Sweetheart, you are too young to be going through that. That is ridiculous. End it because he is rude and like you said easily offended. If you continue you to date then the fighting is just going to get worse and by the looks of it, "it's always your fault." You don't need the stress and there are way better guys out there that are going to treat you like a princess. Would you rather have someone who would do anything for you? Or someone who is constantly putting blame on you for nothing? You will feel so much better if you break up with him. You can move on and become happier and the relationship hasn't been long so it won't take such a toll on you. You will find yourself happier and more confident and a new guy will walk on by and be so much better than the last. If you don't break up with him just be careful. Good luck my dear. You are in thought! xoxo!

Try getting help from the government and going back to school. Once you do that you can get a better job and start over. It's never too late! Good luck!

Depending on your relationship with the person who had told you about what this guy was doing was obviously right. Usually when someone tells you that kind of information, half the time it's true. The way he acted doesn't sound out of the ordinary til you were "behind the shed." you didn't do anything wrong, he most likely wanted everything to go much further and you might have not wanted that. Guys like that are a disgrace. I say move on because you are too young to be stressing about this kind of stuff, and way too young for sex. Go on with your life and try and be happy. You will feel much better if you move on and find a way to become happy. I hope this helps. Goodluck sweetheart.

Yes she is dead. It's on national news. They posted her cause of death was unknown. Not a stunt, now she can rest in peace. God bless her soul.

The best thing you can do is be happy and smile. The best thing to have is CONFIDENCE. Guys love it. Smile every now and then and may compliment him every now and then! Just be yourself, and thats that best you can do. Don't be who you aren't, if you like him enough flirting should come naturally. (:

Good luck!

I doubt that he doesn't trust you unless you have done something for him not too. Depending on your age he is just protecting you. I wish my mom would have kept me from dating because that turned into a huge mess and boys are just trouble. Ask him whether or not he trust you but sit down and talk to him about it, and try not to fight with him because that is just going to make it worse. This kind of question is hard because we don't know enough about you for us to know if your dad "trust" you or not. Just ask him and see what you can do about it. Worrying about it, isn't going to get you anywhere.

Good luck!

Sweetheart you need help. I recently stopped cutting myself and once you are older you are going to realize that it was the worst possible thing that you could have ever done. Get rid of all sharp object and try to occupy yourself more often to get it off your mind. I have scars on my wrist as well. I would definitely tell your grandma. Explain to her that you want help because you need to get it now before this continues to get worse. The cuts may not be "that bad" but they are still there and you still did it. I haven't done it in 2 months but if you are still thinking about it then you definitely need to tell her. Crying yourself to sleep is not a bad thing. It releases a horomone that cause you to become tired. Crying is better than cutting. Think about that! Try getting a counselor. It is good to vent your feelings rather than harming yourself because one of these times you may cut to deep and hit your vein which will cause you to bleed out. Stop hurting yourself. It's not worth it hunny. Find someone that makes you want to stop. God showed me that person! It happened to be a police officer at my house for cutting, but now I can email her and tell her everything and she helps me out a ton. She made me who I am and now I'm going to go to school to become a police officer. Think about your future sweetheart. You are better than that and you deserve the absolute best.

Good luck, be careful, and stop hurting yourself.

xoxo

A lot of guys I know definitely appreciate confidence and honesty. Guys who look for a girl with a great body and look like a slut, aren't the right guys. It's harder to find guys that look for these things because they are the type of guys that are honest and genuine themselves. If you are having trouble finding a guy just wait it out. He'll come eventually. Don't constantly look for someone because you could end up with the wrong type of guy that is being untrue.

Good luck!

He is just trying to be playful with you! A lot of girls/guys like that type of sexual play as turn ons. He may be trying to find your turn ons or turn you on. (: He is just being playful and you should just enjoy. Don't worry so much girly! (:

Good luck and have fun!

Maybe talk to him about how you are feeling. Just ask him straight out if he likes anymore. You don't want the stress of worrying about the situation. With it being summer he may be busy with family or friends. Stop worrying about the situation and text him asking him about the situation. If he doesn't like you anymore then that's okay. Just move on and live your life because you are only 13 and will find someone that made you feel the same way in years to come. (: Hope this helps. (: Good luck

I like to listen to 80s music. Some good songs that I enjoy are:

Jenny (8675309) - Tommy Tutone. I hope thats the number in the song!

Livin' on a prayer - Bon Jovi

Jessies girl - Not sure of the artist but the song is about a guy that wants his friend jessies girl!

