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Hey well as you probably see I am 19 and I'm Christian (JesusFreak) and go ahead ask me something hopefully i can give you an answer thats right and ok with you. Have a good day

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Has anyone here ever built a brick patio? I'm looking at putting one in my back yard, and I've never done it before, so I want to know what I might be getting into. I've got a book from Home Depot that's very useful insofar as step-by-step instructions and basic information, but what it's missing is a list of all that can go wrong. When it comes down to it, what I'm really wondering is whether it's in my best interest to try and tackle the project by myself, or hire a contractor for some or all of it.

Personal stories about home improvement nightmares in general are welcome - they might help me to know what to avoid!

I've assisted my dad with building brick patios, pathways, and steps and it's really a hassle. Doing it yourself will save you a lot of money but is exhausting work. I think the biggest worry is that over time your brick patio will become unlevel because of the rain fall. We used sand to level the ground so we could lay the brick...it's truly a hard job to do it my yourself...even with three of us it took us all day...If i had to do it again I would hire a contractor and just negotiate the price down

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We have a great relationship and both believers in Christ and want to stay within the boundaries God intended for sex. We both want to wait until marriage. We are, however confused as to whether or not it would be OK for me to finger her or her to give me a handjob. If that is all that happened, is this regarded as a sexual sin also?

That is a very difficult question...Both are not technically mentioned in the Bible so in that way no, however some believers do believe it to be a sin because it "sexually immoral"...so it basically goes with your intereptation of it...the best way to figure it out is talk with your girlfriend...or even do it and if you have guilty feelings about it, you know it wasnt right for you and just wait...but let me give you some advice if you do decide to do it..eventually you and your girlfriend will want more and more and more so becareful what you do decide

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When guy and girl are having intimate relations what do girls like the most when your trying to pleasure her...

My girlfriend really enjoys being eaten out and fingering....its called foreplay you have to warm up her engine before sex...but i think most girl perfer you eating her out or fingering...

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Okay, so I'm a 14 year old female. There's this guy in one of my classes, and he's a junior. Since the beginning of the year, he has always paid "special attention" to me, like teasing me and stuff. I even recall a while back in October-ish, I was walking in the hallway afterschool, l and he was with his friend, and he stopped to talk to me.
Now, he's always like looking at me in class, especially when I talk to any guys. But I don't know if I'm just imagining the signs or if he teases me just to look cool in front of his friends. Or maybe he's just a friendly guy. Eh, help, please? =]

points lead to him liking you..mention a movie you really been wanting to see and if he says he will go with you...you and him dating will be just around the corner

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My best friend invited four girls, all who i'm friends with, over to her house right in front of my face while I was talking to them during lunch. She didn't even invite me even though I was standing right there talking to all of them. I was confused, so I asked her if I was invited and she said, "I don't care. You can come if you want. I knew you'd end up coming anyways." And she said that I always invite myself over, when I don't. Normally at lunch I always say, "Hey, do you wanna do something after school today?" or whenever I get off the bus I say that. But, she always starts walking to her house, so I just follow her..I didn't want to get in a fight over it, so I just said sorry even though I didn't do anything. Now she made me feel really bad, mad, & I'm not happy at all. I'm trying to just forget about it though. Anyone have any ideas of something FUN I can do this weekend?

No you didnt do anything wrong...it was rude of her to invite all the other girls and not you...I bet if you didnt go to the party she'd end up calling you and wondering where you were...it will be a shock when she doesnt see her best friend there...you could make plans or other people...went movies and eat ice cream...or even hang out with your family

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so im goin to the pediatricion tomorrow w/ my mom for a check up. last time i went i had to wear a hospital gown so that they could check me out & stuff.. but like.. last time i went was like 2 years ago & i had only shaved my private area like once so it wasnt noticable , but do doctors care? i mean.. im 14 so i dont see that it matters. but my mom doesnt know i do it, and i dont want the doctors to say anything
they wouldnt say anything would they?

