im totally with you on this one. im thirteen and all the boys want out of a relationship is sex. theres no more men that open the door for you or anything like that. and i think there influenced by all the rap music and videos considering 9/10 are about getting into a girls pants

it really depends on what type of skirt your going to wear. skirts are about accentuating the legs.
ive provided some do's,donts,and the ones you need to be careful with.

DO WEAR:
-flats *i recommend flats with leggings &a skirt
-heels
-platform shoes
-flip flops [depends on where you live]
-uggs
-wedge sandals
-kitten heals [usually a rather delicate style of shoe, so they can work very well with short skirts. Thongs, slides, and strappy sandals with a small, low heel help accentuate the "leggy" look you hope for with a mini skirt.]

BE CAREFUL WITH;

-ankle boots - they make womens legs look bulky
-stiletto heels - might be too sexy with a mini
-High Heeled Pumps - the shoes are a little heavy looking

DONT WEAR;
-Oxfords
-Bulky Shoes
-Cross-Trainers
-Clogs
-Socks

as for the whole skirt part choose one that your comfortable in. it sucks when you have to go a day of school in something really uncomfortable. try walking in the outfit the night before to get used to it. be careful not to fall and have fun!

im thinking either depression or post trauma disorder. go see a therapist or talk to someone. it will really help. trust me

i used to and now im working on stopping. but ive tryed so many different tricks and stuff. its really hard. and this has to be my eleventh time trying to stop. im going cold turkey but these are some other things that help


1.) (common) rubber band on arm stap it when you get urges

2.) take a stopwatch. time 15 minutes and in that time go against it and dont cut when times up if you still want to then set another 15 and keep doing it.

3.) playdough.haa sounds really wierd huh? well it really does get your mind off of everything - this girl had it and when she'd get mad she would smush it up - really seemed to work

4.) take a orange[apples prob work too] put it in the freezer. when you want to cut take it out and hold it and try smushing it and stuff. it works because it distracts you

5.) the marker trick if your one of those people that needs to see blood draw on yourself with red marker[ i honestly didnt see it that effective but other people did ]

6.) draw a picture or take a poloroid and a red marker draw on it what you want to do to yourself

7.) writing letters to people that your angry with (or yourself) and never give it to them

8.) [my favorite and most effective for me] writing poetry about cutting ; it really worked and instead of doing it to myself i was writing about it and how it feels trying to stop or how it feels right after you did it.

i really dont know why you cut or any backround to it but if these tricks/tips didnt work then drop one in my inbox or im me at loserfacee9o3

same thing is/has gone on with me. its quite the addiction if you ask me. its really up to you on how far is to far and im glad that your trying to stop. okay in the hospital i learned alot of different methods to stop. but in advance it doesnt go away over night and you do just have to wait it out and eventually you will stop

1.) (common) rubber band on arm stap it when you get urges

2.) take a stopwatch. time 15 minutes and in that time go against it and dont cut when times up if you still want to then set another 15 and keep doing it.

3.) playdough.haa sounds really wierd huh? well it really does get your mind off of everything - this girl had it and when she'd get mad she would smush it up - really seemed to work

4.) take a orange[apples prob work too] put it in the freezer. when you want to cut take it out and hold it and try smushing it and stuff. it works because it distracts you

5.) the marker trick if your one of those people that needs to see blood draw on yourself with red marker[ i honestly didnt see it that effective but other people did ]

6.) draw a picture or take a poloroid and a red marker draw on it what you want to do to yourself

7.) writing letters to people that your angry with (or yourself) and never give it to them

8.) [my favorite and most effective for me] writing poetry about cutting ; it really worked and instead of doing it to myself i was writing about it and how it feels trying to stop or how it feels right after you did it.

i really dont know why you cut or any backround to it but if these tricks/tips didnt work then drop one in my inbox or im me at loserfacee9o3

i didnt really get what you meant by 'Ive been cutting for about a year and i just got found out about a month ago.' -- if you were cutting for a year then how didnt you know until about a month ago? but aside from that..

shes not your best friend if she didnt care. your best friend would go into action and depending on what type of person she is she would have done one of two things either a) gone and tryed to get you help/ talking to an adult or counselor or b)talked to you and tryed to help you by her self.

im glad that your open about everything.. thats the way i am too. ive been cutting for three-ish years. it leads to nothing good believe me. mental hospitals, lack of trust, getting made fun of & not being able to wear certain clothes. it sucks

talk to her, ask her why shes doing that for attention tell her to knock it off or you wont hang out with her anymore if its really bothering you. shes going to get negative attention for it and you dont want to be around when that happens. she thinks that lieing is a good thing but it wont turn out good in the long wrong.

