i am adopting..now i think it would be cool to have a baby..just a life and all the beauty..and since i am getting these ideas to be married of course i will have a baby IN marriage.....and then i am getting these thoughts it would be a beautiful thing to do this...and then i am thinking oh i wanna have a child and get married at 19..then i am like what am i thinking? then i am thinking 20..no 26.....and i am all copnfused and THINKING A LOT .. i have just layed on my bad and thought......and i think about sex.... yup..and i really feell i need to do something about this...please help!!!!!!!!!! (link)
It's normal to have all these mixed feelings. I have had them to. I have almost done stuff that I know I would have regretted later.
MAybe at that time it sounded good but later on maybe not... Make sure with whatever decision you make you are ready.


what if your married....and the guy you love doesnt like your body? it would be totally foolish if you got divorced the night after?? plz tell me.. i am really curious (link)
No it wouldn't. If a guy I loved told me that he obviously wouldn't love everything about me. You should want a guy who loves you unconditionally. It sounds to me like the guy is a jerk and you could probally do much better. I hope you find someone out there who loves you completely and that you love completely. But it would NOT be foolish!


I think I finally found the guy I'd stick with till I die even though Im 13. Hehe. But, he doesn't love me back! OMG I'm so upset and depressed and hurt and discouraged. And the only person that can ever help me with this is HIM! But noooooooo, he isn't here anymore! What do I do b4 I kill myself? Suicide is the only option so far...........

~Kayla~
Thanx in advance. (link)
If he doesn't love you back then try to grt over him. You deserve someone who is going to love you as much as you love them!
Hun trust me suicide is not the answer. It never is!




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