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Problem with friend
Okay, well thing is that me and this freind are such good freind and we had a clash last summer. and wasn't very good. thing is that i cna't seem tell her my feelings. she seeem to hatd when i act mad or upset and yet jelouse and i am not a jelouse person.. she dosn't understand that my feelings are still hurting. sometimes i don't know she like me anymore or still like me as good freind. i know this maybe sound jelouse but she didn't even put me her top friends list on facebook or mysapce we been close and buddies and she treat her roomate like she treated her the best in her life. i always been good friend. and yet she was brainwash about stuff people tell her and she listens. and thought she care about me and yet she don't act like it. how can i tell her with out my saying sound mad and upset? i mean my feelings are still hurt. i know i need get over it i can't i need to fix it.. so I feel better.. we both feel better talking toeacher again and everything.
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I wonder if your friend is a little tired of waiting for you to forgive her. I don't know what she did to you, but I wonder if it matters. I mean, you said that this clash happened last summer? That's a whole year ago. If you haven't been able to forgive her by now I wonder if her hesitation around you has to do with a certain level of comfort on her part. I know that if I did something to hurt a friend and a year later they still didn't forgive me, I'd be a little hesitant on our friendship too. I can understand that you're still hurting from what happened. When bad things happen they can leave us permanently scarred. But, I think ultimately you need to decide whether or not you can forgive this friend or not. If you decide that you can, you need to let your friend know that you forgive her and apologize for it taking so long. Let her know how you were feeling and tell her that you miss having her as a friend. She might be a little upset, but if she's a true enough friend she should be able to understand.
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Just tell how you feel. Before hand you could maybe say something like .. "well I'm not trying to sound mad or anything but there's something I really have to talk to you about." If you guys are so close, I'm sure she will understand. You probably won't get over it until you talk to her about it because if you don't, something will always bring up how you feel, so just talk to her and I'm sure things will be fine.
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