I give my friends a lot of advice on a variety of different things and while I'm at work, I tend to be quite bored and don't have much to do so I was surfing the net and found this site and thought it might be interesting. I've been through a lot...so I think I can help some people out...
...hablo espanol
...je parle francais
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Well.. i'm dating this kid named Eric and I really like Eric, hes like a really good friend of mine. We started dating on Tuesday, and now I just don't like him as a boyfriend anymore. Everytime I date a guy I can't seem to like them more then 2 days, Is there something wrong with me?? Is this normal? Should I keep dating Eric.. or do you think I actually don't like him?? * (link)
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I know what you mean. You think you'd like him as a boyfriend and build it up in your mind that that's what you'd like with him and when it comes down to it you realize that maybe you were wrong. I wouldn't advise continuing to date him. If you don't like him like that, what's the point? If you think it might hurt your friendship, well you can try talking to him and explaining it to him. When I was young...like middle school and elementary school I'd keep having these boyfriends and after a couple days I'd decide...no I didn't want that. Now I've grown up and at 22, I've come up with my own solution, date, but don't commit...after two days you should never already know that he's your boyfriend that complicates things. You should actually DATE him before you call him your boyfriend. I know when you're younger it doesn't make much sense to just date and not call him your boyfriend, but that's how its done. You're supposed to test it out before you commit, to prevent situations like the one you're in. I hope things work out and you at least keep your friend. But, try not to date your close friends...its really a bad bad idea, friends are forever...boyfriends certainly are not. :) cheesy but true
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Hey, i was wondering if you guys coulg give me your own opion on this...
what do u think about big age differences between people? like what is the highest age difference you can go out with. Hope i make sence here. you kno like auston ketcher and that peoson hes dating how shes way older then him.
thanks
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For me I've always liked a decent age difference between myself and my boyfriends. I just know I'm more mature than most guys my age and I tend to get along better with older guys. My friends are all also older. Age in the end really makes no difference as just a number. What matters is how the person acts. For example, I'm 22 and my best friend is 30, you would never guess she's 30, she looks young and acts young. Her husband though is the shocker, he's 42 and lots of fun and a nice guy. I go over to their house and just hang out and talk. When I was 18 I dated a 24 year old...19 another 24 yr old...20-21 my boyfriend was 26...and now I'm dating a guy who is 27. I dated a couple 22 and 23 year olds in the past couple months, but their priorities were different than mine and honestly they hadn't lived quite as much as I have. Its not like I act old and boring...I party like no one and not many can keep up, but I've traveled a lot and I consider myself to be very well educated and a good conversation is very important to me, I can get sex from any guy...as can all women. Anyways...Enough said...age doesn't matter...well after 18 at least. if you meet a guy/girl twice your age and have a connection...who cares, go for it. Don't stress. Hope I was of some help. take care.
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ok, heres the deal, ive been 18 for a month or 2, and heres the deal, im kinda sexually advanced, except ive never actually gone all the way. and ive always been proud of this...untill now, and its freaking driving me nuts, like i all of a sudden have to have it. and this is unbelievably unlike me cuz ive always been the upright goody goody that everyone can always depend on. so for the love of god, somebody give me some advice!!!!!! plz ladies, i need some advice (link)
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I was exactly the same as you. I had the opportunity to have sex many times before but I just never felt ready. Finally when I was 18, I had been dating this guy, for about a month and he was 25 and we went back to his place and things just happened. We weren't in a real serious relationship but I felt ready so that was that. I had basically reached the point where I knew I had no intentions of waiting til I got married, so I should just go for it. I wasn't head over heels crazy in love with the guy but I basically figured what the hell. we took all the precautions and he was gentle so it all ended up fine. I always have been the goody goody but I've learned to lighten up and even though this is going to sound horrible and some people will argue with me...sex is not that big of a deal...not that its not wonderful and such, but its a common thought that once you lose your virginity EVERYTHING changes and you will never be the same and that it has to be with someone special and the moment has to be perfect. The first time will not be perfect, it will basically be an uncomfortable mess. If you really want to have sex and have someone you'd be comfortable with, which is SO important...if you're not comfortable, its going to hurt much worse...then by all means go for it, just use protection. Your friends will still be able to depend on you...if you think people will judge you differently, keep it to yourself. In the end, everyone (except clergy of course) does it and its not that big of a deal...of course...I'm only saying this to you because you are 18 and obviously seem prepared enough emotionally. I hope I was of some help and if you have any other questions be sure to ask. Take care.