My girlfriend told that they didnt mention anything but her mom went in their with her and she shaves sooo needless to say they had an embarassing conversation afterwards when they came out...so if you shave or not...Id make your mom wait in the waiting room

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I recently started using Audacity to make cuts of songs for dance team. The problem is that Audacity doesn't work with Itunes files (mp4?) and I really hate having to download an Mp3 of each song on Limewire. Is there any way to convert my files? I have googled it but couldn't find a program that actually works.

I dont think there is way to convert itune files except however if you burn them onto a disk and then reinsert the disk back into your computer then you should be able to edit because no long protected files

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Would masturbating me considered a sin? I guess this question would be for Christians or something, but it doesn't have to be...

In the bible it says nothing about masturbating the only reference it does say to is in the book of john i think..I dont remember the names or anything but I will give you the gist of the story...there was husband and a wive the husband had a brother..and he made his brother promise that if he were to die he would impregnant his wife with a son so his line could continue...well the husband died so the brother was going to have sex with the wife...well in the middle of the process of having sex the brother pulled out and spilled his seed on the ground...God was furious for him doing that so he killed him and all his family...however bible analyst say God was furious at him lying to his brother not at spilling the seed...so basically its a personal view and its up to the christian...i dont know if you have heard of this statistic that men need to masturbate or have sex 2-3 times a week to stay healthy....

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Should I be worried if one of my spacers fell out before my braces go on in 4 days?

I dont think its a huge day your teeth arnt to shift that much in 4 days but I would definately call your dentist just to let them know and if you do need to do anything

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Dear Advisers,
Just call me scaredy, I'm female, age 17, and I'm really troubled... I stopped going to school because of my fears and I'm really scared... Its been 2 years already, almost 3. I really want to go back to school. But something is holding me back. Every time I meet my previous classmates, I feel insecure and I would sometimes run away from them literally. They are already in 2nd year college while I'm still in 12th Grade. I felt bad, now I am locking myself here in our house. I never went out for 4 months already... But I want to go back to school... So badly.... The only solution I can think of is that I move somewhere else... I hate here, I despise this place... But I will surely miss my parents, if I will move out. But if its the only thing that can make me go back to school, then I will... The only problem is.... I haven't told my parents yet... Also if I tell them, they will certainly say no... We are having financial problems recently and me moving could add up to that problem.... What should I do??? People have been telling me to fight my fears... But I can't... No matter what I do, I really can't... I can't....

Well is there another school you go to in your area maybe a little bit more of a drive or anything...or what you could do find a couple of friends that will be in your grade and create your self a support group share your fear with them so they can help you through it

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22/f

Not sure if this is the right category so I am putting it in both

Ok I love my friends to death. But they can be real pain in the butt sometimes. I found out my friend *Carl has a major crush on me. He is sweet and nice but just not my type.Physically and mentally. I have made this clear that there is no way of us getting together. My best friend *Sally is always trying to get us by ourselves. Like going to get things just me and him or always sitting by him. It is annoying. Also I feel like it is leading him on which is wrong. What do i do? It makes me uncomfortable ever since I found out about it Do I try to find someone else to get them off my back?... like that is an easy task by itself.

I would talk with the friend who is trying to set you up...and tell her your not interested in him...and i think getting someone else might help out as well or just when you know your friend is trying to hook you up with carl bring another guy along and pay attention to him

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I’ve been brought up by a religious family. This October, I had this epiphany where I realized that I don’t believe in god.
Now, I’m a little obsessed with death. Not my own death, but the death of people I love. I function normally but when I think about someone close to me dying, I get really depressed because I realize that once they’ll die, I’ll –never- see them again.
It’s come to the point that every day, I think about death at least once and every time I hug my mother (who I love more than anyone in the world), I feel so scared because I know that at some point she’ll die and I won’t ever be able to look at her again. I keep trying to add up how old she is and compare it to the average life expectancy and count how many years she has left and I keep hoping I’ll die before her. It isn’t just her either, I’m really afraid of my sister dying or my close friends dying too.
At first, I thought it was a phase and that I would come to accept it but it’s been four months and it doesn’t seem to be going away. I also a little OCDesque, I’m obsessed with germs and I rinse a lot. Do you think I should go to counseling or will it fade? I don’t know how I’m ever going to be able to go through a week without thinking about people dying.
Also, please don’t try to recruit me to your religion. That’s not what I’m looking for and I don’t want any of those messages. I will rate you very low for them.

