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Hey everyone, my name is Jordan. Im going to be a sophomore at Oklahoma State University this year, currently studying Hotel and Restaurant Management. I graduated with a 3.42 GPA from Cinco Ranch High School in Katy, Texas, my home of ten years. I am a singer, a cook, a brother, a son, a friend, an employee, and a student. I have alot of background with problems with friends, parents, siblings, teachers (long stories), employers, and of course, with myself. But ask anything you want, if I can help just one person, than I've made a difference, and I'll be happy! Please rate me based on the advice I give. I want to know if I need to change anything! Thanks to everyone who has rated me so far! I'm sorry about my period of inactivity on this site, school, my girlfriend, and other aspects of my personal life have kept me away for longer than I wanted, but I'm back and ready to answer your questions!
E-mail: jordan.j.hunter@okstate.edu
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Okay so i go to a small high school i'll be a senior, and i hang out with this group of people and i mean we're all really close, and it's really weird cause theres i'd say about.. 50-60 of us, but we all hang out at school at lunch together and take up this big spot and everything. Anyways there's guys and girls. I really want to have a birthday party this year i'll be turning 17. because i didn't do anything for my 16th really and i haven't ad one since like 6th grade. but i was just wondering if anyone had any ideas on what to do with so many people. my friend had her 16th bday at this big hotel room thing..like whats downstairs..and there was a dance floor and a dj and food and stuff. so i dont really want that. i would just feel bad if i didn't invite some people cause we're all like best friends..and thats what makes it hard. 50 best friends? whaatt.. i mean i have ONE BEST BEST friends, but everyone else is pretty much the same. any ideas?
oh and my bdays in november. (link)
OK, there is just no simple way to plan a party for 50 friends without getting a space to accomodate. One way to simplyfy would be to break it down and have two smaller parties. Just make sure no one gets invited twice, and things will be much more simple. However, if you want to avoid dividing your friends, you will have to think about a bigger space. November is a bad time for a pool party, and if you don't want to spend money on a hotel ballroom or something similar, try a block party on your street. Invite your friends and neighbors to help you celebrate your birthday in a huge way that will help everone feel included. Men in the neighborhood can team up to grill burgers and hot dogs, the women can make side dishes like potato salad and other delicious outdoor food, you can all play basketball, listen to music, play games, and celebrate life, particularly yours. Good luck planning your party. I hope that my idea has helped in some small way. Please feel free to email me to ask more questions.
Best Wishes, Jordan-ironchefrogue1@aol.com


ok i have a friend and i recently found out that hes gay i was really suprised at first but things got better and we talked more but now hes just been so bitchy lately everyone thinks im dating him bc hes not open yet and i think that may be one of the reason for my failed attempts at relationships hes a really good person at heart and i know that but lately i dunno hes been so moody almost like a girl you know? i just cant stand it hes getting on my last nerve! what can i do to get him to be the person i used to know even after i found out he was gay??? sorry this is so long! (link)
I agree with zealous. With people who have not yet come out of the closet, the stress levels run much higher than non-gay people and people who have come out of the closet. They wonder what people will think of them, which friends will stay, which friends will leave, the reaction their parents will have, ect. With him becoming so moody, the most likely culprit is stress build-up. Depending on how long he has been in the closet, it may be very difficult to give up that shelter of "normality." There are many cases of people in their 40's, 50's, 60's, and even 70's, men who have been happily married to women for years, of finally coming out of the closet. Remind your friend that you will be there for him, no matter what. There is not a big chance that you can restore him to the person you once knew, because that person was a shell created to hide a much deeper secret. You may have to accept that your friend has changed, and realize that he is still the same person that you have been friends with all along. People do change, it is the glorious circle of life. Once your friend steps out of his closet, his stress level will most likely decrease again, bring him back closer to the person you thought you knew. The biggest thing you can do for him is be supportive of him. Don't try to change him, because you will fail at that. Don't try to force him to come out just to get him back closer to normal, you may end up forcing him away. And most importantly of all, don't treat him differently. People of homosexual tendancies are just as human as people who are of heterosexual tendancies. They enjoy most of the same things, do most of the same things, and live their lives the same as most people do. Embrace your friend's change, and you may realize that he is still the same person you knew, now you just know a bit more. Good luck to you and your friend. Everyone should willing embrace change, it is what keeps life interesting.
Best Wishes, Jordan