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does anyone know a website that can help me with translating french to english?!...or if there is anyone on this website that can help me!! (link)
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I speak French...more or less. :) I've studied it for many years, as well as Spanish. If you have any questions just ask.
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Okay, i'm not like super skinny... but im not fat. I'm 136, about 5'4, and weigh 120 or around there. Is it okay to wear pants that are tight that some of the blubber on my stomach hangs out, but i dont wear tight shirts theyre baggy.. so you can't tell that it's there. and i want to cuz my butt looks huge in them, but im a little worried. What do you think i should do!? pleaseee, please help me it's for tomorrow in school and my crush will see me. (link)
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Personally I think it is more attractive to wear a pair of pants that fit properly instead of ones that are way too tight. If your "blubber" is coming up over the sides, that is not a good sign. I don't like the whole baggy shirt and tight pants look...I think it makes you look fat and not attractive. Plus, I'm not one to always try to make a guys attention go to my ass. I think you should always make the focus go on your upper body and up towards your face. Also tight pants are just so uncomfortable and unneccsary. If you can find a nice cut pair of pants that flatter your body, it'll look better and you'll be more comfortable. I hope I was of some help. I could go into more detail about other clothing tips...but that's because I'm a fashion freak and a shop o holic...if you need any more advice I'd gladly be of help. take care.
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I like this site and I goto to this site to try and give helpful advice or even to receive some, why is that people are such jerks on here? They give bad advice or stupid comments to someones advice!! And there will probably be a whole bunch of people who will give a dumb remark to this question! Why do people come an give stupid advice like "go kill yourself" or "your a loser" or some stupid comment! Honestly do these people get a thrill out of making fun of someone ? Why do these people sign up for this website if they are just going to give horrible advice? Does anyone agree? Doesn't it seem stupid and pointless? (link)
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The guys that write those things come on this website in some desperate attempt at gaining some self esteem. Most likely they have small dicks and no lives. They neglect the fact that some of the people who come on this website with questions have serious problems and probably no one else to turn to. This website offers people a chance to ask their question anonymously and there are some people on here, who do try to help out and provide some useful information. But as everyone knows, there are plenty of assholes out there who think they are being funny by putting other people down. Its all an ego issue and you should just ignore them, these people will never amount to anything in life and will die unhappy and alone. Its a shame people have to be so miserable, but maybe they'll grow up on day. Take care and just ignore the bastards.
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hey evry1
well i have A big spanish test coming up and i have to study over 200 words
any study tips??
please help!
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I've taken more Spanish classes than most normal people so I know what you're going through. For me, the best way for me to memorize something is to write it down a bunch of times. Take a sheet of paper (or a few, since you have 200 words) write on the left hand side all the words in Spanish, on the far right, write all the word's English translation. Fold the paper in half, so one side is English, the other side Spanish. Take another sheet of paper and match of the lines. Go down the list and write down the english translation of the words, if you're looking at the side in Spanish. Go through the whole list and skip over the ones you don't know. Check your answers and then make a list of the words you don't know. Keep going over this until you get to the point where either you don't have to skip any, or you feel comfortable with all the vocabulary. I've used this for French as well. To reinforce it, leading up until your exam, if the vocabulary is something like household items or something you see on a regular basis...look around a room and try to identify all the items you can in Spanish...if you forget one go back and look it up. When I lived in Spain I had this crazy housemate that was so determined to learn Spanish that she put post its up all over the house. Even items in the fridge were labled. She had some issues though. Anyways, good luck on your exam and if you need any further help, be sure to ask!!! Take care
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okkay i have this weird prob..i have a habit of biting the inside of my mouth..and i really wanna stop but its such a habit!! ne1 tips?
