I'm a 25 year old mom to daughter, Amber, and studying to be a nurse practitioner. I've worked in Obsetrics and Gynecology, as well as a pediatric unit. I'm virtually always online, feel free to IM me whenever you'd like. But first, email me and tell me your screenname, I don't talk to anyone I don't know. I'll give advice through Advicenators, through email or AIM.
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ok so i just had sex for the first time about a week ago and well...it was a little rough. i mean like the guys likes to go really hard. but anyways. my question is...is it normal for the vaignal area to be like...tender and sore after sex? becuase like it hurts down there...is something wrong? (link)
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It's completely normal for both the external and internal vaginal areas to be tender after sex, especially if you say it was a little rough. You just aren't used to it yet. There's nothing wrong. Ask the guy to be more careful and go slower next time, that should help. Also, you can use a lubricant to make it smoother.
For additional advice, you can IM me at madalyn987 or email me at madalyn987@yahoo.com
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Alright so, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and we've started having sex. We usually use condoms, but I was wondering.. how effective is the "pull-out method" i know a lot of people think it should be shunned but, i know a lot of people who have done it a lot and have had nothing happen. What do you guys think? (link)
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The only way for you to get pregnant is if he ejaculates inside you. The pull-out method can be effective, but it's tough to stop what you've started. You may find that "in the moment" you can't find the strength to stop everything, and your boyfriend may ejaculate.
Keep using condoms. There's no reason why you shouldn't.
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what does masterbate mean? (link)
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It's self gratification.
Need more?
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okay so my boyfriend wants to finger me and so far hes felt me through like sweatpants.. but next time we hang out.. he wants to go in my pants and i dont mind.. except.. what does he expect to find as far as pubic hair goes? we never talked about it because i dont want to bring it up.. should i shave it or trim or what???
16/f. thanks (link)
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This question is one that comes up a lot with girls your age. My advice is to do what you feel comfortable with. After the first time, your boyfriend's reactions should basically show what he likes and what he doesn't. Either way, it's your body, and you have control over how it looks. Be comfortable.
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ok like now..im not sexually active but when it comes to the time .. i hear that fingering is a good way to get loosened up, so when your bf finger's you..like where do u look? wont it be awkward if you look at him while he's doing it? do you lay down..what?! (link)
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Every girl likes to do it differently, as does every guy. You can lie down, or sit, or even stand.
As to where to look, it depends. Most of the time, fingering progresses from kissing, so just keep your eyes closed and kiss your boyfriend. If not, you can look at him, it won't be weird. He'll probably be looking at you as well. Connect eyes, or just revele in the feelings together. Although he's pleasuring you, he's getting some stimulation as well.
Don't worry about it being awkward, it's a first feeling and will soon be replaced by pleasure. Chances are he's feeling a little strange as well.
If it gets farther than you want it to go, looking away can help discourage him.
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i know i am kinda weird but can you put that in easier words please? sorry about this i am clueless. (link)
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Wait, what was the question again? Sorry.
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what does masterbate mean? (link)
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The dictionary definition is: get sexual gratification through self-stimulation.
Basically, it's where you stimulate yourself sexually by use of your fingers, or other objects.
If you need anything more, feel free to send me another message.
Madalyn
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ok, so i dont know where to put my tampon. my mom keeps telling me the middle hole, but i have no clue what she is talking about. i think its to whole that basically ends that whole vagina thing? and is that where the penis goes for when you have sex? and is that where you masterbate? (link)
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Mhmm.
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i havent gotton my period yet but i have been getting discharge for a year now and i still havent got it. Why havent i had my period yet? Well i got my period a year ago and ever since then i have been getting discharge. (yellowish and whitish.) Any help? (link)
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Discharge of any color, whether you've gotten your period or not, it normal.
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Ok well i started my period when i was 12 years old. I am now 14 years old and i'm a 32 A. On both sides of my family all the woman are atleast C's. Am i ever going to get bigger because im so self concious about my small boobs. It's like there barely there it makes me feel like a little boy. Everything else is fine it just my boobs are really small and coming from a family full of big breasted woman it makes me wonder. When do you think they will get bigger? Is there an age in mind? Because on most sites it says your breast delevopment is normally done at age 15 and i just cant see to much progress happening in the next 3 months.
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Breast size, although it can be genetic, varies from woman to woman. At 14, many girls still have smaller breasts. What you say about development being finished at age 15 is completely not true. Puberty can stretch into your late teens, or even early twenties, believe it or not. I wouldn't be worried. They'll sprout when they're ready. :)
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okay so my bestfriend and her boyfriend were together on friday right? and i hung out with her after she left his house. she tells me him and her both got naked and that stuck it in for like 5seconds she doesnt think he came but she is still a little confused and the day after[saturday] she got her period. do you think she can still be pregnant.. please answer soon... chelsea is anxious of knowing.. :]
-Melissa! (link)
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No. If she had her period, she is not pregnant. She shouldn't worry.