Ok, say that you like this guy a lot and you wish that you could tell him how you felt. There is no way that you can get a hold of him, and you want to tell him everything that there is to know what can you do?????
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Hey. Well, your situation is particularly difficult, since you have no way to contact him. I'd say "When you wish apon a star, makes no difference who you are..." but obviously that won't work too well either. One way to at least document how you feel about him, to tell him whenever you next see or talk to him, is to write a letter. You don't have to mail it, necessarily, just keep it someplace you wont lose it. Or, if you know his email address, try emailing it to him. You say that you can't get a hold of him, so email and snail mail probably won't work very well. Just try to keep a record of how you feel about him, then when you can contact him again, tell him exactly what is on the record. That is really the best thing you can do, except for pray to God to bring him back into your life sooner. I'm sorry I can't help more, but there is not much you can truly do in this situation. Good luck with this guy you like so much.
Best Wishes, Jordan


Ok well the guy I kinda like I just found out has a girlfriend aww i know im sad... I cant get him out of mind, i have a myspace and hes one of my friends on it cause we go to school together and stuff i mean i didnt just meat him or anything and I use to like always look at his sight and leave him friendly comments and stuff but now the picture thats his main is of him and his girfriend kissing... I respect him and respect the fact that he has a girlfriend and all that cause were good friends and Im happy for him i just want to try to think of him as a really good friend and not get sad when i see thier picture... any advide please help...
signed I respect the man (link)
Hey. First off, I want to tell you I am sorry to hear about your situation. Millions of people, male and female, begin to like their best friends every day, I know, I've been there. To know that they are happily in a relationship is the sadest news anyone can get, short of the death or terminal illness of a loved one. It never gets easier to receive that sort of news, and it gets harder to consider them as only a friend once you like them. Crossing the friend/crush border is a VERY perilous step, one that has ruined friendships and crushed dreams. Is it possible that your friend knew you had a crush on him, and that the picture could be a subtle warning sign, warning you to not like him? I know that sounds stupid, but consider the following. You two are really good friends, so one would infer that you can maybe read each other's emotions. Perhaps he read into the fact that you like him, and thus tried to give you a small indicator that he has feelings for someone else. Or, on the other tangent, maybe he is a typical guy (and guys, lets fess up) and is blind to the fact that you like him. Perhaps he put the picture up to highlight the addition to his life, without realizing your feelings for him.

My best advice is this. The pain can be a subliminal thing, something that is in your subconcious, therefore something you won't be able to quiet easily. So, instead of trying to block the pain and the sadness, acknowledge the fact that they are just boyfriend and girlfriend. They are not engaged, and their is a high likelyhood (based on age, seriousness of the relationship, etc.) that they will not be permenant fixtures in each other's lives. Realize that just because that just because you are out of THIS round does not mean that you have lost the fight. You may have your chance with him yet, but the only way to get there is patience. Dont do something extreme, like tell him how you feel. That can only complicate the situation to a degree that is only imaginable.

Let's go the other way, a.k.a. you don't want to have feelings for him anymore. This is a much more difficult road, in many respects. Once you have feelings for a friend, it is difficult to see them without those feelings bubbling to the top. With our friends, our mind automatically is at ease, thus we are more prone to trust our friends with our life, both physically and emotionally. Our friends are often closely tied to how we feel, thus we tie ourselves to people who make us feel good inside. With male and female friends, it is easy to fall into the pit of liking each other. My advice would be this: think about WHY you like this friend. Consider what draws you to him, and from this, determine what type of guy he is. Then, instead of trying to focus on him, find other guys like him, similar in personality, and try building relationships there. The only way to beat a crush is to find a better crush, or to let your crush hurt you, something that is NOT advisable. Good luck with your friend, no matter what happens. Don't worry, just because he has a girlfriend now doesn't mean he can't think you the best girl in the world later.
Best Wishes, Jordan


I just got in a huge fight with my sister. It started out as me being jealous of how she looked in her bathing suit. (really good! which I do not look) But then she started being really mean to me anyways. What should I do? And please don't tell me to tell ym sister I am soooo sorry and that I love her because she is not the mushy type at all. Thanks! -twistedsister17 (link)
Hey. First off, I agree with the people who tell you to let the situation simmer. Sounds like you sister might be a natural hothead. Second, don't focus so much on how you look in a bathing suit, unless you just want guys liking you for how you look. I can't tell you how many people are shallow enough to date for looks alone, not for personality. Relationships started over something shallow like looks or popularity DO NOT LAST. Look at how many celebrity relationships have failed because of shallow things. Let your sister cool off, then, after she has had time to cool off, she may see the error of her own ways. Sibling rivalries are very common among both emotionally close and distant siblings. Don't let something so trival drive you apart. Remember, she will be your sister forever, there is no need to break up a family because of looks! Good luck with your sister.
Best Wishes, Jordan