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I thought I was the only one that did that. :) I've been doing it for years and can't stop. For me its a nervous habit and since I'm always stressed about something I know I'll probably never stop. Sorry I don't have any tips to help you stop, but I'm glad to know that I'm not that strange.
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i'm somewhat flat chested, but i have great legs. how can i take all the notice off my chest (or lack thereof) and refocus it on my legs without being thought of as a skank? (link)
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Try wearing skirts that draw the attention down. For example pair a dark shirt with a bright colored skirt. For a top, I always thing think that a wrap around shirt, one that crosses in the front is flattering for smaller chested women. If you're young then for skirts you can probably pull off those little short skirts that all the girls are wearing, personally I think they're too short, but they will show off your legs and grab all the attention there. If you decide to wear a dress look for one that has some detail towards the bottom, same thing with a skirt, that way people's eyes will be drawn down. However, I wouldn't be so self conscious about your chest. having a small chest really isnn't that bad of a thing. You can fit into a lot of cute things that other women can't and you can always wear a bra with a little bit of padding. For us well endowed women, things are a little more difficult. :) Don't try to take all the attention off your chest, otherwise no one else will look up and see your face either. I hope I was of some help. Take care.
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I fall for men to quickly and then end up getting hurt. It is usually when you like a guy they don't feel the same way or vice versa. Now, I don't technically like someone right now, but I'd like to find someone I can spend time with and get to know so that I know something will happen. Any adive? I am nice, attractive, open minded, opinionated, spiritual, funny, love sports, love to talk, and just have a good time. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but there has to be something. People are always telling me how beautiful I am, and then they end up asking me why I don't have a BF, and I ask myself the same questions. Thanks! (link)
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I used to do the same exact thing, but now I'm a cold hearted bitch, but that's for other reasons. I too fall hard for guys, but now I've learned to not believe a word they say to me. I keep them at a distance at first and get to know them before I make up my mind. Rather than sit and think about how perfect of a couple we'd make I think about his faults and how I'd be able to deal with them. If you fall too quickly, next time you meet a guy concentrate more on his flaws than his attributes, it'll keep your mind a little clearer. After you get to know him, if you see those flaws really aren't so big, and also that he sees no major flaws in you, then you might be able to work somethng out. If a guy off the bat makes any critical comments about you...whether it be intelligence, attractiveness...etc. whatever, be cautious. He might not say it outright but he'll give you clues and if that happens it means the odds of the relationship lasting longer are very slim. :) I also like to give guys a speech before we start "dating" sort of a warning. TElling them that if they lie or hurt me in any way they'll be castrated. Its best to keep guys on their toes. I really am a great gf and totally devoted, but he has to know how things work and I can get a bit of his character before I fall for him. I have a serious of mind games I play with them before i decide if I can continue dating them. About getting guys, honestly if you are all those things you say you are, they should come to you. It's difficult to find the right guy, but just give it some time and he'll come along. Slap the next person who asks why you don't have a boyfriend. :) or tell them you like your freedom. I hopee I could help some. Take care and good luck.
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Hi
I'm very confused about my boyfriend as he is causing chaos in my life and I'm not sure what to do. I've been going out with him for 3 years and the first year was great, although we both had partners when we got together. He has a history of cheating on his girlfriends and treating them badly but I was prepared to give him the benefit of the doubt as he treated me so well. He was sweet, funny, attentive but the more I got to know him I realised that he wasn't the same person I thought I knew. He was also an amphetamine addict who eventually gave up and then was diagnosed with depression.
