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i like this guy on the internet but he'll be a senior next year and hes hot he says that i am to but im afraid to say anything else ill be a freshman and he lives like 5 states away and its on msn not no chatline

stay away from him. haven't you heard? long distant relationships NEVER work out. i got myself in the same stupid position last year. and i have never regretted anything more in my life. over the net, guys can say your gorgeous but behind their computer they're laughing their asses off with a few buddies. don't trust him at all. take care of yourself.

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i'm 15 male when this girl calls i don't know what to talk about i really like her help me !!!!!!!!!

a guy gettin shy? aww how kyute!!! LoL
talk about her.LoL seriously get to know her more. full name, family, pets, likes dislikes, places she like to go eat (hint hint!) oh and make her laugh. don't make up stupid jokes. no nothin like that. be a dork. be adorable.

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well i was walking home from school and an old man came up to me he groped me so i punched him in his nose it was the first thing that came into my head,and it started bleeding he told me he was going to press charges what should i do?

it was for self-defense. you did the right thing. i don't know that much but that IS considered rape. don't worry. he's goin to jail.

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Dear amazing people,
One of my best guy friends who I just happen to like is gonig out with this girl...lets call her Shelly. I over heard her talking to her friends about wht shes going to do friday because they dont want to invite my guy friend (alden). I heard her say I can go to 1 and 2 but not 3 and I think she meant base wise. I wanna tell lden but it would break his heart and he would proably think I was lying what do I do??

definately tell him. i used to have bad feelings about my best guy friend's girlfriend. i told him and turns out she was cheating on him. me and him are closer than ever. we both made a pact that we would listen to each other open minded and never lie to each other. if he was really your friend, he would take your concerns to heart.

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i dont want to choose between my friends bc i love them both. i have 2 of the closest friends in the world. if i do something with one of them, the other one will get mad and say "oh well your leaving me out a lot and i feel left out" and all that and then i go over to the other one and hang out with her for like 12 minutes b4 the other one comes over and says "oh well your leaving me out a lot andi feel left out" so i do things like go to the movies with both of them and if i lean over and say something like "this movie is awesome" the other one will be like "YOUR LEAVING ME OUT AGAIN! WHAT ARE YOU SAYING TO HER?" so i talk loud so they both can hear me and boom...."DID YOU SAY SOMETHING TO HER THAT YOU DIDNT TELL ME?" and im like "NO!" so.....this goes on and on and on and on! im tired of it! I love them both to death but they are sooo annoying!!! I always do things with both of them at the same time and they just keep nagging me!! helpppp.

have all three of you tried to be friends? look, if they really cared about you, they wouldn't drive you nuts like that. honestly, they seem to be acting like a bunch of babies. i mean this isn't kindergarden. tell them to grow up. its ok to have more than one friend. i'm sure they have more than one friend too and you don't bug them so tell them to stop bugging you!

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I'm having this b-day party on saturday (bowling) and they're will be about 15-16 ppl there. and 2 of my friends HATE each other..i mean HATE...and i love them both to death and i hate choosing between the both of them, i'm afraid that they will start fighting and stuff like that. question is, what do i do if this happens (i've already tried talking to them both) and second question is, how do i choose between the 2? b/c i love hangin out w/ both of them i just can't do it at the same time. thanks in advance!

they don't HAVE to talk to each other. let them talk to their friends. let them talk to you. just don't let them talk to each other. and hun, if both were TRULY your friends, they wouldn't make you have to choose. if they were really your friends then let them be your friends. they don't have to be friends with each other. good luck with everything.

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okay well i like love my best friend, he means everything to me, but the thing is i dont wanna like him. i mean, he knows i like him, but he doesnt know how much. i like cant ever stop thinking about him, hes everything to me. i would give my life for him. i have a boyfriend right now, but i still love him. how can i get my mind off him?

unfortunately sweetie, you can't help who you fall in love with. give him a chance to see how much you really care for him. as for your boyfriend, let him in on the news. its not fair to either of you that you love someone else. better sooner than later. good luck.

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Hi im 14 and a female, see there are these really mean group of girls at my school and they ised to be all my really good friends until 8th grade they started acting ;ike they were rea;;y cool and stopped talking to me. i asked them what was wrong and the act like everything is just fine. Then they went behind my back a nd told everybody some rumor about that wasnt true. My mom says there just jealous of me. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do?

hun, there is nothing wrong with you. they just THINK that they are better than you. they're growing and getting hormones. thinking they're beautiful, but the honest to god truth is, your mother is right. they are jealous. they have nothing better to do in their pointless lives than to put down people. they think their superior to you. the reason they talk about you is to make the school think you're a bad girl so they seem normal. they say all that garbage because THEY are insecure and the only way to feel better is to put you down. forget those girls. you can do so much better than them and you deserved someone worthy of your friendship. good luck with everything.

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Okay... I'm 16 and theres this guy ive liked since the 8th grade, in 7th grade we were sort of close. Im now in the the 10th grade and Earilier this year i sort of got mad but not @ him i just sort of blamed it on him. This was september and he hasnt talked to me since except once and thats only cause i was dating one of his friends. Hes like one of my best friends and i hate the fact that hes not talking to me how would you get him to talk? I appligied tons of times and he wont except it. What should i do?

if you apologized a million times, and he still won't forgive you, he's obviously wanting this to happen. he wants you to come crawling back begging for him to take you back. this is what he wants. to see you need him. but don't. there are lots of other great guys who will actually listen to you when you try to talk. take care.