It's all coming back to me - Celine dion (not 80s).

Give me the beat boys - Doobie Brothers

These are just some. I don't typically listen to this kind of music otherwise the Beatles are good to listen to. I usually feel asleep to them. Their music is always different! Hope this helps. (:

There is a purpose in your life. I have had the same feelings, and you know I had 3 cops, firemen, and medics at my house because I would cut myself. My friends were scared and there are always people that care. I don't have very many friends and you know I rather keep to myself then have friends because most of the time its just trouble. I started to look at what i was doing and realized i have a future and I rather pursue that then have friends, drama, or anything. I stopped cutting, stopped punching things, and stopped thinking about suicide because I rather worry about what I am going to do in a few years as a career. Find something to care about and pursue a certain dream. Find friends that care not ones that don't. Try putting all this in the past because its not worth it. Find God, look to him because you are his child. Talk to a counselor. I did that and i felt a lot better because I could tell her anything and she wouldn't judge me, she'd rather help me. Life is NOT pointess, you have to find the thing in life that makes it worth it. You have a purpose but you aren't looking for it. Everyone has their problems but it should never be so bad that you want to end your life. Life is precious. Just keep holding on and follow your dreams rather than hurting yourself. Stop doing that its not healthy for you because one of these times you are going to end up cutting too deep. Find someone that inspires you. I have found that person and she is an amazing friend. She is the police officer that came to my house. She knew me, and she said things that made me feel better about myself and that I was being super stupid for what I was doing. I already had it in mind to be a police officer but once I met her she made up my mind completely. She is an inspiration and she made me who I am. Don't give up. You have only lived such a short life. Keep going because you never know what may happen in the years to come. It's too soon to meet god. Don't harm yourself. I did and now I realize that it was the worst possible thing that i could have ever done. Start over and become a new person. Think twice before you go any further.. Please don't kill yourself. ): I'll be praying for you..God bless you.

Do your homework right when you get home. Do it for maybe an hour at a time, and then take breaks in between. Try different things, and try and adjust to different techniques. You must find a way to deal with it because High School is just going to get worse.

Don't procrastinate. Keep up on homework and keep friends til the end or the weekend. Good luck(:

Well if you really like him and you are both concidering doing something in the sexual sense, then you need to explain to him how you are feeling and what makes you so uncomfortable. If he is a good guy then he will accept your body for what is it because its completely normal and many girls bodys form to this. If he does not accept you for who you are then he is definitely not right for you. Find someone who is accepting of your body. I would be surprised if he didn't accept you because many girls have this same problem. Technically, this is not a problem. It is completely normal and you shouldn't be so self-concious because its your body and its the only one you have. If it bothers you that much talk to a doctor. Dont worry sweetheart, there are more girls with it than you think! Good luck, and don't be nervous!

I feel the first person who should be the one to know is your mother. She is the one person who is going to get you through this. Don't avoid her and don't beat around the bush about the subject. Tell her straight out about it, and be honest. She will respect you for honesty, but she will be disappointed. Tell her how you feel and don't be afraid because she is your mother, and when you are in need of help go to her! If your mom isn't going to help you find another family member, and go to a clinic to get a test. I suggest going and getting the test first. Good luck! And hopefully you're not pregnant. God bless you.

13 is a crucial age for worrying about your appearance. At your age you don't want to wear too much make up becaues it will make you too old and or trashy. Try curling your lashes and put a volumizing mascara on with a light colored eyeshadow or a little eyeliner. But not too much. Try curling your hair or pinning it back every now and then. I tend to tease my hair at the top just to make it look different, or I roll my bangs back and pin them. When you get out of the shower try putting mousse or gel in your hair and continue crunching it until it starts to stick. Try blow drying it and crunching it at the same time to have a waving look! Maybe throwing it in a pony tail, and doing something cute with your bangs. That's what I usually do and i love doing it because its simple. (: Don't always use a facial cleanser. Use a light non irritating soap to wash your face, for example Dove soap. If you wan't an acne wash then try different ones because they could irritate your face or help. No set wash helps everyone. When it comes to clothes try colored, simple, cute clothes. Nothing to showy for your age. Find clothes that fit your style and personality and it will show! Change up your style and try new things and after a while you are bound to find some that you like. I do it all the time. Good luck sweetheart. (:

I do the exact same thing. I always wear big sweatpants, and tshirts, and clothes like that because I feel uncomfortable in my clothes, and now that I am a senior I want to change my look and stand out rather than look like a "bum."