When I moved in with him last year I found him to be lying constantly, playing mind games, criticising me, being moody, shouting and blaming me for things that go wrong in his life. He has called me names, told me lies that are so obvious yet protests he's telling the truth. I also suspected he was having an affair with a woman around the corner from us which all the evidence pointed to. At the same time he was Mr Charming to everyone else as he manipulated people into thinking that he was a victim, and seemed to have this double personality.
I became so miserable and insecure that I moved out and 55 miles away to live with my parents, which he didn't seem to be bothered about. However within a few days he was ringing me, cying that he couldn't live without me, so I agreed to see him at weekends to help him through his depression. I was seeing him every weekend since May this year but he has only visited me 3 time in all that time, making excuses that he has no money (more lies). Then he hires cars for the weekend occasionally out of spite to prove that he indeed has money but still pretends he can't afford it! When I'm there he acts aloof and doesn't appreciate how much effort and money I spend to see him and doesn't make me feel special or loved. Yet when I'm away and refuse to answer his telephone calls he bombards me with phone calls making false promises of moving to be with me. He goes out with his friends drinking but when I visit he never seems to have any money to do anything and constantly complains about how worse off he is. I feel like I'm going mad as he acts like a different person, depending who he is with at the time. He even lies about when he sees his family and withholds conversation from me about their lives so I never know what he really does from one day to the next except what he wants to tell me.
Recently he sold his house at auction and made £60,000 but has nowhere to live and claims that he sold the house for my benefit!! He says he still can't afford to see me. The only thing he is interested in is me buying a house with him, but I don't even feel like he is my boyfriend who loves me. He has a history of bad credit and a CCJ. Should I trust him or is he using me? Why does he play these mind games with me and expect me to see him with promises he never keeps? Should I just dump him?
Thanks
Nicky (link)
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Hi Nicky,
I'm sorry to hear about your current situation. Personally, I wouldn't trust the guy. His past record doesn't speak to highly of him. I'm sorry, but yes it does seem like he's using you. You seem like an intelligent and extremely nice person and deserve far better than him. You don't deserve to be treated like this. The smartest decision you made was moving out in the first place. Don't go back on that. Definitely do not buy a house with him. He seems very unstable and you never want to get involved with a liar either, especially when money is also coming into play. For me at least, trust is the most important thing, if you break that, its over. People can change a little, but not much and once a liar always a liar. All his talk about money just makes me nervous and telling you he sold his house for you??? I'm sorry but it seems to me like this guy only does things for himself. His little mind games should not be tolerated. You do't deserve to be treated like that. There are plenty of nice guys out there. So dump the jerk and move on with your life. Most importantly, if you do decide to break up with him, cut off contact with him. If need be change your number. Otherwise he's going to continue and I, from personal experience, know that its REALLY easy to fall hard on old habits. If he tries to make you feel guilty for anything, remember that you are only responsible for yourself and if he's depressed, let him deal with it. I know its hard because I imagine you care for him a great deal, but he's no good for you. Move on with your life and leave him to do whatever he's going to do, just don't let him bring you down with him. I hope I was of some help. Take care.
