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Worried about sex first time
My gf and i are 15 and weve been together for 6 months and recently we talked about sex and she says she wants to have sex and well im a bit nervous my penis is not that big an im worried about it im not sure if im ready to have sex yet
i havent said anything to her im too nervous too
but i want to wait for awhile it might sound strange should i tell her what do i do?
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Dear "worried about sex first time"
Well, that is quite tricky. But you definitely have to talk to her.
Now here's the thing. I'm a believer in the no-sex-before-marriage thing. Now, I understand that this is just my opninion and that other people might not feel the same way and thats okay. I at least believe in waiting for the right person, someone you love and trust.
See, the thing is, you can't have sex with her if you don't want to. And to me, it sounds like you don't want to. One, it's not fair to you. And two, it's not fair to her. Of course, maybe this is all talk. She says she wants to, but if it really came down to it, and she really thought about it like you are doing, maybe she'll see that she's not ready either.
But if thats not the case, you have to tell her how you feel. You say you're nervous about telling her, and I mean, of course you are. You really like her and you want to give her what she wants. But still. Just tell her that you want to wait. Tell her you're not ready. Tell her you don't think the relationship is ready. Tell her you think you're too young (I mean, sorry babe, but you kind of are), or just tell her how you feel, whatever your feelings may be.
Now here's the tricky part. Being a girl, and putting myself in her place, this is the only dilema I see. You have to be extremely careful to make not having sex about you. You can't make it about her, or she will feel rejected. So make sure you throw in some stuff about how beautiful she is and how much you would enjoy having sex with her, but that you aren't ready to. Of course, you can make it a little bit about her, and I say that meaning you can mention something about looking out for her. You know, tell her your concerned about the dangers of sex. The, uhm, children part. And that you want to be responsible with her, and take care of her. Stuff like that.
See, I had this problem with this one guy. I'm about your age, and he and I got onto this subject. He said he wanted sex, and I told him my views, and well, that was that. He did push me once, saying something like "Why can't we just compromise?" Of course, his idea of "compromise" was me giving in... yeah, no. Ha, sorry. Just thought I'd share some of my experience with this subject. You probably don't care. Whatever.
So. Bottom line. If you aren't ready, you aren't ready, and that's that. Tell your girlfriend. Trust me, I think she'll understand. There's no rush.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
PS: It's not the size, honey, it's how you use it ;].
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