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why wont they stop?
22/f
Not sure if this is the right category so I am putting it in both
Ok I love my friends to death. But they can be real pain in the butt sometimes. I found out my friend *Carl has a major crush on me. He is sweet and nice but just not my type.Physically and mentally. I have made this clear that there is no way of us getting together. My best friend *Sally is always trying to get us by ourselves. Like going to get things just me and him or always sitting by him. It is annoying. Also I feel like it is leading him on which is wrong. What do i do? It makes me uncomfortable ever since I found out about it Do I try to find someone else to get them off my back?... like that is an easy task by itself.
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Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
A) ask him to hook you up with the guy you like
'OR'
B) talk about other guys, (in a somewhat affectionate way).
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I would talk with the friend who is trying to set you up...and tell her your not interested in him...and i think getting someone else might help out as well or just when you know your friend is trying to hook you up with carl bring another guy along and pay attention to him
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I would sit down with your friend and have a serious talk. Explain to her once more ( in a more serious tone to show you mean business ), that you don't have those feelings for Carl, and never will. He's just NOT your type, and forcing him on you isn't going to make you like him more or anything, it's only going to make you more annoyed.
Tell her you appriciate her trying to help you get a guy and stuff, but you can do it yourself. It'd just be easier for you to find a guy because who knows you better than yourself? You'd be able to find your type easier than she would.
Also, I would just talk to Carl and keep it at a friendly level. Maybe mention something sometime during a conversation,"I love having a guy friend I can just talk to. Most of my guy friends never want to talk or nothing, ha. It's nice." ( Or something like that ). Just get the point across that you're glad he's your friend and everything, which'll give him the hint there's nothing more going to go on.
I wouldn't try and find someone else just to get someone else off your back. That's unfair to the person ( who may have feelings for you ) if you're just being with them to get others off your back, and it'd be unfair to you because you should find someone you want to be with.
I hope I helped.
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i think you should tell sally basically what you told us. be like "ok sally i do not like carl he's nice but i don't feel that way about him and i'd appreciate it if you'd stop leaving us by ourselves because i don't want to lead him on"
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