~Brooke
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Hey, I read in one of your answers that you drink red bull mixed with vodka. Is that true? That is some good stuff when mixed together!! (link)
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Red Bull Vodka, yup its the best. It gets you drunk but keeps you from falling asleep. Its also supposedly extremely bad for you and dangerous. I've been drinking the mix for 4 years now and I haven't had any problems...yet. Just don't drink more than 4 in one night...not that you'll get too drunk, but you won't be able to sleep for a week...at least that's what happened to me. :)
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HELP! I've become adicted to RED Bull! I cannot stop drinking it, becuz it's so good! But I don't want rotten teeth1 How can I stop my adiction? I rate all a 3 or above. (link)
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hahaha, Red Bull, its so bad for you. I don't know what to tell you. Its a hard addiction to get over, not much will give you an energy kick like that stuff will. I drink it way too much myself, but mine at least is watered down with vodka. If you can't stop drinking it, just make sure you brush your teeth a lot. Start drinking less and less of it. If you drink 2 cans a day, cut down to one. Chew gum to keep you from losing it. :) haha. At $2 a can though, think about the financial implications of it...Come up with something you want to buy and rather than buy a Red Bull put that money aside. I know this is sort of a ridiculous response, but...its not exactly a normal problem. I wish you all the best. Take care and join AA or something if all else fails. :)
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I just turned 25, i am single and have a 2 year old daughter. Alot of people find me attractive, but I am completly insecure of myself. I am addicted to attention from males. I fall for a guy very fast and are always too nice. I just cant ever tell if the guy really likes me or is just playng around so I dont stop looking for the right man. I am seeing someone right now and like hom very much but he can be so distant and hard to read. He's very nice and we see eachother often, but why doesnt he show more interst in being with me. He tells me iam hot and we have been intamate but I cant tell how he feels about me, does he want to be exclusive or doesnt he can i ask without freaking him out? either way i would still see him I just dont know what to do. (link)
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I wouldn't know anything about having a child and still trying to date, I can imagine how difficult that must be. Your addiction to attention from males is something you should probably work on, if its getting in the way of caring for your daughter, but from what I can tell, that's not even an issue. About this guy, I would talk to him about it. I personally don't like being the situation of not knowing where the relationship is going. I actually went through this last weekend (unfortunatley now, I know this routine too well). I have been dating a guy on and off now for about a month, we've been intimate and he tells me how crazy he is about me and talks about things in the future with us, which is always a good thing for him to do. Still I wasn't sure what we were, if I should still be dating other guys. SO, I have problems talking face to face and am much better at expressing myself in writing. I emailed him all the issues and outlined everything that was going on in my mind. We talked about it this week and by being honest and upfront with him he gave me an honest and upfront response. We're working on things and what happens happens. If you get the feeling that he's really not into you like he should be, or if your relationship is strictly just intimate and there's not much of anything else then maybe he's just not into you. I wouldn't buy into all that crap, like that new book He's Just Not Into you, or whatever it's called, all guys are different...but there are some out there who are just looking for an easy piece of ass and you have to make sure that that's not what you are to him. I hope I was of some help. Good luck with everything. And if all else fails, take your daughter out somewhere fun and cheer yourself up.
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hi ive had this horrible sore throat for like 6 days. ive tried everything and nothing seems to work. ive stayed home 4 days from school and am really far behind. what is there to do ive watched like every movie and slept but i get so tired, how do i cure this and what can i do while im sick (link)
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i hope by now you have gone to the doctors office. As suggested by some other people you probably have strept throat. In the meantime, I advise lots of vitamin C. Either the swallowable or chewable tablets are good, I think most parents have it around the house. Also lots of hot liquids. Soup of course. Hot Tea with Honey instead of sugar will feel so good on a sore throat, Camomile tea will relax you or a good mint one will also help. Going to the dr. though should be the first thing you do. I hope you feel better. While you're sick, you should probably do your school work...I sound like an annoying parent, but seriously, falling behind is such a pain. Otherwise come up with some project maybe you've been needing to do, but never had the time. I'm a slob so when I get sick and stay home I usually re organize stuff. If I'm worn out I re organize drawers since I can do that while in bed. If I feel up to it, I sometimes start rearranging furniture. It sounds crazy, but its not like you have anything else to do...of course since you're probably weak it takes a little longer to do...I usually end up sitting on the floor and pushing the furniture around with my feet. In the end it looks terrible and I usually put it back when I feel better, but hey it kept me busy. :) haha. Take care.
