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Ok, I have this one friend, lets call her A. Last year she was best friends with B, who is now one of my best friends. I don't know what happened, but they stopped being friends this year. I think it's because A started hanging out with another girl that nobody really likes, C. But then B would hang out with C (sorry if this is confusing), and it got me really confused, because B called A a beach(you know what i mean), and that got me mad, because A is REALLY nice. And now I'm caught inbetween them (A and B) because they're really mad at each other. I tried to get them back together, but they're REALLY angry. What can I do? Sry it's sooo long!
Whoa. Something seems to be up w/ friend C. I dont know them, but you do, and u would know if that's normal for her to say something like that. If it isn't, talk to her about it. Ask her whats up, try talking to both of them. Maybe something happened to them that you don't know about. If they wont listen to you, then don't put so much pressure on yourself to try and fix their problems. Write back if you need anything else!
My little sister goes throguh all my things!! How can i get her out of my room? She'll take my clothes, try to steal my diary, etc. Ahhhhhh! Please help!
Ask your parents if u can get a lock on your door. She just wants to be like you. I know how annoying it gets! Hide all your things, and/or go into her room and take her things to show her how it feels. See if that works. If it doesn't, get back to me!
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 9 months now and as we all know Valentines Day is really soon but i cant seem to figure out what to get him, i dont want to get hime like cologne or jewlery or clothes, i want to get him something diffrent but i can't figure it out and i really need to figure out soon, can someone please help me out PLEASE.....and please noone say anything sexual.. that isnt a gift.. and its bound to happen anyways..
Hm... you could give him like a stuffed animal with one of those cute sayings or sumthin... or, one girl was making her bf a shirt, like with iron ons or sumthin. You know him better than me, so give him something that goes with his interests. Like, if he likes to sk8board, you could get him a sk8board. Hope I helped!
how does a girl in high school become popular?
Just be nice and friendy to every1. My sister has this plan where she brings in cupcakes for pretty much every1s b-day, and if that hasn't helped her nothing will. I mean, who doesn't like free cupcakes? Anyway, just say hi to everyone you know, like every time you see them, and talk to everyone, and you can just say things like, hey do you get this, or sumthin in class.
two nights ago i was walking out of a resturant with my family and i stepped off the curb and the yellow thing in the parking lot that like stops the cars from going or w/e was right there and i didnt know it and i stubbed my toe really hard on it(i didnt hear it pop and it didnt bend) and it hurt like crazy i dont think its broken because there is no discoloration but ive been icing it..what else should i do to make it stop hurting and how can i know for sure its not broken and does anyone know what i might have done to it?
You might not have noticed if it broke. Icing it was good, but you might wanna wrap it w/ that banage stuff if you have any, or go see the doctor, cuz it could probably get worse.
I need some advice:Every time i go to bed at nite i
> cant fall asleep, it takes me a long time, i get a
> good 9 hours every nite, but i just cant fall
> asleep, ive tried writting down all my problems on a
> sheep of papper, like, homework due, chours, owe
> someone money, stuff like that, then i solved them,
> but its not the stress thats keeping me up then what
> is it? how can i fall asleep?
I had the same issue awhile ago. I had too much in my head or sumthin. As you lie in bed, just go through what you need to do tommorrow. Like, think of what you need to remember, and just like go through your schedule. If that doesn't help, just think of something boring, like SS or sumthin, and go over it in your head. I hope this helped!
