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I get really REALLY bad cramps on the first day of my period. It's just so bad sometimes I don't know how I don't faint from pain. I've thrown up a couple of times when it's been really bad. I was wondering whether taking the Pill would stop these cramps? Or stop them happening so badly...Anyone with experience??? Thanks. (link)
Birth control does make cramps go away. I know someone whos on it. Also, if you were on birthconrol you only get your period every so often.


hey i got a good freind we tell eachother all our secets and 1 time she told me she does things for pleasure so i asked what type of pleasure then she said like fingering and using dildos is she stiil a virgin because im confused


bye
thank you (link)
techicnally she is still a virgin, because she has never had sex im guessing. But she still might have popped her cherry from masterbateing.


I found out that quite a few classmates of mine have tried marijuana or weed. This really shocked me because I didn't think highschoolers did that sort of thing, or that drugs were even available. They told me that the drugs really aren't that bad, that they're actually safer than cigarettes, and that they aren't addictive. Are they right? How many highschoolers do drugs usually? Am I naive to have believed that? (link)
There probally telling the truth. But all drugs are bad. Im in 8th grade and most my friends and most people i know have done drugs but that might just be where i live. But drugs are addcitive if used all the time. Hope i helped


what aree some foods or vitamins that i can take to enlarge my breasts? (link)
well i might be wrong because all those other advice people ruled me out but i heard hotdogs n milk do =]. You and i guess this girl did this thing caleld up down over over b4 she went to bed for like a year or two and its where you push your boobs up down over over for like 5 minutes each night and i guess she has really big boobs now. But hope i helped


there are these two cliches and i dont know which one i should be in. the one i want to be in is the preps and stuff;but i hang out with the other because i dont know how to fit in. should i move with the one i want to be in and see what happes? what if the other gets mad and stuff? help, i hate cliches (link)
its all stupid. you can be friends with everyone.


So I thought I liked the guy and he sent me a note saying he wants to get to know me because he likes me and I sent him a note back saying I would like to get to know him to. Im not so sure I like him anymore because when ever hes around I feel REALLY nervouse so nervous I cant concentrate on my work or eat. When im around other guys I like im not nervous. I try to avoid him and hes always staring at me and stuff and asked for my number but im starting to think I dont like him anymore. Im in 8th grade and never had a boyfriend and im really ok with that. Actually I love being single and I dont think im ready to have a boyfriend. Is that a bad thing? I think hes going to ask me out soon but I dont want to make him feel bad and I have no clue what to do. And I like this other guy and I liked him for a long time and I still like him better than the guy thats going to ask me out. I dont feel nervous around him or anything. But I like being single because I dont feel all nervous. Is this dumb of me? Please help. I dont want to go out with the other guy now. (link)
That or just tell him how you feel. If you think theres a part of you that likes him then give him a chance.


So i have this friend and she's a really good friend and i like her but she doesnt feel the same way back and i basically gave up on her for a while but for some reason i think about her all the time and i still feel that i want to be with hershould i just forget about her or keep trying or what?

by the way i'm used to hooking other people up and giving them advice that usually works but when it comes to myself i'm clueless (link)
this might sound lame or might now even help but.. im tring.. Heres a quote... ''Go after what you want and if it doesnt want you back, so be it. it doesnt diserve you anyways. ''


How reliable are condoms? what are the chances that they will break during intercourse? (link)
It depends on what kind of condom you get. If you are planning on sex i recamend trojan.Also,condoms do prevent pregancy but there are chances that it will break. Hope i helped.


ok, so all my friends have boyfriends agian and i am left out here with nobody, i know i dont need a b/f to be happpy but i still feel lonley... and i am still especially hurt from my friend having the guy i liked, she is with him. I know their relationship prolly won't last but how can you tell? I know i CAN'T DEPEND on that possibility, but sometimes i can't help but wonder about the "what if" he brakes up with her and goes out with me possibily? i still dont want to move on, i still like him. please help, thanks (link)
Well i dont think you should feel lonely at all. Maybe you feel left out but just think your single and you can flirt with ANY guy you want to =]. And that guy you this might sound low and mean you could always try and steal him from your friend sence she backstab you in the first place and got with him. Or even if your dont want to move on, you can just find a different guy for now. =] Hope i helped.