Physical Appearance(head to toe):
- Try something new with your hair. Never do it the same. People will begin to see that you are changing it and compliment your new style. Maybe even dying your hair. I dyed mine a little dark than my normal color (brown) and it made a huge difference and I liked it a lot. Make a bold statement with your hair and people will definitely notice it, but nothing to drastic.

- Now your face. haha, when it comes to make up liquid concealers are out! Try new natural powders or natural minerals for an airbrushed look. Eye wise? For your eye color try light grays, and dark grays and blacks together or different shades of bronze. If you are a bright colored person for make up, try purples and blues. I have brown eyes too so I know it looks good. (: Only wear mascara on the top lashes, looks much better! Don't wear lipstick try glossy skin colored lip gloss. Wash your face every morning and night with a light soap. You will feel soooo good about how soft your skin is. I know i do(: You may want to get glasses that are a smaller frame. I would suggest it. But get black that would look cute and sophisticated. Maybe keep the purples ones for when you go out but keep smaller frames for school and events because you are making too big of a statement with those glasses. I mean would you wear those to an interview? I wouldn't! You need to look sophisticated, and confident.

- Clothing? Don't always go for the form fitting clothes because they may night be your style but don't go so baggy that it looks trashy. Try putting some colors into your wardrobe you may actually like and you will definitely stick out to people more than you did. Even if you are still into dark colors try a darker toned jean. You are a good size don't be afraid to go with form fitting clothes so show off your shape.

- Body? You may feel self-concious about yourself. Well don't because you are the only you, you've got! Just eat healhty, exercise, and pamper yourself because you will start feeling better about yourself and it's a mind trick, so you will see yourself smaller, or fitter and actually become attracted to it.

- Shoes! Find shoes that are comfortable. Heels? Don't do it! Just find slip on ballet flats that are comfortable, and sneakers you can still wear but not too often depending the type of outfit you have. The key is a comfortable and cute shoe, but nothing too flashy!

Just remember to be confident in yourself. Maybe once you change your overall look and switch it up, more people will begin to notice you and you will be complimented by people and that way you can start making new friends. Blow them away and show them what you've got, because we all have potential and you can prove to people that you aren't a "bum." Show them you can be a very beautiful girl, walk with your head held high, and walk that hallway like its your runway! Don't become cocky about it though. Just act cute, simple, and smart, becaues you deserve the very best. (:

Good luck!
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My ex was always the same way. He actually forced it. Explain to him that you are too nervous and that you aren't ready. Let him know you will make the choice to do that once you are ready and stable to do so. If he does not understand your wishes then he is not worth it. If he is a good boyfriend and respects you then he will understand your wishes and wait it out. So think about what could happen. Just be careful because I wasn't and you don't want that kind of emotional toll.

Good luck my dear.

When you are much older you are going to be very appreciative of an over protective mom. My mom is the same way and to be honest I am a senior in high school now and I don't know what I would have done if my mom just didn't care. She cares for your benefit. You may say that "nothing" happens where you live but that is completely untrue. I always thought the same thing about my town and now that I am on my way of becoming a cop, I hear absolutely everything that happens in my town and its not pretty. You don't hear about it because the police don't tell you about it. Either way you need to be extremely careful no matter where you are going because your town may be small and quiet but behind the shadows there is a lot more happening than meets the eye. Facebook is really not a big deal. Throughout high school you will come to realize that it is nothing special and all it is, is drama. I learned that the hard way and I don't have one at all, I blocked if off the computer because I was much happier without it. (: You may be the same way. Appreciate what your mom is doing and don't be rebellious because that will just ruin the relationship of trust between you and your mother. You will have your freedom once you are older. Appreciate the freedom you do get. I am glad my mom sheltered me because if she didn't I would have ended up in some very bad situations, listen to your mother she is doing this for your benefit and you will appreciate as an adult. You may look at your friends and they may have more freedom than you but they may get in trouble one of these days getting too much freedom. Earn your freedom, and earn your mothers respect, honesty, and trust because you'll become much stronger in the end. (:

Good luck!

I would just let it be. Don't make a move because if he tells you that you are just friends then he might be telling other people that you are just friends. People tend to always see "something more" between people even though it may be just simple flirting. Let it be, and if he feels maybe in the future that you are more than just friends then I feel he will make the first move.

Good luck(:

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