Ok, So last night (Saturday night) I met this girl (17 bout 4 months younger than me) and we talked, kissed, etc, Then she left and I got her phone number. Well, It's Valentines Day Tonight at midnight, and I was wondering if it would be too soon to ring her at midnight to wish her a happy Valentine? Or should I wait until morning? Any advice within the next 2 hours would be much appreciated! Btw I am 17/m
~Evilenterprisesinc
I think that's really sweet! She'll probably love that, cuz it shows you care! But if it's not her cell, you might wanna wait, like other ppl said. If it isn't, you should still call her later and ask her out. Hope I Helped!
i feel so bad because i never had a boyfriend before. im 15 and ive never had my first kiss, my first time or a boyfriend. nothings wrong with me, some guys have asked me out but i think im just scared of them. i like to flirt a lot, but just flirting is cool with me. there was this one guy that liked me and i liked him and he asked me out and i turned him down but i feel like a jerk for doing that. and everytime i like somebody theyll start to like somebody else and i would try to be friends with there girlfriend so i could feel closer to them. and i just feel like crying on every valentines day because i have no one specail to share it with. and i never told anyone, not even my friends. they don't know. and i never tell my mom anything like this. im afraid theyll laugh at me. and i dont know what to do.
Maybe you just aren't ready for a relationship. It's okay if you haven't had a bf yet! If you really wanted one, do you think you would've turned down thoe other guys?
so okay valentines is coming up i know well there is this guy named skylar and i really like him, well im not sure if he likes me, i mean i dont get to talk to him that much ,and i am afraid to talk to him, but i dont want to say somthing stupid. i am 13/f 7th grade i know younge oh well so if you are gonna say somthing about my age please dont bother posting please, well anyway i want to talk to him so, but what do we talk about..... and how do i find out if he likes me..... and if i find out he doesnt like anyone should i ask him out?! please please help me!!!!! i will rate hi!
If he doesn't like anyone, but considers you his good friend, then he probably doesn't like you, but that might not be true. Have a friend ask him if he likes you, or anyone. If he doesn't like anyone, and you aren't that good friends w/ him, you should definitly go for it! Hope I could help!!
(15/m) I have known this girl for awhile for about 3 years. and we used to hangout and talk all the time. but now lately I havent talked to her that much and I really like her.I don't know what to do ecspecially since valentines day is coming up.(don't want to make talking to her an akward silence)
-signed lying dreamer
You could give her a little present, like a small box of chocolate, or a carnation, I dunno if ur school does, but our school sells them. This way you can also give them to any of your other friends that are girls, so she wont feel like you like her if she doesn't like you, but it doesn't make you seem mean or anything. Hope I helped!!
im not sure what catagory to ut this in but here we go, ok im usually always wearin a jacket because i sweat sometimes and i dont know why and i dont want people to see them especially boys armpit stains arent attractive and i have tryed a lot of deoderants like dove, teen spirit, a lot of em can anyone give me any advice on this horror thanks so much
Just keep on trying different deoderants untill you find a good one. Try the gel ones, instead of a stick or w/e.If u wear a jacket, dont make it a heavy one, cuz it'll inly make you hotter, which will make you sweat more. Hope i helped!!
I am an 18 female and I find myself being attracted to other girls bodies. Not that i want to go and mess around with them, but i just enjoy looking at beautiful girls. Like most other girls, i don't have a problem kissing other girls and whatnot its really not a big deal depending on who it is. But I'm not sure if just because i'm a girl and i see a beautiful girl if the reason i am attracted is because i want to look like that or if it is because i could be bi? I've never messed around with another girl other then kissing, and i don't really see it happening but its not totally ruled out. Does this mean I am bi? please help
No, unless you want to be. No offense to anyone, but i dont think u r "made" bi, you can be whatever you wanna be, it's all up to you.
tonight me and my bf were talking and well idk tonight we were talking and i asked whats wrong and hes like everything im like.. umm well whats that.. im listening and hes like naw jk nothing and im like ok and he is like well actually idk whats wrong... why doesnt he know?
It happens to alot of ppl, infact alot of my friends are like that. It could be one of two things. (or, i guess it could be both, but whatever) 1. he doesn't feel like telling you or 2. alot of stuff is going wrong, not just one specific thing, just alot of little things.
Okay, two of my best friendsare really good friends between themselves too, but they fight ALOT!! i try to just sit them down and talk to them, and sometimes i'm the go-between, but right now im caught in the middle. Like, at lunch today, they were in the middle of a fight, and not even sitting at the same table, and both wanted me to sit with them, but i didn't wanna choose a side, so i sat with some of my other friends, and they both got mad at me for that!! What can i do? they wont even listen to me!!