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Ok I think that I am fat, and I feel like I can't do anything about it. I have tried eating right and exercise and all of that but it doesn't work. I can't stop eating stuff, I work at Dairy Queen and I get a 50% discount on stuff and I always give in and eat there. I have stretch marks and I am going to have to shop at a "fat kid store" soon if this does not change. What should I do? What would motivate me to change this and how can I acquire the will power to change? (link)
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Sorry to hear about your problem. I don't know how I would work at Dairy Queen. I have a serious addiction to ice cream. Personally I wouldn't have enough will power to work at Dairy Queen and keep from eating ice cream. Some people say that you'd grow sick of it, not me. My advice, sadly and as also suggested by other people, would be to quit your job at Dairy Queen. Find a job that is a bit more active, even working at a clothing store or something like that. If you want to work at a food place, either work at healthy place, here in Florida we have places like Jamba Juice and stuff, good smoothies, but they're healthy as well. You're still young so you have a chance to improve a great deal. You just need to get started now. Once you get older your metabolism starts to slow down and losing weight is far more difficult and your skin loses its elasticity and so its harder to look good. :) Oh and if you love ice cream like me, there are tons of new low carbs, sugar free ice creams/yogurts that taste the same. I hate diet foods and fake sugars and stuff because some of them cause cancer, but in the past 10 years or so they have started to make some great tasting and surprisingly healthy substitutes. Just stay away from Nutrisweet...its horrible for you and causes cancer. Good luck!!! Hope I was of some help. Take care.
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i have felt depressed lately cuz i cant get a boyfriend. i am trying to forget it but i just really want a boyfriend. I am tryin my best but i cant break outta my quiet shell. Any tips on, getting more popular,getting a boyfriend,breakin outta my shell and tryin to b more happy? (link)
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One of the reasons I joined this website was because of girls in your situation. I don't know how old you are, but most of the girls on here seem to be about the same age. Because of that, please don't stress over getting a boyfriend. There are more important things in life than that. I feel like I need to scream this at young girls across the country. Concentrate on school and on having fun with your friends while you can. WHen you're younger you think that you HAVE to have a boyfriend, but really you don't. If you meet a guy by chance that's great. But until after college, your life is going to be changing more than you could ever imagine, and you're going to be changing. All boyfriends do is cause extra stress. I dated a little in middle school, well even elementary school I had my first bf...and then in high school I realized I had my priorities and a boyfriend wasn't one of them. I had my little flings here and there but never anything stressfull. If he got too attached, or if even I got attached, I ended it, for both of our sakes. I continued that through most of college and only now (at 22 yrs old) am I really considering having a boyfriend (I've had a few, but I've always ended it, one lasted 9 mos, that was the longest. I get bored easily). I've always been really quiet too, until you get to know me. I would advise trying to be a little more out going and happy. If you're always concerned about finding a boyfriend you will NEVER find one. Focus on other things in your life. Have self confidence, but not too much. Smile and be nice to people, even if you don't like them. High/Middle School politics suck, but that's life. I was quite a bitch in high school and that kept most of the guys away, well most people at that. If you build up a reputation for being nice and friendly by just talking to people, then your situation should drastically improve. In class smile at people and have confidence. I know how it is and being depressed and worried about it, will only make it worse. Try to always be optimistic and happy, regardless of whether or not anything is bothering you. Bottom line...don't Stress over it and don't be hard on yourself. Its not a matter of life and death. You're young and I'm sure you have a lot of other things that are far more important in your life going on. :) Things have a way of ALWAYS working themselves out. Take it from someone who knows from a lot of experience. Hope I was of some hep. Take care.
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Ok, do all guys wait for GIRLS to make the first move? I mean, i kno this guy likes me but he wont make a move. what should i do with him? (link)
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No, not all guys wait for girls to make the first move. As they get older you'll notice that they take the liberty of making the first move ALL the time whether you like it or not. If the guy really is so shy and immature that he won't do it, then by all means go for it. I've had to do it before. Just place yourselves in a situation where it is completely unavoidable. I was going out with this guy and by the 3rd date he still hadn't made a move, even though it was obvious we had this amazing connection and attraction (lust is a bad bad thing though)...so the next time I made our plans and made him meet me for dinner and then for a walk at the beach (Thank god for nice weather and beaches in SoFl I can use this one any time of year). Moonlit beach, unavoidable hook up. From then on he loosened right up. :) Sometimes you have to be dominant and make him do what you want. Some guys like that for some reason. BUT you should not always be the one making the move...if a guy wants you, he needs to work for it and make the effort. All you have to let him know is that you're ready and waiting. :) Hope I was of some sort of help. Take care.
