Hey!!
I'm Lollipop. I'm 15, but I know more than you would think. I've had my share of crap, and now I'm here to answer questions. I orginally joined this site to GET advice, but I've found that I answer more questions than I ask. I have also found that I relate to almost every love life question. Let's just say I had a tough year... So, that's my area of expertise. The one thing that bugs me the most on this site are when people say you're too young to feel what you feel. Screw that. I don't think it matters if you're 15 or 51, you know what you feel. I don't know much about sex because I believe in waiting until marriage, but I know what it's like to be pressured. Ask me something, and I will give you an answer.
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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There is a dance coming up this weekend and my boyfriend is going to go with me. I plan to grind with him on the dance floor but I'd really like to give him a boner when doing it. I think it could be fun to make him horny in public like that. This is our first time grinding together and I don't have much experience at it anyway. Is there any certain move or something I can do that will make him get hard fast? :) (link)
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Hahaha. Oh goodnesssss. I gave my bf a boner at a dance one and he was pissed after cuz he got blue balls hahaha. So make sure if you DO give him a boner at the dance (yes its funny) but you can't leave him hanging aftrwards haha. But yeah, get a liitle freaky on him, you know, like the movies!!
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13/f
Some friends from school told me that having sex will make your boobs grow. I have really small boobs and I hate it so I thought I would give it a try. I'm not sure I'm doing it right though. I just dunno but I want my boobs to be pretty big.
I had sex with 7 boys from my grade at school but nothing really changed for me and my boobs were still small. I was talking to my dad's friend on Facebook and he said he thought sex made breasts grow only if the girl had sex with a guy older than her. So, we ended up having sex, obv.
It just seems like this is taking foreverrr and I just want my barely A cups to go to like a DD. I know that's a big leap but it's what I WANT. After having sex w/my dad's friend I think they seem to be a little more full but not much.
I went on and posted some match ads online and there is 4 guys who say they want to do it with me so my boobs will grow. My first thinking is that if I do it with them all at once then my boobs will grow faster all at once. They're all up for it but I want to know if it will still work that way. I don't want to like have sex with them all together and then my boobs don't grow at all. Does anyone know if you have sex with more than 1 guy at a time if your boobs will still grow? They're all a lot older than me so that shouldn't be a prob.
((And before you start answering don't worry about me getting pregnant. I know the guy has to cum in you for this to work but I haven't started my period yet so I can't get pregnant anyways.)) (link)
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uhm... you haven't started your period... therefore you haven't hit puberty... you don't get boobs till you hit puberty... wow. and how does a thirteen year old girl get twelve guys to sleep with her...? hmm. hard to believe
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hi
im SO close with my ex, that people think were in love.
were on and off
he drives me insane both good and bad.
but i want space from him, see other guys.
and i want to get over him
how do i do this.
a couple of guys at school like me. and i like one of them should i ask him out???
do i ignore my ex, say anything to him
please help me out!
thankyou (link)
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Dear "EX boyfriend i WANT to get over"
I was in a ver similar situation. My ex and I continued to be close after the breakup, immediatly after the breakup, because he wanted to stay friends. But it's sooo hard to do that RIGHT after a breakup. You have to give it more time to let your feelings separate or else you're only going to realize that it's as bad as when you were dating, and you're never going to get over him.
So here's what I suggest. Talk to your ex and tell him that what you two are doing right now is not healthy. Tell him you of course wnat to be friendly with him and you certainly don't want any hard feelings but that it's hard to be friends when you still have feelings for him. And tell him you want to commit to this decision. You can still talk to him, just don't do it as much. And you can still hang out but maybe not as often and maybe with more people around. YOu can be friendly without being close friends.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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Okay I really need your advice please!!!! And soon really soon and long or lots of answers!!! Alright. So what are some things thatguys want to hear from their girlfriends. Like compliments or things to call them. Things he likes to be called and things that he will think I'm cute for. Thanks alot!! :) (link)
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I know guys love to feel needed and important. So if you can find reasons to cuddle up, like specific reasons, it'll make him feel manly (which he'll like haha). Maybe you're watching a scary movie and you need him to "protect you" or you're cold and you want him to "warm you up" stuff like that. And then compliment by saying stuff like "You're so big and strong" or "what would I do without you". If you make a guy feel good about himself, he'll like you more.
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So my boyfriend always insists on having sex under the covers. Even when its completely dark. He says its because he gets cold... yet he sweats buckets.
However sometimes we do have sex when its light out, but he'll keep his shirt on, or just take it half off so only his arms are in, and the rest of it is on the back of his head.