Well,today this guy I liked came up to me and said you sure are quite today..and i like this guy but im not to sure if he likes me he looks at me sometimes...but the think is im nervous to talk to him im afaird ill say something stupid so how do i try to get to know him better?? (link)
Well if your shy at talking to someone, you could ask him if he has an email or a screenname because it is much easier to talk to someone over the computer. Or You could just start out with small talk like hey whats up? and then genrally try and get to know him better. Before you talk to hm take a deep breathe and relax, just be yourself . Hope i hlped


Hey guys.

ok, well I have a best friend. me and him are very close and would do anything for eachother. we go to school together now and talk non-stop. lately though since we go to the same school he would say that he wanted to be with one of my friends.. it's kinda akward to me because he is my best friend and i don't know it's just really weird to me. i don't want to loose him. he wants me to hook him up and i think it's just.. idk weird. what do you think it is? and what should i do? thanks. (link)
I think you might be scared of looseing your friend to your other friend. Wich is normal. But you should just talk your best friend and tell him how you feel about the situation and most likely he'll understand, and let him know you dont want his relationship with another girl to become between your guy's friendship. Also, i think you should try and hook him up only because hes your friend and friends do each other favors. Hope i helped..


me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship (we are both 15) and he came to stay for a week.
And we had unprotected sex on monday night which is 3 days ago from when i am writing this (it is now thursday).

The sex didnt last for long he was literally in and out cos we realised what we was doing. it lasted maybe 5 seconds?

I dont think he cummed and he said he didnt, but were worried about pre-cum and all that stuff...


what are the chances that i could be pregnant? (link)
The chances are high of getting pregant. But in your case i wouldnt worry, wait a little bit and if your next period is missed then get a pregnancy test. Hope i helped


lats year i got all a's and b's then 2,3,4th quarter i got a girlfriend and my grades dropped signinficantly help (link)
i know where you stand at. I had good grades and when i started dateing this guy they dropped. Its a normal thing its probally because most of your focus is on this one person. What you should do is make some time for yourself so you can study. Maybe even set up a study date with your girlfriend. My boyfriend found out my grades were dropping and he wanted to help so maybe your girlfriend will want to help. Hope i helped?


i just got diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder. can somebody give me a way to cope with the kids that make fun of me in class when i cant answer a question or pick up where we left of reading?! i just wanna punch them, but i know i would get suspened. all my friends abandoned me so i dont no who to go to for advice. thanks, i rate high (link)
Im sorry =[. But this is no way for the kids at school to treat you. You could talk to a councler.Or try and get put into a new class. When they make fron of you just ignore them dont try and defend yourself i know it might be hard but it just shows them you dont care and they'll stop.But if that doesnt work i know this may sound as shallow as them but say somethign back about them thats not so perfect.Also, i have no idea how old you are but i would try and find some real friends, just talk to people who dont make fron of you. Hope i helped


My dad has always had a pretty big temper. He has definentaly put me into tears from his yelling quite a few times, and when ever i stand up for my self he just gets worse. well for the most part its never gotten to bad, but lately he has been terrible. Ususally my mom is in a good mood and she gets him to let up a bit but she got mad at me a week ago and lately she hasnt been helping me out. For the past week when ever im just minding my own buisiness he comes into my room and screams at me, and when ever i make a tiny mistake he wont let me foget it and rubs it in my face. Well last night i had a friend sleep over and we wanted o play quiji board. so we got it from my room which it right next to my parents room. well when we finished up we brought the board back up and we were litterally only in my room for 2 seconds when my dad walks in and brings me down stairs and begins to scream at me. saying how i had been up stairs making noise in front of his door for 20 minutes, he brings his face super close to mine and says really scarily next time you wake me up im going to be going to jail cause im gonna hit you so hard. then he screams how stupid i am until im finally in tears, and i try to defend myself and he says do you think im a liar, do you think im stupid, and he starts walking towards me, if it weren't for my brother being home for collage i swear he would have hurt me. i went back upstairs tears all down my face, my friend had heard everything. he always yells at me and calls me stupid and blames everything on me and i dont think im strong enough to take it. and when i tell my mom what he did she just reacts how she always does "dont worry ill talk to him'. but things never get better. advice please. thanks for taking the time to read this. (link)
Talk to a councler and they could probally get your dad some help because he has seroius anger managment problems.If he ever does hit you thats considerd child abuse. Maybe you should talk to your brother to and maybe he could help.But go to a school councler and let them know whats going on your dad can sign up for councleing and get better. hope i helped