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i otld this kid that i liked him and he has a gf. Now hes saying hes gonna break up with her and then he started asking me all these nasty questions like "if we went out could we have sex" and "do you shave" and "would u let me finger you" and then i told him that no i wouldnt have sex with him and when i told him that and then hes like "dude this isnt even him bye" and then they got off but i kno it was him and now im afraid he'll tell everyone PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!!!!!!!!!!

you know what? let him talk. you could embarras him like he did to you but you don't really wanna lower yourself to his level do ya? stay away from him. he's a creep and not worth your time. if he talks, well i'm sorry hun but you can't be a whore like all those other girls. LoL don't worry about it. you did the right thing. take care.

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why are guys nice to some girlz and mean to other girlz, even if they're not mean to the guyz?

guys are nice to otha guys cuz they all have summin in common. they all like girls. now to girls. most guys (not all) are more focused on outer appearances than what is really within a girls soul. WHICH IS WRONG! my advice, don't change. you don't want a guy who's gonna take advantage of you. just be yourself and the RIGHT guy will come around.

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ok here the thing.this one girl that i like is on the war path with me.she doesn't talk to me & makes stuff up about me.but i really like her. so wat do i do? do i say the heck with her or wat?
HELP A POOR BROTHER OUT!!

-thanks

well, do you like her? i mean really like her? is it her mind or her body? truthfully, if i were you,(despite the sex difference LOL) i would get her out of mind. quickly. what kind of stuff does she make up about you? see, NObody deserves to be treated like shit. confront her. ask her why she's makin shit up. maybe she's conceited and thinks she's better than you. whatever the case may be, FORGET ABOUT HER find someone who is actually worthy of your love. good luck with everything.

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most people say im too young to be in love, but there's this guy, i've known him for as long as i can remember.he's one of my really good friends.i find myself daydreaming about him all the time. i get all these weird emotions around him. lik when he smiles, and laughs. when he looks at me with his soft blue eyes.i want to tell him but i dont no, could it mess up our friendship??wat should i do? tell him? or keep it to myself?

first of all, ANYONE is capable of falling in love. but remember, love is a very strong word. it could be just lust. well, i think that you should definately tell him. does he flirt with you? if or not, telling him will get a load off your mind. and your heart. you'll feel alot better after you get all that off your chest. and if he is TRULY your friend, and he's not into it, it still shouldn't ruin your friendship.

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Well my brother is 18 just turned recently and he has this friend he is also 18 or 17 not sure yet.Well he is so nice and really understanding. I can talk to him just about anything.He is like one of my brothers bestfriend and he is so cool. I like him very much i'm about to turn 15 I don't know if i should stay quiet about it and keep it as a crush or let him know.Or how can i get tips if he likes me or not. plz help thanks.

you should tell him. get it out of your system, i mean if you REALLY like this guy. i also have a crush on my brother's best friend shh!!! LoL i told him and we're dating now. now if your brother is anything like mine, he's probably VERY overprotective of his little sis. if your brother has a problem with you two, just remind him that he would much rather you go out with someone he talks to and trusts much rather than a little punk that he doesn't evn know. but be careful. there is a law between 18 year olds and minors. just don't do anything you'll regret later cuz, believe me, regret is not something you want to feel. take care

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okay..
there is this guy and ive known him for 2yrs and we've always been close as freinds like i can help him with problems and vice versa but we always flirt and i think he likes me hes been droping signals and i think i like him to. schools out and i dont see him as much but when we talk or hang out we flirt im goin to a party next week i think he'll be there--could u tell em somthings i could do to really send the message

make tha first moves. girls like girls who aren't afraid. who are aggressive, but not whoreish. by the end of the night, if he doesn't tell you first, tell him how you truly feel. if he doesn't feel the same way, its ok cuz you'll feel alot better to get your feelings out. and it shouldn't ruin your friendship if he is truly your friend. but it sounds like he's really into you. good luck!

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i am a 16yr old girl, and i havent been in a relationship recently bc i was raped/abused by my ex. and honestly im afraid of being in a relationship because of the past. i know i shouldnt let that effect anything in the future, because its done and over with... but i cant help to think what happens if someone hurts me again like my ex? and i no not every one on this planet is a sick minded freak like my ex was... but i cant help to wonder. there are numerous guys who like me, including 2 of my ex/bfs, who treated me with so much respect... but there is another guy who does like me, and i guess i like him too... but hes not really my type... hes sort of a dork, and yeahh. i know that doesnt matter, what im getting at is, if i do choose any of these, how do i make sure they wont hurt me like my other ex, and who do i pick??

well sweetie, truthfully i've been in a situation similer to yours. i know it hurts like hell but it will take a while to get over. as for these boiz, make sure you know them well enough. usually tha ones that will treat you the best are right in front of your eyes. but you have to look for them. maybe an old friend who's helped you with all your trouble. someone who's always been there. just follow your heart. and not every guy is a creep. there are the selected few. just live your life. you're still very young and a guy will come to you soon enough. hope i helped! take care.

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this guy that i really like is a bad kisser. i really like him but i hate kissing him, is there anything i can do to make the situation better and less .. gross? without telling him that hes bad at it? lol good answers get 5's!

hehe. tell him what he's doin wrong. if its too messy, give yourselves body space while kissing. if he doesn't take you seriously, you could move his head or kiss him less aggressively. teach him by kissing him.

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I like this one boy and I got his phone number and i am thinking about calling him but i dont know what to say any suggestions will help
I will rate high for good answer

brittany

hey brittany. well, just be yourself. pretend that you are talking to... a best friend. guyz don't like girls that are love hungry. they just want someone who's chill. get to know more about him. ask his birthdate, favorite color, talk about pets...that kind of stuff.

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