Okay, I would not recommend using a vibrator because of this reason: if you use it too often, you might find that it will difficult for you to have a natural orgasm when you have a partner.

I think your problem with natural masturbation is that you're probably too aware of yourself while you're doing it, which can be a discomforting notion and somewhat of a turn off. I would advise you to maybe have some sort of visual that really turns you on, like a picture or porn while you're masturbating. It might make it easier for you.

Okay well first of all, there's no doubt that girls like attention from guys. I'll be the first one to admit that I get a certain amount of feel good from it. BUT, I don't think that you should be going around flashing guys who only give you that particular physical attention anyway. Those guys, the ones who continuously comment on your sexual physical features (boobs, butt, curves, etc...), are going to be the guys who care what your boobs look like.

My advice to you is: good guys, the ones who care about your personality instead of your body, won't have a problem. In fact, REAL men won't care what your boobs look like because they will be focusing on an emotional connection with you as well as a physical one.

Rereading this, I know it sounds very "fairy-tale" but this relationship really does exist, and I think that's what every girl should strive for. The guy that's right for you is the guy that you can be 100% comfortable around. This includes being comfortable about what you assume is a flaw with your body.

I highly advise that you don't do anything drastic to try and get revenge. Vengence is hardly anything that is worth your time. I truly believe he'll get what he's got coming to him in time. I think the best thing you can do is help you friend get over this guy and tip off these girls that he's been messing around with.

Well I personally am not a vegetarian or a big fan of Tofu, BUT my mom and I sometimes watch cooking shows together on the weekend and this woman named Christina uses an awful lot of Tofu in her recipes. She's somewhat of a nutrition freak, but I'm sure you'll be able to find a few Tofu recipes on her website.

http://www.christinacooks.com

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To gain weight you should eat lots of carbs and lots of protein and then hit the weights.

It's hard to describe lifting by typing. It would be a lot easier to show you but I'll try my best.

PECS:

*Butterflies (you sit with your arms up at 90 degree angles and you move them forward towards each other)

TRICEPS:

*Get two chairs. One chair should be placed behind you, the other infront of you. Your feet are going to go on the chair infront of you and your hands are going to go plams down on the chair behind you. You should be supporting your body weight at this point. Then, lower your body as close to the floor as possible without touching it by bending your arms to 90 degree angles. Keep your feet up the whole time.

*Take a dumbell and hold it over your head with both hands supporting one end of the weight. Relax your arms and let the weigh of the dumbell drop behind your head to your upper back/lower neck region and bring the dumbell back up above your head again. DO NOT LET GO OF THE DUMBELL!

BICEPS:

*Bicep curls: Start with dumbells in your hands with your arms facing forward and curl your arms up to you shoulder. When you're doing this, be sure to keep your knees slightly bent so you don't cause damage in your joints. Also, for a controlled bicep curl, don't drop your arms all the way down when you're relieving your curl. Force your muscles to work hard to bring the weight up to your shoulder.
After you've worked with dumbells for a few weeks you can probably switch to doing bicep curls with a bar.


A really good way to just maintain toneness and strength are push-ups, pull-ups, and ab work.

The only guys who notice things like eyelids and eyebrows are gay guys...and them, my dearest, you don't have to worry about! lol.

It's funny that you say you feel out of the loop because you don't look like everybody else. If you're making a particular observation about everybody else that must mean that they all look the same. Good guys, the guys that you should be aiming towards, go for the girls who stand out in the crowd. And most guys that I know prefer the "natural" look to the "artificial" one (meaning make-up).

Do you know how many models have darker skin (that's not tanned) and brown eyes?!?!?! They are some of the most gorgeous women I have ever seen in my life. One of the prettiest girls in my school has dark brown hair, darker skin, and brown eyes. She's beautiful and people love her for the way she is.

If you're really that concerned about your appearance and you really just ABSOLUTELY CANNOT ACCEPT how you look try a natural looking make-up converage. Use a little bit of blush, mascara, eyeliner, and lipgloss. As for your hair, you can get highlights if you're convinced that it's too dark. Your eyebrows are probably fine how they are. I wouldn't go messing with those because they can get worse more easily than they can get better.

I really wouldn't chance too much because I would bet a lot of money that to everybody except you, you're beautiful just how you are...

I've never heard that working out will stunt your growth...but if you're that worried about it I would ask your family doctor.

As for whether or not girls like short guys...the answer is simple but probably unsatisfactory. It really depends on the preference of the girl. I personally, don't select guys based on height. I choose based on character, personality, and how naturally adorable a guy is. It doesn't matter to me whether that guy is short or tall. Some girls, however, do have a height preference. But again, that depends on the girl. Believe it or not, all girls really are different =]

Well, you're probably not going to like what I'm about to say but...