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sixteen/female.
what happens when a girl gets off by being fingered? my boyfriend did this to me twice, once just "feeling around" and the next actually trying to accomplish what's supposed to happen, haha. but neither of us knew what happens when a girl does get off, so we stopped. this may be a rediculous question, but i never masturbated and we're both inexperienced because our realtionship has never been about "doing stuff". help pleaseee. (link)
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I dont understand exactly what you're asking. Email me at madalyn987@yahoo.com, I'll help you some more.
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if you have sex. and you;re supposed to get your period about two weeks after...will it just be late or will you completly miss it? i never under stood that.. (link)
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You'll completely miss it.
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how do you calculate your period, like if i got it today will i get another one in 28 days or will i get it 28 days after it ends? (link)
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Your next cycle begins the day your last period begins.
So if you get it on November 10th, and you have a 28 day cycle, expect your next one on December 8th.
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Its slang what does "chop" mean.This boy went to ask my mate out and he said, when can i chop her? (link)
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Basically, he was trying to say, "When can I sleep with her?"
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ok so...my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and we have sex plain and simple. but lately it seems like every time we do he rips me maybe??? if that's what it is...is it normal for that to happen repeatedly if we're having sex twice a week? and if that's not what it is basically i bleed a VERY little tiny bit so what could that be?
any advice is helpful. thank you so much!
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I don't think he's ripping you. The hymen is normally torn at the first penetration. Occasionally, it won't rip. It will eventually tear at a later time, but a year and a half is much too long for it to stay attached, especially since you're having sex twice a week.
Next time, take it slow. Tell him to slow down during intercourse, hopefully that'll take care of it. You could just be raw down there.
The bleeding is normal. Don't worry about that. Some women bleed only during their first time, others bleed after that. It's not uncommon.
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So me and my bofriend haven't had sex and are both virgins. But we do have sex play. He's the first guy I've ever done anything with besides kissing. He's waaay more experienced than me and he says he's been close to having sex before. Which could mean he's made sexual contact with other people, and I'm guessing he probably has..he's been doing that for awhile..[before we started dating] I don't know how many girls he's been with or whatever. But..I want him to get tested. The problem is, I don't know how to ask him to do that or anything. Because I'm afraid if I do he'll think that I think he's like disease-infested or something. And I don't. But the truth of the matter is you don't have to have sex for STDS to spread and anything is possible I mean half the time people don't even know they have like a STD or whatever...soo...IDK how to talk to him about this. We can talk about other stuff like sex, pregnancy, or whatever. But if I asked him to do this I'd feel kinda mean or whatever...IDK what to do. What should I do?
ALSO--he's in the navy so they require urine tests...would STDS show up? (link)
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You need to sit down with him and have a nice long talk. You should explain to him that getting tested would open you up more. Agree to get tested as well. That way, he doesn't think that you think he has something. Make sure he knows that you're only doing this to be safe.
Certain STDs can show up in urine tests, but they are rarely looked at and usually passed over. A blood test is the most efficient way to discover STDs inside the body.
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well im almost 14 and i just started masterbating a little. it feels good but i feel like i shouldn't be doing it.
i was with my friends and they were talking about it and saying how gross it was. i was just like playing along and agreeing even though i do it.
am i too young?.. is there anyone my age that does it too?
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Honey, don't worry about it. It's part of growing up and into yourself. Believe it or not, I could bet that every one of those girls talking about how "gross" it was probably do it as well.
I don't think you're too young. Honestly, do what feels right to you and don't go too far. You don't want to hurt anything "down there" that could affect your life as you get older.
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16/f. my religion tells us not to have sex until we are married, and i plan on sticking to that. im possibly going to a get a boyfriend soon though, and i dont know how to tell him that im waiting. what are some excuses of why i cant have sex with him besides my religion and i dont want to? (link)
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If he can't deal with you waiting until marriage, he's not the right guy for you, easily stated.
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Has anyone else besides me noticed that the age of kids starting to have sex is dropping more and more. I mean the other day my friend told me she knew an 11 year old that had sex. I was like whoah thats messed up i'm 15 and i'm still a virgin and proud of it.lol. I mean serisouly what kind of a message is this sending to other countries?
So two questions...
Do you think Americas youth is way too sex oriented? yes or no?
If so what do you think is the cause for this? ex.tv music etc....
Thamx in advance (link)
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Yes. American youth is very sex-oriented. Personally, I believe it's music and movies, as well as Television. I'm sure you've seen movies. Most PG-13 flicks have sexual innuendo in them. Kids, and teenagers, pick those up, start using them around school, and soon, they decide hmm, why not?
Music is a huge part. Candy Shop? We all know that's code for something different. Even songs by Christina Aguilera (Candy Man) are extremely sexual. Britney Spears's songs, Janet Jackson's So Exited, everything.
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