I dont have exact proof...but my friend told me she thinks he likes her. She doesn't like him though, he's dropping hits like smiling --- hitting on her! And i even saw them. It's ridiculous -- what do I do to get over it? PLEASE ANSWER --- Will r8 high!!! (link)
Ok, I'm a guy, so let me try to put in some male explanation into all this. First, I'm not trying to defend him, just trying to put this in a different light. Second, what applies to me does not apply to every guy. Let's get on with this then. Is he just smiling on her, and you infer that as hitting on her, or is he smiling AND hitting on her, two completely different scenarios. If smiling is considered flirting, then I've flirted with hundred girls over my short 18 years of life, few successfully, I might add. Perhaps he is just trying to be friendly with her, after all, you did say your friend doesn't like him. I had that exact same problem with my first girlfriend and her best friend. The girl actually went so far as to push me in my pool! Had to take off my shirt and shoes to retrieve my glasses, forgetting that I had my dad's cell phone in my pocket. Anyway, your boyfriend could just be trying to get your friend to like him as a person. It is all too common for couples to split because of best friends clashing with boyfriends or girlfriends. My advice is this, gather your evidence properly before acting on it. Just because your friend says that she thinks he likes her doesnt mean that he is two-timing you. Try talking to your other friend to see if this is an isolated incidence, or possibly ask one of them to flirt with him, just to rate his reaction. Don't jump to unsupported conclusions is probably the best hint of insight I can give you. Good luck with whatever happens. Feel free to update me with the situation, or ask me for further help!
Best Wishes, Jordan


I like this kid named lets say bryan and i think he likes me back. I mean i think i know this because out of all my friends we asked him who he would go out with and he picked me. Does this mean he likes me? I want a relationship but don't want to be the one to ask him out. What should i do? (link)
Ok, you have a possible pitfall situation. You said that you asked him out of you and your friends, not any girl at your school or whatever. Yes, it is possible that he likes you, but unless you are friends with every girl at school, he could have picked you because of limited choices. I've been asked that question before, but the ramifications didn't really bite me back. I think what you should do is just flirt a little bit, see how he responds. If he replies in kind, then he likes you, and he can ask you out, or vice versa. If he doesn't reply in kind, then he may be slow, or he may not have the same feelings you have. Just wait it out, flirt, and be mindful that he may have just chosen you out of YOUR group. In any case, it never hurts to try, for by trying, we learn, about others, and ourselves. Good luck with whatever happens!
Best Wishes, Jordan


My ex girlfriend won't stop trying to talk to me and still wants to be friends, even though I have told her multiple times I do not. I haven't really told her this to her face, but I do post it on my website which I know she visits regularly. She even offered to take me to the movies. I know this sounds immature and stupid, but could you help me?
Thanks,
-Dr.Socko (link)
Ok, sounds like you got this girl hook, line, and sinker, which makes your job about ten times harder. There are levels of pain you can cause her by trying to pull away from her: little, mild, medium, and then, the ever famous "you might as well just rip her heart out." I had that last one happen to me recently, poor girl had had many bad boyfriends in the past, and all the sudden I come along, and she thinks I am the end all to be all. Well, when we broke up, she started gushing how I was the only one who could make her happy, etc. This could be the case with your girl, maybe you just made her so happy she is afraid to lose you. If telling her to her face doesnt work, because obviously it didnt tell her on your website, you have a few options. These really range by age groups. Option one: tell your parents. They will most likely tell the girl, or her parents, that her advances are not welcome, and that she needs to break off contact. Option two: ignore her. Block her screennames, phone numbers, and don't answer the door if she tries to come over. Option three is for people 18, 21 in some states, and over. If you tell her repeatedly her advances are unwanted, try ignoring her, and she still wont go away, you can go to a courthouse and apply for a civil restraining order, which will require her to stay X amount of feet or miles away from you, and bar her from any contact with you, on punishment of jail time. Use that ONLY when nothing else works, and only if you are old enough in your state or city. Good luck, let me know what happens if you wish.
Best Wishes, Jordan