she wants people to feel bad for her. ive had friends like this before. it ends in everyone pointing and laughing at her instead of what she thinks is going to happen. shes just doing it so that she doesnt have to deal with your problem. she wants more attention then she thinks that you will be getting.

hope this helped and if it didnt then drop one in my inbox ♥

this way works for me and everyone else i tell EVERYTIME

you need; a cup of water/bottled water [doesnt matter] and one paper towel

put the paper towel over the top of the cup or bottle and drink the water.. i know it sounds wierd and tastes odd but it works

okay i saw this on the tyra show =]
you need-a cup of water, vaseline, & an old
toothbrush

1. take the old toothbrush and dip it in the water

2. take vaseline with your finger and put it on your lips

3. brush your lips with the toothbrush

4. when your done wipe it off

do this once a week and you will have soft & smooth lips

different people have different opinions..i also think it depends on where you live.. if you live in a small town where everyone knows everything about everyone else then yes probably everyone will have the same opinion and say yea -- and if you really love that person then it doesnt make you a slut

i would just do like eye shadow and eeyeliner these girls at my school dressed up as cats and they put pink and glittery eyeshadow on and black eyeliner and i wouldnt go all out and put on a nose but also for there hair they put it in two french braids

you should deffinitaley wear a bathingsuit and wear flipflops and just in case i would bring a bag like a drawstring bag and bring a towel sunblock even if its not sunny a change of clothes & id wear sneakers nd bring flipflops with me -- over that you should just wear a t-shirt & like sport shorts

it means like okay say your boyfriend is an acohalic sorry about my spelling well she doesnt want to put up with his shit with spending and using so she wants him to wait until hes sober and not drunk and until then shes pretty much ignoring him ♥

she is probably just embarrased about her past and everything try starting off small a little hi here or there and work your way up

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i found this really cool website .. you dont need to download a thing -- http://www7.blibs.com first you upload a picture next along the top of the page it has links.. ex. file edit draw ect. well theres one its called animation click that and then in the drop down click on add an animation frame then continue uploading pictures

a class on fashion designing

1. i talk alot and having someone i dont even know was really wierd she was just creepy in the end i started lieing to her to make her shut up and tell my mom i didnt have to see her anymore

2. honestly i would deff. say no it didnt help i got in way more trouble after seeing her and the thing is i didnt tell her nearly even close to what was going on

3. i went to a hospital and through there they made me go i hated it

4. she/he will like talk to your parents and sent up appointments and some will have your parents and some prob wont.. for me i had my mom in there once and i freaked out and couldnt stand being in my moms prescence anymore and refused to talk to the therapist for like two appointments..

-- in the long run i lied to her so i didnt have to talk to anybody where as before i went to the hospitals and stuff i was really open.. i just learned how to hide emotions better..

yeaah i used to try not to but occansionally.. you know stuff just happens i got sent to two hospitals.. not excactly the best time of my life-- i got made fun of and people still say stuff about it behind my back.. i recently moved to another town and some girl that used to live in my old town started telling everybody at my new school ;;ive been through it all so deff. you cant talk to me.. drop one in my inbox or IM me at jessicaa 9o3

go to youtube.com and in the search area type in somethig like nip tuck - or nip tuck episode whatever hope this helped

i does hurt and im not going to lie... i just got mine done thinner and now i have a scab because she did it to fast or something and they only stay red for a few hours -- && it depends where you go if they ask you so you might want to tell them so they dont screw up... put neosporin on that night everywhere that got waxed so it doesnt get scabby or anything -- hope i helped

My name is Jessica ; i have brown hair, but i died it reddish ; I love my friends: ; my best friend is hailey mattson, idk what i would do without her. ; i love pink & green & black ; I love Hanging out with friends & Shopping ; i make mistakes. ; i have regrets. ; i hate being alone. ; i can't go a day without spilling something on myself. ; i hate school. ; i never call anyone back. ; i don't like being wrong. ; im a huge procrastinator. ; i act a lot smarter than i actually am. ; i hate being ignored. ; i cry. ; im shy. ; i can't start a conversation with anyone. ; i have enemies. ; i can't sing, but i try anyways ; i'm horribly uncoordinated. ; i laugh way too loud. ; i can't look anyone in the eye. ; many things just seem to get to me. ; i get annoyed easily. ; i'm not even close to perfect. ; i cut. ; i dont know how to deal with problems. ; i have low self esteem. ; i've been in two mental hospitals. ; i love the movies not like everyone else , augusta gone , && odd girl out. ; i'm such a sucker for lifetime movies ; i like the religion wicca.

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