Hey....Im a Christian (not recruiting) but even though I know that I will see my family in heaven someday it still scares the heck out of me...one weekend my dad was having chest pains and we took him to the hospital and the doctors told us if we hadnt taken him to the hospital he wouldve had a massive heartattack that weekend and would have died...ever since then I have been aware that we can die anyday...I think its normal to think about death after a significant event in your life...but I would definately talk to someone about it..even if you went to your pastor they can counsel you and plus its free...

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22/f

First off to loose confusion I work in a restaurant. Ok there is this guy that comes into my work recently that I just think is really cute and nice. We used to go to high school together but hardly ever talked. But now that he comes in we actually have conversations. He is also good friends with one of my coworkers but she has a tendency to be more flirty and she has a boyfriend. I don’t want to have to fight for his attention even if they are just friends. I am not that kind of girl, plus I don’t want her to get any clues that I like him because she has a big mouth and would tell him really embarrassing me. Be even worse that if he didn’t have the same feelings and then he would never come back. I am really shy at first so it is hard for me to make any kind of first move. I want to play this cool but not eager. does any body have any tips for me? I really need help with this one even though it has probably been said a zillion times. Oh also is there any signs that he might have an interest in me?

well if your a waitress and wants to be seated in your area thats a good sign...but if your shy just continue to talk to him and stear the topics toward movies...and you ccould be like hey i wanted to go see it..and leave it there and if he responds like oh maybe we should go together or something...or which might be easier tell him about a new restaraunt thats in town that you want to try out and see if he volunteers to go with you...

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How do you get a guy to notice you that doesnt know you exist?

wear brighter clothes honestly...when he passes you in the hall or whatever say hi to him he will definately will saw hi to next time...maybe even pass him a note one time

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My dad is an alcoholic and hits my mom all the time. Can I do anything about it even though he doesnt hit me? He calls me bad names a lot though. Oh and Im 16.

The only thing you can do is call the cops..as your mom has proof such as bruises and also tells the cops it happenging they can talk him away...You can also say he mentally abuses you...I wouldnt stand uo him because he could get mad and hurt you real bad

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i'm going to be doing a lot of running soon to get in shape for soccer. If anyone can tell me some breathing exercises to help me while i'm running thats great, and if someone can also tell me how to avoid getting a cramp in my side that would be great as well. Thanks so much.

Before you start running breath in and out real fast until your on verge of hyperventalating...then stop that exercise increase your lung capacity along of swimmers do it before they start

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21/f. I've been on the contraceptive pill for 3 months or so and I've put on around 7lb. Nothing else has changed in my life - I'm at least as active as I was before and I'm eating the same healthy diet.

I'm really worried that the weight gain won't stop and I'll keep getting fatter. I already feel much heavier but I'm trapped because there is no other appropriate form of contraceptive for me. My boyfriend (who is usually a nice guy) is clearly not happy about the weight gain and makes no effort to reassure me that he doesn't mind and I'm still attractive to him, or whatever. I am not overweight by usual standards (163cm tall, 117lb) but I feel awful and am struggling to lose the weight I've put on so quickly.

My boyfriend said I should go off the pill if it would help me lose weight (great, thanks, I thought, sarcastically) but I know we'll end up having unprotected sex if I go off it as we both hate the feeling of condoms but love having sex.

So questions:
1. Has anyone else had a similar experience with weight gain on the pill and what did they do about it?
2. Why is my boyfriend is so critical of my appearance that he'd rather I risked pregnancy than was a few pounds heavier? Should I be worried about this in terms of our relationship (we've only been together 3 months)?