ok.. so my best friend and i were in this chat with our other friend. and the other friend and my best friend have like a really funny joke together.. inside joke. so they were talkin about their joke and i just left cuz i didnt wanna be in the middle of it. then they started bein real mean to me, so i ignored them and blocked them. since then, my best friend wont forgive me when she should be the one sayin sorry. what should i do?
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Okay, did they completely ignore you, or did they maybe just forget you were their while they were in the midst of their joke. Inside jokes are bonds that bring friends closer together. My old best friend and I used to be known as Fraiser and Niles (from Fraiser). He was older, so he was Fraiser, and I was Niles. Anyway, what would have caused them to be so mean? Did they think they perhaps you were rejecting them? That could cause their anger. Anyway, probably the best idea is to sit down with them both and just try to get the inside story, and work it out. Who knows, you may end up laughing the whole situation out, find out that it is all one big misunderstanding. If they are unwilling to talk it out, or be civil when talking it out, then perhaps you need to think about just moving on. If they aren't willing to work things out, then it is their loss, not yours. Good luck with whatever happens.
Best Wishes, Jordan


I wrecked my dad's car this morning, and he's out of town until tomorrow morning. I haven't got the guts to call him and tell him about it, cause there's a huge dent in it and the garage door is messed up. I also pulled the bike racks off the walls. I know that I'll be in big trouble if I wait til he finds out, but I really don't know what to tell him on the phone. I feel so bad. HELP ME!

~stupid driver (link)
Ok, I've kinda been where you are. Number one, I do hope you don't have your license, or any driver's ed, cause let's face it, it makes it look alot better if you can claim that you didnt know what you were doing. Number two, you have to realize that accidents happen, your dad will know this too. I guarantee your dad hasnt always been an all star driver. He probably has a few stories of his own, every driver does. When I was 16, I was driving back to work after going to Jack in the Box on my break. Um, yeah, I kinda hit the accelorator instead of the break, and drive through like one panel of a store front window. Nothing major, no one was in the store. Cops showed up, I cried alot, got off on the ticket (score!), and my mom still loves to flaunt that story around to my girlfriends. Then I remind her how she got in like three accidents in a month, the same year, like a month or two earlier. Yeah, she quiets up real fast. Just be honest, cry, acknowledge it was an accident, but the big thing is, call him ASAP!! Waiting only makes it worse. I know that one all too well. Be ready, you most likely will be searching for a job for the school year. If you can avoid it, dont work at a grocery store. Not the best work or pay in the world! Good luck.
Best Wishes, Jordan


ive been talking to this guy for 5 yrs. but weve never been together and he lives in flordia right now. Well he just asked me to marry him,i really love him....but i don't want to get married, ive never wanted to get married. I don't know what to say.

HELP
-twiSTed (link)
Ok, so you two have never been together, yet he still asks you to marry him? Thats a new one by me, usually, if I were gonna propose, I would have wanted to be officially be with that person, not just talk to him. If you know you love him, that should be your first step, be with him, as a girlfriend. As far as distance in relationships goes, distance can be overcome. Thats why we have those things called cars and airplanes. As for not want to get married, that can be a major psychological issue. It could be that you dont want to be tied down, that you have never seen yourself as a wife, or even a mother someday, or it could be an issue from earlier in life. Seeing as I am not studying psychology, I won't delve any farther than that. Here is what I would do, tell him that you do love him, that you want to be with him, but you dont want to be engaged first. Make it clear that you want to "date" first, then, maybe in a year or two, you can make an educated decision as to whether you are honestly not comfortable with the idea of marriage, or if you are just scared. Good luck, no matter what happens.
Best Wishes, Jordan


idk what to do...i was "together" with this guy.(im 13/f-hes 14/m) hes a grade older than me but we got to know eachother this year and started going "together" this march i think. well hes really really really busy w/ sports and we used to talk atleast like 3 hours everyday. now hes going to hs and hes been acting like a jerk lately. he hasnt talked to me in a long time, and he was talking to my friend and said that its not gonna work out, but he wont talk to me so hes leaving it up for me to figure it out even though i know already. what should i do, cus im having a hard time moving on...thanks.
-emily (link)
Hey, dont worry, you situation is completely typical of "relationships" at your age. I agree with the people telling you to move on, guys at that age can be complete jerks, with the onsets of maturity and all that. Trust me, been there, done that. I didnt have terrible twos, I had the terrible early teens. My advice is this, forget about him. I know its hard, focus on school, friends, hobbies, anything else. At your age, the relationships that you have aren't even learning relationships, they are basically ways to screw things up. Older guys tend to focus on older girls, thus the move to high school probably symbolizes, at least to him, that he is a "bigger man," thus he is trying to move away from junior high things. You need to wait until maybe 15 or 16, really get to know the person you want to date, then build a relationship on friendship, not just because the guy is "hott" or athletic. Date for character, not for looks, and I guarantee, your relationships will go much farther.
Best Wishes, Jordan




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