I'm confused. He's a bit of a bigger guy (he has a bit of a belly, which I love and find it adorable and sexy at the same time), but he always seems very confident.
If you have any ideas on why he might be doing this, please share! Or if you think that he is ashamed of his body, please give me advice on how to make him feel more comfortable. Oh and if this helps he's very dominant in bed, and exudes confidence, just likes to be covered up.
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Dear "boyfriend covers up"
Hey, my ex did that too. Though we didn't have sex, whenever we hooked up he had to have a blanket and it had to be covering us haha. He just found it cozy and it turned him on more. I think its just something he's into.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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how can i get a girl horny without touching her vagina ?
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Dear "Second Base"
Well are you okay touching her over her clothes? If so you can rub her down there (gently) with your hand, in small circles. Or, what I always like is when a guy trails his fingers really lightly across my stomach. But that might just be a personal preference haha. If you're comfortable with touching her breasts you can lick your thumb and rub it over her nipples (again, small circles, haha). Well... Thats all I got.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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I am 17/Female. I have been dating my current boyfriend for 11 months, and he is a wonderful guy. He treats me very well and obviously since we have been together for so long we are very comfortable being ourselves around each other. I feel that these are two very important qualities in a relationship, and that is why I have stayed with him for so long.
The problem is that I still have very strong feelings for my ex boyfriend. This ex boyfriend and I haven't spoken in a long time, but he was my first kiss and my first boyfriend. I have had long-lasting, deep, emotional/romantic feelings for my ex that I simply don't have for my current boyfriend. This of course makes me feel incredibly guilty, because my boyfriend doesn't do anything wrong and doesn't deserve that. And of course I can't exactly admit that I have feelings for someone else to my current boyfriend; I really don't want to hurt him. I have no idea what the solution is to this problem. No matter what I do, I can't seem to get over my ex. I have tried to move on by dating other guys, and obviously it's not working.
My question is, what should I do about the whole situation with my current boyfriend? I feel awful breaking up with him because I really do value our relationship deep down. I care about him a lot, and I constantly worry about what things will be like if I were to break up with him. I'm terrified to do so.
Also, what should I do about my ex boyfriend? I feel as though it is impossible for me to WILLINGLY give him up because for the majority of the past four years, he has been my entire life. I know that I need to get over him and I know that I need to talk to him to get the closure I need, but the problem is that I don't want to. (link)
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Dear "ex boyfriend vs. current boyfriend",
Okay. Here's what I've figured out from talking to countless girls all over the world. You never get over the first guy. The first boyfriend, the first kiss, the first "I love you"... you won't ever be over him because, well, he's the first, and you've given so much of yourself to him. But you also gotta realize that he's in the past for a reason. Something happened and now it's over. He's probably over you... I'm guessing and you just need to understand that while you will always have feelings for this boy, you gotta move on.
My first boyfriend was the biggest dick you could think of. He only wanted me for physical stuff and dumped me in a text message when he got what he wanted. Yet, before that, I was some how in love with him. He hurt me so bad but even today I still have feelings for him. It's stupid! But it's just something girls have to deal with. And it sucks. (haha so do periods and child birth but we gotta do that too don't we?)
See, what I realized was that as much as I wanted to be friends with my ex, it just wouldn't work. It just made things sooo much harder. Maybe your still friends with your ex and that could be part of the problem. Now, I'm not saying you can't be friendly, I just wouldn't adise texting him or hanging out with him too much.Your current boyfriend sounds amazing. Put your energy into him because he's worked really hard to deserve that from you.
Of course, there is another possibility. If you still find yourself wanting your ex then maybe its just a way of your heart telling yourself your current boyfriend isn't right. I'm not saying that makes your ex right but maybe it's just that your looking for something more in your relationship that you can find with someone else. Not specifically your ex. If that makes sense...
Well that's all I've got to say on that... Hopefully something above helps you out.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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19/f
I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 9 months now and he is absolutely amazing. Truly, he has been my rock and I have never been so in love with a person. But I am afraid I am going to ruin this relationship because I get incredibly insecure about him talking to other women - especially his ex girlfriend. Granted, he is a flirt; but he has not done enough wrong for me to feel this way. This is how I realized that it wasn't him - it's me.
I trust him but I get so upset over little things, but don't tell him because I know they're irrational. But then they just bottle up. Honestly, a girl saying hello to him triggers something in my head saying "Stay away!" and I feel like I'm losing my mind. My question is how do I move on from these feelings? How can I learn to be more understanding and not let other girls constantly bother me?