Sorry this was long, thanks for reading :)

As far as I have heard...that the pill makes you retain water which makes you gain weight...My girlfriend just got on the pill about 3 weeks ago...and the doctor said that the pill does make you gain weight all you can do is work it off...Your at that place in the relationship where phyiscal appearence is important...I think if he can get past the fact that there is a possibility that you might gain more weight then it will build a strong relationship...but he says for you to get off the pill tell him you guys arnt going to have sex..that will change his mind..I would rather have my girl friend a little extra junk in the trunk rather then a baby in the carraige

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After 3 years in a relationship (2 of these living together), my boyfriend and I (we are 21 y.o.) broke up on good terms. I initiated the break up. We had been best friends for over 5 years at the time of break up but we agreed the relationship was not working and we were better off just as friends again. He said he still loved me and that he couldn't live without me in his life. I felt the same and we said we would try our best to maintain a friendship. He had no other good friends and neither did I.

For a couple of months we seemed to remain friends, but he became distant, making excuses not to see me and avoiding my calls, though denying he had found someone else (he is not the type to move on quickly, so I believe this is true). One day he said he was working, so I went to surprise him at work (some 30 minute drive out of town). He wasn't there and when I called him, he said he'd left already, but judging by the time of his txts to me, he must have lied about his whereabouts. I was angry and hurt, and decided to give him some space.

This morning, around 3 weeks after the above, I rang him and got a very cold reception. I couldn't believe this was my former best friend talking. The conversation ended abruptly when he had to go as someone had arrived at his house (an excuse, perhaps).

Here is where I need advice. I can accept losing him as a friend if that's what he wants, but I need closure from our relationship so that I can move on! But how do I get closure from someone who won't talk to me or see me? Is he likely to change his hostility toward me if I give him time?

Any suggestions would be hugely appreciated :)

He has some reason to be hostile and from my experience from being a guy is that I only turn hostile is when I have a new girlfriend and my ex-girlfrend wants to still talk and then I make excuses that I'm busy or I'm going out..the hostility wont change..I think the best way is just show up at his house surprise...He cant turn you away then and ask him what you need too

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My boyfriend is significantly older then I am.

:] Well let me start by saying that I do have a great relationship with my boyfriend. He's my best friend and he makes me extremely happy most of the time.

The problem is he makes me feel so bad. He says that I don't let him see his friends enough. Whenever we rarely hang out on weekdays, and yes, we do hang out on weekends only because we're both so busy any other time. =[

So, tonight he came over because I cooked my family dinner and everything was going well. Until he got a call from his roommate who said they were going to have a party. The guy who was going to be there always has weed & stuff and the only time my boyfriend ever gets high is when he's there.

That's when I went into a serious girlfriend mode and started telling him he couldn't do it, otherwise I'd be mad. Then he started complaining about how I always make him feel guilty & never let him hang out with friends.

What can I do to make this whole situation better? But, still be with him at the same time?

You could always go to the party with him...Im not nessarily big on drugs but it seems like he has a lot of freedom since you guys only see each other on weekends so i really dont see why he has to complain...I think you should be the upset that he is leaving you when its your one time to hang out a week...he hang out with his other friends all week long he needs to set time to hang out with you

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16/f
Me and my friend, lets call him chester, always fight. Like we are in fights every other week, or last year we where. The last time we had gotten into a fight was in august.

We are yet again in another fight. I dont think he cares about our friendship. I talked to him the other day and told him what was bothering me and all. Then he said he had to go.

The next day i asked him where that left us? if we where friends, not friends, or whatever. And he said "idk i dont have answers only ears"

I really dont know if i want to try to be friends anymore.

Im the one who always tries to fix our fights, im the one who starts to talk to him. It just feels like he doesnt care and i dont know what i should do.

Any ideas?

Well I think you know what you want to do..you said you dont to keep trying to fix your guyses relationship...if he truly wants to keep the friendship he will put some effort into it too...I think you should play it cool for a while and see if he brings it up and tries to do something

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