okay so see i have this boyfriend and he lives like 3 blocks away and i just met him 3 months ago and we've been going out for over a month. See he's about 2 years older than me but is in just one grade ahead of me and he's been going to a privaate school his whole life soo he doesn't really know people that go to the local school. well he's really hott so a ton of girls want to hang out with him soo he's hangs out with some but also tries to hang out with me every day. on his AIM profile it's says "oliva i miss you soo much hopefully i'll see you this weekend it's been so hard without you (link)
Well he probally is expeirenceing new things and makeing new friends.And from what you said baout him ebing in a private school he might not have any experience or learning with girls, feelings,and getting hurt. so he still has alot to learn about right and wrongina relationship. if you want a seroius relationship i dont think hes the one. But you should tell him straight up if your trying to be with other girls this cant go on any longer & if he thinks theres no problem and doesnt care i dont think hes worth it.But you should give it some time, try and hangout with him when hes with these other girls. this might sound corny but just follow what your heart it telling you. hope i helped.


i want to cut my hair before school and my mom says i can get it cut tomorrow. but im not sure what cut i want. i would like layers or side bangs but i would like to keep the length of my hair. i have long brown hair, here is a picture of me.
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/8fdb7fb2.jpg

i would like a cut like mary kate and ashley. (either one in this picture)
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/mka2003-10_jpg.jpg

Emma Roberts.
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/img_unf_emm.gif

or Lauren Conrad. here...
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/LC.jpg

or here...
http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n43/laurenboborenx33/281x211.jpg

what do you think would be the best cut with my hair type(thick) hair color(brown) and how i style it. (needs to be cute so i can have it down for school but be able to put it in a bun for ballet.) thanks in advance!!! (link)
i think the last one would look cute on you.


There's this guy from my clique who likes to irritate me. But anyway, he makes fun of everyone. I'm rather close to him as in like I can talk to him. Both of us belong to the same clique and I guess i can talk to him pretty well as compared to the rest in my clique.

Recently, he kept criticising bout me. Whenever he knows a guy is interested in me, he'd be like "What?! He has really bad taste". There's this other guy who was interested in me and he happens to know that guy as well. So he was telling me "Ya, anyway, he has really bad taste. His favourite girls from the FHM magazine are all not nice."

And he likes to put me down, saying for eg "everyone in our class is quite pretty.. except for ___(my name)"

And when i just randomly told him that someone said i look like one of the girls from a pop group,(the girl is a tomboy) he'd say "ya , people say that you look like the ugly lesbian part of her right?"

And I'd be like OK FINE! just what the hell is your problem. Can someone tell me just what the heck is he doing cos he's really pissing me off a lot. And it's not like he's so handsome ok! He's not handsome at all! And I'll be like yeah what right do you have to criticise people's appearance. (link)
Maybe he likes you or something. Maybe you did something to him in the past to make him mad. i would suggets you talk to him about it. hope i helped


My problem is my boyfried has been smoking pot for about 5 years now, and i am having trouble dealing with his habit. He does not get high around me or expose me to it. He only does it once and month because we came up with a compromise that we can both live with while i go away to school.

Though he insists in complaining to no end about it. He isn't addicted but he feels it is "apart of who he is as a person" which i think it bullshit. However when i express how it makes me feel to him he says that i shouldn't feel like it's my fault because it is his problem.

I can't get married to him he is is still smoking pot years later you know? I just want him to stop then we wouldn't fight about it so much. I'm sick of just dealing with it i want it gone all of it and i don't want him to ever touch it again! I'm only 19 years old but I want to spend the rest of my life with him but i can't do that if he is still getting high. (link)
Well you should sit him down, and tell him how you feel and how it is can and will mess up your guy's furture together.Tell him he should be willing to sacrifise something so little for your guyses relationship. Or even suggest him to find ways to quit like smokeing every once every 2 months and then 1 every 3 months ect. Hope i helped


where do people get the add&message buttons on myspace, like the ones on this page: http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=44489852

thanks (link)
go to www.whateverlife.com




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