I wonder if your friend is a little tired of waiting for you to forgive her. I don't know what she did to you, but I wonder if it matters. I mean, you said that this clash happened last summer? That's a whole year ago. If you haven't been able to forgive her by now I wonder if her hesitation around you has to do with a certain level of comfort on her part. I know that if I did something to hurt a friend and a year later they still didn't forgive me, I'd be a little hesitant on our friendship too. I can understand that you're still hurting from what happened. When bad things happen they can leave us permanently scarred. But, I think ultimately you need to decide whether or not you can forgive this friend or not. If you decide that you can, you need to let your friend know that you forgive her and apologize for it taking so long. Let her know how you were feeling and tell her that you miss having her as a friend. She might be a little upset, but if she's a true enough friend she should be able to understand.

Yeah there's really nothing you can do to make him miss you. Life just doesn't work that way...at least in the long run it doesn't. Getting over a guy can be hard, but it's important that you understand that feelings come and go. Plus, I think in your case you might have a slight advantage. You said that he's been acting like a jerk to you and about you. To me that shows a very bad character flaw. You deserve somebody better than that. If you can believe that you deserve better, I think you'll start missing him less as time goes on. Eventually, it'll get easier to not involve youself with him, and you'll be over him completely.

I think it's important that you you treat this girl fairly. You can't judge others by what they say about her, you need to find out for yourself.

What ended up happening in regards to the carnival definitely seems suspicious. I'm not really sure what you should do about it because even if you confront her, she could very well lie to you about the whole thing, and it is very likey she will if she lied to about it already.

My advice to you is to just wait and see what happens. I wouldn't exactly trust this girl with any secrets you may not want shared, but I do think it would be a little drastic to cut her out of your life completely because of one event. I would put this even into your long term memory and if anything should arise like this again, you'll know what you're dealing with. Until then, I would just be courteous but careful.

It sounds to me like it could be a blood blister, but I would think that you would probably know what that is...

I'm a pitcher too and I know that I would be worried as well if I had nationals coming up. I would go see your family doctor just to see if there's anything you can do to make it go away a little faster.

Best wishes!

Your chances of getting pregnant from precum are just as high as getting pregnant from timely ejaculation. If you don't believe me, do some research.

I think that there is a lot that is wrong with it. If you like him, you should want to pursue more than just a sexual relationship with him. If you don't like him, I don't understand why you want to have any sexual relationship with him. However, there are many risks that are involved with getting sexually involved with somebody that are most frequently overlooked. Not only are there medical risks such as STD's and infection, but you must also consider the emotional risks you are taking. If you really do like this guy, you should want him to like you for who you are and not what you'll do for him. You must also consider who else might be finding out everything that you do with him. Even if you trust him to not say anything you can never be certain. So also, please consider your reputation. There is a significant difference between being sexually active with somebody you've been in a relationship with and being sexually active with some guy friend of yours. I've been in this situation before and from my mown personal experience it is NOT WORTH IT.

I think you need to talk to your sister. You need to explain to her that you know it was a mistake, but it's upsetting you that she keeps treating you this way. I can guess that your sister is probably really upset because she might not want you to end up in her situation. Just explain to her that you know it was wrong, but you are growing up and are going to have an interest in guys. Let her know that your intentions were not bad, and that it won't happen again.

You can always go to the batting cages or call up some girls on your teams to see if they wanna go to the gym and throw or something. Otherwise, ask your parents about joining a travel softball team. Travel teams ususally practice all year aroud at some indoor facility. Hope I helped.

"I will never leave you or forsake you." -Hebrews 13:5b

"For the Lord will not forsake his people; he will not abandon his heritage; for justice will return to the righteous." - Psalm 94:14-15a

"Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God." - Philippians 4:6

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteuosness." - 1John 1:9

"The arrogant are attacking me, O God; a band of ruthless men seeks my life- men without regaurd for you. But you, O Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love AND faithfulness." -Psalm 86:14-15

"Because of the Lord's great love we are not consumed, for HIS compassions never fail." - Lamentations 3:22

I hope these helped. If you need more just check the dictionary-concordance in the back of your Bible.

Well I don't really see a way that you two can be together and maintain a faithful relationship. Eventually, you're going to start liking other people and it will drive you insane to not be able to to even communicate with each other. I wouldn't condiser the fact that he is the only guy you've been with that you've had feelings for of all that great importance only because you haven't had enough experiences to determine exactly how strong your feelings are. I think that you guys can have a relationship in which you're together when your around each other, but have it understood that when you're apart it's ok for you to be with other people. After all...if you're supposed to be together, that's how it will work out in the future.

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Hey! My name is Cassie and I'm 21 years old. I live in the suburbs of Chicago where I like to spend time with the important people in my life, play softball, and volunteer in my community. I am currently a junior in college. Throughout my years of schooling I have been involved in activities such as: volleyball, basketball, softball, theater, poms, choir, band, foreign language club, science team, and academic achievement programs. I am a Secondary Lutheran Education Biology Major with a minor in Spanish Education.

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