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How old do you have to be to give up on finding a girl friend. The reason I ask is that im 24 ill be 25 next may and ive never had a girlfriend or been in a serious relationship, I Know im not ugly and I can send you a pic to prove it, and most of the time i can talk to girls just fine, but it always ends up the same for me, they always say that im a real nice guy and that one day ill find the right girl for me and then the dreaded "LETS JUST BE FRIENDS".
I just dont understand what im doing wrong. and when i think about it it makes me real mad, that
there's girls out there with boyfriends that beat them, abuse them both phisicaly and mentaly,
they cheat on them and treat them like crap, but when asked why the girl stays whith him the anwser is always "cause I love Him". Life is just so f*cked up, how can guys that treat their girl like shes lower than crap get so much love, but a guy like me that alwas treats women with respect and is always nice and honest and caring
have to feel like hes going to be alone forever?
Ive had sex, but it was always one night satands and its not about sex. its about love, I want to love some one, life is just so empty and meaningless when you dont have anyone to sahre it with.
Now im getting to the point where the girls i meet are close to my age and want someone with experiance, witch i dont have.
So i figured if by the time i turn 25 i dont have a girlfriend i should just give up and not waste anybodys time.
what do you think?
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I saw your feedback and you said you posted pictures on your profile, the thing is there's no way to tell what your user name is, unless I'm a complete idiot and just can't figure it out. Anyways, if you want to go back to my feedback area and tell me what your user id is then I can check. :)
Hey, sorry to hear about the situation you're in. Dating can certainly be painful and a drag. I'm 22 and my experiences haven't been too much greater than yours. My longest relationship was 9 months, then I realized it just wasn't working. I wouldn't say give up at all. Many times I've thought about giving up too and becoming a nun :). I usually date a guy for a couple weeks and then realize there really isn't anything there so I end it. I assume that's what happens with some of these girls you meet. They probably have been through a rough relationship or two and are very particular now about what they want. Its not that there's anything wrong with you, its just you're not for her. You just haven't met the right girl (yeah I know you've heard it a million times, but I swear its true). Rather than thinking all the time about how you HAVE to find a girl because that's what you're supposed to do...I get drawn into the feeling sometimes that i need a boyfriend...but that's just wrong. Enjoy your life. You're young. Have fun. When the time is right you'll meet the right girl. It ALWAYS happens when you're not looking. TRUST ME!!! And its a shame but most girls are looking for a guy who treats them badly...haha...I don't know why. But I've been in that situation, well currently am, where I've had the choice of two guys, both equally attractive and intelligent, however one was extremely trustworthy and treated me like aa queen and the other is sort of aloof. I have chosen the latter, but he's on probational terms right now...I would have chosen the nicer guy, but he was boring and I think I was a little too crazy for him anyways. Out of curiosity, because I'm nosey...I'm curious to see your picture now. Take care of yourself. CHeer up and have some fun. :) 25 is still young!!!!!
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I'm kind of in between liking this guy and knowing nothing will ever happen. Any ideas to either stop thinking about it or convince myself that i could make it work?
thank you so much to whoever answers
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I've been in your position many times and am still in the same position. It makes it worse though because my guy also happens to be my best friend. For me, the only way I've ever been able to get over liking a guy, since it takes a lot for me to be crazy about a guy, is to find another guy to get my mind off of the other one. So now I'm dating two, well three I guess, guys. You might have to go through a few before you find the one that will completely get your mind off of the other one, but in the meantime find a new guy and even if you don't like him as much...keep reminding yourself of all the faults the other guy had, he's human he had some!!! Take care.
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