I have never been an overemotional or irrational woman, and that is why these feelings bother me so much. I don't want to be a crazy girlfriend, please help :( (link)
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Dear "Crazy Girlfriend",
You're not crazy. And your friends and family won't affect how jealous you are. It's okay to be a little bit crazy! Everyone gets jealous and everyone gets insecure. But you gotta talk to your boyfriend about it! Because nothing is going to get better unless you do.
You need to sit him down and tell him that even though you trust him 100%, sometimes you get a little insecure and jealous when you know you shouldn't be. Tell him that it's not easy to explain why you do it, but that you do and he should know about it. Women are always gonna flirt with him and talk to him. And you might always get jealous! But if he knows that you are maybe he can help you, like give you an extra little compliment to boost you up :)
I am also a very jealous girlfriend. My boyfriend talks to his ex as well. And when she started to flirt with him I didn't tell him that it bothered me. I let it all bottle up like you're doing and then one day I exploded on him. It was completely irrational. I regret it. We're still together though and we're working on my jealousy TOGEHTER which has really helped; I think it'll help you too!
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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Ok so first ill say that I'm a really hot chick no lies or jokes. Guys try to talk to me every day but I turn them down because I have a BF ( boyfriend). But the thing is my BF haven't been around and I get really horny at times and it cause me to masterbate like crazy then I come to think what am I doing I'm to hot for this did I let you notice I'm a mobel at that. So I don't know what to do, should I drop him but then I don't want to just let go cuz sex, or should I hold on and tell him what I want I mean can you think of a mobel masterbating cuz her dude has been gone and she's left horny home realy finning for her man, I think they shouldn't have it like that, guys help me out thanks. (link)
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Dear "advice from only guys thanks"
Haha I'm not sure why you're only asking for advice from guys? I'm a girl but hopefully I can help.
Well if you are as attractive as you say and guys talk to you every day it should be pretty easy to find the easy sex. But if that's not what you want then you should try to work it out with your boyfriend. You love hime right? I mean if your just in the relationship for the sex thats not really fair to him.
So I think what you need to do is step back and think what is best for you and your boyfriend. Do you want to be with him for more than the physical? If so, talk to him and tell him how you feel. No one is too hot to feel lonely, and the fact that he's not around for you (not that he's just gone in the sex area) isn't right. If you just want sex, it sounds like that should be easy. But if you want a relationship and sex you can work it out with him, or find a new relationship.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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Hi, fifteen, female. I never had a boyfriend. Why is that? Are the guys that like me shy and won't do anything, what should I do is that's the case? It doesn't really bother me to much, I just don't know why. I've lately been beginning to think I'm gonna grow up alone. Is there something wrong with me? Yes, I'm shy and I won't make the first move. Maybe I'm just ugly. What do I do to be happier about being single? Thanks. (link)
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boyfriends aren't that great. try listening to the song SOLO by jason derulo. that gets me happy when im single :)
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what makes a girl cum by masterbation, and what does it look like? (link)
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It really all just depends. you can hit your G spot by fingering or just rubbing. but some girls just cum easier. I get wet sittng in class when I'm not even turned on... it's just who you are and how you function. It's normally clear or whiteish tinted and it kinda looks like snot... hahaha.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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Well Im Actually Really Short, Everyone says that plus dey allwaiz tease me bout it. So i wanna grow Taller but i dont know how, I've alwaiz wanted to be tall. If Therez A Easy But Effective Way to grow (female, teens), would you please let me know. I've tried lots of things, but now i'm desperate. If theres certain things i could eat/drink, or certain things i should do it would really help, plus if you have any ideas in how you can that would b a help too. Thanks (link)
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Dear "How Do I Grow Taller?"
Okay so listen up. I'm about eh 5"7 and I hate being tall... I like the long legs and stuff but personally I wish I was about three inches shorter. You don't know how much fun it ISN'T to go up to a group of guys and be like their height. It makes you feel... I dunno, unfeminine... I've always envied those cute little pixie girls that are all tiny and adorable and I've always felt like this awkward ugly giant around them.
