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the boyfriend
okay so see i have this boyfriend and he lives like 3 blocks away and i just met him 3 months ago and we've been going out for over a month. See he's about 2 years older than me but is in just one grade ahead of me and he's been going to a privaate school his whole life soo he doesn't really know people that go to the local school. well he's really hott so a ton of girls want to hang out with him soo he's hangs out with some but also tries to hang out with me every day. on his AIM profile it's says "oliva i miss you soo much hopefully i'll see you this weekend it's been so hard without you <3" <<-- of which my name isn't oliva it's christine and
he used to be obsessed with me and now he's writing and talking to other girls as if i wasn't even there. he asked this other girl if she liked him she said she used to and he said well if i would've known that then things would've been different now.. i don't know if i can trust him anymore and he's opening up to a whole new world with a ton of new girls and i'm afraid i'll be at the bottom of his in world. what should i do break up with him or stay with him and keep talking to him although eeverytime i do he pretend nothing is wrong and he's not a very talkive person about feeling and whatever.
thank you
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Well, it's alright for guys to have girl friends, just like it's okay for girls to have guy friends. But the Olivia thing seems a little strange, because you'd think you'd be there, but it could always just be his best friend that's a girl.
Maybe try hanging out with him and all the other girls he hangs out with and talk to them and become friends with them so you know there's nothing to worry about. And see how they all act around eachother and see if the girls start flirting with him or if he starts flirting back.
But if you won't hang out with him while he hangs out with girls, you at least need to have a serious talk with him about what's going on. Just be like,"I don't want to sound like the psycho overprotective girlfriend or something, and I know you're allowed to have girl friends, but I'm just getting really worried. I mean, like, whose Olivia? Is she your best friend or something? And there's that whole thing with "it would've been different" if you'd had known that other girl liked you? I'm starting to get really worried about us and I'm not so sure if I can trust you anymore. I mean, I want us to be together, believe me, but you have to talk to me and let me know what's going on instead of sitting at home wondering what's happening while you're hanging out with your girl friends." [ or something like that ]
All I know is that you should just be careful, because these kind of sound like signs of cheating. Not very talkative, the other girls with the "i miss you it's been so hard" and "it would've been different", blahblahblah. But like I said, just don't go psycho overprotective girlfriend on him, cause that'll probably just make everything worse. Especially if he ISN'T cheating on you.
But like I said before, just have a real serious talk with him about everything that's going on and everything's that going to go between you two and your relationship. He needs to let you know that you can trust him, just like he can trust you.
I hope I helped. <3
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Guys are allowed to have friends that are girls. Don't over react too much. If it bothers you lots, just sit down and talk to him about it, and get some info on the girls that he hangs out with.
You could always try to tag along when he hangs out with them, and you can see how he acts around them, and how they act around him.
How do you know that he asked the girl if she ever liked him?
Did he tell you he asked her that?
Because if he did, hes really stupid.
If someone told you that he said that, they might be lying, or dont know the whole story.
Just talk to him. Hes your boyfriend, you have the right to know how he feels about you.
Just dont be one of those jealous, overprotective girlfriends that dont let their guys hang out with other girls though.
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Well he probally is expeirenceing new things and makeing new friends.And from what you said baout him ebing in a private school he might not have any experience or learning with girls, feelings,and getting hurt. so he still has alot to learn about right and wrongina relationship. if you want a seroius relationship i dont think hes the one. But you should tell him straight up if your trying to be with other girls this cant go on any longer & if he thinks theres no problem and doesnt care i dont think hes worth it.But you should give it some time, try and hangout with him when hes with these other girls. this might sound corny but just follow what your heart it telling you. hope i helped. <33
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yea see im going through the same thing! my neighbor whose 2 years older AND goes to private school...who also happens to be my brothers best friend.. is going out with me (shh my brother doesnt know) but anyways he was totally hanging out with like 5 girls the other day and in his pro it was like AHH BEST NIGHT EVERRRRRR like what ever the date was and i was so mad. i asked him about it but he was just like chill out! i dont even like them ok? but still, i might break up with him cause hes super hot and im sure hes cheating on me. but just straight up say to your boy that u dont like how hes like all over other girls and its making you losse your trust in him! hope i helped! x0o <3
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