You did the right thing by not sitting with either of them. Talk to them, and if that doesn't work, just tell them you're sick of them fighting, and wont talk to either of them untill they make up, and just hang w/ your other friends untill they do. If that doesn't work, write a note to each of them pretending to be the other person, and "apologize" lol, that might be a little harsh, especially if they find out, but then you can explain it to them. hope i could help!
I have plenty of clothes but I never can find something to wear. I'm overweight and its hard to look decent without looking weird. It takes me sometimes 2 hours to find something! Does anyone have any ideas?
Ok, two things: don't EVER wear a shirt that's too short. Not to be mean, but... I would suggest black, it makes you look slim, supposedly. Dont go like punk or goth or sumthin though, but a few black shirts can't hurt. Or, depending on if u r a peppy kinda person, wear pink, because it's well, pink. Dont ask me why, it just makes you look slim. Don't ask why, cuz I can't tell you, but i know, I'm not exactly thin. Hope this helped! o, and btw, never wear horizontal stripes.
ok me and my friend ways flirt he hugs me and i hug him . i really like him and all there is somedays where i get annoiyed by him then today after luch i was leaning agaisnt the table and he was right on me facing my butt do u think that in the future maybe we will be together
he might not be flirting, and may just like u as a friend, but it could have potential.
It seems that I am somewhat different. By this I mean that I am quite mature for my age, and am very outgoing spontaneous person. I am somehow taken granted for by the people around me who I give advice to and listen to their problems. Who am I to turn to when my whole life is falling apart? Basically, what I am trying to say is; How come no one notices I am dying on the inside? Also, why do people blow me off when I am trying to help? Just please come up with something to somehow help...
(I am 14 and Female)
People are unlikely to realize that the advice giver needs advice. You probably haven't realized that alot of the ppl w/ advice columns have actually asked questions too. And sometimes, people wont want help, they just need to talk and someone to listen to. if u need 2 talk, im here 4 u!
Ok weell my Friend Jazzy has all of sudden become weight concious. Whenever me and my friends would go to the pool she would always complain about how fat she was and everything. I mean i no its normal to do this but once the school year has started she has still never stopped. Whenever i was wearing a mini skirt she would always complain on how her legs are too fat. I feel really bad though because she isnt fat and im scared that she will want to be around us again, because thats the impression were getting! plez help!!
She's a teen. when u r a teenager, ur brain is at the most emotional point of your life. (school, dont ask). All you can do if she's not listening to you is wait for her to shut up and stop complaining. (and i mean that in the nicest way, its just that, if she were actually fat, it would be one thing, but she's not, so...)
Ok I've liked this guy Steve for two years.. I think about him nonstop, I swear I haven't gone a day without thinking about him, and when I'm not around him, I find myself anxious and thinking about when I will see him next. Steve used to like me, and I thought he still did like me, but now I'm not so sure cuz now I see him flirting with all these other girls and it makes me soo jealous. I feel like I can't be happy with anyone but him. I've been asked out by other guys, but I said no because I only like Steve. And I even had a boyfriend, but I broke up with him cuz I couldn't be happy and I couldn't stop thinking about steve. How do I let Steve know I like him, in a suttle (sp?) way? How do I get him to be mine without scaring him off?
you can do one of a few things. 1. go up and ask him out. 2. have a friend ask him if he likes you. 3. talk to him and see if he flirts w/ you. 4. become friends with him, or 5. go home and cry cuz u dont think he likes you. i would reccomend any but #5. lol. hope i helped. o, btw, it's spelt subtle!
Okay, i have this annoying friend who's always pestering me, but even when somebody tells her she's a pest, she just thinks they're joking. what can i do with out being upfront with her?
Just kinda ignore her, and hang out with other friends. Eventually, she should get the hint and go away.