Hahah okay, so this little rant has a point, I promise. The point is, everyone has something they wish they didn't and see some one else that has what they want. Everyone has SOMETHING about them they wish they could change and the fact is, even if you DO change it you're only going to find something else to hate. It's just the way humans are. But, you can try to look past it. You can try to look on the bright side of being short, which are all the qualities I just described. You can wear heels to a dance! Haha, well so can I (my boyfriend is six feet tall) but still, there are pleeenty of good things about being short, most of them being the ones I just mentioned. If you can try to look past what you hate and even find an advantage you're gonna get by a lot easier. :)
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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15 yr old guy im a virgin i read about people at young age having sex a couple of my friends talk about having sex and when they have it and they bagged me out and joke because im a virgin on occasions it gets annoying i don always think about sex my family is a bit religious and well i dont want to have sex until im married i really believe in that i want to wait find the right girl its not that strange to believe in that? (link)
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Dear "Sex first time"
Aw, are you kidding me!? I love you, boy. Wow, you don't know how much I wish more guys were like you. Totally stick with that. I'm in a pretty strict catholic family and I'm all for the "no sex before marriage" policy (I'm a girl btw - 14) and you don't know how excited I just got to find out theres a boy out there who thinks the same thing. Haha, sorry, but I am. See I've had so much crap happen to me with guys cuz they just wanted to get in my pants, and let me tell you, it's annoying as hell. And really, wow. You're 15, I honestly doubt that a few of your friends have actually had sex. They're prolly stretching the truth a wee bit.
If you're friends keep giving you a hard time about being a virgin, and bragging about all the "action" they get just tell em where they can stick it, cuz that's so flipping sweet that you want to wait. If I could hug you right now, I totally would. Ha, well hope I helped ya babe.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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There is this guy that i dated for around a month (i know not very long) anyway on the last week of our relationship he would be going over to some other girls house more then he would be coming over to see me. When he broke up with me he said that his life was to screwed up to be in a relationship and that he still really liked me. Two days later a friend of mine saw him with the girl my ex had been seeing while dating me. So now im stuck hanging around with him cause hes my best friends friend, and i really want to confront him on the situation cause i still really like him. Should i let it be or should i tell him how i feel? (link)
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Dear "i don't know how to talk to him"
Well. He is your friend darling, so I think he owes you something in this situation. I think you should go to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him you understand that he wants to be broken up but that you think you deserve some sort of explanation for his behavior with this girl. Seeing as he was seeing her while you two were still dating.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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hi does anyone have any sad love songs, or breakup songs?
examples: like broken by lifehouse or you and me or chasing cars etc. that kind of genre, thanks! (link)
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Dear "sad love/breakup songs"
I TOTALLY recommend Taylor Swift's songs, these especially:
Picture to Burn
You're Not Sorry
White Horse
Forever and Always
Come In With The Rain
Tears On My Guitar
Or these:
I Hope You Dance by Lee Ann Womack
Sorry, Blame it on Me (kind of) by Akon
Violet Hill by Coldplay
What Hurts the Most by Rascal Flatts
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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I would prefer foreign names like Italian ones or Russian or even Hawaiian..annything unique. (link)
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Dear "I need good unique femal cat names for my new kitten!"
Awh! How exciting! You lucky duck. Here are some I like:
Isaboo (like Isabel but w/ boo at the end tehehe)
Marigold
Elsa
Leila
Vicks
Jaslene (Jazz for short)
Ivy
Cecily
Voya
Jana (pronounced Yana)
Miko/Meeko
Well those are my favorites.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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Hi, I'm 14 and I have a problem...my boyfriend is really really short and I'm rather tall, I'm about 6 inches taller than him. Everyone at skool makes fun of us whenever we're together all all the stuff. And he sucks at kissing. My friends have told me to break up with him because of our height difference, but I'm very close to loving him. I like him alot and I really don't wanna break up with him, but I don't know if I can stand the jokes anymore. What should I do? And is it true that shorter guys have big dicks? (link)
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Dear "Should I leave him",
Now I don't want to sound horribly mean but to be brutaly truthful, dear, you should leave him.
If you are honestly considering breaking up with him because he's shorter than you and because your friends say you should, then he's better off with out you. No one deserves that. If you really like him, than it shouldn't matter what other people say or if people make fun of you for any of those things. The reason you break up with someone is between you and the person you are dating.
You say you're close to loving him. If that's true, then don't treat him like he's an accessory that should look good and make you popular. Also, think about his feeilngs. He's getting made fun of too honey, you aren't the only one in the relationship. He could just as easily dump you because you're tall.
Maybe I've been a little harsh, and I apologize, but it sounded like you needed a reality check. Give me any rating you want, but I think you needed to hear those things.
You can fix the kissing. And no, there is no study showing that shorter guys have larger packages.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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My gf and i are 15 and weve been together for 6 months and recently we talked about sex and she says she wants to have sex and well im a bit nervous my penis is not that big an im worried about it im not sure if im ready to have sex yet
i havent said anything to her im too nervous too
but i want to wait for awhile it might sound strange should i tell her what do i do? (link)
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Dear "worried about sex first time"
Well, that is quite tricky. But you definitely have to talk to her.
Now here's the thing. I'm a believer in the no-sex-before-marriage thing. Now, I understand that this is just my opninion and that other people might not feel the same way and thats okay. I at least believe in waiting for the right person, someone you love and trust.
See, the thing is, you can't have sex with her if you don't want to. And to me, it sounds like you don't want to. One, it's not fair to you. And two, it's not fair to her. Of course, maybe this is all talk. She says she wants to, but if it really came down to it, and she really thought about it like you are doing, maybe she'll see that she's not ready either.
But if thats not the case, you have to tell her how you feel. You say you're nervous about telling her, and I mean, of course you are. You really like her and you want to give her what she wants. But still. Just tell her that you want to wait. Tell her you're not ready. Tell her you don't think the relationship is ready. Tell her you think you're too young (I mean, sorry babe, but you kind of are), or just tell her how you feel, whatever your feelings may be.
Now here's the tricky part. Being a girl, and putting myself in her place, this is the only dilema I see. You have to be extremely careful to make not having sex about you. You can't make it about her, or she will feel rejected. So make sure you throw in some stuff about how beautiful she is and how much you would enjoy having sex with her, but that you aren't ready to. Of course, you can make it a little bit about her, and I say that meaning you can mention something about looking out for her. You know, tell her your concerned about the dangers of sex. The, uhm, children part. And that you want to be responsible with her, and take care of her. Stuff like that.
See, I had this problem with this one guy. I'm about your age, and he and I got onto this subject. He said he wanted sex, and I told him my views, and well, that was that. He did push me once, saying something like "Why can't we just compromise?" Of course, his idea of "compromise" was me giving in... yeah, no. Ha, sorry. Just thought I'd share some of my experience with this subject. You probably don't care. Whatever.
So. Bottom line. If you aren't ready, you aren't ready, and that's that. Tell your girlfriend. Trust me, I think she'll understand. There's no rush.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
PS: It's not the size, honey, it's how you use it ;].
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I am going to be 15, and I am like the only one of my friends with a bad complextion, and acne. I hate it!!! It is all the time, what is something you can by at walmart that will be to the same effect as proactive! My mom won't use credit cards.
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Dear "clear skin"
I totally know how you feel. My three best friends, aside from being uber gorgeous, all have beautiful blemish free skin. One of them is just lucky and doesn't break out, and the other two use really expensive products from the dermatologist (you could consider that, some of them aren't horribly pricey). I tried EVERYTHING on the walmart shelves, and I still had disgusting acne, even proactiv didn't work for me. However, when I started using just a simple clean and clear wash, and a clean and clear astringnent, I saw awesome improvements.
Keep it simple, wash once in the morning, and once and night, and follow with the astringnent, and I betcha you will see a difference.
Also, I have some other tips. If your hair is in your face a lot, it can cause you to break out. Also, if you touch your face alot (to like pick at your pimples, or when you fall asleep, you rest your hand under your face) that can also cause acne. Another really big cause is oily shampoos and conditioners. So try switching to Head and Shoulders (they actually have some amazing scents) and you'll see that your pimples around your hair line or temples will go away.
And I know I sound like a parent, but use sunscreen!! And oil free sunscreen if you can.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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Is age 16, female, 'very beautiful' (what most men call me) normal to STILL be a virgin ? I think something's wrong with me ! I'm starting to feel depressed that all my friends arent. help ! (link)
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Dear wrong with me ?,
NO! Nothing is wrong with you at all! In fact, I think something is wrong with your friends. You are saving yourself for the right guy, and thats awesome! You're a classy girl, which is even cooler. I'm sorry if you feel depressed honey, but NOTHING is wrong here. In fact, things are really right. I am a firm believer in the no-sex-before-marriage thing. Now, of course, I understand that not everyone has the same look on it as me, but I'll tell you how I see it.
Think of it this way, its like, before you even knew your husband, you had been saving yourself for him your entire life. Now maybe its just me, but I find that extremely romantic.
But if you don't believe in that, I at least encourage you to save your virginity for someone special, someone you can trust, and someone you love. Because once you give it to someone, you can't get it back.
Believe me, you are perfect, and if your friends give you crap about being a virgin then screw them because you're being responsible. 16 is pretty darn early for sex, and some of your friends might not see the dangers of having sex so early. So have fun with the boys, but don't do anything you're not ready for, and don't rush into things just because you think your the only one not doing it. Keep being awesome, babe.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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